Engagement Rings.

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  • Urban Hiker
    Urban Hiker Posts: 1,312
    yellowled24 wrote:
    My husband spend 500 dollars on my engagement ring, and I picked up a $200 wedding ring later on...I couldnt care less if he got me a ring-pull off a beer can, the important part is the gesture, not the amount.


    Hehe. I had no engagement ring. (Well, I think I may have for my first marriage, but I block most of that from my memory) My current husband and I just decided to get married, without a formal engagement. We set the date for our *dating* anniversary and picked up some sterling silver bands for just under $27. :o
    Yes, we were on a tight budget.

    We have since purchased (modest) diamond bands, but I prefer the kind of ring I don't have to worry about.
    I keep asking hubby if I can just store this one away and wear costume jewelry rings on the correct finger to show I'm married. :)
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  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    macgyver06 wrote:
    5000 to much?

    i dont know what im doing


    pearl jam girls? any ideas

    $5000 is too much if you think it's too much.

    Get a ring she will love. If she loves you it shouldn't matter how much it costs, as long as it's something she will wear and admire, it's all good.

    Good luck with the asking dude :)
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    It's already been said, but I'd save a whole chunk of that money to use to set up home. A pretty ring is all very nice, but the important thing is to get your lives off to a good start together.

    If she's the right girl for you she won't care if its a curtain ring or a sweetie ring ;):)
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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    macgyver06 wrote:
    so girls dont like to compare their rings with their friends?

    Good grief! :eek:

    I've got better things to do. :)
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  • meme
    meme Posts: 4,695
    macgyver06 wrote:
    so girls dont like to compare their rings with their friends?

    Some do. The question is... do you want by your side a woman who has a tendency to do that? :p
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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    Urban Hiker wrote:
    I'm with Jeanie on this.

    The ring is very personal. Some women (myself included) wouldn't want something worth so much money on their hand.

    Maybe your girl is different. I know plenty of women who MUST have something ostentatious on their finger.

    If you don't know her style, I second the suggestion of checking with her family/friends.

    Don't some places let you buy the rock on a temporary setting, so she can chose what setting she wants later? I need some help on that part, 'cause I don't know for sure, but it seems like a good idea.

    That's an excellent idea! :)
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  • know1
    know1 Posts: 6,801
    macgyver06 wrote:
    5000 to much?

    i dont know what im doing


    pearl jam girls? any ideas

    It depends on your budget and what you can pay cash for.

    Mine ended up being $5800, but we went to purchase it together. If left up to me, I'd have probably spent $3K.
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  • Abookamongstthemany
    Abookamongstthemany Posts: 8,209
    That's a crazy amount of money to spend on a piece of jewelry but that's just me.
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  • know1
    know1 Posts: 6,801
    Abookamongstthemany wrote:
    That's a crazy amount of money to spend on a piece of jewelry but that's just me.

    I agree.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

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  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    macgyver06 wrote:
    5000 to much?

    i dont know what im doing


    pearl jam girls? any ideas

    I think you should pick an amount that is reasonable for your budget and go out WITH HER to pick it out.

    She has to wear it and it won't do anyone any good if you buy an expensive ring she doesn't like!
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  • know1
    know1 Posts: 6,801
    justam wrote:
    I think you should pick an amount that is reasonable for your budget and go out WITH HER to pick it out.

    She has to wear it and it won't do anyone any good if you buy an expensive ring she doesn't like!

    That's what I did. I asked her to marry me first, and then we went and bought the ring together. Of course, that's a good way to end up spending more than you intended :D
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  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    know1 wrote:
    That's what I did. I asked her to marry me first, and then we went and bought the ring together. Of course, that's a good way to end up spending more than you intended :D

    Yeah, but at least she was happy with it (and you!) :D
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  • markymark550
    markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,216
    Before you buy the ring, do some research into what you are buying. Know the 4 C's (Cut, Carat, Clarity, Color) before you commit to buying. There are certain tradeoffs with each one. If you think your girl wants a big rock, then concern yourself mainly with cut and carat size. If she wants a better quality ring, you can go down on the carat size, but get better clarity and color. Rings that are good in clarity and color tend to look bigger than they are because they are better quality diamonds. For my wife's ring, I sacrificed a little on the carat size, but you really can't beat the clarity and color. You can see that ring sparkling across the room.

    With regards to price, if you can afford it then it's not too expensive. It all depends on if you can justify spending that much money on the ring. If you're on a tighter budget, maybe buy a less expensive ring and the upgrade it later? Just make sure you know exactly what you're buying so that the jeweler isn't pulling a fast one on you buy trying to get you to buy an overpriced ring. Finally, my last and most important piece of advice is to get insurance on the ring. Insurance is usually $10 per $1000 the ring is worth and worth the investment imo.
  • Dissidentman
    Dissidentman Posts: 15,378
    markymark550 wrote:
    Before you buy the ring, do some research into what you are buying. Know the 4 C's (Cut, Carat, Clarity, Color) before you commit to buying. There are certain tradeoffs with each one. If you think your girl wants a big rock, then concern yourself mainly with cut and carat size. If she wants a better quality ring, you can go down on the carat size, but get better clarity and color. Rings that are good in clarity and color tend to look bigger than they are because they are better quality diamonds. For my wife's ring, I sacrificed a little on the carat size, but you really can't beat the clarity and color. You can see that ring sparkling across the room.

    With regards to price, if you can afford it then it's not too expensive. It all depends on if you can justify spending that much money on the ring. If you're on a tighter budget, maybe buy a less expensive ring and the upgrade it later? Just make sure you know exactly what you're buying so that the jeweler isn't pulling a fast one on you buy trying to get you to buy an overpriced ring. Finally, my last and most important piece of advice is to get insurance on the ring. Insurance is usually $10 per $1000 the ring is worth and worth the investment imo.

    I would like to make a slight correction...Before you buy the ring, do some research into what you are getting yourself into!

    :)
  • markymark550
    markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,216
    dissidentman wrote:
    I would like to make a slight correction...Before you buy the ring, do some research into what you are getting yourself into!

    :)
    hahaha

    well, I'm sure if he's in the process of buying the ring, he's already weighed the pros and cons of what he's about to do.... ;)

    I was merely trying to make him a better consumer :)
  • Dissidentman
    Dissidentman Posts: 15,378
    markymark550 wrote:
    hahaha

    well, I'm sure if he's in the process of buying the ring, he's already weighed the pros and cons of what he's about to do.... ;)

    I was merely trying to make him a better consumer :)

    Oh, ok... I apologize...

    Sometimes my disillusionment of the fine institution of marriage makes it into a message board posting.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    macgyver06 wrote:
    5000 to much?

    i dont know what im doing


    pearl jam girls? any ideas

    no engagement ring. save it for nice wedding rings for both of you. engagement rings are meaningless- they were invented as a marketing campaign for debeers in the 1940s. Plus diamonds are a screwed up business. You never really know for sure where they are coming from or if anyone hands were chopped off in the process. They are overpriced bits of rock, and the people who mine them-the citizens of the countries that own this resource-are in extreme poverty even though the amount of wealth exploited from the resource is crazy. I'm sure if your gf is any type of socially conscious person, she will appreciate not getting a ring. Really, think about how much money it is too. is that really worth it? If you invest that $5000, think of what it get the two of you and any kids you might have in the future. I know people who don't even wear their engagement rings- they just sit in a box somewhere.

    and 5,000 is way too much. my super nice watch wasn't even a fraction of that and it tells time. what does a ring do?
  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    macgyver06 wrote:
    5000 to much?

    i dont know what im doing


    pearl jam girls? any ideas



    not if it's what you want to spend AND can afford it. overall, i would say how much you spend really is sooo unimportant to most women. it is what the ring symbolizes more than anything that matters. :) i know my husband and i went looking at rings together and what i had picked out was relatively inexpensive, and HE chose something 3X the price b/c he loved it and thought it would be wonderful....and it was/is....beautiful. not a traditional engagement ring either. :p however, exactly what i had wanted so it's all good.

    know your future wife, her tastes and style.....and buy something beautiful and affordable. every woman wants a man who yes, knows her tastes and is willing to spurge a bit on her....but most importantly, aman with good sense who does not get himself in debt for something frivilous.


    good luck and congratulations! :)
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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    macgyver06 wrote:
    so girls dont like to compare their rings with their friends?

    ha! maybe extremely SHALLOW girls who have extremely SHALLOW friends. like you know, the ones you can't believe anyone would even date in the first place.
  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,116
    you talking solitaire diamond engagement ring?
    5K is not a lot

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