Attending "social events" alone?

chime · November 2007

I've gone to gigs on my own and it doesn't bother me ... as others have said it's better than going with someone who isn't really that interested. Also been to the cinema alone and as others said why wouldn't you ... I don't see going to the cinema as social thing usually anyway

soulsinging · November 2007

audiodave wrote:

See that's the thing. If I go somewhere alone, I never really meet people. I generally don't go over and talk to people, and I must have this look that says "stay away from me or i'll bite you", as no one ever comes to talk to me either. But I don't care. I'm more than happy in m own company most of the time.

im the same. my gf has strangers strik up conversations with her all the time no matter where she goes. i've never had this happen. i think i give off the "potential serial killer" vibe or something. not that it stops me enjoying myself alone.

Pegasus · November 2007

Heineken Helen wrote:

me TOO! It's excellent. And I've got the going to pubs on your own thing completely figured out too... get in early and get the best seat in the place. When the place fills up, people HAVE to join you whether they want to or not

even when people 'join me' at a table, they're always with someone else..so you don't talk...well, I don't start it, and if they don't...
you don't have that problem, you're the conversation starter! or hugger should I say?

audiodave wrote:

See that's the thing. If I go somewhere alone, I never really meet people. I generally don't go over and talk to people, and I must have this look that says "stay away from me or i'll bite you", as no one ever comes to talk to me either.

yeah that's my problem.. I can talk till you drop (I'm going to get affirmative sneers there

), but I'm not a conversation starter..at least not when I'm on my own and sober

RolandTD20Kdrummer · November 2007

Sometimes if you go somewhere alone and there's like too many smelly people crowding so you begin to stop feeling alone, just fire a gun in the air a few times to get the alone feeling back.

actually no...don't do that..

edvedder913 · November 2007

I have no issue going to a concert alone or a movie alone. Sometimes I will go eat alone, but usually a place where I know people who go there or work there.

chiquimonkey · November 2007

i've gone to concerts and movies by myself and wandered around parts of europe, and have had a blast! for years i went to see PJ by myself because nobody i knew liked them as much as me....i only wish i had gotten over the hang-up of doing shows alone earlier, i could have seen some killer PJ gigs in the early days *doy!*

i just went to see bob schneider last week, was a tuesday night so everybody i knew couldn't make it cuz of their schedules/work/school, and like hell i was gonna miss it! i enjoy my own company

mookie9999 · November 2007

I go to concerts and movies alone sometimes. As far as the concerts are concerned I usually enjoy myself more alone. However, I will rarely go to a restaurant that serves you alone.

Heineken Helen · November 2007

Pegasus wrote:

even when people 'join me' at a table, they're always with someone else..so you don't talk...well, I don't start it, and if they don't...
you don't have that problem, you're the conversation starter! or hugger should I say?

yeh I guess I've no problem going up to somebody and starting a conversation... although if you're on yer own, even if they're with someone a simple 'would you mind watching my seat while I go to the toilet please cos I'm here on my own' is often a good way to kick things off

iamsampj · November 2007

going alone to shows, movies, etc., is a relatively new concept for me. i normally won't even leave my car to meet up with a friend somewhere unless i know that they are already there, or that i won't have to wait by myself for for than 5 minutes.

but, i've become more adventurous! i've gone to a couple shows on my own and had a really awesome time. met some pretty interesting people...at least i was amused for the evening. i just have to be careful that i don't overcompensate for my being alone with beer! i'm not completely comfortable just standing there doing nothing...maybe i'll text my friends next time

intodeep · November 2007

I go to a lot of concerts alone. Many of my friends just don't care for the bands that i do. It sucks in some ways but I've seen so many shows that i would have missed i dont regret it.

I go to the movies alone but don't go on Friday or Saturday nights alone.

I used to eat out alone a lot more but i don't do that as much. I generally don't mind if i do it though, but i won't go to a fancy sit down couples type place.

I'd love to have someone to share all of that with, but i just don't.

decides2dream · November 2007

do what makes you happy.

i will go just about anywhere solo...dinner....movies...gigs....etc. i prefer company, but hell yes....as you said, if there is no one to join me i am not missing a great time simply b/c i have no one to accompany me. my only exception to flying solo is bars. i won't go out to a bar all alone. at most, a local place, bar within a 'regular' restaurant where i know people there. as a female, it just is too uncomfortable in a bar setting, for me anyway, to be completely solo. otherwise, all else is fair game.

norm · November 2007

chiquimonkey wrote:

i only wish i had gotten over the hang-up of doing shows alone earlier, i could have seen some killer PJ gigs in the early days *doy!*

isn't that the truth.......:o

Heineken Helen · November 2007

decides2dream wrote:

do what makes you happy.

i will go just about anywhere solo...dinner....movies...gigs....etc. i prefer company, but hell yes....as you said, if there is no one to join me i am not missing a great time simply b/c i have no one to accompany me. my only exception to flying solo is bars. i won't go out to a bar all alone. at most, a local place, bar within a 'regular' restaurant where i know people there. as a female, it just is too uncomfortable in a bar setting, for me anyway, to be completely solo. otherwise, all else is fair game.

it's strange, cos I'm uncomfortable alone having dinner, I don't see the point... but I'm perfectly comfortable alone in a pub... I think it's easier for women cos men chat ya up

urbanhippie · November 2007

audiodave wrote:

Does anyone do this? What is your take on it?

I went to see a band on my own last night, and a few people were quite surprised that I would do this alone. If I want to do something, i'm not going to miss out just because no one else wants to do it.

So what's the verdict? Is it strange to do things on your own? Or is it just that people think it's strange because society tells them that they have to spend every waking hour with another person?

Oh, and for all the people who are going to tell me to "get some friends" or something like that, I have friends. But i'm just as comfortable in my own company. So please save your jokes and snide comments.

Nah Dave...

Twas only jealousy that you were seeing the Biff....;)

Not surprised you went alone....just miffed you never asked ME!!

genie · November 2007

I would feel terrible in situation where there were people in groups and i was alone. It happened to me once in the pub, and i had to leave the place cause i couldn't stand being there anymore.

BUT i enjoy going to galleries and museums on my own, if i go with people i can't concentrate on subjects ( paintings, sculptures) well, because those people become my prime subjects of interest....and unfortunately i found couple of friends who go to galleries with me now.

i also don't mind going to the cinema on my own, or some certain type of event. and i prefer to do my shopping alone.

fada · November 2007

I went to see Pearl Jam on my own. Myself and my mate were suppose to go but I make of a balls of the ordering of tickets. Anyway too days before the gig and a few more before my birthday I said I can't miss out on PEarl Jam so I went up myself and bought the tickets off the toutes

Jennytree · November 2007

When ye think about it... those of us who travelled worldwide are just loners goin to pearl jam... but together!

I'd have no problems in going anywhere on my own, I'm goin on holidays on my own in Dec and doesn't bother me. If I had to wait for any of my mates to decide, I'd never get anywhere!

If ye wanna go somewhere on yer own... just do it!

Lostdogsinthegarden · November 2007

As many have said already, I don't mind going alone to concerts at all. I've been to around 5 shows solo and had a great time at each one. I might be going to the theater solo this weekend to see Into the Wild, so no problemo there either. I haven't done the restaurant thing alone, as that would be a little too boring. But yeah, if you want to do something: "Nike."

Heineken Helen · November 2007

Jennytree wrote:

When ye think about it... those of us who travelled worldwide are just loners goin to pearl jam... but together!

I'd have no problems in going anywhere on my own, I'm goin on holidays on my own in Dec and doesn't bother me. If I had to wait for any of my mates to decide, I'd never get anywhere!

If ye wanna go somewhere on yer own... just do it!

oh you're definitely never ever alone at a PJ concert

. Sooo easy to even get talking to people in teh queue... especially if you're there all day :eek: what else is there to do?

I'd like to go on holiday by myself sometime... just never got around to it cos I've too many friends to catch up with

but I think it would be so entirely stress free and fabulous

have fun Jenny, where ya off to?

Odin · November 2007

Traveling - almost always better alone, in my experience, because you get to do things on your own terms. Exploring foreign lands by yourself is unbeatable, IMO.

Concerts - depends on who you're with and which band you're seeing. Sometimes, you'll date someone who drags you along to see a bunch of lame, boring bands and in return she won't be totally into the awesomer bands that you dragged HER along to see. I went to one Pearl Jam concert in 2005 with a few other board members and another in 2006 by myself... 10,000 miles away from home. Had a great time at both shows.

Bars - usually won't go alone unless I absolutely want to get shitfaced somewhere other than my own room.

Nightclubs - only when I am really horny and want to hook up.

Movies - no way. Maybe on weekday afternoons if I take a day off from work.....but I wouldn't be caught dead by myself at a theatre on weekends.

Eating out - take out, yes... eat-in, usually not.

"When ye think about it... those of us who travelled worldwide are just loners goin to pearl jam... but together!"

Amen to that! I found that out a year ago when I saw Pearl Jam in Sydney!

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