Attending "social events" alone?

Odin

audiodave wrote:

Perhaps you missed the lesson on the fact that high school and college do not represent real life. Most people grow out of the immature trends that bound them during their teen years. Guess not everyone though.

High school is a microcosm of real life when it comes to reputation and relationships. Obviously, people change and grow over the years, but the underlying social structure remains the same, as do social norms. Is that the way I necessarily WANT it to be? No, but that's the way it is. That said, I would never want to be seen at a cinema alone and nothing you say will alter my opinion on this matter.

angryyoungman

i got tickets for both jersey pj shows in '06 and couldnt find anyone to go with me to the second one, so i asked on here and met lowlight79 at the show. . .was not gonna be denied. . .whats up lowlight if you're out there. . .i get aggravated if i want to see a show and cant find anyone to go with me. . .usually i can find someone

Odin

dunkman wrote:

but you did respond didnt you... and where do you live... 1923land?

is there a jock licking you're bicep as you type this shit?

I live in America... not in Europe, where men hug each other in public, and even kiss each other on the cheek, and think nothing of it. So obviously going to the cinema with a friend wouldn't look as strange on *your* side of the pond.

Odin

dunkman wrote:

then i'd stab you in the face with a sword.

It's almost 2008. Swords are obsolete. Just wanted to let you know before you go medieval on an armed motherfucker like myself.

dunkman

Odin wrote:

That said, I would never want to be seen at a cinema alone and nothing you say will alter my opinion on this matter.

that means you care what people think about you... which makes you insecure and immature.

i go where i want alone cos i'm a big boy and i've decided not to give a fuck about 3 geeky cunts standing laughing at me going into the cinema alone... i'm content in the knowledge that when i was their age i had had sex with a real girl instead of fucking a bag of gently warmed liver.

Odin

dunkman wrote:

that means you care what people think about you... which makes you insecure and immature.

i go where i want alone cos i'm a big boy and i've decided not to give a fuck about 3 geeky cunts standing laughing at me going into the cinema alone... i'm content in the knowledge that when i was their age i had had sex with a real girl instead of fucking a bag of gently warmed liver.

Good for you. I, OTOH, care about my personal reputation.

dunkman

Odin wrote:

I live in America... not in Europe, where men hug each other in public, and even kiss each other on the cheek, and think nothing of it. So obviously going to the cinema with a friend wouldn't look as strange on *your* side of the pond.

San Francisco is the gay capital of the world... all your sports players hug each other... Phildelphia had a filmed named after it in which a gay guy dies or something.

you live in the gayest country in the world... i live in Scotland where people fight each other just to get a seat at the bar.


btw a bar is a drinking establishment... its where us grown ups go.. sometimes we go alone... but other times stupid fat americans who think all of europe is gay point and laugh at us... then they die.

Heineken Helen

Odin wrote:

Most people wouldn't notice? Are you kidding me? Being alone at a cinema makes you stick out like a sore thumb. You're SUPPOSED to go with friends or your girlfriend. Being alone or with just one friend at the movies makes you look strange, especially on weekends.

honestly I can understand where you're coming from... before I ever went to the cinema on my own, before I learned not to give a shit what others thought and realised that they don't even think about me all that much... before all that I used to think it would be a really uncomfortable experience. Trust me, it's not! And I've noticed it becoming more and more the norm... when I first started going on my own, there'd be a few other people on their own... now half the cinema seem to be on their own and now i don't even think twice about it. I wouldn't normally go on a Friday or Saturday night on my own cos I usually have stuff to do... but I have done. Yep, it seems to be more full of young people out on dates but I still don't feel out of place or think that people are looking at me or anything.

It really is NOT anything like you think... like I've said I'd much prefer to go on my own now.

Hitch-Hiker

Odin wrote:

Most people wouldn't notice? Are you kidding me? Being alone at a cinema makes you stick out like a sore thumb. You're SUPPOSED to go with friends or your girlfriend. Being alone or with just one friend at the movies makes you look strange, especially on weekends.

Well, that's the biggest pile of shit I've ever heard. On any given week I'll got to the cinema twice or more. Sometimes I go with friends, sometimes I don't. About half and half probably. I see a hell of a lot of people going on their own, and I don't find it strange in the slightest. I go because I'm a film fan, not because I'm a loser. Same goes for concerts and the like. I know a lot of people are a little insecure going on their own, and that's ok, but don't put down people who aren't insecure about it.

Heineken Helen

Hitch-Hiker wrote:

Well, that's the biggest pile of shit I've ever heard. On any given week I'll got to the cinema twice or more. Sometimes I go with friends, sometimes I don't. About half and half probably. I see a hell of a lot of people going on their own, and I don't find it strange in the slightest. I go because I'm a film fan, not because I'm a loser. Same goes for concerts and the like. I know a lot of people are a little insecure going on their own, and that's ok, but don't put down people who aren't insecure about it.

Well I think it says more about the person looking at you THINKING you're a loser (if these people exist) than it says about you or me hitch! Why would they think somebody like that is a loser? Cos it's something they wouldn't do themselves... and what possible reason would they have for not doing it themselves? Insecurity perhaps. If someone DOES look down on me for that, well they have issues and I feel sorry for them.

Also, there is a chance that this could be more common in Ireland or the UK than many other countries... it's not a big deal in Dublin anyway for someone to go to the cinema on their own.

Danimal

audiodave wrote:

To me, thats says more about your insecurity than anything else. Why care so much if everyone else thinks you're a "loser"? And why is it embarassing? I bet most people wouldn't even notice.

I'm not trying to piss you off, just sharing my feelings on the subject.

Dave, I agree.

When was the last time you were at the movies and said "HEY! Look at that person over there! They're alone! What a goon!"

I would NEVER notice something like this.....then again I don't notice stop signs.

soulsinging

Odin wrote:

Most people wouldn't notice? Are you kidding me? Being alone at a cinema makes you stick out like a sore thumb. You're SUPPOSED to go with friends or your girlfriend. Being alone or with just one friend at the movies makes you look strange, especially on weekends.

yeah, and going to a night club alone is really hip. you get to be that creepy old dude standing there alone looking for drunk girls like a predator. that guy doesn't look strange at all.

soulsinging

Odin wrote:

High school is a microcosm of real life when it comes to reputation and relationships. Obviously, people change and grow over the years, but the underlying social structure remains the same, as do social norms. Is that the way I necessarily WANT it to be? No, but that's the way it is. That said, I would never want to be seen at a cinema alone and nothing you say will alter my opinion on this matter.

ah, you're in high school still. that explains a lot.

chime

Heineken Helen wrote:

Well I think it says more about the person looking at you THINKING you're a loser (if these people exist) than it says about you or me hitch! Why would they think somebody like that is a loser? Cos it's something they wouldn't do themselves... and what possible reason would they have for not doing it themselves? Insecurity perhaps. If someone DOES look down on me for that, well they have issues and I feel sorry for them.

Also, there is a chance that this could be more common in Ireland or the UK than many other countries... it's not a big deal in Dublin anyway for someone to go to the cinema on their own.

There are times I've gone to the cinema where most people were on their own ... not those type of films dunk :rolleyes: ... I went to afternoon midweek showing of Motorcycle Diaries and don't think anyone arrived with anyone else.

As others have said you're going to watch a film ... it's not social really (the before and after if you go for dinner or to a bar may be) I'd never even considered that some people may be find a strange to go to the cinema by yourself

dunkman

all my comments on this thread were deleted last night... Odin said that anyone who went to the pics with a friend must be gay?

quite how he got to that conclusion is anyones guess.

he's banned now.

Heineken Helen

Chime wrote:

There are times I've gone to the cinema where most people were on their own ... not those type of films dunk :rolleyes: ... I went to afternoon midweek showing of Motorcycle Diaries and don't think anyone arrived with anyone else.

As others have said you're going to watch a film ... it's not social really (the before and after if you go for dinner or to a bar may be) I'd never even considered that some people may be find a strange to go to the cinema by yourself

Me neither... and yep, it may also depend what films you go and see... when you go and see them... and what cinemas you go to. If you go to say the new Ben Stiller film on a Saturday night in the omniplex on yer own it's probably gonna be more noticeable than say going to see a thriller or a foreign film on yer own after work on a Tuesday in a smaller older cinema.

norm

dunkman wrote:

all my comments on this thread were deleted last night... Odin said that anyone who went to the pics with a friend must be gay?

quite how he got to that conclusion is anyones guess.

he's banned now.

yea i thought this was locked?!?! and i hope he is banned.....i wasn't gonna get involved because anything i was gonna say to him would have me banned.....some ignorant shit there...:rolleyes:

dunkman

cutback wrote:

yea i thought this was locked?!?! and i hope he is banned.....i wasn't gonna get involved because anything i was gonna say to him would have me banned.....some ignorant shit there...:rolleyes:

yeah i rose to the bait... but his posts are just inflammatory for the sake of it i think.

JaneNY

I haven't read all 4 pages of the thread, and while I'd be lonely if I was alone ALL the time, I'm perfectly happy with seeing a show myself if no one else wants to go. Its better than not seeing it. I want to experience things in life related to my interests, and I don't know anyone else who likes what I like, with the exception of my daughter, who I take with me to shows whenever I can. I've seen PJ, Springsteen, AFI, alone, that I can think of.