Is It Really Better To Have Loved And Lost Than

in_hiding79 wrote:

To Never Have Loved At All ...??

Foxy Mop wrote:

meh... cant miss what ya never had

justjoshingu wrote:

yes. it is better to have loved and lost.

if you dont have love, it doesnt mean you'll be without pain, loss, heartache, fear, dissapointment, aggravation, or hurt. it just means you'll have all those without love to balance it.


however, it is not better to have love and lost if that person gave you the clap.

this post is illogical.

how can you have pain without love? for something to pain us there should be something there to hurt us in the first place.

for all of you how are going to say that there can be such thing called it's unrequited love then sorry i don't believe in unrequited love. if someone doesn't love me then i don't allow myself to fall in love.

but you are right in saying those people will still be hurt and feel pain and dissapointment........and this is because they had something, maybe not love but close to it. but their hurt will not be as strong as those that loved and been loved by someone.

xscorcho wrote:

in my experience, i'd say yes.... but i am sure there are people who would rather have never loved than lost.... i think it just depends on the circumstances behind the love and loss.

Absolutely true! In my experiences I've learned so much from every relationship... each one has made me stronger and better equipped to face the next one so every one has been better than the last. In time the pain goes and you can remember the great times you had. Being heartbroken usually implies that you want what you had... cos it was better than not having it. In time you accept that you no longer have it but, if you're heartbroken, you still want it back.

genie wrote:

i'm mainly pissed off with myself for not telling my first ex straight to his face that he is a bastard, after he called me a bitch and was acting like a complete psycho. i know i shouldn't and with time my anger will go, but i do regret it.

aww... that's shit. I'm lucky that all my relationships have ended reasonably amicably... i.e. no shouting match and we've both got to say what we wanted to say. I didn't get MUCH closure on the last one so it took me a bit longer to get over and that was the hardest bit, really not understanding why we were ending! But I still got over it and I'm still glad that 'we' happened.

genie wrote:

it's wasn't actually a shouting match it was more one sided thing, he was getting more and more pissed off and agressive and i was getting more silent.

i'm also glad that i met someone like him ( we never loved each other though), now i know the kind of guy i want and the kind of guy i don't want. also now i know that i should stay well away from people who don't get on with their mothers and get put on some tablets to make them calm ( honestly what was i thinking back then :rolleyes: )..... if i see any guy like that again, i will run away as fast as i can.

Wow... that sounds nuts... glad you got out of that one Genie . I've been lucky enough to learn from OTHER peoples mistakes relationship wise. I know some people who have been in some pretty fucked up ones and I think that may have something to do with why I'm usually single.

On a side note though, not getting along with your mother isn't always a sign of anything. I haven't been in the same room as my mother since September... and that certainly WASN'T by choice. But yep I understand that a lot of people have problems and have to be on medication... but it's usually quite a worrying point for me.

Heineken Helen wrote:

Wow... that sounds nuts... glad you got out of that one Genie . I've been lucky enough to learn from OTHER peoples mistakes relationship wise. I know some people who have been in some pretty fucked up ones and I think that may have something to do with why I'm usually single.

On a side note though, not getting along with your mother isn't always a sign of anything. I haven't been in the same room as my mother since September... and that certainly WASN'T by choice. But yep I understand that a lot of people have problems and have to be on medication... but it's usually quite a worrying point for me.

yeah it was easy to get out of that one. it's just next time i will be more aware of warning sings yeah, if someone doesn't get along with parents it's ok, but if i see other things as well then i will react.

being single is good for clear mind and nervous system

genie wrote:

so are you passing through then? you can use interstate 40 if you don't like route 66

Why dwell on the love that you lost. Move on cause there is so much better ahead.

There I feel better now. lol

definitely better to have loved and lost.
heartbreak is the WORST feeling in the world, but it's worth it for what's on the flipside.