Is It Really Better To Have Loved And Lost Than

in_hiding79

nfanel wrote:

definitely better to have loved and lost.
heartbreak is the WORST feeling in the world, but it's worth it for what's on the flipside.

True, very true!!

gabers

You been listening to Poison again Inhiding?

**Sings "I Won't Forget You"**

in_hiding79

gabers wrote:

You been listening to Poison again Inhiding?

**Sings "I Won't Forget You"**

hehehehehe, I totally forgot that song...

Must go to "youtube" now, thanks Gabers!!!

harmless_little_f***

in_hiding79 wrote:

To Never Have Loved At All ...??

Of course, or you'd have stayed in a perpetual state of naivety about how relationships work.

writersu

I don't know why I am responding since I am in a fog now and not clear of the answer at all........

still, this is too tempting to not answer to.........

There have been times I thought I was in love, when I was younger and it was just a disaster. Those were not the relationships that I like to think of really, if they were to be done over, I would have done like this cool guy I use to work with use to say, "played it better". He use to say, "it's all in the way you play it". Now I get it. I allowed myself to be made a joke from the same guys who sure enjoyed the joke sometimes. enough said on that.

and then there is my current situation where I have been married for 17 years (damn, that sounds so long) and I am seperated for almost a year now, and I see that we never ever had the real love that people dream of, hope for and sometimes really do get. I just don't know how they get it, because I sure didn't know it at the time; that it wasn't really love like it should have been. But when I am sad and lonely, I think that if carma,or fate or whatever it is suppose to be called, plays a part in this life thing, then it is as it should have been because I have 4 wonderful kids that have been worth all of the disappointment, sadness, and whatever else I now feel because the marriage gave me these kids. I can't look at my ex husband or whatever the hell I am suppose to call him; sorry I SO do not know that answer, really, and say that he and I had these kids because he just doesn't have what it takes to be considered a good father; he is so out of touch with reality.......it's sad really. So I feel that I had the kids alone, mostly, except for the chemical part, and now I still do. And even though I really am quite repulsed at him (after all of the times I wanted things to work with him and he was cold), because he killed the whole thing I am so glad that I have my kids because although they will grow and get on with their lives, as they should really, I hope they will always be in my life and I in theirs in appropriate ways as they grow.

I still wonder about the love thing.........I wonder if when they are grown up and I think about getting into another relationship maybe if I will find real love.

AmentsChick

Yeah, I'm not sure I agree with that cliche either.

Ms. Haiku

I've been in love with life, and I've loved family members (still do on both counts). I've never had that you-complete-me love.

Is it better to have lost in love than never to have loved at all?

Sure it is. It may make a person jaded, and just give that person memories, but within those moments/months/years of soul-completing-love all the world is at that person's frontdoor.

What else is worth living?

(besides a plate of spaghetti )

Allie

in_hiding79 wrote:

To Never Have Loved At All ...??

yes

some people go their whole lives w/o having the experience of being with someone you consider a true love. I feel blessed to have had that experience, even though it didn't work out

brain of c

it's better to have loved and lost.........than to have never lost at all.

in_hiding79

brain of c wrote:

it's better to have loved and lost.........than to have never lost at all.

I'm sure we would all love that...:)

Anon

in_hiding79 wrote:

maybe you're right, I just thought that sometimes heartbreak is worse then being sick at times...

no doubt - in some ways it's better, but in other ways it isn't. I don't think that there is any definitive answer to this...

in_hiding79

all4PearlJam wrote:

no doubt - in some ways it's better, but in other ways it isn't. I don't think that there is any definitive answer to this...

probably not, but at least we all tried!!

Trailer

genie wrote:

hehe, this is funny you loved this girl but then after you split up you forgot about her. it's like saying ok so this pen doesn't work, so let me throw this one away and get the next one

I knew you'd like that one genie:D haha.. you're so deep with your pen metaphors! LOL

SENROCK

Trailer wrote:

I knew you'd like that one genie:D haha.. you're so deep with your pen metaphors! LOL

now, im not agreeing with u cuz ure hott or anything but...its true what u said earlier. and how genie put it. i mean, its easy-one "pen" breaks.....GET ANOTHER!!!!!

glasshouse

from personal experience:

most definitely.

FinsburyParkCarrots

Depends on the partner, the circumstances of the relationship, and whether the sacrifices you made in life to be with that person were justified at the time, and/or later.

given2fly78

Yes!

To experience love (true love) is such a gift. And can be a lesson if you view it right.

And to lose it - for what ever reason - might hurt like hell, but to have had that is truly a blessing.

And will prepare you for the future.

genie

Trailer wrote:

I knew you'd like that one genie:D haha.. you're so deep with your pen metaphors! LOL

you knew i would like that? :eek: that kinda shit creeps me out, it makes me paranoid thinking what else you might know or predict about me.

saying this however, there is one person in here that i think i can predict...well because i think he's a bit of a dork, in a loving way of course

writersu

yes, and as Mick Jagger so elequently put it,



"If you can't rock me, somebody will............"

PJPOWER

Depends on whether or not the person blows their head off after losing...