Engagement Rings.

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  • polaris
    polaris Posts: 3,527
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    no engagement ring. save it for nice wedding rings for both of you. engagement rings are meaningless- they were invented as a marketing campaign for debeers in the 1940s. Plus diamonds are a screwed up business. You never really know for sure where they are coming from or if anyone hands were chopped off in the process. They are overpriced bits of rock, and the people who mine them-the citizens of the countries that own this resource-are in extreme poverty even though the amount of wealth exploited from the resource is crazy. I'm sure if your gf is any type of socially conscious person, she will appreciate not getting a ring. Really, think about how much money it is too. is that really worth it? If you invest that $5000, think of what it get the two of you and any kids you might have in the future. I know people who don't even wear their engagement rings- they just sit in a box somewhere.

    and 5,000 is way too much. my super nice watch wasn't even a fraction of that and it tells time. what does a ring do?

    i agree whole-heartedly ... it's funny how many people will watch a movie like blood diamond and say how great it is but then go ahead and contribute to this atrocity ...

    in any case - if a symbol of "love" is measured in carats or dollars - it isn't for me ... $5,000!!??? ... imagine what you can do with that? ... all because of "tradition"??

    part of our superficial society i suppose
  • BarryWalker
    BarryWalker Posts: 75
    I agree too. I think we are conditioned to think that spending more $ means you care more. I actually fell into this trap the very first day I went ring shopping. I found a ring I thought looked really good but then found out it was way less than what I was planning on spending. I would've bought it on looks alone but the diamond wasn't certified and who buys the first big ticket item they look at? Not a good idea.
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  • 3inputchick
    3inputchick Posts: 845
    3 months of gross salary!

    round princess cut no yellow gold!
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  • The Champ
    The Champ Posts: 4,063
    3inputchick wrote:
    3 months of gross salary!

    round princess cut no yellow gold!

    Bullshit about the 3 month salary..though I did get her a princess cut, white gold :)..
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  • The Champ
    The Champ Posts: 4,063
    polaris wrote:
    i agree whole-heartedly ... it's funny how many people will watch a movie like blood diamond and say how great it is but then go ahead and contribute to this atrocity ...

    in any case - if a symbol of "love" is measured in carats or dollars - it isn't for me ... $5,000!!??? ... imagine what you can do with that? ... all because of "tradition"??

    part of our superficial society i suppose

    It's funny because the night prior to proposing to my girl, we watched 'Blood Diamond,' and she said things like 'oh man, I wouldn't want a blood diamond.' I freaked, called my sister and she calmed me down saying that it wouldn't matter in the least and that she'll love it..She was right :)..We laugh about the story now..
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
  • markymark550
    markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,217
    just remember to get that rock insured...

    you'd be pissed if the ring was lost, stolen, or damaged
  • you are
    you are Posts: 1,651
    well, just don't buy a ring from Wal-Mart or Avon or someplace cheap....even if the ring is expensive. and if you're paying $5000 :eek: it better be top quality!! and if she's demanding that particular ring because of the price then she has issues, but if you've picked it out because you really like it and it happens to be $5000 :eek: then go for it. but get it insured and make sure you can pay for it. do you have a secure job? no other outstanding debts?
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  • curmudgeoness
    curmudgeoness Brigadoon, foodie capital Posts: 4,130
    I think the "right" ring (or a ring at all) and the "right" price are going to depend on the woman in question. If my now-husband had spent three months' salary on a diamond ring for me, I would have either a) strangled him or b) had serious doubts about marrying someone who would blow three months' salary on a piece of jewelry.

    But that's just me. I do not like diamonds, I do not wear much jewelry, and I expect my partner to be prudent when it comes to money. My ring is an opal, it cost less than $500, and I rarely wear it. :-)
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  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    My opinion? Buy something relatively affordable and save money for a house...that's just me though.
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  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    DocChicago wrote:
    that depends on whether you can afford it.
    I think it depends on the girl :)

    Some girls might want a guy to spend his every penny on the ring... others might be completely against that and just want some token, not something that's gonna bankrupt them.
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  • Steve Dunne
    Steve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    The Champ wrote:
    Bullshit about the 3 month salary..though I did get her a princess cut, white gold :)..

    i was asked to get platinum.


    thanks and why don't you just kick me in the nuts while you're at it!
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  • EvilMerlin
    EvilMerlin Posts: 1,865
    I told a girl once that I'd buy her the biggest ring I could afford, and that it would be HUGE! No lie.

    She fell in love with me.

    I gave her a ring pop.

    She broke up with me.

    I thought I did well.

    Just get something you feel that she'd love when you make it your guys' moment. It's all about the whole package and do it up right. You know her best, so you'll know what suits her fancy within your price range. If you feel you don't know yet...maybe you're not ready yet then as well? Hmmm?
  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    curmudgeoness wrote:
    I think the "right" ring (or a ring at all) and the "right" price are going to depend on the woman in question. If my now-husband had spent three months' salary on a diamond ring for me, I would have either a) strangled him or b) had serious doubts about marrying someone who would blow three months' salary on a piece of jewelry.

    But that's just me. I do not like diamonds, I do not wear much jewelry, and I expect my partner to be prudent when it comes to money. My ring is an opal, it cost less than $500, and I rarely wear it. :-)


    Yay. Nice post. If I had spent much money on a ring, my wife would have been like "WTF is the matter with you? You could have easily bought me a kick ass kayak with that money."
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  • Cree Nations
    Cree Nations Posts: 2,247
    5000 is more than fine. Hell, I only spent around 1200 on mine, however, it was my fiancees decision. She didnt want too much cause she is cheap. I bought her a platinum engagement ring with a large saphire surrounded by diamonds........blood diamonds. ;)
    She picked it out. I am going to spend more on the wedding band though.
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  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    AmentsChick wrote:
    My opinion? Buy something relatively affordable and save money for a house...that's just me though.

    Yeah, what she said!
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  • The Champ
    The Champ Posts: 4,063
    Steve Dunne wrote:
    i was asked to get platinum.


    thanks and why don't you just kick me in the nuts while you're at it!

    I'm lost on this Steve :)..platinum is nice no?i I was just saying that the 3 month salary thing is bullshit in my opinion..but I'd gladly kick you in them nuts no problem ;)..
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
  • libragirl
    libragirl Posts: 4,632
    Platinum is very expensive. I would settle for white gold. The only request I would have is no yellow gold...I really think it detracts from the diamonds.
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  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    The Champ wrote:
    It's funny because the night prior to proposing to my girl, we watched 'Blood Diamond,' and she said things like 'oh man, I wouldn't want a blood diamond.' I freaked, called my sister and she calmed me down saying that it wouldn't matter in the least and that she'll love it..She was right :)..We laugh about the story now..
    :D that's true. It's something I never thought about before seeing that film... but then I decided I wouldn't want one... but then I thought I wouldn't say no if somebody gave me one anyway :o ahhh... sooooooooo fickle!
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • The Champ
    The Champ Posts: 4,063
    AmentsChick wrote:
    Yeah, what she said!

    Definitely a good idea..and I personally would never think about proposing to a woman who is more interested in the damn ring than our future :)..
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    libragirl wrote:
    Platinum is very expensive. I would settle for white gold. The only request I would have is no yellow gold...I really think it detracts from the diamonds.

    EXACTLY! Plus, I'm not just a fan of yellow gold (for me-I like it on other people).
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