Feelings for a best friend.

Jeremys Spoken
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Suck. BAD.
I have so many feelings for this girl, but im forever in the friend zone. Shes a real beauty. Sucks when she complains about her bf to me. She knows how I feel about her, but still it just blows. But the fact that we are best friends, at least makes me happy. Maybe one day....
But right now what is easing my mind is, Crazy Mary from the Gorge.
I have so many feelings for this girl, but im forever in the friend zone. Shes a real beauty. Sucks when she complains about her bf to me. She knows how I feel about her, but still it just blows. But the fact that we are best friends, at least makes me happy. Maybe one day....
But right now what is easing my mind is, Crazy Mary from the Gorge.
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She complains about her boyfriend to you when she knows how you feel? I'm sorry, but that's low in my book.Happiness is only real when shared0
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gobrowns19 wrote:She complains about her boyfriend to you when she knows how you feel? I'm sorry, but that's low in my book.2008 - MSG 6/24-6/25
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Man I had the exact same thing. This chick (who I still believe we would of been perfect for each other), was dating this guy who was also kind of a friend. I didn't wanna cut his grass, then they broke up. I was getting the courage to take a punt to ask her out when I found out she was dating another guy. I thought I would see this one out, because I knew we were meant for each other. Hell, her best friend told me how this girl felt about me.
2 months later she accidentally fell pregnant and now they are engaged.
Moral of the story. Don't wait until it is too late.... I lost my chance. And I haven't come close to finding someone who was as perfect as she :(Sydney 11/02/2003
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pjfan31 wrote:Man I had the exact same thing. This chick (who I still believe we would of been perfect for each other), was dating this guy who was also kind of a friend. I didn't wanna cut his grass, then they broke up. I was getting the courage to take a punt to ask her out when I found out she was dating another guy. I thought I would see this one out, because I knew we were meant for each other. Hell, her best friend told me how this girl felt about me.
2 months later she accidentally fell pregnant and now they are engaged.
Moral of the story. Don't wait until it is too late.... I lost my chance. And I haven't come close to finding someone who was as perfect as she :(2008 - MSG 6/24-6/25
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Jeremy's Spoken wrote:ughhh yeah. I think we are past the point of just acquaintances where we could still hook up or w.e. if it just happened. Like I feel it would be TOTALLY awkward and ruin the friendship we have, if I asked her or tried anything.
Dude this is exactly how I felt. The kid is now over 3, so for nearly 4 years I have regretted it. "Get over it" I hear people say, but I have dated a few girls, but nobody was as perfect as this girl. I lived 4 years thinking 'What if?" Don't make the same mistake as I. If it doesn't work out, then I'm sure you will be friends eventually, no matter how awkward.Sydney 11/02/2003
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pjfan31 wrote:Dude this is exactly how I felt. The kid is now over 3, so for nearly 4 years I have regretted it. "Get over it" I hear people say, but I have dated a few girls, but nobody was as perfect as this girl. I lived 4 years thinking 'What if?" Don't make the same mistake as I. If it doesn't work out, then I'm sure you will be friends eventually, no matter how awkward.2008 - MSG 6/24-6/25
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Jeremy's Spoken wrote:I mean, I told her exactly how I felt with her. That was a few months back, i've kinda come to terms, and even told her to know she can talk to me about anything. So I kinda invited that aspect. But w.e. shes about to end it with him anyways.
Been there, done that... you're in the friend zone. If you can handle just being friends with this chick, by all means keep being the guy that gets to hear about all of her current shitty boyfriends. If not, I think the best thing for you to do is to step away for a while and stop torturing yourself.
Sounds harsh, but every minute you spend with her is giving you little glimmers of hope... and if she knows how you feel already and decided to keep being your buddy, then it ain't gonna happen. Don't sit around and "wait" for her to maybe come around and decide to date you, or wait around for her to run through 10+ guys... cut it loose. If you have 5-6 friends already, you have enough. You don't need one more.0 -
I think there's a Sloan song about this.0
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Motown322 wrote:Been there, done that... you're in the friend zone. If you can handle just being friends with this chick, by all means keep being the guy that gets to hear about all of her current shitty boyfriends. If not, I think the best thing for you to do is to step away for a while and stop torturing yourself.
Sounds harsh, but every minute you spend with her is giving you little glimmers of hope... and if she knows how you feel already and decided to keep being your buddy, then it ain't gonna happen. Don't sit around and "wait" for her to maybe come around and decide to date you, or wait around for her to run through 10+ guys... cut it loose. If you have 5-6 friends already, you have enough. You don't need one more.2008 - MSG 6/24-6/25
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i'm just surprised & impressed that you got up the courage to tell her. i've been in a situation like that myself for quite some time."Last time I think we played that song here was like, a long time ago, and there was a bonfire in the back and people were like throwing each other into it...very exciting days but a huge fucking relief that that's not how it is tonight..." Ed Irvine Night 1 2003, after Deep0
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r1vers wrote:i'm just surprised & impressed that you got up the courage to tell her. i've been in a situation like that myself for quite some time.2008 - MSG 6/24-6/25
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tvismyfriend wrote:I think there's a Sloan song about this.
I think there's more than one Sloan song about it now that I think about it...
OP, do what you want. All I'm saying is, you've already laid your cards on the table. You're ALWAYS going to want your relationship to go to that next level. She knows you want that and she doesn't feel the same way. She sees you like one of her girlfriends that she can gossip with and go to the mall with and "you give like such great advice 'cause you're a guy and stuff and you really help me see how guys REALLY are" and all that shit. You will put up with that because you think that if you play the game that she'll come around and start to see you as BF material. You're both looking for something completely different out of the friendship.
You can get mad at me... you can tell me I'm wrong... but I know I'm right. The same shit you're saying has come out of my mouth VERBATIM. We can smell our own. And I'm telling you, if's a lonely road.0 -
Take a small vacation. Send her a card like any friend would.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
If she misses you she will let you know it when you return.
If things don't change at that point, change them and move on.
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i know the feeling... a couple times over... got some cute friends
but dont do that "maybe one day..." stuff to yourself... it really just makes it harder
karmas a bitch though... i cant tell ya how many lady friends of mine have come on to me only for me to say no (i dont mean that to sound cocky... they werent the cute ones... and i didnt mean that to sound assholey)
just take care of yourself... the way i see it, if a chick takes years to come around to you shes probably not worth the time... not to say she cant stay a friend... but dont be looking for more... im kindof a sucker for the love at first sight romantic shit though0 -
my roommate last year told me that permanently being in the friend zone is like a company interviewing you and then hiring a less-qualified employee. however, the company will use you as a model example and will keep complaining to you about the employee they hired over you. and i find it scary how true this is.
i hope that made you laugh a little bit man!MSG II 6/25/080 -
Jeremy's Spoken wrote:Yep. I couldn't fucking believe it myself. I did it a few months ago, in the summer. It had to be done. You always picture the reaction being horrible, but it really never is, and most times completely different from what you thought.0
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greaticedtea wrote:my roommate last year told me that permanently being in the friend zone is like a company interviewing you and then hiring a less-qualified employee. however, the company will use you as a model example and will keep complaining to you about the employee they hired over you. and i find it scary how true this is.
i hope that made you laugh a little bit man!2008 - MSG 6/24-6/25
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i really find the girl insensitive, i think she should stop talking about her relationship to you since she already knows how you feel about her...i bet listening to her sharing about her past/current relationships makes you feel like being stab with daggers...what is essential is invisible to the eye
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muiren77 wrote:i really find the girl insensitive, i think she should stop talking about her relationship to you since she already knows how you feel about her...i bet listening to her sharing about her past/current relationships makes you feel like being stab with daggers...
had an ex that eventually dated my roommate... and she would talk to me about their problems :rolleyes:0 -
muiren77 wrote:i really find the girl insensitive, i think she should stop talking about her relationship to you since she already knows how you feel about her...i bet listening to her sharing about her past/current relationships makes you feel like being stab with daggers...
Yeah, but when you tell her "you can talk to me about anything", you kind of invite that stuff. If she didn't see him as a permanent friend before that statement, he locked himself in the friend closet and threw away the key by saying it to her... I can't blame the girl on this one.0
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