What did you do with your kids? :o

upina2001

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

My son is over a year old now. My partner has always said he's too young for rules but I'm afraid of they way he will grow up if I don't start setting down rules!
My little boy kept pulling rubbish out of the bin. I kept telling him no but everytime I said it, he would start screaming, crying and going bright red in the face with anger. I didn't even shout! After the fifth time, I put him in his bed, just to get the point across but now I'm worried that if I keep doing that, he'll think bed is a bad place and won't want to go to bed!

redirect the chap. by redirecting I mean, pick him up, set him in the middle of the living room with his toys or give him something else to do; then proceed to clean up his mess.

Steve Dunne

redrock wrote:

Obviously, this is until you have mastered 'the look'!

My 6 year old HATES the look, and has tried to give it back to me. Hilarious. i agree w/ dunk - i believe we chuckle because we've been there.

Steve Dunne

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

Thanks because I was thinking of giving up. He's spoiled by his dad which makes it harder.

Mookie: Lol. Have a think about it. Just take a guess!

never give up. never.

meme

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

My son is over a year old now. My partner has always said he's too young for rules but I'm afraid of they way he will grow up if I don't start setting down rules!
My little boy kept pulling rubbish out of the bin. I kept telling him no but everytime I said it, he would start screaming, crying and going bright red in the face with anger. I didn't even shout! After the fifth time, I put him in his bed, just to get the point across but now I'm worried that if I keep doing that, he'll think bed is a bad place and won't want to go to bed!

You are absolutely right about the rules issue, and right about bed not being a good place to put him for exactly the reason you mention.

Talking calmly and explaining is the best course of action. But perhaps even better in this case would be to block access to the bin. Put it high up or lock it in. He may be upset at the beginning, but will likely forget soon.

And don't worry about the looks... houses with one year olds are supposed to have all sorts of weird stuff going on.

Also, please don't ask Helen for advice

Indian Summer

It doesn't matter, the kid will end up screwed up anyway, because you're too young to be parenting a child in the fist place.

SENROCK

i agree with those who said a beating is in order!!! ok not like a rodney king beating but you know! i do NOT have kidz nor do i WANT ANY. However, i have a nephew who i call SPYDEE-he's 3. The boy is outta control lately. I love him more than anything or anyone but he needs to get spanked! as much as it bothers me to discipline him, i would rather do that NOW than him grow up to be a punk and a brat that no one wants to be around. The worst part is that his parents do NOT spank him. My sister in law "talks" to him DAILY. like ALL DAY. she went to school to be a teacher and i GUESS in one of the classes they taught against spanking the child so she will NOT spank him. WHATEVER. all i hear all the damn time is 'spydee...LISTEN. spydee LISTEN. SPYYYDEEEE LISTEN TO ME!!!' obviously its not working! i always tell her and my bro 'that little punk needs to get BEAT!!!' and its true. when the hell did it become wrong to spank your kid in the booty? thats good discipline right there. this is why i DO NOT EVVVVVER WANT KIDZ!!!!! thank you.

meme

Also, this may just be complementary to what Steve was saying, but NO is best reserved for very specal occasions when safety is at stake. In the case of the bin, it may be better to say: "I don't like it when you pull that blablabla" or "why don't we play with this instead?"

Other solutions: perhaps give him a laundry hamper to take things from? Or let him play with a tupperware drawer? I went crazy with my son taking pots from the cupboards when he was that age, and finally I just decided I was going to let him do it . But trash is gross, I agree.

upina2001

my 4 yr old daughter knows "the look" too!! it results in endless sobbing & I NEVER EVEN SAID ANYTHING!!!!!

meme

SENROCK! wrote:

i agree with those who said a beating is in order!!! ok not like a rodney king beating but you know! i do NOT have kidz nor do i WANT ANY. However, i have a nephew who i call SPYDEE-he's 3. The boy is outta control lately. I love him more than anything or anyone but he needs to get spanked! as much as it bothers me to discipline him, i would rather do that NOW than him grow up to be a punk and a brat that no one wants to be around. The worst part is that his parents do NOT spank him. My sister in law "talks" to him DAILY. like ALL DAY. she went to school to be a teacher and i GUESS in one of the classes they taught against spanking the child so she will NOT spank him. WHATEVER. all i hear all the damn time is 'spydee...LISTEN. spydee LISTEN. SPYYYDEEEE LISTEN TO ME!!!' obviously its not working! i always tell her and my bro 'that little punk needs to get BEAT!!!' and its true. when the hell did it become wrong to spank your kid in the booty? thats good discipline right there. this is why i DO NOT EVVVVVER WANT KIDZ!!!!! thank you.

http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=259835&highlight=spanking

MattCameronKicksButt

SENROCK! wrote:

i agree with those who said a beating is in order!!! ok not like a rodney king beating but you know! i do NOT have kidz nor do i WANT ANY. However, i have a nephew who i call SPYDEE-he's 3. The boy is outta control lately. I love him more than anything or anyone but he needs to get spanked! as much as it bothers me to discipline him, i would rather do that NOW than him grow up to be a punk and a brat that no one wants to be around. The worst part is that his parents do NOT spank him. My sister in law "talks" to him DAILY. like ALL DAY. she went to school to be a teacher and i GUESS in one of the classes they taught against spanking the child so she will NOT spank him. WHATEVER. all i hear all the damn time is 'spydee...LISTEN. spydee LISTEN. SPYYYDEEEE LISTEN TO ME!!!' obviously its not working! i always tell her and my bro 'that little punk needs to get BEAT!!!' and its true. when the hell did it become wrong to spank your kid in the booty? thats good discipline right there. this is why i DO NOT EVVVVVER WANT KIDZ!!!!! thank you.

You'll feel differently if you have your own. It's hard to smack them. They're too cute.

I've just moved the bin. I'm getting sick of it now.

meme

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

You'll feel differently if you have your own. It's hard to smack them. They're too cute.

I've just moved the bin. I'm getting sick of it now.

There you go

MattCameronKicksButt

meme wrote:

Also, this may just be complementary to what Steve was saying, but NO is best reserved for very specal occasions when safety is at stake. In the case of the bin, it may be better to say: "I don't like it when you pull that blablabla" or "why don't we play with this instead?"

Other solutions: perhaps give him a laundry hamper to take things from? Or let him play with a tupperware drawer? I went crazy with my son taking pots from the cupboards when he was that age, and finally I just decided I was going to let him do it . But trash is gross, I agree.

I can't distract him. He ony wants the bin while he can see it.

Nevermind.

acoustic guy

Julien wrote:

when my daughter does something she may not do I tell her "no". She looks at me, smiles and then do it again; I say "no" again, a bit louder than thefirst time. She tries again, etc. But after 3 or 4 "no", she knwo she may not do what she was trying to do.
If, after a few days she tries again to do it, only one "no" is sufficient...
I think it's never too soon to set down rules.

Same here. My little one is a mini me. She tests us to see what she can get away with. They are smart! Make no mistake about that. They know whether they are being bad or not. My daughter will pick the dirt out of the potted plants, look over at me give me a little giggle, then throw it on the ground. I give her a look and firmly say no! She knew it was wrong but she wanted a reaction b/c I was in the message pit on my labtop instead of paying attention to her. LOL!!!

Brain of J.Lo

SENROCK! wrote:

i agree with those who said a beating is in order!!! ok not like a rodney king beating but you know! i do NOT have kidz nor do i WANT ANY. However, i have a nephew who i call SPYDEE-he's 3. The boy is outta control lately. I love him more than anything or anyone but he needs to get spanked! as much as it bothers me to discipline him, i would rather do that NOW than him grow up to be a punk and a brat that no one wants to be around. The worst part is that his parents do NOT spank him. My sister in law "talks" to him DAILY. like ALL DAY. she went to school to be a teacher and i GUESS in one of the classes they taught against spanking the child so she will NOT spank him. WHATEVER. all i hear all the damn time is 'spydee...LISTEN. spydee LISTEN. SPYYYDEEEE LISTEN TO ME!!!' obviously its not working! i always tell her and my bro 'that little punk needs to get BEAT!!!' and its true. when the hell did it become wrong to spank your kid in the booty? thats good discipline right there. this is why i DO NOT EVVVVVER WANT KIDZ!!!!! thank you.

Of course he doesn't listen. He's 3. Most 3 yr old kids don't listen. But that doesn't mean that he should be spanked. Why do you believe a spanking would turn his behavior around?

If you don't have kids, and you don't even want kids...I don't think you should really consider yourself an expert on child discipline. It really is different when you are the parent and you're raising your own child.

acoustic guy

SENROCK! wrote:

i agree with those who said a beating is in order!!! ok not like a rodney king beating but you know! i do NOT have kidz nor do i WANT ANY. However, i have a nephew who i call SPYDEE-he's 3. The boy is outta control lately. I love him more than anything or anyone but he needs to get spanked! as much as it bothers me to discipline him, i would rather do that NOW than him grow up to be a punk and a brat that no one wants to be around. The worst part is that his parents do NOT spank him. My sister in law "talks" to him DAILY. like ALL DAY. she went to school to be a teacher and i GUESS in one of the classes they taught against spanking the child so she will NOT spank him. WHATEVER. all i hear all the damn time is 'spydee...LISTEN. spydee LISTEN. SPYYYDEEEE LISTEN TO ME!!!' obviously its not working! i always tell her and my bro 'that little punk needs to get BEAT!!!' and its true. when the hell did it become wrong to spank your kid in the booty? thats good discipline right there. this is why i DO NOT EVVVVVER WANT KIDZ!!!!! thank you.

No way!
I always thought I would be the type to smack my kids when they deserve it but not her. I can not do it to a little girl. If i have a son and he starts to test me as a teen then i might let him know who is boss but I doubt it. After she was born it changed everything. She makes me a big softy. I want to spend the time to teach her rather then just hit her.

Brain of J.Lo

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

I've just moved the bin. I'm getting sick of it now.

Sometimes that's all you can do at this age.

Linda

beating wont do a thing trying to disipline your kids, its just humiliating......

Irish Al

We can't use the naughty step with our (nearly) 2 year old as she loves sitting there and watching the world go by so when she's persistantly doing something she shouldn't we put her into the hall and close over the doorfor about 30secs - 1 min. It's mad but she stays perfectly still and we open the door, get down to her level and explain the behaviour to her, seems to work a treat.

eyedclaar

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

My son is over a year old now. My partner has always said he's too young for rules but I'm afraid of they way he will grow up if I don't start setting down rules!
My little boy kept pulling rubbish out of the bin. I kept telling him no but everytime I said it, he would start screaming, crying and going bright red in the face with anger. I didn't even shout! After the fifth time, I put him in his bed, just to get the point across but now I'm worried that if I keep doing that, he'll think bed is a bad place and won't want to go to bed!

I can safely say my strategy is the best. NEVER have kids! Shudder to think...

josevolution

a light spanking is the only thing i might of done on a few occasions i don't have any siggestions as to what is the best method of discipline though,my son is 13 my daughter is 10 it's now it's more " if you don't listen this is what is being taken away " or you won't get this if you don't listen ...but the trick is you have to stick to your guns if you say you will take something away do it and don't make threats that you won't follow through with ...