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My son is over a year old now. My partner has always said he's too young for rules but I'm afraid of they way he will grow up if I don't start setting down rules!
My little boy kept pulling rubbish out of the bin. I kept telling him no but everytime I said it, he would start screaming, crying and going bright red in the face with anger. I didn't even shout! After the fifth time, I put him in his bed, just to get the point across but now I'm worried that if I keep doing that, he'll think bed is a bad place and won't want to go to bed!
My little boy kept pulling rubbish out of the bin. I kept telling him no but everytime I said it, he would start screaming, crying and going bright red in the face with anger. I didn't even shout! After the fifth time, I put him in his bed, just to get the point across but now I'm worried that if I keep doing that, he'll think bed is a bad place and won't want to go to bed!
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works a treat
At one year old?
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yep... either that or tiny burst of electrocution?
you have to get onto his level and tell him no... firmly but fairly, and yes i'd use naughty step... 1 year old = 1 minute and then he'd be calmed down and he'd be bored... anyway, my kids never got in trouble at 1
[asbo] good luck though [/asbo]
If, after a few days she tries again to do it, only one "no" is sufficient...
I think it's never too soon to set down rules.
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Does he have a pack n play, or something else where you can stick him where he'll stay for a few minutes?
As dunk said, speak to him at his level, eye contact, etc. 1 is not too young. He's having tantrums when you try to stop him doing his thing. Let him get on with them and ignore him. He'll soon get over it.
EDIT: And, contrary to what NY PJ1 says, a spanking doesn't resolve anything - au contraire.
I worked with 1-2 year-olds in a daycare and they were put in a time out. Obviously, the younger they are, the shorter the time out (as it only takes a couple of minutes before they forget why they were put there in the first place). We had a bench they had to sit on. We had a particularly difficult one-year-old who would scream and carry-on while she was in the time-out, so she had to sit there longer. Her parents gave in to her temper tantrums at home, but we did not allow that at the day care. Soon, she stopped crying altogether when she was put into a time-out, and the behaviour that put her in a time-out began to decreased. It reached a point where I'd just have to give her a look. I'd catch her mid-arm raise to hit another kid, raise my eyebrow, and she'd put her hand down. It was kind of funny to watch, actually. I'd then praise her for making a good choice. It's all about giving the kids the responsibility of making their own choices.
(Sorry to start yet another thread about kids, btw).
I couldn't smack him. I'd end up upsetting myself more.
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All 3 of my kids at that age loved to go to the tupperware drawer and start flinging around the bowls and lids. They loved it. Then they learned how to clean up. So all was not lost in this 'activity'.
As long as the child learns the emphatic 'NO!', then you're doing your job as a parent. The child may not understand, listen, or be frustrated by your 'NO!', but over time they will learn. They will test this 'NO!' time and time again, and this is where you as a parent need to be strong-willed. It just takes time. Prior to the emphatic 'NO!' you may want to try a calmer 'No thank you' so the child understands 'OK, this means no'. This is especially effective in public, where you don't have to look like a screaming idiot. Good luck!
Obviously, this is until you have mastered 'the look'!
Thanks because I was thinking of giving up. He's spoiled by his dad which makes it harder.
Mookie: Lol. Have a think about it. Just take a guess!
thats where my son got his "timeouts" at that age
no toys in there either-they eventually start calming down
otherwise they keep trying to go back to whatever you are keeping them from
and I agree about adding thank you, that seemed to relax him
put the crayons back please thank you
thats not your toy, put it back please thank you
evenutally they learn
I honestly don't know. My parents never put me in a corner or anything like that. It was my dad's booming voice yelling that made me listen. If I had to guess I would say does the parent fake like they're going to go at the kid with a loud step?!? I have no clue. I'm also now getting the visual of P-diidy doing his side step. While not a naughty step per se, it sure if stupid looking. Guess I'll google naughty step. I'm at work so hopefully nothing too bad comes up!
"The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"
"What's your name?"
"FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
Just a step you sit them on until they supposedly calm down.
P.S. I left that one wide open for you to write something that would make me laugh. Thanks.
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redirect the chap. by redirecting I mean, pick him up, set him in the middle of the living room with his toys or give him something else to do; then proceed to clean up his mess.
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My 6 year old HATES the look, and has tried to give it back to me. Hilarious. i agree w/ dunk - i believe we chuckle because we've been there.
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You are absolutely right about the rules issue, and right about bed not being a good place to put him for exactly the reason you mention.
Talking calmly and explaining is the best course of action. But perhaps even better in this case would be to block access to the bin. Put it high up or lock it in. He may be upset at the beginning, but will likely forget soon.
And don't worry about the looks... houses with one year olds are supposed to have all sorts of weird stuff going on.
Also, please don't ask Helen for advice
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Other solutions: perhaps give him a laundry hamper to take things from? Or let him play with a tupperware drawer? I went crazy with my son taking pots from the cupboards when he was that age, and finally I just decided I was going to let him do it
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You'll feel differently if you have your own. It's hard to smack them. They're too cute.
I've just moved the bin. I'm getting sick of it now.