how do you find yourself?

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  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    That's cool :) Yeah - I think it's a work in progress. And I think even if you have all the material things in the world, it won't fill you up anywhere close to being filled with a sense of peace. I'm not there yet - no where close! but working on it.


    yes, at peace.
    a peaceful sanctuary inside one's own self emits a quality that's quite a nice feeling and other know it..

    and i am on my way.
    pretty fuckin close, closer everyday.
    gimmie my Muse=writing, trees/wilderness/wildlife/silence/music,
    and i am free

    i'd like for ChangeinWaves to find herself, she is cool.
    i haven't but recently communicated with her but yet
    i can tell she's hurting and she'll be fine, she'll find herself
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    chadwick wrote:
    yes, at peace.
    a peaceful sanctuary inside one's own self emits a quality that's quite a nice feeling and other know it..

    and i am on my way.
    pretty fuckin close, closer everyday.
    gimmie my Muse=writing, trees/wilderness/wildlife/silence/music,
    and i am free

    i'd like for ChangeinWaves to find herself, she is cool.
    i haven't but recently communicated with her but yet
    i can tell she's hurting and she'll be fine, she'll find herself
    Yeah - a peaceful sanctuary. And that's not something anyone else can ever give you. I haven't found it yet. Some days I feel closer than others.

    I hope she finds herself too :) Just having an awareness of the pain is part of the process.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    my thinking is itll take me til the day i die to find myself. and that the journey will have been worth it.

    that's very cool cate

    but you already know yourself, you little writing fool you.
    write your brains loose, your heart out.. get busy :D
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    chadwick wrote:
    yes, at peace.
    a peaceful sanctuary inside one's own self emits a quality that's quite a nice feeling and other know it..

    and i am on my way.
    pretty fuckin close, closer everyday.
    gimmie my Muse=writing, trees/wilderness/wildlife/silence/music,
    and i am free

    i'd like for ChangeinWaves to find herself, she is cool.
    i haven't but recently communicated with her but yet
    i can tell she's hurting and she'll be fine, she'll find herself
    Thanks for thinkin I'm cool:)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    chadwick wrote:
    that's very cool cate

    but you already know yourself, you little writing fool you.
    write your brains loose, your heart out.. get busy :D


    did you just call me a fool mister?



    a life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
    - george bernard shaw
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    did you just call me a fool mister?



    a life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
    - george bernard shaw

    you know what it means, don't mess with me missy..i'll spank your ass:D
    i myself = writing fool..
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • __ Posts: 6,651
    Honestly, I don't even know where to start looking!

    I don't know your situation. But, aside from the great advice already given by everyone else, I found it useful to turn off my TV. It was distracting and kept trying to tell me who to be.
  • The question isn't how do you find yourself,

    It's how do I know when I've found myself?

    Answer: It's when you stop asking....................

    Live life without regret.

    Be happy.

    Learn from mistakes.

    Life is short, you only live it once, so, make it rememberable.
  • LUV2ROCKLUV2ROCK Posts: 140
    Honestly, I don't even know where to start looking!



    Listen to lots of STRYPER
    73,XXX




    Member since day 1 here in August 2003
  • memememe Posts: 4,695
    Honestly, I don't even know where to start looking!

    I don't think you "find" yourself. You build yourself :)
    ... and the will to show I will always be better than before.
  • chadwickchadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    LUV2ROCK wrote:
    Listen to lots of STRYPER

    :D yikes...runs run and run
    or

    stomping a hole in your speakers will help you find yourself
    for poetry through the ceiling. ISBN: 1 4241 8840 7

    "Hear me, my chiefs!
    I am tired; my heart is
    sick and sad. From where
    the sun stands I will fight
    no more forever."

    Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    Everytime I find myself, I run away again. :)
    My whole life is hide and go seek with myself.
    Sorry, just trying to lighten this place up a little :)
    Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
    Sweep the Leg Johnny.
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Everytime I find myself, I run away again. :)
    My whole life is hide and go seek with myself.
    Sorry, just trying to lighten this place up a little :)
    :)
    I think I've been avoiding myself maybe cause I just don't like me:)

    Or maybe I've found myself and everyone I'm with just haven't found themselves!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    :)
    I think I've been avoiding myself maybe cause I just don't like me:)

    Or maybe I've found myself and everyone I'm with just haven't found themselves!
    you don't like you? or you don't like the you that you've seen reflected in your ex's eyes? In which case all you have to do is start using a different mirror :)
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • Indian SummerIndian Summer Posts: 2,296
    It's a state of mind. When you're comfortable in your own skin, not afraid to be yourself.
    "It's all happening"
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    It's a state of mind. When you're comfortable in your own skin, not afraid to be yourself.
    i've never been afraid to be myself...it seems as though others are afraid to accept me for myself.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • Indian SummerIndian Summer Posts: 2,296
    i've never been afraid to be myself...it seems as though others are afraid to accept me for myself.

    You say you're not afraid, but do you really know what its like? When I was younger I used to say stuff like "I don't care what anyone thinks about me".....but it wasn't until the past few years that I found out that I'm just now not caring what others think of me.

    There's more to it than that too. It's about knowing what you want out of life. Once you know that, you're "found yourself".
    "It's all happening"
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    You say you're not afraid, but do you really know what its like? When I was younger I used to say stuff like "I don't care what anyone thinks about me".....but it wasn't until the past few years that I found out that I'm just now not caring what others think of me.

    There's more to it than that too. It's about knowing what you want out of life. Once you know that, you're "found yourself".
    ok that's fair enough. i see your point.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • writersuwritersu Posts: 1,867
    You say you're not afraid, but do you really know what its like? When I was younger I used to say stuff like "I don't care what anyone thinks about me".....but it wasn't until the past few years that I found out that I'm just now not caring what others think of me.

    There's more to it than that too. It's about knowing what you want out of life. Once you know that, you're "found yourself".


    I know I teeter back and forth here, so I have a journey yet to go to as well, but you know, I think that if we live by our own values and virtues, then that is a good start on truly believing in ourselves. When I look back, I find the times I most hated me was when I was just doing what others thought right, not exactly right maybe but controlling and not really fair.
    Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......


    Together we will float like angels.........

    In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    writersu wrote:
    When I look back, I find the times I most hated me was when I was just doing what others thought right, not exactly right maybe but controlling and not really fair.
    i can see these moments in my life as well...there are more of them then i'm proud to admit.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • writersuwritersu Posts: 1,867
    That's the thing...I don't feel like I settled. Everything I've done I've wanted...but it was taken from me.the reality I see and the reality I live are 2 different things. Neither what I want, but more so what was forced upon me.


    right there with you dear. I know, believe me I know. But it is weird when
    you see that you have people in your life that truly like you and those who are suppose to be the key people in your life are not very supportive at all, i.e., spouse, family etc.
    it kind of makes you wonder if the key people are really the right ones to give that power to.
    that is a power I have given over as well as you have and it sounds easy and it is not, I know, but to take that power back is a step in the right direction.

    you know?
    Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......


    Together we will float like angels.........

    In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    writersu wrote:
    right there with you dear. I know, believe me I know. But it is weird when
    you see that you have people in your life that truly like you and those who are suppose to be the key people in your life are not very supportive at all, i.e., spouse, family etc.
    it kind of makes you wonder if the key people are really the right ones to give that power to.
    that is a power I have given over as well as you have and it sounds easy and it is not, I know, but to take that power back is a step in the right direction.

    you know?
    i know....i just don't know how...i seem to always give that power over. I have to learn how to keep it for myself.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • writersuwritersu Posts: 1,867
    i can see these moments in my life as well...there are more of them then i'm proud to admit.


    yeah, but you know we will never ever change unless the things that are triggering the changes are so damn uncomfortable that we take all we have in ourselves and make it happen.
    even bad things get comfortable because they are easy.
    I once described being depressed to someone as laying on this big comfortable couch that just is familar and you go back to it because as much as it stinks, it is familiar.
    Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......


    Together we will float like angels.........

    In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    writersu wrote:
    yeah, but you know we will never ever change unless the things that are triggering the changes are so damn uncomfortable that we take all we have in ourselves and make it happen.
    even bad things get comfortable because they are easy.
    I once described being depressed to someone as laying on this big comfortable couch that just is familar and you go back to it because as much as it stinks, it is familiar.
    i understand this....i actually missed my "husband" this week, after all he's done to me....but only because i was sick and upset...and wanted something familiar.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • writersuwritersu Posts: 1,867
    i understand this....i actually missed my "husband" this week, after all he's done to me....but only because i was sick and upset...and wanted something familiar.


    yes, and a bad relationship is like a bad parental relationship; we keep going back thinking; maybe they will be nice to me now.......

    in al-anon they said the definition of insanity is when you keep doing the same thing and expecting new results. that is about the best thing I learned from them, other than, "why am I going to meetings to learn to adjust to this fucked up person?"
    didn't like the concept although the people were sweet.
    Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......


    Together we will float like angels.........

    In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    writersu wrote:
    yes, and a bad relationship is like a bad parental relationship; we keep going back thinking; maybe they will be nice to me now.......

    in al-anon they said the definition of insanity is when you keep doing the same thing and expecting new results. that is about the best thing I learned from them, other than, "why am I going to meetings to learn to adjust to this fucked up person?"
    didn't like the concept although the people were sweet.
    i did one al-anon meeting....never went back. I've found more comfort and support on here, and less judgement.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • writersuwritersu Posts: 1,867
    i did one al-anon meeting....never went back. I've found more comfort and support on here, and less judgement.


    yeah, I kind of resented learning how to train myself to fit in the alcoholic's life. it was a bit too much even for me. hey we got that much going for us; we knew that was a bit of bs.
    Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......


    Together we will float like angels.........

    In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    writersu wrote:
    yeah, I kind of resented learning how to train myself to fit in the alcoholic's life. it was a bit too much even for me. hey we got that much going for us; we knew that was a bit of bs.
    i appreciated what they were saying but it was an odd situation for me since he had left me...i felt they couldn't relate.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • writersuwritersu Posts: 1,867
    i appreciated what they were saying but it was an odd situation for me since he had left me...i felt they couldn't relate.


    wow, he left you........that blows. maybe he figured you were no easy mark any longer?
    Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......


    Together we will float like angels.........

    In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    writersu wrote:
    wow, he left you........that blows. maybe he figured you were no easy mark any longer?
    he blames me for the drugs...says being with me makes him want to use...talk about making someone feel shitty!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
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