why is life so hard

libragirl

pjtaper wrote:

ugh, my friend I went to the 06 Chicago shows with hung himself on friday... haven't talked to him since the day of the show.

That's so sad....I'm sorry.

musicismylife78

when life is so so dreary dream.

For me, music is the only cure. Music and art. I would be a wreck without it.

Watching a movie, reading a book, going to see a show. Those things can and could change your life.

For me, the feeling that a book, movie or cd contains feelings that I too feel is comforting and powerful.

writersu

given2fly78 wrote:

The past 7 years have really been a whirlwind for me, not always good either. But I always keep in mind a few things....

1. I'm where I'm meant to be
2. Each experience - good or bad - has made me a stronger person
3. Each time I get dealt a blow, I look for the positive outcome, even if I have to dig deep
4. It could always be worse...even if it doesn't feel like it.

Trust me, I'm no Rah Rah type of girl either. But I'm pretty positive even when it feels like the world is shitting on me. But I try and put it all in perspective. And after watching my dad go through a massive brain aneurysm, I've realized how many blessings I've been given. And that when one door closes another opens. I make my own destiny.

Sorry you are having a hard time, it will get better!

that is the attitude I will always strive for; it's a good ome.

tremorvoid

Slip Kid wrote:

. . . i just wanna leave, get away from shit

that is exactly what im doing this friday...just getting in the car and driving south....i have little direction....but all i know is that im not going to be working for 10 days....i get to be at one with myself...see the ocean...see pj 5 times....and just LIVE! im so not ready to go yet...but ill throw some shit in the car and just go with the flow. its not the destination...its the journey.

taking trips...even short trips is how i get thru this hard life. that and im trying to not take life so seriously anymore. its a better way to live i find.

OneLove

The best advice I can give is to take a trip. Stress is part of what inspired me to fly to the west coast for a few days and take in an EV show...

I found that if you physically remove yourself from whats stressing you out, you can get quiet with yourself and figure some things out.

Maybe it dosn't have to be a trip for you...but make as much of a separation from the stress as you can so you can mellow out...and discover that you are still you no matter what the circumstance...and circumstance is temporary.

"no matter how cold the winter...there's a spring time ahead"

libragirl

Trips are good...I know the author of this thread and it's more complex then taking a trip. But then again I don't know.

I want to go to the beach

OneLove

libragirl wrote:

Trips are good...I know the author of this thread and it's more complex then taking a trip. But then again I don't know.

I want to go to the beach

I will refrain from giving a laundry list of the shit that was going on in my life (and still is)...but the trip was a spiritual must for me at that time. It was one of the HARDEST things I've ever done..breaking away from my DAd who was battling cancer and loosing at that time, and leaving everything else behind for a few days...

but I needed to "refill" emotionally so I had more to give to the people I love and care for, and myself.

Did it even come close to fixing anything? hell no. But what it did was give me a chance to do something personally meaningful that gave me the strength to continue to deal with all of the other stuff. And because I felt better, I had more to give in all of the areas that were bothering me.

libragirl

OneLove wrote:

I will refrain from giving a laundry list of the shit that was going on in my life (and still is)...but the trip was a spiritual must for me at that time. It was one of the HARDEST things I've ever done..breaking away from my DAd who was battling cancer and loosing at that time, and leaving everything else behind for a few days...

but I needed to "refill" emotionally so I had more to give to the people I love and care for, and myself.

Did it even come close to fixing anything? hell no. But what it did was give me a chance to do something personally meaningful that gave me the strength to continue to deal with all of the other stuff. And because I felt better, I had more to give in all of the areas that were bothering me.

oh no...I didn't mean to downplay what you said, I apologize if it came across that way. I'm just really worried and don't know what to do about someone I was close to. Trips are definitely good. They can be very therapeutic. I am sorry about your dad. Cancer is a nasty disease. I hate what Ive seen it do to people I love.

OneLove

libragirl wrote:

oh no...I didn't mean to downplay what you said, I apologize if it came across that way. I'm just really worried and don't know what to do about someone I was close to. Trips are definitely good. They can be very therapeutic. I am sorry about your dad. Cancer is a nasty disease. I hate what Ive seen it do to people I love.

I didn't take offense I was just trying to explain what I ment more thoroughly!

libragirl

OneLove wrote:

I didn't take offense I was just trying to explain what I ment more thoroughly!

:cool:. Sometimes you write stuff and read it again and go okay that sounds weird.

catefrances

you know sometimes you need to put enough faith in the person and trust that they will work it out themselves. it might come in time, it might not, but unless they want to make the change all the intervention in the world is not going to make a lick of difference. how do i know this? ive watched it before with not good results. and im watching it now and so far the decisions made by the person are very positive. but they had to come to that place themselves. all you can do is be there for them if or/and when the slip comes. and let them know you are there for them. the rest is up to them.

libragirl

I should have said this in the first place but me being the pushover doormat I didn't want to hurt YOUR feelings

Try being a nicer person and take responsibility for your actions. The poor blind boy act could only take you so far. Using and taking advantage of people is wrong and you will see the consequences of your actions. There are people who are going through a hell of a lot worse and they are still decent and have more dignity.

Sorry to be harsh but people have been feeding you B.S. for too long. Time for some reality my dear. Sorry again for being harsh, I can only be blunt at this point. If it wakes you up then it was worth it.