The past 7 years have really been a whirlwind for me, not always good either. But I always keep in mind a few things....
1. I'm where I'm meant to be
2. Each experience - good or bad - has made me a stronger person
3. Each time I get dealt a blow, I look for the positive outcome, even if I have to dig deep
4. It could always be worse...even if it doesn't feel like it.
Trust me, I'm no Rah Rah type of girl either. But I'm pretty positive even when it feels like the world is shitting on me. But I try and put it all in perspective. And after watching my dad go through a massive brain aneurysm, I've realized how many blessings I've been given. And that when one door closes another opens. I make my own destiny.
Sorry you are having a hard time, it will get better!
"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. "
Albert Einstein (1879-1955)
That is a great way to look at life. I have never heard it put that way before but I have thought about it when life is draining me mostly because there are people in my life , who are not even the primary people in my life (my kids are the only primary people in my life) who do things that are so rude and hurtful, that you not only end up hurt if you take them in but you also end up bleeding all over the innocnt people that don't have a thing to do with it.
ppl or kids, can always get their asses kicked, yes/no?
haha
This last year has by far been the worst of my life, lost my Dad
When times get tough, surround yourself with people you love and remember we all have problems
Hang in there
So very sorry for your great loss. Until you lose someone you love, you really don't know how bad life can get. I've had quite a bit of loss over the last decade, a few close friends, relatives...but it was the death of my dad that took me out for over eighteen months. It is also the death that made me realize that we have to live for the moment, that there are no guarantees in this life and that everything changes constantly. I have my health, my hubby and my children.....I truly have it all for the moment, I refuse to take any of that for granted ever again. I wish that I could have just one more day with my dad....just so I could tell him how much I love him, how important he was to me, to look at his face one last time and to hug him. He is now in my heart and I try and feel that love the best that I can.
oxc
~*LIVE~LOVE~LAUGH*~
*May the Peace of the Wilderness be with YOU*
He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
— Unknown
oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
The past 7 years have really been a whirlwind for me, not always good either. But I always keep in mind a few things....
1. I'm where I'm meant to be
2. Each experience - good or bad - has made me a stronger person
3. Each time I get dealt a blow, I look for the positive outcome, even if I have to dig deep
4. It could always be worse...even if it doesn't feel like it.
Trust me, I'm no Rah Rah type of girl either. But I'm pretty positive even when it feels like the world is shitting on me. But I try and put it all in perspective. And after watching my dad go through a massive brain aneurysm, I've realized how many blessings I've been given. And that when one door closes another opens. I make my own destiny.
Sorry you are having a hard time, it will get better!
that is the attitude I will always strive for; it's a good ome.
Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
that is exactly what im doing this friday...just getting in the car and driving south....i have little direction....but all i know is that im not going to be working for 10 days....i get to be at one with myself...see the ocean...see pj 5 times....and just LIVE! im so not ready to go yet...but ill throw some shit in the car and just go with the flow. its not the destination...its the journey.
taking trips...even short trips is how i get thru this hard life. that and im trying to not take life so seriously anymore. its a better way to live i find.
Seems that needlessly it's getting harder
To find an approach and a way to live
Are we getting something out of this
all-encompassing trip?
The best advice I can give is to take a trip. Stress is part of what inspired me to fly to the west coast for a few days and take in an EV show...
I found that if you physically remove yourself from whats stressing you out, you can get quiet with yourself and figure some things out.
Maybe it dosn't have to be a trip for you...but make as much of a separation from the stress as you can so you can mellow out...and discover that you are still you no matter what the circumstance...and circumstance is temporary.
"no matter how cold the winter...there's a spring time ahead"
Trips are good...I know the author of this thread and it's more complex then taking a trip. But then again I don't know.
I want to go to the beach
I will refrain from giving a laundry list of the shit that was going on in my life (and still is)...but the trip was a spiritual must for me at that time. It was one of the HARDEST things I've ever done..breaking away from my DAd who was battling cancer and loosing at that time, and leaving everything else behind for a few days...
but I needed to "refill" emotionally so I had more to give to the people I love and care for, and myself.
Did it even come close to fixing anything? hell no. But what it did was give me a chance to do something personally meaningful that gave me the strength to continue to deal with all of the other stuff. And because I felt better, I had more to give in all of the areas that were bothering me.
I will refrain from giving a laundry list of the shit that was going on in my life (and still is)...but the trip was a spiritual must for me at that time. It was one of the HARDEST things I've ever done..breaking away from my DAd who was battling cancer and loosing at that time, and leaving everything else behind for a few days...
but I needed to "refill" emotionally so I had more to give to the people I love and care for, and myself.
Did it even come close to fixing anything? hell no. But what it did was give me a chance to do something personally meaningful that gave me the strength to continue to deal with all of the other stuff. And because I felt better, I had more to give in all of the areas that were bothering me.
oh no...I didn't mean to downplay what you said, I apologize if it came across that way. I'm just really worried and don't know what to do about someone I was close to. Trips are definitely good. They can be very therapeutic. I am sorry about your dad. Cancer is a nasty disease. I hate what Ive seen it do to people I love.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
oh no...I didn't mean to downplay what you said, I apologize if it came across that way. I'm just really worried and don't know what to do about someone I was close to. Trips are definitely good. They can be very therapeutic. I am sorry about your dad. Cancer is a nasty disease. I hate what Ive seen it do to people I love.
I didn't take offense I was just trying to explain what I ment more thoroughly!
you know sometimes you need to put enough faith in the person and trust that they will work it out themselves. it might come in time, it might not, but unless they want to make the change all the intervention in the world is not going to make a lick of difference. how do i know this? ive watched it before with not good results. and im watching it now and so far the decisions made by the person are very positive. but they had to come to that place themselves. all you can do is be there for them if or/and when the slip comes. and let them know you are there for them. the rest is up to them.
hear my name
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
I should have said this in the first place but me being the pushover doormat I didn't want to hurt YOUR feelings
Try being a nicer person and take responsibility for your actions. The poor blind boy act could only take you so far. Using and taking advantage of people is wrong and you will see the consequences of your actions. There are people who are going through a hell of a lot worse and they are still decent and have more dignity.
Sorry to be harsh but people have been feeding you B.S. for too long. Time for some reality my dear. Sorry again for being harsh, I can only be blunt at this point. If it wakes you up then it was worth it.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
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1. I'm where I'm meant to be
2. Each experience - good or bad - has made me a stronger person
3. Each time I get dealt a blow, I look for the positive outcome, even if I have to dig deep
4. It could always be worse...even if it doesn't feel like it.
Trust me, I'm no Rah Rah type of girl either. But I'm pretty positive even when it feels like the world is shitting on me. But I try and put it all in perspective. And after watching my dad go through a massive brain aneurysm, I've realized how many blessings I've been given. And that when one door closes another opens. I make my own destiny.
Sorry you are having a hard time, it will get better!
Albert Einstein (1879-1955)
I saw Hard To Imagine LIVE at MSG!
ppl or kids,
haha
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
Amen to that.
Nuclear fission
Thats what she said?
Nuclear fission
So very sorry for your great loss. Until you lose someone you love, you really don't know how bad life can get. I've had quite a bit of loss over the last decade, a few close friends, relatives...but it was the death of my dad that took me out for over eighteen months. It is also the death that made me realize that we have to live for the moment, that there are no guarantees in this life and that everything changes constantly. I have my health, my hubby and my children.....I truly have it all for the moment, I refuse to take any of that for granted ever again. I wish that I could have just one more day with my dad....just so I could tell him how much I love him, how important he was to me, to look at his face one last time and to hug him. He is now in my heart and I try and feel that love the best that I can.
oxc
*May the Peace of the Wilderness be with YOU*
He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
— Unknown
yeah, and I am prob the only mom who responds with this when their kids threaten to call DCFS if I want to smack them,
"Go ahead. I have a letter."
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
Im sorry. :(
That's so sad....I'm sorry.
For me, music is the only cure. Music and art. I would be a wreck without it.
Watching a movie, reading a book, going to see a show. Those things can and could change your life.
For me, the feeling that a book, movie or cd contains feelings that I too feel is comforting and powerful.
that is the attitude I will always strive for; it's a good ome.
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
that is exactly what im doing this friday...just getting in the car and driving south....i have little direction....but all i know is that im not going to be working for 10 days....i get to be at one with myself...see the ocean...see pj 5 times....and just LIVE!
taking trips...even short trips is how i get thru this hard life. that and im trying to not take life so seriously anymore. its a better way to live i find.
To find an approach and a way to live
Are we getting something out of this
all-encompassing trip?
I found that if you physically remove yourself from whats stressing you out, you can get quiet with yourself and figure some things out.
Maybe it dosn't have to be a trip for you...but make as much of a separation from the stress as you can so you can mellow out...and discover that you are still you no matter what the circumstance...and circumstance is temporary.
"no matter how cold the winter...there's a spring time ahead"
I want to go to the beach
I will refrain from giving a laundry list of the shit that was going on in my life (and still is)...but the trip was a spiritual must for me at that time. It was one of the HARDEST things I've ever done..breaking away from my DAd who was battling cancer and loosing at that time, and leaving everything else behind for a few days...
but I needed to "refill" emotionally so I had more to give to the people I love and care for, and myself.
Did it even come close to fixing anything? hell no. But what it did was give me a chance to do something personally meaningful that gave me the strength to continue to deal with all of the other stuff. And because I felt better, I had more to give in all of the areas that were bothering me.
oh no...I didn't mean to downplay what you said, I apologize if it came across that way. I'm just really worried and don't know what to do about someone I was close to. Trips are definitely good. They can be very therapeutic. I am sorry about your dad. Cancer is a nasty disease. I hate what Ive seen it do to people I love.
I didn't take offense
:cool:. Sometimes you write stuff and read it again and go okay that sounds weird.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
Try being a nicer person and take responsibility for your actions. The poor blind boy act could only take you so far. Using and taking advantage of people is wrong and you will see the consequences of your actions. There are people who are going through a hell of a lot worse and they are still decent and have more dignity.
Sorry to be harsh but people have been feeding you B.S. for too long. Time for some reality my dear. Sorry again for being harsh, I can only be blunt at this point. If it wakes you up then it was worth it.