Me too... I wasted many a chance when I was younger... mind you there have still been times when I've been afraid to ask but I have asked out guys before and it feels great to put the power in your own hands
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
oh and also, some of us at work were discussing this- we have a quite international crowd here- and we were talking about how in europe it is so much easier to ask someone out. As I said above, in the US, people often do not feel "worthy" of asking someone out- you become "the crazy girl/guy who likes them" and I don't think that mentality is the same elsewhere.
actually, in practice...the only men who have ever really approached me in bars and whatnot have been foreign, usually irish. it's just not as much of a big deal as it seems to be for americans.
Yep... Irish men are seriously easy
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Novel alert!!!!
The reason is simple…you men always say NO to me, and moreover you don’t know how to handle the aftermath of a girl you don’t like asking you out.. I’ve never gone as far as to ask a guy out because 80% of the time when I ask a guy to dance they turn me down…if they won’t dance with me, thy sure as shit won’t date me.
I came close to asking a guy out a year after I started working at the ACC.. He was a co-worker of mine (still is). We because fast friends and used to flirt with each other all the time. He’d ask me for coffee before the games and stuff and I started liking him. When he didn’t make a move I started to made it blatantly obvious, just to him, that I liked him and wanted him to ask me out. His friend even approached me and told me he was interested in me just shy (that bugged me cause I find people doing that for friends very high school). Anyways I would joke about cooking him dinner and stuff as a way to open the door for him to ask me out. Well turns out he wasn’t interested in me like that cause he got all freaked out and started avoiding me. He wouldn’t even acknowledge me when we did cross paths. I got the message but he was soo freaked out that he made a show of hanging around another co-worker a lot and asked her out. That lasted about a month. When I started going out of my way to not even look at him, much less cross paths that relationship all the sudden ended and that was it. We have since started speaking again…though nothing like what it was when we first met…and I stopped liking him many years ago.
My point is…it seems like more guys can’t handle it if a girl they aren’t interested in likes them, then vice versa.
I wish I had a better answer. I’m still trying to answer this question about myself as I’m not an ugly person (inside or out)…but yet nobody wants to date me. Ahh well…I kinda dig being single for the most part. A lot less bullshit…and to reiterate what other people in this thread have said….if I don’t get asked out….its THEIR loss. Lol
Ok novel over. Lol Sorry.
"Rock and roll is something that can't be quantified, sometimes it's not even something you hear, but FEEL!" - Bob Lefsetz
80% of the time when I ask a guy to dance they turn me down…if they won’t dance with me, thy sure as shit won’t date me.
Just a tip: I would not assume that since a guy doesn't wanna dance, he won't wanna date you. It's not that they don't wanna dance with you, it's usually that they don't wanna dance PERIOD because they think they'll look stupid.
Just a tip: I would not assume that since a guy doesn't wanna dance, he won't wanna date you. It's not that they don't wanna dance with you, it's usually that they don't wanna dance PERIOD because they think they'll look stupid.
Oh I know that. Its the WAY they turn me down. I understand the whole nto wanting to look stupid part. Its when they are abrupt then ignore you for the rest of the night after that I'm getting at.
"Rock and roll is something that can't be quantified, sometimes it's not even something you hear, but FEEL!" - Bob Lefsetz
that's exactly what I'm saying- you become "that crazy girl who likes me."
oh ya totally.
Yet guys don't understand what the big deal is when a girl treats them the same way. Gah!
Guys think about when you get turned down by a girl. It stings for a bit then you dust yourself off and move on to the next lucky lady. Its the same for us ladies but we get slapped with this label. What gives?!?!?
"Rock and roll is something that can't be quantified, sometimes it's not even something you hear, but FEEL!" - Bob Lefsetz
Oh I know that. Its the WAY they turn me down. I understand the whole nto wanting to look stupid part. Its when they are abrupt then ignore you for the rest of the night after that I'm getting at.
Well if they're not into you and don't wanna dance, what SHOULD they do? Keep talking to you and lead you on?
that's exactly what I'm saying- you become "that crazy girl who likes me."
I think this is the case when you are obviously the only one with these feelings. If you sense he doesn't want to date you, back off. He most likely won't change his mind.
I have asked men out and it worked out nicely. I am pretty good at taking hints when I am only wanted as a friend. lol Then I retreat quickly.
Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
And I don't feel right when you're gone away
Well if they're not into you and don't wanna dance, what SHOULD they do? Keep talking to you and lead you on?
No of course not. Its like when you ask a girl out. She can turn you down politely or she can be abrupt and rude about it....which would you prefer??
My point was that most guys I like, don't like me back...and the dancing example is showing that I have it in me to take the lead and ask a guy out if need be, and showing another example of how we get labelled that crazy chick who likes me.
"Rock and roll is something that can't be quantified, sometimes it's not even something you hear, but FEEL!" - Bob Lefsetz
I think this is the case when you are obviously the only one with these feelings. If you sense he doesn't want to date you, back off. He most likely won't change his mind.
I have asked men out and it worked out nicely. I am pretty good at taking hints when I am only wanted as a friend. lol Then I retreat quickly.
well that's obvious, because if the feelings were both ways then they wouldn't have turned you down in the first place, and you're not going to ask someone out unless you think they are interested. I think the point that ACC and I are trying to make is even if you misread their interest and they turn you down, why do they have to make such a big deal out of it. What we're saying is that guys think that if a girl they don't like accidentally asks them out she's a nutso stalker.
No of course not. Its like when you ask a girl out. She can turn you down politely or she can be abrupt and rude about it....which would you prefer??
My point was that most guys I like, don't like me back...and the dancing example is showing that I have it in me to take the lead and ask a guy out if need be, and showing another example of how we get labelled that crazy chick who likes me.
I'd prefer polite, but I'm not seeing where the crazy label is coming from. How does not paying attention to you for the rest of the night = thinking you're a crazy girl?
well that's obvious, because if the feelings were both ways then they wouldn't have turned you down in the first place, and you're not going to ask someone out unless you think they are interested. I think the point that ACC and I are trying to make is even if you misread their interest and they turn you down, why do they have to make such a big deal out of it. What we're saying is that guys think that if a girl they don't like accidentally asks them out she's a nutso stalker.
That is a broad generalization. Only a small (very small) percentage of men are going to think a woman is a crazy stalker if they ask him out.
Actually now that I think of it, this is the first time I've ever heard it considered as such. Usually a crazy stalker woman is, you know, a crazy stalker who calls constantly or hides in the bushes to see what you're doing type thing. I'm going way off track but you get the idea.
Honestly I have never heard of this from a male perspective in this type of scenario.
I think it stems from a deeper feeling that girls are supposed to know if they're attractive enough to get a date and if they don't realize they're not attractive enough then they are crazy. and also that girls "like" guys too much- ie they "fall in love in too easily and get hurt." Like having a mild interest in a guy and asking him out to the guy says that you are in love with him.
I think it stems from a deeper feeling that girls are supposed to know if they're attractive enough to get a date and if they don't realize they're not attractive enough then they are crazy. and also that girls "like" guys too much- ie they "fall in love in too easily and get hurt."
There may also be some confusion in that a lot of guys handle rejecting almost as badly or worse than they do rejection.
I disagree with your take on guys thinking girls are crazy to such a high degree, but generally women do seem to be more easily hurt emotionally than men.
OK anyway I hope somebody will ask me out for Valentines Day.....I'd like to go out on a date.
why don't you sign up for an online dating site like match.com? if you want a date that is the easiest way to get one. it's a little short notice for VD but...
why don't you sign up for an online dating site like match.com? if you want a date that is the easiest way to get one. it's a little short notice for VD but...
oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
why don't you sign up for an online dating site like match.com? if you want a date that is the easiest way to get one. it's a little short notice for VD but...
No, I don't go for those online gigs. My sister did that one summer, and she said all the guys were looney. And one of her guy friends did it and he said the girls were all psycho. My sister strongly advised to never go for that.
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Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
It helps when you're both drunk. Sure you may wake up and want to gnaw your arm off to escape, but another notch on the bed post my friend.
LMAO...maybe that's why I had so much fun over there!
The reason is simple…you men always say NO to me, and moreover you don’t know how to handle the aftermath of a girl you don’t like asking you out.. I’ve never gone as far as to ask a guy out because 80% of the time when I ask a guy to dance they turn me down…if they won’t dance with me, thy sure as shit won’t date me.
I came close to asking a guy out a year after I started working at the ACC.. He was a co-worker of mine (still is). We because fast friends and used to flirt with each other all the time. He’d ask me for coffee before the games and stuff and I started liking him. When he didn’t make a move I started to made it blatantly obvious, just to him, that I liked him and wanted him to ask me out. His friend even approached me and told me he was interested in me just shy (that bugged me cause I find people doing that for friends very high school). Anyways I would joke about cooking him dinner and stuff as a way to open the door for him to ask me out. Well turns out he wasn’t interested in me like that cause he got all freaked out and started avoiding me. He wouldn’t even acknowledge me when we did cross paths. I got the message but he was soo freaked out that he made a show of hanging around another co-worker a lot and asked her out. That lasted about a month. When I started going out of my way to not even look at him, much less cross paths that relationship all the sudden ended and that was it. We have since started speaking again…though nothing like what it was when we first met…and I stopped liking him many years ago.
My point is…it seems like more guys can’t handle it if a girl they aren’t interested in likes them, then vice versa.
I wish I had a better answer. I’m still trying to answer this question about myself as I’m not an ugly person (inside or out)…but yet nobody wants to date me. Ahh well…I kinda dig being single for the most part. A lot less bullshit…and to reiterate what other people in this thread have said….if I don’t get asked out….its THEIR loss. Lol
Ok novel over. Lol Sorry.
Oh I know that. Its the WAY they turn me down. I understand the whole nto wanting to look stupid part. Its when they are abrupt then ignore you for the rest of the night after that I'm getting at.
Surely it doesn't have anything to do with the fact that you are so grumpy and negative about things.
that's exactly what I'm saying- you become "that crazy girl who likes me."
oh ya totally.
Yet guys don't understand what the big deal is when a girl treats them the same way. Gah!
Guys think about when you get turned down by a girl. It stings for a bit then you dust yourself off and move on to the next lucky lady. Its the same for us ladies but we get slapped with this label. What gives?!?!?
I have asked men out and it worked out nicely. I am pretty good at taking hints when I am only wanted as a friend. lol Then I retreat quickly.
And I don't feel right when you're gone away
No of course not. Its like when you ask a girl out. She can turn you down politely or she can be abrupt and rude about it....which would you prefer??
My point was that most guys I like, don't like me back...and the dancing example is showing that I have it in me to take the lead and ask a guy out if need be, and showing another example of how we get labelled that crazy chick who likes me.
well that's obvious, because if the feelings were both ways then they wouldn't have turned you down in the first place, and you're not going to ask someone out unless you think they are interested. I think the point that ACC and I are trying to make is even if you misread their interest and they turn you down, why do they have to make such a big deal out of it. What we're saying is that guys think that if a girl they don't like accidentally asks them out she's a nutso stalker.
I'd prefer polite, but I'm not seeing where the crazy label is coming from. How does not paying attention to you for the rest of the night = thinking you're a crazy girl?
Actually now that I think of it, this is the first time I've ever heard it considered as such. Usually a crazy stalker woman is, you know, a crazy stalker who calls constantly or hides in the bushes to see what you're doing type thing. I'm going way off track but you get the idea.
i think it's wide spread enough to make people not want to risk it though, at least with people they see on a regular basis. you can never go back.
I think girls do this too but perhaps to a lesser extent.
I think it stems from a deeper feeling that girls are supposed to know if they're attractive enough to get a date and if they don't realize they're not attractive enough then they are crazy. and also that girls "like" guys too much- ie they "fall in love in too easily and get hurt." Like having a mild interest in a guy and asking him out to the guy says that you are in love with him.
I disagree with your take on guys thinking girls are crazy to such a high degree, but generally women do seem to be more easily hurt emotionally than men.
LOL...awww poor you! I think everyone forgot about you with all the other posts on here!
why don't you sign up for an online dating site like match.com? if you want a date that is the easiest way to get one. it's a little short notice for VD but...
I'm sure there's still plenty of VD to go around! It's never too late!!! If all else fails, try Craigslist!
"The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"
"What's your name?"
"FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
Edit....Shite...Mookie beat me to it.
Hey, if VD's being handed out, I'm first in line everytime!
"The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"
"What's your name?"
"FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
No, I don't go for those online gigs. My sister did that one summer, and she said all the guys were looney. And one of her guy friends did it and he said the girls were all psycho. My sister strongly advised to never go for that.