Will one of you girls ask me out already???

dunkman

Trailer wrote:

i had one girl reject me once, and i felt the same way. i went back to the bar and ordered some shots of Jack to cheer me up. later on that night, she came up to me and told me she was sorry she rejected me, and that was her natural reaction when guys hit on her. she then proceeded to ask me out.... in which i rejected her hahahaa I was wasted at that point

i would have done the same


although i would have then spent the next 4 hours, after the bar had closed, outside her house crying and sobbing that i made a mistake... of course i would just be acting so she would take pity on me and let me into her house.

dunkman

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

YOU got knocked back? :eek: You weren't wearing that crotchless firemans suit were you... because that might have been the problem.

you think? damn!!! i thought the opening line of "hey do you like my hose" would work wonders

i got knocked back when i was 17 or something... i spend about 3 days building up the courage to call her.. she gave me some story about her granny dying but what about next week... a week is a long time in a horny teenagers life so i said 'yeah maybe' and never phoned her back.

20 mins later i couldnt remember her name... but i still have the tattoo of her face on my dingledangle.

KosmicJelli

Dating on and off for over 20 years... best relationships were with men who did the asking and the worse the ones in which I asked. hmmm... doesnt say much for my choice of men. It has been my experience that men whom have done the asking are way more in tune with me. So I've stopped asking. Funny you mention this was recently asked out by a guy whom took him a year and a half to ask.... geesh. Dont fear the rejection cause why would you want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you?????

pearljamjen

Trailer wrote:

i had one girl reject me once, and i felt the same way. i went back to the bar and ordered some shots of Jack to cheer me up. later on that night, she came up to me and told me she was sorry she rejected me, and that was her natural reaction when guys hit on her. she then proceeded to ask me out.... in which i rejected her hahahaa I was wasted at that point

:eek:

GreenTeaDisease

I'll ask guys out if I've met them on match.com, really because I know they are interested in me or else they wouldn't have written/written back.

I can't ask anyone out in real life though. Even going to back to high school when you had to ask people to proms and stuff...I never like, had a crush on the guys I was asking or anything, it was always just assumed it was a friendly thing, but it still made me soooo nervous. I still did it, but I hated it.

Now, I can't ask someone out, I can't make a move, nothing (unless, as I said, it all stems from online dating, then I have no problem). In grad school there was a guy from another program I had a class with and he was smart, hot, etc. I got the impression he *might* be interested in me. every day I had class I told myself I was going to ask him if he wanted to get a coffee, study, whatever. I COULD NOT DO IT. I would come up with the perfect non-chalant way to ask and still COULD NOT DO IT.

Also around this time I was at a party and this guy I had always sort of had a crush on was totally hitting on me, but he was shyer than I was...anyway, totally could have made a move but I had no idea how to go about it...

so my response is, will one of you guys ask me out??? I am tired of doing all the work!!

dunkman

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I'll ask guys out if I've met them on match.com, really because I know they are interested in me or else they wouldn't have written/written back.

I can't ask anyone out in real life though. Even going to back to high school when you had to ask people to proms and stuff...I never like, had a crush on the guys I was asking or anything, it was always just assumed it was a friendly thing, but it still made me soooo nervous. I still did it, but I hated it.

Now, I can't ask someone out, I can't make a move, nothing (unless, as I said, it all stems from online dating, then I have no problem). In grad school there was a guy from another program I had a class with and he was smart, hot, etc. I got the impression he *might* be interested in me. every day I had class I told myself I was going to ask him if he wanted to get a coffee, study, whatever. I COULD NOT DO IT. I would come up with the perfect non-chalant way to ask and still COULD NOT DO IT.

Also around this time I was at a party and this guy I had always sort of had a crush on was totally hitting on me, but he was shyer than I was...anyway, totally could have made a move but I had no idea how to go about it...

if in doubt, get them out.


i can understand how that must have felt during school... well i cant understand but i;m trying my best... if you get the first one or two over with it isnt so bad i think... the more you put it off the bigger deal it becomes...

if someone says no, i would consider it their loss

AmentsChick

Malcolm_X wrote:

Will one of you girls please ask me out or get your sisters, cousin's boyfriends sisters or friends to ask me out......

Well not really, but why is it that girls never or rarely ask guys out. I'm all for supporting equal rights for women, but I think more women should ask men out. Now I admit I' somewhat of the shy type, but c'mon this is the 21st century. If a girl wants to date a guy, why not ask him out. Because some guys like me are completely oblivious to women.

So ladies...do you ever ask men out, and if not, why?

I've asked a couple guys out on various occasions.

nfanel

GraySaturday wrote:

Dammit, if you want something, go get it!

I'm forward, and damn proud.

exactly. i can be quiet at times, but for some reason i have no problem making the move. maybe because i don't get excited about people a lot, so when i do...i go after them! (and sometimes keep pursuing long after i should, but that's beside the point. )
never know unless you try!

GreenTeaDisease

dunkman wrote:

if in doubt, get them out.

I think I may have .

no just kidding, but I was wearing a cocktail dress and drinking so I'm sure I was leaning over a bit and squeezing them together while flirting...

In seriousness though, I think the problem is the fact that I will have to see these people again...it's one thing to get rejected, but then if you have to see the person on a regular basis you become the crazy girl who likes them.

GreenTeaDisease

oh and also, some of us at work were discussing this- we have a quite international crowd here- and we were talking about how in europe it is so much easier to ask someone out. As I said above, in the US, people often do not feel "worthy" of asking someone out- you become "the crazy girl/guy who likes them" and I don't think that mentality is the same elsewhere.

actually, in practice...the only men who have ever really approached me in bars and whatnot have been foreign, usually irish. it's just not as much of a big deal as it seems to be for americans.

Heineken Helen

GraySaturday wrote:

Dammit, if you want something, go get it!

I'm forward, and damn proud.

Me too... I wasted many a chance when I was younger... mind you there have still been times when I've been afraid to ask but I have asked out guys before and it feels great to put the power in your own hands

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

oh and also, some of us at work were discussing this- we have a quite international crowd here- and we were talking about how in europe it is so much easier to ask someone out. As I said above, in the US, people often do not feel "worthy" of asking someone out- you become "the crazy girl/guy who likes them" and I don't think that mentality is the same elsewhere.

actually, in practice...the only men who have ever really approached me in bars and whatnot have been foreign, usually irish. it's just not as much of a big deal as it seems to be for americans.

Yep... Irish men are seriously easy

gabers

I'll give you a free tip:

It helps when you're both drunk. Sure you may wake up and want to gnaw your arm off to escape, but another notch on the bed post my friend.

pearljamjen

Heineken Helen wrote:

Yep... Irish men are seriously easy

LMAO...maybe that's why I had so much fun over there!

ACCBootlegGoddess

Novel alert!!!!
The reason is simple…you men always say NO to me, and moreover you don’t know how to handle the aftermath of a girl you don’t like asking you out.. I’ve never gone as far as to ask a guy out because 80% of the time when I ask a guy to dance they turn me down…if they won’t dance with me, thy sure as shit won’t date me.

I came close to asking a guy out a year after I started working at the ACC.. He was a co-worker of mine (still is). We because fast friends and used to flirt with each other all the time. He’d ask me for coffee before the games and stuff and I started liking him. When he didn’t make a move I started to made it blatantly obvious, just to him, that I liked him and wanted him to ask me out. His friend even approached me and told me he was interested in me just shy (that bugged me cause I find people doing that for friends very high school). Anyways I would joke about cooking him dinner and stuff as a way to open the door for him to ask me out. Well turns out he wasn’t interested in me like that cause he got all freaked out and started avoiding me. He wouldn’t even acknowledge me when we did cross paths. I got the message but he was soo freaked out that he made a show of hanging around another co-worker a lot and asked her out. That lasted about a month. When I started going out of my way to not even look at him, much less cross paths that relationship all the sudden ended and that was it. We have since started speaking again…though nothing like what it was when we first met…and I stopped liking him many years ago.
My point is…it seems like more guys can’t handle it if a girl they aren’t interested in likes them, then vice versa.

I wish I had a better answer. I’m still trying to answer this question about myself as I’m not an ugly person (inside or out)…but yet nobody wants to date me. Ahh well…I kinda dig being single for the most part. A lot less bullshit…and to reiterate what other people in this thread have said….if I don’t get asked out….its THEIR loss. Lol

Ok novel over. Lol Sorry.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

ACCBootlegGoddess wrote:

80% of the time when I ask a guy to dance they turn me down…if they won’t dance with me, thy sure as shit won’t date me.

Just a tip: I would not assume that since a guy doesn't wanna dance, he won't wanna date you. It's not that they don't wanna dance with you, it's usually that they don't wanna dance PERIOD because they think they'll look stupid.

ACCBootlegGoddess

Saturnal wrote:

Just a tip: I would not assume that since a guy doesn't wanna dance, he won't wanna date you. It's not that they don't wanna dance with you, it's usually that they don't wanna dance PERIOD because they think they'll look stupid.

Oh I know that. Its the WAY they turn me down. I understand the whole nto wanting to look stupid part. Its when they are abrupt then ignore you for the rest of the night after that I'm getting at.

meme

pjoasisrule wrote:

I lived in a suburb for awhile and the girls were still ridiculous

Surely it doesn't have anything to do with the fact that you are so grumpy and negative about things.

GreenTeaDisease

ACCBootlegGoddess wrote:

My point is…it seems like more guys can’t handle it if a girl they aren’t interested in likes them, then vice versa.

that's exactly what I'm saying- you become "that crazy girl who likes me."

ACCBootlegGoddess

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

that's exactly what I'm saying- you become "that crazy girl who likes me."

oh ya totally.
Yet guys don't understand what the big deal is when a girl treats them the same way. Gah!

Guys think about when you get turned down by a girl. It stings for a bit then you dust yourself off and move on to the next lucky lady. Its the same for us ladies but we get slapped with this label. What gives?!?!?