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Will one of you girls ask me out already???

Malcolm_XMalcolm_X Posts: 93
edited February 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Will one of you girls please ask me out or get your sisters, cousin's boyfriends sisters or friends to ask me out......

Well not really, but why is it that girls never or rarely ask guys out. I'm all for supporting equal rights for women, but I think more women should ask men out. Now I admit I' somewhat of the shy type, but c'mon this is the 21st century. If a girl wants to date a guy, why not ask him out. Because some guys like me are completely oblivious to women.

So ladies...do you ever ask men out, and if not, why?
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  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    I used to all the time, before I was married. In fact I asked my husband out.. Dammit, if you want something, go get it!

    I'm forward, and damn proud.
  • pjoasisrulepjoasisrule Posts: 3,412
    I always hated this. I remember when I was in high school that I always had to get the balls to ask a girl to a dance. Then for our winter formal, guys could only go if they were asked be a girl.........of course all girls just decide then that they will go in a group with other girls rather than asking a guy. Such bullshit if you ask me. Besides that, I always loved when a girl would make the move on me instead, big turn on.
    Alpine Valley 2000
    Summerfest 2006

    "Why would they come to our concert just to boo us?" -Lisa Simpson
  • Malcolm_XMalcolm_X Posts: 93
    pjoasisrule wrote:
    I always hated this. I remember when I was in high school that I always had to get the balls to ask a girl to a dance. Then for our winter formal, guys could only go if they were asked be a girl.........of course all girls just decide then that they will go in a group with other girls rather than asking a guy. Such bullshit if you ask me. Besides that, I always loved when a girl would make the move on me instead, big turn on.

    Oh yeah big turn on, I agree with that.....but more women shouldn't be afraid to....
  • pjoasisrulepjoasisrule Posts: 3,412
    Women just like to play games for the most part, there really arent many decent ones out there.
    Alpine Valley 2000
    Summerfest 2006

    "Why would they come to our concert just to boo us?" -Lisa Simpson
  • failedpersephonefailedpersephone Posts: 3,424
    NO. I wont ask you out.

    but not because I am a girl...just because I don't like your typing. :D

    the fact that I am a shemale shouldn't have any bearing on the issue.


    if you had sparklier fonts I would ask you on an e-date in a heartbeat. ;)
    IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
  • failedpersephonefailedpersephone Posts: 3,424
    pjoasisrule wrote:
    Women just like to play games for the most part, there really arent many decent ones out there.
    well, *sniff* maybe not in Wisconsin.
    :rolleyes:
    IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
  • pjoasisrulepjoasisrule Posts: 3,412
    failedpersephone wrote:
    well, *sniff* maybe not in Wisconsin.
    :rolleyes:

    Ive been to other states and hooked up with a couple girls from elsewhere, it basically goes the same for everywhere......if there really is some magical place where its different, please share
    Alpine Valley 2000
    Summerfest 2006

    "Why would they come to our concert just to boo us?" -Lisa Simpson
  • Malcolm_XMalcolm_X Posts: 93
    failedpersephone wrote:
    NO. I wont ask you out.

    but not because I am a girl...just because I don't like your typing. :D

    the fact that I am a shemale shouldn't have any bearing on the issue.


    if you had sparklier fonts I would ask you on an e-date in a heartbeat. ;)



    Well you get bonus points if your from California.......(Think Beach Boys on that one)
  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    pjoasisrule wrote:
    Ive been to other states and hooked up with a couple girls from elsewhere, it basically goes the same for everywhere......if there really is some magical place where its different, please share

    Chicago's where its at ;)
  • pjoasisrulepjoasisrule Posts: 3,412
    GraySaturday wrote:
    Chicago's where its at ;)

    I lived in a suburb for awhile and the girls were still ridiculous
    Alpine Valley 2000
    Summerfest 2006

    "Why would they come to our concert just to boo us?" -Lisa Simpson
  • GraySaturdayGraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    pjoasisrule wrote:
    I lived in a suburb for awhile and the girls were still ridiculous

    bah humbug...
  • pearljamjenpearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    GraySaturday wrote:
    bah humbug...
    Gee...with an attitude like that, I can't imagine WHY the girls aren't lining up to ask him out. :rolleyes:

    :p
  • failedpersephonefailedpersephone Posts: 3,424
    pjoasisrule wrote:
    I lived in a suburb for awhile and the girls were still ridiculous
    *mock whisper* it's not the girls...I think it's the expectations and the direction of the eye. (which I have heard is SO misleading

    :rolleyes: seriously, dude you are so right...um, it's like totally the girls all over the world they only exist and live and breathe to fuck with you...but not so much fuck you. ;)

    Cal-i-forn-i-a is the place you ought to be...so load up the truck and, erm move to Bev-Er-LEE (hills, that is...) :rolleyes:
    IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
  • AnonAnon Posts: 11,175
    pjoasisrule wrote:
    Some women just like to play games for the most part, there really arent many decent ones out there to suit me once i express my disgust at the number of decent girls available. Then i profess my love for oasis and it falls apart completely. Waaah.

    fixed.
  • AnonAnon Posts: 11,175
    Malcolm_X wrote:
    So ladies...do you ever ask men out, and if not, why?
    Only one :), and it was the smartest thing i have ever done. We started off as friends, but it wasn't long before i was completely nuts about him. We have been together for a year and a half and now i just can't imagine life without him. He's the only one for me.
  • pjoasisrulepjoasisrule Posts: 3,412
    Pj_Gurl wrote:
    fixed.

    I have a girlfriend of years and that was not an emotional speech, but it is the truth and many guys out there feel the same way. I am just lucky enough to catch one of the good fish.
    Alpine Valley 2000
    Summerfest 2006

    "Why would they come to our concert just to boo us?" -Lisa Simpson
  • MattCameronKicksButtMattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    Malcolm_X wrote:
    Oh yeah big turn on, I agree with that.....but more women shouldn't be afraid to....

    I'm sorry. But if you're sometimes too shy to ask women out, you should expect that some women are also going to be the same way. :rolleyes: This is where some men go SO wrong. You really can't paint every woman with the same brush. :rolleyes: Silly boys.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    You really can't paint every woman with the same brush.

    i'm quite happy to give that a try... wee butterfly on the boobie?


    i used to shit myself about asking girls out.. then i once got a knockback and i thought it was the end of the world... within 20 minutes i was ok again though and stalking the next poor thing.
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • TrailerTrailer Posts: 1,431
    dunkman wrote:
    i used to shit myself about asking girls out.. then i once got a knockback and i thought it was the end of the world... within 20 minutes i was ok again though and stalking the next poor thing.

    i had one girl reject me once, and i felt the same way. i went back to the bar and ordered some shots of Jack to cheer me up. later on that night, she came up to me and told me she was sorry she rejected me, and that was her natural reaction when guys hit on her. she then proceeded to ask me out.... in which i rejected her hahahaa I was wasted at that point :D
    Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
  • MattCameronKicksButtMattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    dunkman wrote:
    i'm quite happy to give that a try... wee butterfly on the boobie?


    i used to shit myself about asking girls out.. then i once got a knockback and i thought it was the end of the world... within 20 minutes i was ok again though and stalking the next poor thing.

    YOU got knocked back? :eek: ;):D You weren't wearing that crotchless firemans suit were you... because that might have been the problem.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    Trailer wrote:
    i had one girl reject me once, and i felt the same way. i went back to the bar and ordered some shots of Jack to cheer me up. later on that night, she came up to me and told me she was sorry she rejected me, and that was her natural reaction when guys hit on her. she then proceeded to ask me out.... in which i rejected her hahahaa I was wasted at that point :D


    i would have done the same :D


    although i would have then spent the next 4 hours, after the bar had closed, outside her house crying and sobbing that i made a mistake... ;) of course i would just be acting so she would take pity on me and let me into her house. :)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    YOU got knocked back? :eek: ;):D You weren't wearing that crotchless firemans suit were you... because that might have been the problem.

    you think? damn!!! i thought the opening line of "hey do you like my hose" would work wonders ;)

    i got knocked back when i was 17 or something... i spend about 3 days building up the courage to call her.. she gave me some story about her granny dying but what about next week... a week is a long time in a horny teenagers life so i said 'yeah maybe' and never phoned her back.

    20 mins later i couldnt remember her name... but i still have the tattoo of her face on my dingledangle.
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • KosmicJelliKosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    Dating on and off for over 20 years... best relationships were with men who did the asking and the worse the ones in which I asked. hmmm... doesnt say much for my choice of men. It has been my experience that men whom have done the asking are way more in tune with me. So I've stopped asking. Funny you mention this was recently asked out by a guy whom took him a year and a half to ask.... geesh. Dont fear the rejection cause why would you want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you?????
  • pearljamjenpearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    Trailer wrote:
    i had one girl reject me once, and i felt the same way. i went back to the bar and ordered some shots of Jack to cheer me up. later on that night, she came up to me and told me she was sorry she rejected me, and that was her natural reaction when guys hit on her. she then proceeded to ask me out.... in which i rejected her hahahaa I was wasted at that point :D

    :eek:
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    I'll ask guys out if I've met them on match.com, really because I know they are interested in me or else they wouldn't have written/written back.

    I can't ask anyone out in real life though. Even going to back to high school when you had to ask people to proms and stuff...I never like, had a crush on the guys I was asking or anything, it was always just assumed it was a friendly thing, but it still made me soooo nervous. I still did it, but I hated it.

    Now, I can't ask someone out, I can't make a move, nothing (unless, as I said, it all stems from online dating, then I have no problem). In grad school there was a guy from another program I had a class with and he was smart, hot, etc. I got the impression he *might* be interested in me. every day I had class I told myself I was going to ask him if he wanted to get a coffee, study, whatever. I COULD NOT DO IT. I would come up with the perfect non-chalant way to ask and still COULD NOT DO IT.

    Also around this time I was at a party and this guy I had always sort of had a crush on was totally hitting on me, but he was shyer than I was...anyway, totally could have made a move but I had no idea how to go about it...

    so my response is, will one of you guys ask me out??? I am tired of doing all the work!!
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I'll ask guys out if I've met them on match.com, really because I know they are interested in me or else they wouldn't have written/written back.

    I can't ask anyone out in real life though. Even going to back to high school when you had to ask people to proms and stuff...I never like, had a crush on the guys I was asking or anything, it was always just assumed it was a friendly thing, but it still made me soooo nervous. I still did it, but I hated it.

    Now, I can't ask someone out, I can't make a move, nothing (unless, as I said, it all stems from online dating, then I have no problem). In grad school there was a guy from another program I had a class with and he was smart, hot, etc. I got the impression he *might* be interested in me. every day I had class I told myself I was going to ask him if he wanted to get a coffee, study, whatever. I COULD NOT DO IT. I would come up with the perfect non-chalant way to ask and still COULD NOT DO IT.

    Also around this time I was at a party and this guy I had always sort of had a crush on was totally hitting on me, but he was shyer than I was...anyway, totally could have made a move but I had no idea how to go about it...

    if in doubt, get them out.


    i can understand how that must have felt during school... well i cant understand but i;m trying my best... if you get the first one or two over with it isnt so bad i think... the more you put it off the bigger deal it becomes...

    if someone says no, i would consider it their loss :D
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    Malcolm_X wrote:
    Will one of you girls please ask me out or get your sisters, cousin's boyfriends sisters or friends to ask me out......

    Well not really, but why is it that girls never or rarely ask guys out. I'm all for supporting equal rights for women, but I think more women should ask men out. Now I admit I' somewhat of the shy type, but c'mon this is the 21st century. If a girl wants to date a guy, why not ask him out. Because some guys like me are completely oblivious to women.

    So ladies...do you ever ask men out, and if not, why?

    I've asked a couple guys out on various occasions.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • nfanelnfanel Posts: 2,558
    GraySaturday wrote:
    Dammit, if you want something, go get it!

    I'm forward, and damn proud.
    exactly. i can be quiet at times, but for some reason i have no problem making the move. maybe because i don't get excited about people a lot, so when i do...i go after them! (and sometimes keep pursuing long after i should, but that's beside the point. :p)
    never know unless you try!
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    dunkman wrote:
    if in doubt, get them out.

    I think I may have :).

    no just kidding, but I was wearing a cocktail dress and drinking so I'm sure I was leaning over a bit and squeezing them together while flirting...

    In seriousness though, I think the problem is the fact that I will have to see these people again...it's one thing to get rejected, but then if you have to see the person on a regular basis you become the crazy girl who likes them.
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    oh and also, some of us at work were discussing this- we have a quite international crowd here- and we were talking about how in europe it is so much easier to ask someone out. As I said above, in the US, people often do not feel "worthy" of asking someone out- you become "the crazy girl/guy who likes them" and I don't think that mentality is the same elsewhere.

    actually, in practice...the only men who have ever really approached me in bars and whatnot have been foreign, usually irish. it's just not as much of a big deal as it seems to be for americans.
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