Great sex is important in a good relationship, but how can it be great without communication?
If your partner doesn't do it for you, then tell him what will. He's not a mind reader and nor are you. Everyone needs different things and you won't know what they are unless you talk about it. Most people want to please their partner in bed and he'll probably appreciate a little guidance about the best way to do it for you.
Ok, if there's absolutely no sexual compatability at all then it might be time to move on, but most of the time these things can be sorted out with a lot of communication and a little open-mindedness.
well, i assume you are talking about when a guy 'doesn't do it' for a woman...afterall, guys can get off with/when/however...
honestly, i don't know the percentage, but it's usually the womans fault she can't reach orgasm...oh wait, maybe you aren't even talking about that...anyway, there's a lot to factor in...not just technique...but again, maybe this isn't what you are referring to...i don't know.
if someone can't 'do it for you', do it yourself...sometimes that's the only way.
Esther's here and she's sick?
hi Esther, now we are all going to be sick, thanks
you get to carve out exactly the type of partner you want that way...and there is always the allure of the upper hand.
sigh...give him some tips, and then reduce him with some of your own...until he is crawling a few feet behind you - with the biggest grin on his little face.
IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
Ok, did someone really just write that vaginas are overwhelming?? Jeeeest almighty, gents...just don't yank so often and you'll be fine.
OP: if it's a prob w/ technique, give the dewd a chance. If it's about him lacking an assertive/creative/spontaneous presence in general, a boot is probably in order.
There was a woman from Drumlish
Who granted a condemned man’s wish
He had lost his appeal
So for his final meal
He had chicken, with a side of cold fish
There once was a dude with a clit
Who liked to lick hairless armpit
She like the feel of his foot
In a 5 inch heel boot
And to be led like a horse with a bit
When your partner doesn't do it for you, try to do it to her/him first..
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
And you know what I've found out... with women... the more you give... the more you get. That is... if you set up a base camp down in the happiest place on Earth... and stay there and do your job til her thighs slam together, popping you head like a loose grape, you will get a great blow job in return... not one of those 54 second lip service gestures of foreplay... i'm talking, The Real Thing. But, it pays to know what you are dong down there. You don't want to get the shoulder tap, like the one Joe Torre gives you because you've walked 4 straight and and can't the strike zone if you life depended on it... that is humiliation. Know the equipment and know how to use it.
Hint: Find the man in the raincoat at the front of the rowboat... he is the gatekeeper.
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Now, women will probably say... the more they give... the more that is expected. Which is true... most men are typically selfish a-holes when it comes to sex. Get me to the money shot... now, roll over to your side and go to sleep.
And just rolling up and sticking your pussy in his face won't do it... many guys will just say, "Get that thing outta my face!" Some guys believe that vaginas should be felt and not seen (and in no way, ever put in their mouths). They complain about how scary and alien some femalian genetalia looks (yet, fail to see how the penial protuberance looks like baby fucking 'Alien'). And I admit it... sometimes I have to get past the beef curtain down there... but, Hey... it's part of the job, right? I guess if you want oral sex from a guy... you just need to find us guys that love.
The rest of it is easy... sometimes you fuck... sometimes you get fucked. But, it's more fun if you both get your money's worth.
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Now... back to the basic question... if your partner ain't doing it for you (or to you)... what do you do?
I say, try to get them to try new things... if they refuse to change... that is a sure sign of selfishness... something that does not belong is a relationship. Find someone that wants you to be happier than they are. Sure, that's a tall order to fill.. but, it is kind of fun looking for them.
Good luck with that.
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Hail, Hail!!!
And you know what I've found out... with women... the more you give... the more you get. That is... if you set up a base camp down in the happiest place on Earth... and stay there and do your job til her thighs slam together, popping you head like a loose grape, you will get a great blow job in return... not one of those 54 second lip service gestures of foreplay... i'm talking, The Real Thing. But, it pays to know what you are dong down there. You don't want to get the shoulder tap, like the one Joe Torre gives you because you've walked 4 straight and and can't the strike zone if you life depended on it... that is humiliation. Know the equipment and know how to use it.
Hint: Find the man in the raincoat at the front of the rowboat... he is the gatekeeper.
....
Now, women will probably say... the more they give... the more that is expected. Which is true... most men are typically selfish a-holes when it comes to sex. Get me to the money shot... now, roll over to your side and go to sleep.
And just rolling up and sticking your pussy in his face won't do it... many guys will just say, "Get that thing outta my face!" Some guys believe that vaginas should be felt and not seen (and in no way, ever put in their mouths). They complain about how scary and alien some femalian genetalia looks (yet, fail to see how the penial protuberance looks like baby fucking 'Alien'). And I admit it... sometimes I have to get past the beef curtain down there... but, Hey... it's part of the job, right? I guess if you want oral sex from a guy... you just need to find us guys that love.
The rest of it is easy... sometimes you fuck... sometimes you get fucked. But, it's more fun if you both get your money's worth.
...
Now... back to the basic question... if your partner ain't doing it for you (or to you)... what do you do?
I say, try to get them to try new things... if they refuse to change... that is a sure sign of selfishness... something that does not belong is a relationship. Find someone that wants you to be happier than they are. Sure, that's a tall order to fill.. but, it is kind of fun looking for them.
Good luck with that.
you should teach an extension class or something....wise advice there
My two cents? I couldn't be in a relationship if my honey didn't "do it for me". That being said...I would absolutely know way before the bedroom whether or not there was chemistry between us.
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My two cents? I couldn't be in a relationship if my honey didn't "do it for me". That being said...I would absolutely know way before the bedroom whether or not there was chemistry between us.
I'm totally with you on that.
I'm assessing so many things consciously wayyyy before any intimacy develops. Things like "pacing". Or give and take. Those signs hang all over people and speak volumes to them on all levels.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
My two cents? I couldn't be in a relationship if my honey didn't "do it for me". That being said...I would absolutely know way before the bedroom whether or not there was chemistry between us.
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I don't know... You never know... for sure. You can be told that you are going to get your socks rocked off... but, when push comes to shove... you get what is there... not what is said to be there.
And yeah... you decide who you are going to bang and who you are not. That's all part of the the screening, before sex, process. Is he kind... caring... holding down a job... not on parole... not a fugitive... those are all of the pre-requisites. And honestly... if you really, really liked a guy and decided to go to bed with him... only to find out that he was horrible for the entire 10 seconds... he'd be a goner, right?
Allen Fieldhouse, home of the 2008 NCAA men's Basketball Champions! Go Jayhawks!
Hail, Hail!!!
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I don't know... You never know... for sure. You can be told that you are going to get your socks rocked off... but, when push comes to shove... you get what is there... not what is said to be there.
And yeah... you decide who you are going to bang and who you are not. That's all part of the the screening, before sex, process. Is he kind... caring... holding down a job... not on parole... not a fugitive... those are all of the pre-requisites. And honestly... if you really, really liked a guy and decided to go to bed with him... only to find out that he was horrible for the entire 10 seconds... he'd be a goner, right?
You can tell alot in a single kiss.
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If your partner doesn't do it for you, simply cut them up and feed them to the pigs. Just make sure the next "partner' knows what happened to the last one so they stay on their toes.
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My two cents? I couldn't be in a relationship if my honey didn't "do it for me". That being said...I would absolutely know way before the bedroom whether or not there was chemistry between us.
that is so true.........
Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
If your partner doesn't do it for you, simply cut them up and feed them to the pigs. Just make sure the next "partner' knows what happened to the last one so they stay on their toes.
...
I don't know... You never know... for sure. You can be told that you are going to get your socks rocked off... but, when push comes to shove... you get what is there... not what is said to be there.
And yeah... you decide who you are going to bang and who you are not. That's all part of the the screening, before sex, process. Is he kind... caring... holding down a job... not on parole... not a fugitive... those are all of the pre-requisites. And honestly... if you really, really liked a guy and decided to go to bed with him... only to find out that he was horrible for the entire 10 seconds... he'd be a goner, right?
Kind of like this, perhaps?..........
Man with thick glasses, hangs out in areas with many vrgins who are presently moving out on their own at the age of like "40". He tells the girls he is "hung" (hey the guy has thick glasses, so he THINKS he is hung pretty good) And the girls who are just breaking out, are also a bit reality challenged. They believe he is because it hurts and so he must be pretty hung. Now, put this guy with a girl who has had it before from a few different boyfriends, and well, that opinion changes dramatically. It is really in the storyteller's opinions you know?
Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
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If your partner doesn't do it for you, then tell him what will. He's not a mind reader and nor are you. Everyone needs different things and you won't know what they are unless you talk about it. Most people want to please their partner in bed and he'll probably appreciate a little guidance about the best way to do it for you.
Ok, if there's absolutely no sexual compatability at all then it might be time to move on, but most of the time these things can be sorted out with a lot of communication and a little open-mindedness.
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honestly, i don't know the percentage, but it's usually the womans fault she can't reach orgasm...oh wait, maybe you aren't even talking about that...anyway, there's a lot to factor in...not just technique...but again, maybe this isn't what you are referring to...i don't know.
if someone can't 'do it for you', do it yourself...sometimes that's the only way.
Esther's here and she's sick?
hi Esther, now we are all going to be sick, thanks
you get to carve out exactly the type of partner you want that way...and there is always the allure of the upper hand.
sigh...give him some tips, and then reduce him with some of your own...until he is crawling a few feet behind you - with the biggest grin on his little face.
OP: if it's a prob w/ technique, give the dewd a chance. If it's about him lacking an assertive/creative/spontaneous presence in general, a boot is probably in order.
There once was a dude with a clit
Who liked to lick hairless armpit
She like the feel of his foot
In a 5 inch heel boot
And to be led like a horse with a bit
Thanks for the poetry Rhinocerous Surprise.
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
The last time I checked, it takes two to tango, in every instance.
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Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
You mean a guy with a wart on the tip of his tongue who likes to go shopping with you for shoes?
Hail, Hail!!!
Hint: Find the man in the raincoat at the front of the rowboat... he is the gatekeeper.
....
Now, women will probably say... the more they give... the more that is expected. Which is true... most men are typically selfish a-holes when it comes to sex. Get me to the money shot... now, roll over to your side and go to sleep.
And just rolling up and sticking your pussy in his face won't do it... many guys will just say, "Get that thing outta my face!" Some guys believe that vaginas should be felt and not seen (and in no way, ever put in their mouths). They complain about how scary and alien some femalian genetalia looks (yet, fail to see how the penial protuberance looks like baby fucking 'Alien'). And I admit it... sometimes I have to get past the beef curtain down there... but, Hey... it's part of the job, right? I guess if you want oral sex from a guy... you just need to find us guys that love.
The rest of it is easy... sometimes you fuck... sometimes you get fucked. But, it's more fun if you both get your money's worth.
...
Now... back to the basic question... if your partner ain't doing it for you (or to you)... what do you do?
I say, try to get them to try new things... if they refuse to change... that is a sure sign of selfishness... something that does not belong is a relationship. Find someone that wants you to be happier than they are. Sure, that's a tall order to fill.. but, it is kind of fun looking for them.
Good luck with that.
Hail, Hail!!!
you should teach an extension class or something....wise advice there
Starfish seem pretty busy to me
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I'm assessing so many things consciously wayyyy before any intimacy develops. Things like "pacing". Or give and take. Those signs hang all over people and speak volumes to them on all levels.
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
I don't know... You never know... for sure. You can be told that you are going to get your socks rocked off... but, when push comes to shove... you get what is there... not what is said to be there.
And yeah... you decide who you are going to bang and who you are not. That's all part of the the screening, before sex, process. Is he kind... caring... holding down a job... not on parole... not a fugitive... those are all of the pre-requisites. And honestly... if you really, really liked a guy and decided to go to bed with him... only to find out that he was horrible for the entire 10 seconds... he'd be a goner, right?
Hail, Hail!!!
You can tell alot in a single kiss.
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that is so true.........
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
Oh yeah, Cosmo Rules
Kind of like this, perhaps?..........
Man with thick glasses, hangs out in areas with many vrgins who are presently moving out on their own at the age of like "40". He tells the girls he is "hung" (hey the guy has thick glasses, so he THINKS he is hung pretty good) And the girls who are just breaking out, are also a bit reality challenged. They believe he is because it hurts and so he must be pretty hung. Now, put this guy with a girl who has had it before from a few different boyfriends, and well, that opinion changes dramatically. It is really in the storyteller's opinions you know?
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........