When your partner doesn't do it for you.

samick

Hookers???

westsidepie

cheeseandrice wrote:

Is your name Demtri and are you a Greek god?

http://www.misanthropytoday.com/2008/06/27/olga-and-dmitri-funny-voicemail/

If I had not lived in SF for 10 years, I would have thought this message was a joke. If it is a parody of the SF dating scene, it is spot on. That was just un-fucking-believable. I would love to tell you what my advice to Olga would be, but then I would sound like a bigger asshole then Dmitri.

LONGRD

cheeseandrice wrote:

Is your name Demtri and are you a Greek god?

http://www.misanthropytoday.com/2008/06/27/olga-and-dmitri-funny-voicemail/

LMAO! a combination of both....

Just kidding- I'm actually opposite of that. In fact, I'm pretty shy.

cheeseandrice

LongRd. wrote:

LMAO! a combination of both....

Just kidding- I'm actually opposite of that. In fact, I'm pretty shy.

You could NEVER be an ass as much as that guy. I was just kidding too, but forgot to post the smiley face.

South of Seattle

cutback wrote:

if you think the person is open to try new things, go for it

if not, bail

Yup

deadmosquito

sponger wrote:

Every woman has a right to be sexually satisfied. In fact, any "relationship expert" will tell you that good sex is at the core of every functional relationship. If that wasn't the case, then we might as well all be homosexuals.

so what, i can't have good sex because i'm gay? that's ridiculous.

Whizbang

teach him tricks.....and if he doesn't get it, kick his ass to the curb.

Zanne

Foxy Mop wrote:

...do it for yourself

This is my final answer!

Inhiding230

I've been with my husband for 5 years (we just got married) and he always does it for me

decides2dream

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

Move on. Life is short.

Of course, that's the simple answer I can only give because I don't know the whole story. But, based on what I know...move on.

exactly.
there are many things that are surmountable, but if your partner doesn't turn you on, no chemistry...why bother? all sorts of 'issues' sexual or otherwise can be overcome, but one must at least start with a point of attraction.

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

As do stupid replies in threads like this.

If you're going to bail on someone just because they don't at present 'do it for you', you'd better examine your selfishness and your lack of faith in the relationship and in your partner.

huh?
given what little info is presented in the first, post, we're all assuming a lot. to me, no chemistry means no relationship. that doesn't equate no sex = end it all...it means no attraction left = end it all. as i stated above, even dire sexual problems can be overcome, whether 'new tricks' or whatever, but one must come from a point of attraction to their partner....physically AND mentally. sex starts in the brain. there is nothing selfish or superficial about that.

sponger

deadmosquito wrote:

so what, i can't have good sex because i'm gay? that's ridiculous.

That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that the nature of our relationships is defined by our sexual orientation. If not, then it wouldn't matter what gender our partner is.

edvedder913

decides2dream wrote:

exactly.
there are many things that are surmountable, but if your partner doesn't turn you on, no chemistry...why bother? all sorts of 'issues' sexual or otherwise can be overcome, but one must at least start with a point of attraction.






huh?
given what little info is presented in the first, post, we're all assuming a lot. to me, no chemistry means no relationship. that doesn't equate no sex = end it all...it means no attraction left = end it all. as i stated above, even dire sexual problems can be overcome, whether 'new tricks' or whatever, but one must come from a point of attraction to their partner....physically AND mentally. sex starts in the brain. there is nothing selfish or superficial about that.

I love your location but I hope you dont mean it literally....

sorry off topic...

anyway - it depends what the person means to you. i think if your partner is bringing everything else to the table, you should teach them what you need. otherwise, move on...
sometimes it is not just about the physical.

decides2dream

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Firstly, read the post before yours.

Secondly, I sometimes wish people would decide there's no chemistry before committing. It's not that hard.

again, lots os assumptions. we have NO idea how 'committted' a relationship this refers to, even if refers to a real-life relationship at all, or merely a convo-starter. i've read many a tish thread, and many seem simply to be interesting relationship-based discussions.

if it indeed is a 'real-life' relationship, no way of knowing how 'committed' or for how long it is. and there are many, many factors to chemistry....the initial attraction, and if it lasts. one can be wildly attracted, and can still lose that in time. beyond the physical, many other factos can come into play for a partner 'not doing it for you' anymore....lots well beyond merely the physical. makes a BIG difference is this a two-week relationship or a two-year marriage, etc....as to whether one should find out indeed if it's salvageable, as well as finding out exactly just what 'not doing it for you' really means in this instance. lots and lots of unknowns here.

i sometimes wish people would leave their judgements of others' relationships, commitments or lack thereof, to themselves as well. but as the stones sing, you can't always get what you want. if relationships, including chemistry 'wasn't that hard'...relationships wouldn't fail and all would live happily ever after eh? not real life there, at all. even relationships that stand the test of time....not always so easy, even with chemistry....

decides2dream

edvedder913 wrote:

I love your location but I hope you dont mean it literally....

sorry off topic...

anyway - it depends what the person means to you. i think if your partner is bringing everything else to the table, you should teach them what you need. otherwise, move on...
sometimes it is not just about the physical.

yea....it's really a heart-wrenching tune, and location ...but wildly romantic at the same time.


and...agreed! i think if someone is the love of your life, there is so much you would be willing to sacrafice and work through, no matter what...although even then, who knows? however, i tend to agree...there is soooo much MORE 'beyond the physical' in that equation as well. as to the OP, it's such a vague question, as most tish OPs seem to be ....just leaves it all wide open for vast interpretation. bottomline, 'not doing it for you'....never a good sign. hopefully can teach some new tricks, but so much of it is in the mind and hear...the real erogenous zones. many people can get you off, but i think only a choice few can truly get you OFF. and i shall leave it at that PG rating.

small town beck

Well I wonder if the guy( I assume it is a guy you mean, tish ) mentioned here is now posting somewhere that his girlfriend is like a starfish in bed?

Communication is key.

decides2dream

small town beck wrote:

Well I wonder if he is posting somewhere now that his girlfriend is like a starfish in bed?

Communication is key.

i have no idea what that sentence means..........:o


also, funny...i always assumed 'tish' was a girl.

small town beck

decides2dream wrote:

i have no idea what that sentence means..........:o


also, funny...i always assumed 'tish' was a girl.

Tish is a girl no? I should edit my post I guess


You know the starfish expression though?

decides2dream

small town beck wrote:

Tish is a girl no? I should edit my post I guess


You know the starfish expression though?

i thought you were saying she is a he. i am now even more confused.......:o
and no, i don't think i do. perhaps i did, but it's out of my head at the moment. suddenly, i am feeling old and out of the loop. haha.

small town beck

decides2dream wrote:

i thought you were saying she is a he. i am now even more confused.......:o
and no, i don't think i do. perhaps i did, but it's out of my head at the moment. suddenly, i am feeling old and out of the loop. haha.

I went back and did an edit to hopefully clear up the fact that I do know Tish is a girl. But man, my attempt at a little joke has now backfired

Well there is an expression and while a guy might say it better is something to the effect of "she just lay there like a starfish"... not a compliment

decides2dream

small town beck wrote:

I went back and did an edit to hopefully clear up the fact that I do know Tish is a girl. But man, my attempt at a little joke has now backfired

Well there is an expression and while a guy might say it better is something to the effect of "she just lay there like a starfish"... not a compliment

sorry to ruin your joke. i guess that's also why i didn't get it, i always thought starfish were assexual? so then i tried to take it somewhere...and yea, i just let my imagination run.............:p then i was simply confused entirely. hahaha.

however, not that it helps your joke, but i get it now, finally..........:D
and....



perhaps!

ha!