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When your partner doesn't do it for you.

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  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    tish wrote:
    Do you teach 'em tricks? Or move the hell on, STAT?

    Move on. Life is short.

    Of course, that's the simple answer I can only give because I don't know the whole story. But, based on what I know...move on.
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    if you think the person is open to try new things, go for it

    if not, bail
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    that depends. If they have other good qualities and you're lookin to stay together for life......teach the old dog new tricks!
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  • Foxy MopFoxy Mop Posts: 2,823
    ...do it for yourself


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  • Bathgate66Bathgate66 Posts: 15,813
    tish wrote:
    Do you teach 'em tricks? Or move the hell on, STAT?

    if they arent doing it for you,

    then why are they your partner ? :confused:

    cynicism abound,....
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  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    Bathgate66 wrote:
    if they arent doing it for you,

    then why are they your partner ? :confused:

    cynicism abound,....

    As do stupid replies in threads like this.

    If you're going to bail on someone just because they don't at present 'do it for you', you'd better examine your selfishness and your lack of faith in the relationship and in your partner.
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    I was lucky to have partners who were patient with me. I guess there were other things about me that made it worthwhile to them.

    But, if poor sexual performance alone leaves you wondering whether or not to jump ship, then I guess it could be readily assumed that there are no compensating qualities that this person possesses.

    On the other hand, I think most any guy would appreciate a woman who is willing to voice her bedroom preferences. In fact, those women who took the time to show me a thing or two are way up there on my list of favorite people.
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  • Bathgate66Bathgate66 Posts: 15,813
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    As do stupid replies in threads like this.

    i didnt think my reply was stupid,

    especially since i have read no fewer then 3 threads / posts by this person- indicating they were going to break it off a little bit down the road and they are with someone almost double their age .

    It makes them sound like they are using the person, m,aybe they should do the mature thing and break it off now , especially if they " arent doing it for you " .

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  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    Bathgate66 wrote:
    i didnt think my reply was stupid,

    especially since i have read no fewer then 3 threads / posts by this person- indicating they were going to break it off a little bit down the road and they are with someone almost double their age .

    It makes them sound like they are using the person, m,aybe they should do the mature thing and break it off now , especially if they " arent doing it for you " .

    :)

    When I said 'stupid replies in threads like this' I didn't mean 'Stupid replies in threads, like this'.. Oh how important a misplaced comma is. ;)

    We are on the same page. I think 'Bail' is terrible advice. But given this person's evidence, they should probably bail as they are obviously unable to think of anything other than sex and so are totally unable to commit to someone.
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  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    As do stupid replies in threads like this.

    If you're going to bail on someone just because they don't at present 'do it for you', you'd better examine your selfishness and your lack of faith in the relationship and in your partner.

    But to call his reply selfish is assuming a lot. It's assuming that the partner is trying, and/or willing to continue to try harder...and that's not always the case. It's also assuming that the OP is considering trashing a long-term relationship with a deserving and otherwise wonderful person because said partner is only presently "not doing it" for her anymore. That may or may not be true. Maybe the partner just isn't a good match for the OP. If there's no chemistry (physical or otherwise), it's certainly not selfish to bail.
  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    But to call his reply selfish is assuming a lot. It's assuming that the partner is trying, and/or willing to continue to try harder...and that's not always the case. It's also assuming that the OP is considering trashing a long-term relationship with a deserving and otherwise wonderful person because said partner is only presently "not doing it" for her anymore. That may or may not be true. Maybe the partner just isn't a good match for the OP. If there's no chemistry (physical or otherwise), it's certainly not selfish to bail.

    Firstly, read the post before yours.

    Secondly, I sometimes wish people would decide there's no chemistry before committing. It's not that hard.
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    Every woman has a right to be sexually satisfied. In fact, any "relationship expert" will tell you that good sex is at the core of every functional relationship. If that wasn't the case, then we might as well all be homosexuals.

    The question is whether or not she is willing to help this guy hold up his end of the bargain in the sack. I think it can be assumed that if he was in other ways a "decent" man, then she wouldn't be hesitating to help him. It's either that or he's one of those guys who is not receptive to suggestion. In that case, he isn't worth keeping anyway.
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  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    Just want you ladies to know, I'm pretty good in the sack! :cool:
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  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    It depends on the seriousness of the relationship imo. Some people are just inexperienced and need some instruction..if the willingness is there it's not bad. It's when someone doesn't care for your needs and doesn't want to even try, then I would say ditch them. If it's just a eff buddy thing then ditch them but I guess that goes w/o saying since that type of relationship is all about sex and nothing else.
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  • ArcticangelArcticangel Posts: 1,443
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    If you guilt-trip yourself into staying with him, you'll only be wasting his time and yours.
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  • Urban HikerUrban Hiker Posts: 1,312
    I'm with Foxy Mop on this one. It's guaranteed satisfaction. :p

    Long term partnership has very little to do with sex. Intimacy, however, goes a long way.
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  • LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    tish wrote:
    Do you teach 'em tricks? Or move the hell on, STAT?
    I just switch them off.. it's hard using the mouse with my left hand though. :D
  • justamjustam Posts: 21,412
    I think if nothing else, you'd better be with someone who satisfies you in bed or there won't be much to help keep you together when other things aren't working.

    It's NOT superificial, it's essential to be compatible in bed!
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  • cheeseandricecheeseandrice Posts: 206
    LongRd. wrote:
    Just want you ladies to know, I'm pretty good in the sack! :cool:


    Is your name Demtri and are you a Greek god?

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  • samicksamick Posts: 373
    Hookers???
  • westsidepiewestsidepie Posts: 627
    cheeseandrice wrote:
    Is your name Demtri and are you a Greek god?

    http://www.misanthropytoday.com/2008/06/27/olga-and-dmitri-funny-voicemail/

    If I had not lived in SF for 10 years, I would have thought this message was a joke. If it is a parody of the SF dating scene, it is spot on. That was just un-fucking-believable. I would love to tell you what my advice to Olga would be, but then I would sound like a bigger asshole then Dmitri.
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  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    cheeseandrice wrote:
    Is your name Demtri and are you a Greek god?

    http://www.misanthropytoday.com/2008/06/27/olga-and-dmitri-funny-voicemail/
    LMAO! a combination of both....

    Just kidding- I'm actually opposite of that. In fact, I'm pretty shy. :o
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  • cheeseandricecheeseandrice Posts: 206
    LongRd. wrote:
    LMAO! a combination of both....

    Just kidding- I'm actually opposite of that. In fact, I'm pretty shy. :o


    You could NEVER be an ass as much as that guy. I was just kidding too, but forgot to post the smiley face.
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  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    cutback wrote:
    if you think the person is open to try new things, go for it

    if not, bail

    Yup
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  • deadmosquitodeadmosquito Posts: 729
    sponger wrote:
    Every woman has a right to be sexually satisfied. In fact, any "relationship expert" will tell you that good sex is at the core of every functional relationship. If that wasn't the case, then we might as well all be homosexuals.


    so what, i can't have good sex because i'm gay? that's ridiculous.
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    teach him tricks.....and if he doesn't get it, kick his ass to the curb.
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  • ZanneZanne Posts: 899
    Foxy Mop wrote:
    ...do it for yourself


    :D

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  • Inhiding230Inhiding230 Posts: 362
    I've been with my husband for 5 years (we just got married) and he always does it for me :D
  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    Move on. Life is short.

    Of course, that's the simple answer I can only give because I don't know the whole story. But, based on what I know...move on.


    exactly.
    there are many things that are surmountable, but if your partner doesn't turn you on, no chemistry...why bother? all sorts of 'issues' sexual or otherwise can be overcome, but one must at least start with a point of attraction.

    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    As do stupid replies in threads like this.

    If you're going to bail on someone just because they don't at present 'do it for you', you'd better examine your selfishness and your lack of faith in the relationship and in your partner.



    huh?
    given what little info is presented in the first, post, we're all assuming a lot. to me, no chemistry means no relationship. that doesn't equate no sex = end it all...it means no attraction left = end it all. as i stated above, even dire sexual problems can be overcome, whether 'new tricks' or whatever, but one must come from a point of attraction to their partner....physically AND mentally. sex starts in the brain. :) there is nothing selfish or superficial about that.
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