Why do people get jealous?

Lizard

SENROCK! wrote:

oh sure, NOW you get religious!!!!!

watch it or I will smite thee!

SENROCK

Lizard wrote:

watch it or I will smite thee!

hahahaha damn lizard youre gonna get struck by lightning and theres not EVEN a storm near by!!!!

SENROCK

in_hiding79 wrote:

Hell yeah they are jealous of me and my Metal Years!!

I was the fifth member of Poison ya know??

interesting. so how is bret REALLY?!

small town beck

GraySaturday wrote:

who is all jealous of you, P?

is this board people, work, friends??

My guess is everybody.

in_hiding79

SENROCK! wrote:

interesting. so how is bret REALLY?!

Ohhhh, well he used to be really good...I think the years have finally caught up with him some!!

mookie9999

TrixieCat wrote:

Where is mookie when you land a great fag-hag joke....

WTF?!?!?!? Don't make me take off this skirt, put on some pants, and prove to you just how manly I am!!! :mad:

catefrances

in_hiding79 wrote:

Seriously, I was brought up to NEVER to be jealous of anyone...I guess my mom and dad wanted their kids to know that no one is better then us and that we are not better then anyone! Although some people get jealous of someone and to tell you the truth, I only get jealous of people who win the lottery....I don't wish I were someone else EVER, but I do wish I could win some big money. It sure would be nice..:)

people get jealous cause youve got something they want.

as for being jealous of people winning the lottery... explain that one to me.

dunkman

mookie9999 wrote:

WTF?!?!?!? Don't make me take off this skirt, put on some pants, and prove to you just how manly I am!!! :mad:

thats a daily routine for me

Heineken Helen

chiquimonkey wrote:

i was raised the same way. jealously is a wasted emotion, in my opinion. even people that seem to have it all might be seriously jacked up behind closed doors, so no point in bothering really.

Absolutely... I have known some people who, from the outside looking in, have everything, yet they could never be happy. I'll never understand why people waste their time with jealousy. I've got fuck all but as far as I'm concerned I have it all

xscorcho

Heineken Helen wrote:

I've got fuck all but as far as I'm concerned I have it all

ditto! i agree jealousy is a wasted emotion...

Heineken Helen

genie wrote:

sad?

so you think it's sad for someone to want to know what love is?

do you think it's sad for a homeless person to have stable home to go to?

do you think it's sad for sad for 40 year old virgin to want to have sex?

do you think it's sad for a woman who can't have children to want to have a baby?

do you think it's sad for a deformed person to what to be normal?

the list can go on.

It's ok to have dreams, goals and aspirations... but to want what somebody else has and to see your dream as a negative and something you don't have rather than something to reach for... well it's just a complete waste of time.

Heineken Helen

in_hiding79 wrote:

I think she is talking to me....imagine that, a woman actually not liking my post or finding something wrong with my thread! Never had this happen on this board!!

I guess I understand now!

trust me, that's nothing to do with jealousy

if you post something saying that men are usually the victims in relationships and women are mainly money grabbers well I'm gonna disagree with ya... but not out of jealousy! And not meaning to sound patronising, usually cos I feel sorry for someone who puts themselves down so much . There really is no need for it.

On another note, there are those people who convince themselves that people don't like them cos they're jealous when sometimes it's cos they just don't like them :cool:

Heineken Helen

GraySaturday wrote:

I used to get jealous over somethings, years ago..

In those years since, I have worked for people that some would say "Had it all".. and thats when you would think jealousy would really have reared its head, but it really opened to my eyes that just because someone has money, doesn't make their life rich. Just because someone has a million friends, doesn't make their life fulfilled. I've learned that no body lives a totally perfect life, and where one thing may seem perfect, there are a million other reasons why I wouldn't want their life. Some people believe the grass is greener on the other side, and it may seem to be.. But I don't know anyone with a perfect enchanted story book life, that I need to be jealous over. My life is what I make it. What is cool about human life is we have the control over how we feel each day. No one can make us feel anything, but ourselves. If you truly love yourself, your focus is on how to live each day to your fullest. There just isn't enough time in this life to spend it pining away to be something you're not.

Beautiful post and couldn't agree more

If you spend so much time focussing on what other people 'have', how do you make time to make your OWN life richer?

Heineken Helen

TrixieCat wrote:

Don't get upset Becks...someone will love you one day. lol

Becks is already well loved... if you're talking about the OTHER kind of love... no doubt about it. She's fantastic

dunkman

i'm jealous Helen has the time to answer every post on this thread.

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

i'm jealous Helen has the time to answer every post on this thread.

oh dunk, you can't be jealous of something you have too

silly silly boy

dunkman

Heineken Helen wrote:

oh dunk, you can't be jealous of something you have too

silly silly boy

listen i'm busy actually.. you have no idea how hard it is to make Mount Everest out of paperclips and soggy paper.

jrd

dunkman wrote:

listen i'm busy actually.. you have no idea how hard it is to make Mount Everest out of paperclips and soggy paper.

try using mashed potato...

i'm jealous you and Helen have the time to reply to every reply here and yet STILL claim to be busy...

elmer

Heineken Helen wrote:

On another note, there are those people who convince themselves that people don't like them cos they're jealous when sometimes it's cos they just don't like them :cool:

yay, but "just don't like them" without any good reason? Whats the underlying factor there? Could say their just "not my type of person-(don't mean you specifically) and be done with them.

Heineken Helen

elmer wrote:

yay, but "just don't like them" without any good reason? Whats the underlying factor there? Could say their just "not my type of person-(don't mean you specifically) and be done with them.

what's the difference? There are people I can disagree with lots who I still actually like... take soulsinging for example... me and him have had some flaming rows and yet I'd still love to buy the guy a drink.

Then there are other people who are fake, say what they think certain people want them to say and what they think certain other people would disagree with. I don't like fake people... it's pretty simple.

Heineken Helen

elmer wrote:

yay, but "just don't like them" without any good reason? Whats the underlying factor there? Could say their just "not my type of person-(don't mean you specifically) and be done with them.

I'll give you a specific example. There was a friend of my sisters who turned out to be a complete psycho, single white female kinda person towards my sister. She was simply freaky some of the stuff which I won't get into. My sister 'slowly' ditched her... cos this girl seemed to be jealous of everything my sister had and made it her mission to GET all of it... but better! Yet, this girl used to go on about how everyone's jealous of HER :rolleyes: which couldn't be further from the truth.

I have no problem admitting I don't like someone... in fact I never pretend to like someone I don't. BUT if I don't like them there are plenty of reasons... none of them need be underlying... and NONE of them are jealousy

elmer

Heineken Helen wrote:

Then there are other people who are fake, say what they think certain people want them to say and what they think certain other people would disagree with. I don't like fake people... it's pretty simple.

Then you have good reason for disliking them.

I can't have a big argument with someone and continue as before usually, though rather than pretending just to keep the peace I'm fine ignoring them totally even if it's in a workplace. It's happened a couple times actually, even going back to the schoolyard there were those who I practically grew up around yet we never exchanged any words cos of some dispute as 8years olds.

mookie9999

dunkman wrote:

thats a daily routine for me

It gets tiresome after awhile, no? I know it does for me!

Rygar

dunkman wrote:

wouldnt that interfere with your haircut schedule?

haha, gold by page 2

Heineken Helen

elmer wrote:

Then you have good reason for disliking them.

I can't have a big argument with someone and continue as before usually, though rather than pretending just to keep the peace I'm fine ignoring them totally even if it's in a workplace. It's happened a couple times actually, even going back to the schoolyard there were those who I practically grew up around yet we never exchanged any words cos of some dispute as 8years olds.

oh yes, I don't just dislike people for no reason... sorry if I gave that impression. I meant that, instead of telling themselves that they're disliked because people are jealous, perhaps they should think twice about that. People who 'have it all' are usually quite popular whether it's the literal or the emotional 'have it all'. So if you're generally unpopular, it's not cos people are jealous... I can't tell ya why it is without knowing ya but maybe you should look into it.

I generally need a cooling off period to ignore somebody when I'm mad at them... but I always come around... sometimes the length of time differs though but I rarely fall out with someone because of one argument... it usually takes a good bit for me to write somebody off... but when I DO write them off, there's no going back.

small town beck

Heineken Helen wrote:

Becks is already well loved... if you're talking about the OTHER kind of love... no doubt about it. She's fantastic : )

Ahhh thanks Very sweet of you to say.

elmer

Heineken Helen wrote:

So if you're generally unpopular, it's not cos people are jealous... I can't tell ya why it is without knowing ya but maybe you should look into it.

nah, I wasn't stating that I have any issues relating to this topic. Think my clashes with people aren't much different from the norm.

Although If I am generally unpopular, it's gotta be jealousy!! Nope, it's gotta be!!

Heineken Helen

elmer wrote:

nah, I wasn't stating that I have any issues relating to this topic. Think my clashes with people aren't much different from the norm.

Although If I am generally unpopular, it's gotta be jealousy!! Nope, it's gotta be!!

hahahaha... of course it is

JaneNY

Without reading all the other responses, I think jealousy can come in when someone feels that the other person isn't really entitled to what they have, or that the one who is jealous is 'just as good' as the other person, so why don't they have the same thing. However those feelings are perceptions and not necessarily based on reality.

Dustin51

Without reading all responses...I think its biological. We all get jealous. Some of us just handle it better than others.