is 33 too late to marry?

IndianSummer

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

share

not if she's 22.

eyedclaar

IndianSummer wrote:

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

Are you a girl or guy? If a girl send me a pic. If I like it, I'll marry you and you can join my polgymist compound...

markymark550

If you find true love, I don't think you can ever be too old to get married. Your priorities (ie having kids, job/income) might be different in a few years, but that doesn't mean you will be too old.

IndianSummer

eyedclaar wrote:

Are you a girl or guy? If a girl send me a pic. If I like it, I'll marry you and you can join my polgymist compound...

i am a guy. please come up with nice replies. i am going through severe depression.

ladygooddiva

sweet!!!
it is never to late to get married:;):)

share

IndianSummer wrote:

i am a guy. please come up with nice replies. i am going through severe depression.

If you are going to have a nervous breakdown then I don't think
any woman will have you, no matter what your age.

What are you depressed about?

IndianSummer

markymark550 wrote:

If you find true love, I don't think you can ever be too old to get married. Your priorities (ie having kids, job/income) might be different in a few years, but that doesn't mean you will be too old.

no i mean generally speaking, is 33 rather old???

i do not wan to have kids. too much responsibility.

as for finding true love, it will be good if it happens, else i am prepared to find someone through a website or newspaper. i mean arranged marriage is ok by me, coming as i do from india.

IndianSummer

share wrote:

If you are going to have a nervous breakdown then I don't think
any woman will have you, no matter what your age.

What are you depressed about?

depressed about the fact that i am almost 29, without a career, without a girl friend, and am unlikely to have a steady career or gf anytime soon. not before 32-33 at least.

riffrandall

IndianSummer wrote:

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

Honestly? I think it is borderline too EARLY to marry. I went to 26 weddings of good friends in my 20s and early 30s, and every marriage except 3 ended in divorce. Hello!
I'm older than you are and I'm a girl, and I'm just getting to the point where I think it might be time to get married.
If no one wants to marry me, that's fine, I'll just continue my life of doing whatever I want whenever I want.

3inputchick

IndianSummer wrote:

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

yes. by that time you will have hit the wall.... and dont even think of having kids... your clock will have expired!

enjoy being alone for the rest of forever!

eyedclaar

riffrandall wrote:

Honestly? I think it is borderline too EARLY to marry. I went to 26 weddings of good friends in my 20s and early 30s, and every marriage except 3 ended in divorce. Hello!
I'm older than you are and I'm a girl, and I'm just getting to the point where I think it might be time to get married.
If no one wants to marry me, that's fine, I'll just continue my life of doing whatever I want whenever I want.

Clearly, I intended my earlier post for you:

Are you a girl or guy? If a girl send me a pic. If I like it, I'll marry you and you can join my polgymist compound...

Wobbie

IndianSummer wrote:

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

I waited until I was 40 to get married. It was kind of like a personal goal. Anyway, I did it, I'm happy and it worked out well for me. I kinda cringe when I see twenty-somethings getting hitched :eek:

share

IndianSummer wrote:

depressed about the fact that i am almost 29, without a career, without a girl friend, and am unlikely to have a steady career or gf anytime soon. not before 32-33 at least.

I find this hard to believe given your obvious optimistic outlook
on life.

GraySaturday

plenty of people get married in their 30's. In fact that seems to be the "thing" these days. I got so much shit and bad comments from people for getting married young.

I don't know anyone who wouldn't marry a guy in their 30's. Its not like you're 80..

Cheer up.

Phantom Pain

I got married a month before my 30th Birthday..I'm a male

There is nothing wrong with waiting

I'm glad I did wait and not jump into Marriage at an immature age

Well...I always be immature but you know what I mean



Just be prepared to find a lot of women with kids or coming from a divorce already when you hit your 30's

I met my wife when she was 21 and she was still in College..luckily no kids or divorce

elmer

IndianSummer wrote:

i am a guy. please come up with nice replies. i am going through severe depression.

sounds like it. Of course it's not too late! Your middle 30's have gotta be the optimum time for marriage, you've got the even scope in choice whether she be 18 or 40 and there's a greater chance of it lasting. Get out there an' tame dem rippers

markymark550

IndianSummer wrote:

no i mean generally speaking, is 33 rather old???

i do not wan to have kids. too much responsibility.

as for finding true love, it will be good if it happens, else i am prepared to find someone through a website or newspaper. i mean arranged marriage is ok by me, coming as i do from india.

I don't think that 33 is rather old. Generally, I think of being old as someone in their 70s and beyond.

I wasn't using having kids as meaning that you will definitely want them in a couple of years. I was just trying to make the point that your priorities at this point in time could be very different from your priorities 1 year from now, 5 years, 10 years, etc. You are already hinting at knowing that your current priorities are changing.

I don't know about arranged marriages, as that's not a part of my typical culture, but if you aren't opposed to it who am I to judge? Personally, I don't know if I could find happiness that way as something forced doesn't always turn out to be good. I find nothing wrong with the online dating services though. That is an effective way to meet people that you can have a connection with that you might possibly never get the chance otherwise. I don't think it would matter as much that you met that way, all that would matter is that you found someone.

Brain of J.Lo

I wish people wouldn't get into a mindset of the "right" time/age to do something. Just let life happen.

33 isn't too old to do anything...except maybe get arrested for underage drinking. It's very young. (And I'm looking at it from the younger side, so you can trust my perspective.)

Deep_DK

If it doesn't work out for you, just move to Denmark. Everyone get married in their 30's here. No need to rush

decides2dream

my middle sister married at 39. there's no *right*...just who/when is right for you.

Porchsitter

I went to college at 28, graduated at 32 and was married two months later. That was this past February. I will say that it would've been no different if we would've waited for a year or more even. I still don't think there is such a thing as being too old for anything at 30-something.

Lukin66

I know way too many people that married in their 20's and are regretting it now. I say you're right on track

just tina

its a good age. anything else really is too young.

eyedclaar

Lukin66 wrote:

I know way too many people that married in their 20's and are regretting it now. I say you're right on track

No shit! Married at 21, divorced at 25, and I want those 5 years back!

Brain of J.Lo

eyedclaar wrote:

No shit! Married at 21, divorced at 25, and I want those 5 years back!

Looks like she got the calculator in the divorce.

I kid, I kid!

eyedclaar

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

Looks like she got the calculator in the divorce.

I kid, I kid!

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Now, I don't claim to be a math guy but that spans 5 years.

Brain of J.Lo

eyedclaar wrote:

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Now, I don't claim to be a math guy but that spans 5 years.

Ugh, I didn't mean to turn this into something, lol. It just looked funny written out...know what I mean?

*sigh*

eyedclaar

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

Ugh, I didn't mean to turn this into something, lol. It just looked funny written out...know what I mean?

*sigh*

Don't be so quick to *sigh*; this hasn't turned into anything. I was just claarifying...

Brain of J.Lo

eyedclaar wrote:

Don't be so quick to *sigh*; this hasn't turned into anything. I was just claarifying...

lol. ok

chime

I'm a similar age to you and none of my friends are married a few have started getting engaged in the last year or so. Over here getting married in your 30s is pretty much the norm.