i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.
Well I'm screwed if it is.
Oh wait! That's right!! I don't care!
When in August are you going to be 29 Indian? My birthday is in August and I've got a decade on you and I've never been married. Almost made a couple of HUGE mistakes but almosts don't count anyway.
Why don't you just focus on enjoying your life and live it like you won't get married? I mean if you don't, what are you planning to do?
Learn to make your life the best life all on your own with the view to always being on your own that way if someone comes along that you want to marry it's a bonus and if not well you've already got an awesome life.
Oh and don't be worrying too much about what other people think you should have done by now, I get that all the time. Apparently once a woman reaches a certain age she's supposed to have been married at least once and spat out a coupla kids otherwise there's something wrong with her. This is something I had NO CLUE about until I started getting into the age group where it starts to happen. All I can say is I'm SOOOOO grateful I never married and had kids so far. Just be thankful you're not a woman, because people start making ticking sounds at you! :eek:
Have you thought of a Russian Mail Order/Internet Bride?
I have a friend who is butt ugly and he did this. Believe it or not the marriage is already 5 years old and still going... I told him it was a scam, but it actually worked out. I'd say do the following:
1) Create a Yahoo Account
2) Go to the Personals
3) Take a nice pic and write about yourself and place an ad in the personals
4) Shop around the meat market
5) Send emails out and feelers
6) Profit.
Have you thought of a Russian Mail Order/Internet Bride?
I have a friend who is butt ugly and he did this. Believe it or not the marriage is already 5 years old and still going... I told him it was a scam, but it actually worked out. I'd say do the following:
1) Create a Yahoo Account
2) Go to the Personals
3) Take a nice pic and write about yourself and place an ad in the personals
4) Shop around the meat market
5) Send emails out and feelers
6) Profit.
You work for them, don't you!
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
This situation might be a little more dire than I originally thought...
India's an entirely different culture that I don't think many of us know much about... we may not be able to help out here at all.
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
This situation might be a little more dire than I originally thought...
yes it is.
let me come clear and see what the responses are going to be now.
the reason why i never was on a date was that i was too fucking ugly to ever get one. i have had reconstructive surgery twice and now barely look presentable, certainly not good. and my confidence level is as low as ever. i just cant handle girls.
i hope to be getting by degree this september and then a small job. it would take be 2-3 years to become good/permanent at my job. by then i will be 32.
added : oh and by then i will be virtually placed outside the indian marriage market. few indian girls would want to marry a 32-33 year old.
I have faced it, A life wasted...
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
let me come clear and see what the responses are going to be now.
the reason why i never was on a date was that i was too fucking ugly to ever get one. i have had reconstructive surgery twice and now barely look presentable, certainly not good. and my confidence level is as low as ever. i just cant handle girls.
i hope to be getting by degree this september and then a small job. it would take be 2-3 years to become good/permanent at my job. by then i will be 32.
added : oh and by then i will be virtually placed outside the indian marriage market. few indian girls would want to marry a 32-33 year old.
Nope, but I thought it had disaster written all over that marriage. I guess I was wrong. But if I were you, I would do the match.com or yahoo personal thing. There are a ton of chicks to meet that way. I have another friend who does this and let's just say he likes to shop and test out the goods.
added : oh and by then i will be virtually placed outside the indian marriage market. few indian girls would want to marry a 32-33 year old.
so basically you feel like you need to be rich to lure a girl into marrying you? :(
And I think you answered your own question (well I hope not) cos you know more about Indian culture than (I'm guessing) most of us who've answered here :(
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
so basically you feel like you need to be rich to lure a girl into marrying you? :(
And I think you answered your own question (well I hope not) cos you know more about Indian culture than (I'm guessing) most of us who've answered here :(
not rich, but young. 32-33 is considered "old" by indian women.
so yes, i dont think there would be too many indian girls willing to marry me.
I have faced it, A life wasted...
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
If that's the case, surely you can worry less about the job/money side of things. Not suggesting that all Indian women are money grabbers but maybe a steady income is higher on a list of attributes? So you can stop worrying about that for starters.
Not too late at all... I married at 32. It also helped that my wife was 23 at the time
My whole life
was like a picture
of a sunny day
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
― Abraham Lincoln
depressed about the fact that i am almost 29, without a career, without a girl friend, and am unlikely to have a steady career or gf anytime soon. not before 32-33 at least.
Someone else had a similar post a few months back and I typed up a pretty good response. Let me see if I can find it b/c I don't know if I have those words in me at the moment.
Edit: Okay, found it. This guy was going through a divorce, so ignore the "ex" stuff. However, the fundamentals are the same, as far as your depression, self-esteem, and wanting to get through it to a better place.
i guess my original question should have been, would any woman be likely to want to marry a 32-33 year old who has had aesthetic surgery. i know very few indian girls would.
but if thinks work out well for me, i should be in australia by 30-31.
I have faced it, A life wasted...
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
i guess my original question should have been, would any woman be likely to want to marry a 32-33 year old who has had aesthetic surgery. i know very few indian girls would.
Well it's happened before. You're not the only one whose had surgery, has burn scars and has a partner.
i guess my original question should have been, would any woman be likely to want to marry a 32-33 year old who has had aesthetic surgery. i know very few indian girls would.
but if thinks work out well for me, i should be in australia by 30-31.
You've got absolutely nothing to worry about my friend. There's nothing to rush into. Like you said, you've got other things to worry about right now as far as getting a career, possibly relocating. Just continue to live life. Do things you've always wanted to do first. Make it all worth while and then when you're set, that's when you can settle things down.
Chances are when this blows over in your mind, and you're not worried about whether you'll get married or not, you're gonna come across somebody that's going to spark something in you and that'll be the beginning of a great future for you.
Age has nothing to do with it man. I know I've said it before, and a lot of people say it and it sounds cliche, but it's just a number. You can be full of life and swoon anyone over at any age. It's all just a matter of your preferences and who you find. I mean hell, the best time I've had with a girl recently was in her upper 30's and she was faaaaaar more exciting than most people I hang out that are around my age or younger. So it'll all come full circle for you in the end.
lol..yeah I probably shouldn't have said that. I'm not down on marriage really, I'm a bit jaded perhaps
Hey. It happens to the best of us. Hang in there.
Oh and don't worry...we can stand back to back and fend off all the (un)happily married folk here.
Side note: Indian Summer. Don't let this talk fool you. We're just crazy fanatical's. Please get married still and live happily ever after. Just make sure you find the right one and you're ready.
In all due respect, you either haven't read this thread very well or you just don't know what the hell you are talking about.
The guy is having self esteem issues because of injuries & subsequent surgeries to his skin. Getting himself in shape will only help him reach is fuller potential, not to mention increased energy, health, etc. Also the release of hormones that eases depression and make you happier in general. It's not just some vanity thing.
In all due respect, you either haven't read this thread very well or you just don't know what the hell you are talking about.
The guy is having self esteem issues because of injuries & subsequent surgeries to his skin. Getting himself in shape will only help him reach is fuller potential, not to mention increased energy, health, etc. Also the release of hormones that eases depression and make you happier in general. It's not just some vanity thing.
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Well I'm screwed if it is.
Oh wait! That's right!! I don't care!
When in August are you going to be 29 Indian? My birthday is in August and I've got a decade on you and I've never been married. Almost made a couple of HUGE mistakes but almosts don't count anyway.
Why don't you just focus on enjoying your life and live it like you won't get married? I mean if you don't, what are you planning to do?
Learn to make your life the best life all on your own with the view to always being on your own that way if someone comes along that you want to marry it's a bonus and if not well you've already got an awesome life.
Oh and don't be worrying too much about what other people think you should have done by now, I get that all the time. Apparently once a woman reaches a certain age she's supposed to have been married at least once and spat out a coupla kids otherwise there's something wrong with her. This is something I had NO CLUE about until I started getting into the age group where it starts to happen. All I can say is I'm SOOOOO grateful I never married and had kids so far. Just be thankful you're not a woman, because people start making ticking sounds at you! :eek:
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The currents will shift
I have a friend who is butt ugly and he did this. Believe it or not the marriage is already 5 years old and still going... I told him it was a scam, but it actually worked out. I'd say do the following:
1) Create a Yahoo Account
2) Go to the Personals
3) Take a nice pic and write about yourself and place an ad in the personals
4) Shop around the meat market
5) Send emails out and feelers
6) Profit.
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
This situation might be a little more dire than I originally thought...
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Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
let me come clear and see what the responses are going to be now.
the reason why i never was on a date was that i was too fucking ugly to ever get one. i have had reconstructive surgery twice and now barely look presentable, certainly not good. and my confidence level is as low as ever. i just cant handle girls.
i hope to be getting by degree this september and then a small job. it would take be 2-3 years to become good/permanent at my job. by then i will be 32.
added : oh and by then i will be virtually placed outside the indian marriage market. few indian girls would want to marry a 32-33 year old.
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
Are you set on marrying an Indian girl?
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Hold on to the thread
The currents will shift
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Nope, but I thought it had disaster written all over that marriage. I guess I was wrong. But if I were you, I would do the match.com or yahoo personal thing. There are a ton of chicks to meet that way. I have another friend who does this and let's just say he likes to shop and test out the goods.
And I think you answered your own question (well I hope not) cos you know more about Indian culture than (I'm guessing) most of us who've answered here :(
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
so yes, i dont think there would be too many indian girls willing to marry me.
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
If that's the case, surely you can worry less about the job/money side of things. Not suggesting that all Indian women are money grabbers but maybe a steady income is higher on a list of attributes? So you can stop worrying about that for starters.
was like a picture
of a sunny day
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
― Abraham Lincoln
I thought you got married?
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
Ahhhhhh. I had you confused with someone else as well. My apologies. I wondered why you suddenly became a much nicer person.
Someone else had a similar post a few months back and I typed up a pretty good response. Let me see if I can find it b/c I don't know if I have those words in me at the moment.
Edit: Okay, found it. This guy was going through a divorce, so ignore the "ex" stuff. However, the fundamentals are the same, as far as your depression, self-esteem, and wanting to get through it to a better place.
http://forums.pearljam.com/showpost.php?p=5091343&postcount=29
i guess my original question should have been, would any woman be likely to want to marry a 32-33 year old who has had aesthetic surgery. i know very few indian girls would.
but if thinks work out well for me, i should be in australia by 30-31.
Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
Well it's happened before. You're not the only one whose had surgery, has burn scars and has a partner.
You've got absolutely nothing to worry about my friend. There's nothing to rush into. Like you said, you've got other things to worry about right now as far as getting a career, possibly relocating. Just continue to live life. Do things you've always wanted to do first. Make it all worth while and then when you're set, that's when you can settle things down.
Chances are when this blows over in your mind, and you're not worried about whether you'll get married or not, you're gonna come across somebody that's going to spark something in you and that'll be the beginning of a great future for you.
Age has nothing to do with it man. I know I've said it before, and a lot of people say it and it sounds cliche, but it's just a number. You can be full of life and swoon anyone over at any age. It's all just a matter of your preferences and who you find. I mean hell, the best time I've had with a girl recently was in her upper 30's and she was faaaaaar more exciting than most people I hang out that are around my age or younger. So it'll all come full circle for you in the end.
Agreed. But I'm done bringing that topic up. I've been yelled at enough. :eek:
lol..yeah I probably shouldn't have said that. I'm not down on marriage really, I'm a bit jaded perhaps
Hey. It happens to the best of us.
Oh and don't worry...we can stand back to back and fend off all the (un)happily married folk here.
Side note: Indian Summer. Don't let this talk fool you. We're just crazy fanatical's. Please get married still and live happily ever after. Just make sure you find the right one and you're ready.
Yea, muscle love.
creepy...
In all due respect, you either haven't read this thread very well or you just don't know what the hell you are talking about.
The guy is having self esteem issues because of injuries & subsequent surgeries to his skin. Getting himself in shape will only help him reach is fuller potential, not to mention increased energy, health, etc. Also the release of hormones that eases depression and make you happier in general. It's not just some vanity thing.
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=exercise%2C+mental+benefits
You are correct, I haven't read the whole thread.