is 33 too late to marry?

intodeep

Chime wrote:

I'm a similar age to you and none of my friends are married a few have started getting engaged in the last year or so. Over here getting married in your 30s is pretty much the norm.

I'm 30 and i'm the last man standing virtually. All my friends got married around 25-28 and now it is baby popping time.

I have 4 friends who's wives are all preggo.

:( its depressing i'm still single.

Pacomc79

intodeep wrote:

I'm 30 and i'm the last man standing virtually. All my friends got married around 25-28 and now it is baby popping time.

I have 4 friends who's wives are all preggo.

:( its depressing i'm still single.

no way man you're in Atlanta. Life is GOOD, you just may not think so it right now.

LONGRD

IndianSummer wrote:

well thanks everyone for their pep talk. what doesnt help is that most of my friends are married/will get married soon. for people from india, 28-29 is the upper limit of marriageable age.

anyway i would love to hear more opinions. could do my state of mind some good. thanks everyone.

I'm feel your pain and am in the same boat...though I just turned 26...hopefully there's someone out there for a Morrissey-type guy like me.

A bit macho and a bit feminine.

Ledbetterman10

IndianSummer wrote:

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

you really don't know the answer to this?

facepollution

I'm 27 in a few days and I'm still single, and still have no proper career, so pretty much in the same boat - made even worse by the fact that one of my best mates from school got married the other day. But I've come to realise that no amount of stressing about things is going to change my situation. I know it's cliche, but you never know what tomorrow will bring.

Whizbang

riffrandall wrote:

Honestly? I think it is borderline too EARLY to marry. I went to 26 weddings of good friends in my 20s and early 30s, and every marriage except 3 ended in divorce. Hello!
I'm older than you are and I'm a girl, and I'm just getting to the point where I think it might be time to get married.
If no one wants to marry me, that's fine, I'll just continue my life of doing whatever I want whenever I want.

amen to this! Listen to this woman! Seriously, I got married at 25....I'm now divorced. Funny thing is that both my ex and I are friends now and both of us totally agree that people should wait until at least 30 to get married. You're getting to know yourself, you're establishing your career....all the things you're doing right now, IndianSummer. So no, 33 is not too old to get married....not at all. Live your life for you right now, a good woman will find you.

mattcozea

My uncle got married for the first time in his 50s, so it's definitely not too late. I'm 27 and have no intention of marrying any time soon.

weenie

Excuse me, but what the fuck? Who says anyone should get married anyway? Society that's who, and all the people who are miserable and want you to be miserable too. Do a little freethinking would ya? You don't need to have a piece of paper to be involved in a loving, giving relationship.

Now if you want to have kids, that's a different story - don't want them running around being called little bastards etc. However, I think too many people have kids because it's "expected" or they want to re-create themselves. Join Big Brothers/Big Sisters and give some kid who needs a role model/friend the biggest gift he could ever receive.

brain of c

i'm married, first time. i was 44 when i said i do.

Corduroyboy

Go get married at any age. Personally I feel the longer you wait the better. Don't wait till you are 90, but you got time. But if you aren't going on dates regularly, you better start worrying!

libragirl

IndianSummer wrote:

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

For some reason I thought you were married already. No 33 isn't too old. But then again Im biased because I'm 33 and was engaged...but yeah I won't go into that. I know people in their 40s or 50s who got married for the first time. The only bad thing is if you want children, that could be complicated if you are older.

StateOfLoveBoatCptn.

IndianSummer wrote:

is 33 too late to marry?

sure hope not....

corduroy85

Man, 33 is definitely not too late to get married. I would tell the same thing to a girl. Because getting married is an act that's supposed to acknowledge one another's feelings and it doesn' matter how old you are.

And it doesn't really matter that some of your friends got married before you. It's just a matter of time. Plus each one of us has its own road.

So cheer up;)

writersu

IndianSummer wrote:

i am going to be 29 this august. i dont have a steady career yet. it will take me 2-3 years to get a steady career. only then can i think of marriage. but by then i will be 32-33. is that too late to marry. would there be anyone willing to marry me.

Well, "Ellie May how long can we keep telling people you are fifteen?"


Hell no. You will be settled and will know yourself better. Maybe you will not settle for a jerk. You have your entire life ahead of you and if you still wanted to have kids, you still are young enough at 33.

Why do you think you are too old? And no one will want you? No way. A lot of people get better with age. A lot of people just age with age. Pick your future. You know?

sponger

Some chicks dig older men. I personally know a very hot chick in her late 20's who married a guy who looks mid-40's. I haven't asked her how old he is, but he looks much older than she is. And, again, she's hot. She's also educated and has a career.

If I had to make my sigmund freud guess, I'd say it's because her Dad abandoned her and her mom at an early age. It wasn't until her mid-teens that he reappeared in her life. Maybe she thinks she's marrying her Dad. Works out for her hubby pretty good anyway.

LikeAnOcean

IndianSummer wrote:

depressed about the fact that i am almost 29, without a career, without a girl friend, and am unlikely to have a steady career or gf anytime soon. not before 32-33 at least.

Dude, don't worry! I'm 29 too.. Still trying to figure how what I want to do as a career, no girlfriend.. We are still kids.. I've never heard of an age limit on marriage. I've heard average age is 27, but that's taking into account all the people who no education who were forced into early marriage because of unplanned pregnancy.. I'm sure the average age for secure people planning their future carefully is much higher.. don't people still getting married up into their 80s?

Really, as far as marriage I think anything under 30 is too young. Not every case, but in most cases. I've changed a lot since my early 20s. I went from being conservative to liberal. My taste in music changed. The way I dress changed. My view on life changed. When people get married too early, but are still developing into themselves, they can change apart.

I won't lie. I'm depressed a little too. All of my friends are either married, getting married, or in a long term relationship. As a kid I thought I'd be married by 24.. but I'm still a kid and there's nothing wrong with that.

But seriously, if you look at succesfull rich people, they aren't doing the marriage thing until atleast, ATLEAST their 30s.. I see rich people in their 40s and 50s caring for little kids they just had.

Heineken Helen

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

I wish people wouldn't get into a mindset of the "right" time/age to do something. Just let life happen.

33 isn't too old to do anything...except maybe get arrested for underage drinking. It's very young. (And I'm looking at it from the younger side, so you can trust my perspective.)

I agree completely. When my parents split up my dad started going out with another woman a few months later... he was early 50s and it's been ten years now.

My boyfriends parents too are split up and his dad has a new girlfriend at the moment.

You're taking the mature route... things will happen when you're ready for them. at least you can admit you're not ready yet, nothing wrong with that!

Heineken Helen

IndianSummer wrote:

really am i likely to find anyone willing to marry me at 33 odd???

I think the unanimous answer here is:

As likely as you are at any age! Yes!

EddiE

I can understand where India is coming from. I'm 36, have a 3 1/2 year old son from a previous relationship, been close to getting married twice, in my late teens and early 20's, but it's just never felt right. I'm waiting for the right girl to come along, and in the meantime, fairly happy to be single. There's no rush, and I wouldn't let it bother you at 29.

dunkman

hey that really old guy married that big boobed porno woman when he was about 83... ok so he was a billionaire... and yeah he died a few months later.. and yeah she was a money grabbing whore with giant titties... and yes the whole family fell out about the will and then the porno woman died a few years later..... so if that doesnt cheer you up.. nothing will.