ever do something drunk you really regret?

tara

seagoat2 wrote:

Maybe you should apologize to him personally & let him know that it wasn't a big deal to you & that you don't have any designs on his girl....?

NO NO NO!! bad idea, it was a mistake, the bf doesn't need to know, it will needlessly complicate things. you'll start by saying 'it didn't mean anything', and you will be sincere, but how could he not be upset? everyone always talks about honesty being the best policy, but i'm not sure that it is. oh, and i've done the same shit that you did, and i've now made it a rule to never hook up with someone that i know is involved, i know that it's not your responsibility, but it's still on your conscience.

oh, and was this the girl that got you the cool xmas gift?

tara

mdigenakis wrote:

show this to him^
he'll be pissed in all likelyhood, but you and your friend are guilt free.

you'll be guilt free, but the bf will be tormented, i think it's now your responsibility to deal with the guilt. you can't expect to kiss someone's gf, AND rid yourself of the guilt, it doesn't work that way.

on a different note, back 6 yrs ago, i hooked up with this guy that i knew was sort of dating someone ('i'm going to break up with her any day now'), the girl found out, we were at a party, she threw her beer at me, i went home with said guy. we both broke it off with him the next week.

she is now my best friend, and has been for about 5 years now.

coco butter

Is she hot? If she is... give him props for having such a hot girl friend and give him a high five! Success!

bostonlou

coco butter wrote:

Is she hot? If she is... give him props for having such a hot girl friend and give him a high five! Success!

great post... i don't laugh out loud much



i say

1) the guy hasn't "accepted" it.... how can you "accidentally" hook up?

2) he's going to punch you in the face


so after he punches you... offer him to sniff your finger

Low_Light03

I was too drunk to remember to go inside the Forum in LA for Eddie's preset in July. I missed an acoustic version of Porch.


I got kicked out of the Troubadour in Los Angeles earlier this year cause I was drunk and under age.

Earthgirl

mca47 wrote:

You went off a cliff? :eek:
How big was the cliff?

big enough to go end over end about 10x. It was in British Columbia on mountain road... around where I grew up. Kimberley BC... near there.

Byrnzie

Snog him aswell so that he doesn't feel left out! :cool:

tara

Earthgirl wrote:

big enough to go end over end about 10x. It was in British Columbia on mountain road... around where I grew up. Kimberley BC... near there.

dude, you're the luckiest woman alive. did your friend survive?
i'm so sorry that happened to you.
i still have friends who drink and drive, it's one of the few things that gets me in a rage, i asked this guy to promise me he'd never do it again (he's one of those suburban boys in a tricked out car that blasts his stereo to nickleback and other crap), and he said that he couldn't do that. he knows he's going to have to drive home, why does he have to drink, i don't understand what the problem is.
your case is different though, it's usually safe to assume that you're sober the next day.

satansbedbugs

Jeremy1012 wrote:

last night I was at a friend's house with her and two other friends. we were having a good time, I'd had a few drinks and usual I was all relaxed and happy with everyone. me and one of my friends were sat on a sofa and were all cuddling and stuff.

Now I should make it clear that, while I do find her attractive and she is one of my closest friends, she is a no-go. She has been in a relationship with one of my friends for about 2 years. after a while we were getting more drunk (but not so drunk that I wasn't in control of myself) and when the two other friends left the room for a bit we kissed. unfortunately it wasn't just a quick thing we could brush off because it happened several times and I certainly made no attempt to stop it. I was thinking at the time that it was wrong, that I should stop and just make a joke out of it (and to be honest it was just a bit of fun between close friends).

This morning (I slept alone by the way ) things were a little awkward which I later found out was because she was feeling guilty about her boyfriend. Both of us are well aware that it meant nothing and we are just good friends who are comfortable in each others company. however, she felt that she had to tell her boyfriend what happened. she told a variation of the truth that made it seem like an accident and he accepted it now. the thing is, I like the guy a lot and even though it was just a kiss and meant nothing, I don't think I'm going to be able to look him in the eye from now on knowing that we are both kind of lying to him. at the same time, I can't now tell the actual truth because that will make it seem like it was a big enough deal to have to cover it up. I don't really know what to do. any advice?

I did the same thing only it went all the way to the bedroom. alcohol is the devil.. oh, and her boyfriend never found out. just swept it under the rug...sbb

V V

only had a couple of snogs while very drunk with a friend , that was along time ago now ! i'm a good married girl

coco butter

What is a snog? Is that like sex or a hand job? I want to use that word... SNOG!

V V

coco butter wrote:

What is a snog? Is that like sex or a hand job? I want to use that word... SNOG!

:eek:
haha no its only open mouth kissing with tongues !!!!!!! or french kissing ! i think is the same , but yeah in UK thats a SNOG hahahaha

coco butter

V V wrote:

:eek:
haha no its only open mouth kissing with tongues !!!!!!! or french kissing ! i think is the same , but yeah in UK thats a SNOG hahahaha

Snog... very cool. Thanks!

Hawkshore

soulsinging wrote:

how is it not the truth? it sounds like she told him it was harmless and you say it was harmless. it was only a kiss, dont beat yourself up over it.

new year's eve a few years ago i took some lsd and down about a dozen shots of vodka, all while smoking copius amounts of pot. i had a gf who was out of town. i met a girl at a party, gave her a fake name, took her to my gf's apt so she couldnt find me later, and fucked her on the couch before dropping her back off at the party. i didnt even know her name and i never said a word about it to my gf. this is one of my milder regrets.

so yeah, we've all done things we regret while wasted. if this is the worst you ever do, consider yourself lucky.

Hey at least you showed some class and didn't do her on your girlfriend’s bed!!!

Blanche

If I have to regret the next day what I did the night before, I obviously didn't have enough to drink.

sennin

V V wrote:

:eek:
haha no its only open mouth kissing with tongues !!!!!!! or french kissing ! i think is the same , but yeah in UK thats a SNOG hahahaha

ROFL!!

Much more innocent than "snogging" sounds.

CJMST3K

coco butter wrote:

Snog... very cool. Thanks!

I'm heterosexual, but I could go for a snog, a shag and a fag.

coco butter

CJMST3K wrote:

I'm heterosexual, but I could go for a snog, a shag and a fag.

I could go for a Arby's milkshake! They are really good!

mdigenakis

bostonlou wrote:

great post... i don't laugh out loud much



i say

1) the guy hasn't "accepted" it.... how can you "accidentally" hook up?

2) he's going to punch you in the face


so after he punches you... offer him to sniff your finger

score!
high fives all around.

Whizbang

Jeremy1012 wrote:

last night I was at a friend's house with her and two other friends. we were having a good time, I'd had a few drinks and usual I was all relaxed and happy with everyone. me and one of my friends were sat on a sofa and were all cuddling and stuff.

Now I should make it clear that, while I do find her attractive and she is one of my closest friends, she is a no-go. She has been in a relationship with one of my friends for about 2 years. after a while we were getting more drunk (but not so drunk that I wasn't in control of myself) and when the two other friends left the room for a bit we kissed. unfortunately it wasn't just a quick thing we could brush off because it happened several times and I certainly made no attempt to stop it. I was thinking at the time that it was wrong, that I should stop and just make a joke out of it (and to be honest it was just a bit of fun between close friends).

This morning (I slept alone by the way ) things were a little awkward which I later found out was because she was feeling guilty about her boyfriend. Both of us are well aware that it meant nothing and we are just good friends who are comfortable in each others company. however, she felt that she had to tell her boyfriend what happened. she told a variation of the truth that made it seem like an accident and he accepted it now. the thing is, I like the guy a lot and even though it was just a kiss and meant nothing, I don't think I'm going to be able to look him in the eye from now on knowing that we are both kind of lying to him. at the same time, I can't now tell the actual truth because that will make it seem like it was a big enough deal to have to cover it up. I don't really know what to do. any advice?

you both told him about it, better than hiding it. I will say, I have a close friendship with a guy friend from high school. After 20yrs of knowing him, he's probably one of my best friends. Regardless of how close we are as friends, neither of us are interested in each other romantically and something like this wouldn't happen. I have a couple other guy friends. I occasionnally have a beer or two with them, chat via email or phone. But I don't put myself in any position that gives them the idea I might be interested in more. Sorry but chillin' for dinner at my place or cuddling on a couch at a party gives the wrong idea. No matter whether you think it's just friends or how innocent you may think it is, it gives the wrong idea. just my two cents.