The "I'm Actually in a Fucking Healthy and Happy Relationship/Marriage." Thread

The Champ

decides2dream wrote:

it *IS* different, period. it is a different level of commitment. obviously, many disagree...and so be it. whether you agree to it or not...it just IS, for MANY of us. and not i said 'different' not 'better'.......simply different.....

and no, i don't need retail therapy or ANY therapy actually. not that there's anything wrong with therapy...i did find it beneficial in the past. that said......

this thread is about people happy in their relationships/marriages...not about what makes a marriage *different*.....it simply IS what you want it to be, or not.


all i can say is it's one of those things you have to experience first-hand to truly *know*....and hey, it's a-ok if one doesn't want to either. i think having children is the same in that sense, and no...i don't want to *know* about that firsthand, i'll just believe that it IS different...:p


champ....well done.
and nice thread!



we shall toast you and your bride on your happy day....along with celebrating mr. dream's birthday.

Agreed with the above, and believe me I'll drink enough that day to toast everyone here ..

GreenTeaDisease

The Champ wrote:

Greentea, seriously why do you always feel the need to pick a fight? Markymark along with everyone else couldn't care less about your so called expert advice/opinion..Perhaps you should focus on getting yourself better instead of shitting in everyone's cheerios..just a thought..

dude, I'm not picking a fight, nor am I shitting on any cereal. I'm just talking here. I can't help it if this guy is wrong. he deserves to be corrected. and no, it is not a matter of opinion. Being married and owning a house and being single and renting an apartment DO NOT go together. As I mentioned earlier the largest group of people buying houses in the US is single women. I alone know *8* single people who own houses/condos in their late 20s, early 30s. I alone know just as many married couples who rent apartments. I am single, and I rent, but I rent a house. and sometime I might buy a house if the situation warrants it, but it won't have anything to do with getting married. Some people need to be educated out their closed, prejudiced minds.

fanch75

decides2dream wrote:

i TRULY mean this:

it makes me HAPPY to read this from you!


i remember all you went through, so i am GLAD to know you found your way and found happiness! kudos...and ALL the best to you and your future wife!

I appreciate that, D2D. Seriously. I went through what I had to go through so I could get to where I am today! I believe that firmly.

To quote American Pie, "Here's to the next step!"

edit ps - bytchez styll ain't shyt

edvedder913

in_hiding79 wrote:

We have been married for three years and been together for eleven since our Junior year of high school!!

oh that is adorable.....

and for the record, I would guess that those in the "raise your hand if you're divorced" thread would much rather be posting on this thread. but just have not met that "right" person ahemmm

markymark550

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

...as for you not caring about having irrational prejudices...well, you're lucky you found someone who will tolerate that.

irrational prejudices?

Where the fuck do get off saying that? You don't know me or my situation, so try knowing me before saying that.

Sea

topic integrity please

thanks

fanch75

Sea wrote:

topic integrity please

thanks

You can't take these peoplez anywhere, can you, Sea?

GreenTeaDisease

markymark550 wrote:

great way of not using the whole context of my previous post...the part you cut out was that it was that way for me

I made no generalization for any other married couple or single person. I was only stating the fact for my specific case. I know that you get off on making generalizations and arguing with others about the ones you don't agree with, but since I was stating the facts for only my situation so there's nothing for you to argue here.

well you never gave a real explanation of why getting married and buying a house were equated FOR YOU. All the reasons you gave for buying a house directly apply to single people as well.

iluvcats

me! me! we've been happily married for nearly 11 years. WHY? because I follow these rules in my marriage:

The 1950's Wife - from a 1950's Home Economics

The following is from a 1950's Home Economics textbook intended for
High School girls, teaching how to prepare for married life.

1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a
delicious meal -- on time. This is a way of letting him know that you
have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most
men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are
part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed
when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be
fresh looking. He has just been with alot of work-weary people. Be a
little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a
lift.

3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of
the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books,
toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband
will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give
you a lift, too.

4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's
hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary,
change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to
see them playing the part.

5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise
of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children
to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be
glad to see him.

6. Some Don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't
complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with
what he might have gone through that day.

7. Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or
suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for
him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a
low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

8. Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the
moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

9. Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to
dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand
his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

10. The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where
your husband can relax.

GreenTeaDisease

markymark550 wrote:

irrational prejudices?

Where the fuck do get off saying that? You don't know me or my situation, so try knowing me before saying that.

you said that you don't care that you are stereotyping. YOU said it, not me.

The Champ

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

you said that you don't care that you are stereotyping. YOU said it, not me.

Pleae refer to Sea's comment. Thanks for ruining yet another thread..Enjoy the rest of your evening ..

markymark550

Sorry for derailing the thread.

It's great to see people in happy and committed relationships. Kudos to everyone that is in one.

The Champ

markymark550 wrote:

Sorry for derailing the thread.

It's great to see people in happy and committed relationships. Kudos to everyone that is in one.

You didn't derail it, greentea did as per usual. Take it easy Dirk..

decides2dream

The Champ wrote:

Agreed with the above, and believe me I'll drink enough that day to toast everyone here ..

careful there...you want to start off your marriage HAPPILY.


TOO much alcohol on the wedding day not too wise.


just sayin'.



btw - it IS so nice to se many say they are in happy relationships. sure, not EVERY day will be great, but it never would be anyway eh? so to at least have someone in your life, on 'your side' so to speak...who loves you and you them.......*gets all misty*



haha.


it's true tho!
it's a GREAT thing!

The Champ

fanch75 wrote:

I appreciate that, D2D. Seriously. I went through what I had to go through so I could get to where I am today! I believe that firmly.

To quote American Pie, "Here's to the next step!"

edit ps - bytchez styll ain't shyt

Good stuff Fanch..I think we have all been hurt at some point or another..

in_hiding79

I haven't had a bad day yet.....we have too much fun to argue.....

except when I was going to go and cut my hair....he got more nervous then angry though!! heheh

CHANGEinWAVES

edvedder913 wrote:

oh that is adorable.....

and for the record, I would guess that those in the "raise your hand if you're divorced" thread would much rather be posting on this thread. but just have not met that "right" person ahemmm

i thought i did....together 10 years...married 6. like the previous poster..together since high school. :(

in_hiding79

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

i thought i did....together 10 years...married 6. like the previous poster..together since high school. :(

I'm sorry to hear that!! :(

The Champ

decides2dream wrote:

careful there...you want to start off your marriage HAPPILY.


TOO much alcohol on the wedding day not too wise.


just sayin'.



btw - it IS so nice to se many say they are in happy relationships. sure, not EVERY day will be great, but it never would be anyway eh? so to at least have someone in your life, on 'your side' so to speak...who loves you and you them.......*gets all misty*



haha.


it's true tho!
it's a GREAT thing!

The deal is, I won't start drinking at least till after the ceremony and one hour into the reception. Then all bets are off and once the old folks leave we'll be pumping the gansta and turning the place into an all out club..Fanch would fit right in ..and btw, not all days are peachy, but the good ones make up for them..

decides2dream

fanch75 wrote:

I appreciate that, D2D. Seriously. I went through what I had to go through so I could get to where I am today! I believe that firmly.

i 100% believe in it too.....and have lived, and felt the same in my own life. we all may go different roads, but hopefully we all find the one for us that leads to happiness.




and changes. ....:(....ya know, that really is the scary/beautiful thing about it all eh? you just....don't.......know. ever. NO one is immune. you just can't say oh we're together X years, we are rock-solid...b/c that may be, today.....but who knows about tomorrow? just always try, but none the less.....why it's sooooo important to love and cherish the good times!