The "I'm Actually in a Fucking Healthy and Happy Relationship/Marriage." Thread

Dissidentman

The Champ wrote:

Just give it a few years ..

Amen

GreenTeaDisease

eyedclaar wrote:

What do you mean, huh?

huh???

he just said "ok I'll be nice" and I don't know what he meant.

markymark550

The Champ wrote:

Just give it a few years ..

well, we've been together for over 5 years now, but only married for 5 months

GreenTeaDisease

The Champ wrote:

Lucky for you I'm in a good mood ..

wtf! what the hell are you talking about!

The Champ

decides2dream wrote:

thank you!



seriously....when i saw a lot of the posts in the 'raise your hand if you're divorced' thread...i SO thought of starting it's flip-side thread. but then i rethought it....b/c wouldn't want it to seem like rubbing salt in the wound? however....you're RIGHT......it's a-ok, not rubbing it in, just saying that YES...there are PLENTY of people in happy, commited relationships. not saying every single day was/is rosy....but here we are, still together, still in love. of course.....there are NO absolutes, one never knows......



however, right now.....HELL YES....you are not alone!

be celebrating 16 years of marriage the weekend of the DC show....gonna be a BLAST! the show, and the celebration.

Nice, congrats!! So I'm getting married next month and is it really true that I can never again have sex with anyone aside from my lovely wife? According to her, this is the case..:(

GreenTeaDisease

markymark550 wrote:

well, we've been together for over 5 years now, but only married for 5 months

so, now how is it any different being married rather than just being "together"? You get to file taxes jointly?

I always have to laugh at people who think their whole lives are going to change when they get married after living with the same person for 5 years. it's not 1950, people have sex before marriage, live together before marriage, and move out of their parents' house before marriage. they're setting themselves up for a lot of retail therapy.

Dissidentman

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

wtf! what the hell are you talking about!

Quick to anger... not good for the long term relationship...

The Champ

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

wtf! what the hell are you talking about!

Have a nice day and enjoy the warm weather ..

GreenTeaDisease

dissidentman wrote:

Quick to anger... not good for the long term relationship...

I'm not angry just confused

GreenTeaDisease

The Champ wrote:

Have a nice day and enjoy the warm weather ..

I seriously feel like there is a joke I'm not getting...

Dissidentman

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I'm not angry just confused

Not being able to recognize when you are angry... Strike 2

GreenTeaDisease

dissidentman wrote:

Not being able to recognize when you are angry... Strike 2

now there's another joke I'm not getting :(

markymark550

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

so, now how is it any different being married rather than just being "together"? You get to file taxes jointly?

We didn't live together before getting married, so that's been an adjustment. I have had to deal with her family more now than before. Used to be that if she went to her parents house, I might or might not go, but now I make the trip too unless something drastic comes up. Buying the house that we live in has been a huge difference than when we were single and dating. It's more of a change that you realize, but it's been a good change.

The Champ

dissidentman wrote:

Quick to anger... not good for the long term relationship...

lol

markymark550

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I always have to laugh at people who think their whole lives are going to change when they get married after living with the same person for 5 years. it's not 1950, people have sex before marriage, live together before marriage, and move out of their parents' house before marriage. they're setting themselves up for a lot of retail therapy.

you shouldn't assume that was the case, because it wasn't for me....

The Champ

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I seriously feel like there is a joke I'm not getting...

For starters, there is a couple in the sentence you quoted alone ..

decides2dream

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

so, now how is it any different being married rather than just being "together"? You get to file taxes jointly?

I always have to laugh at people who think their whole lives are going to change when they get married after living with the same person for 5 years. it's not 1950, people have sex before marriage, live together before marriage, and move out of their parents' house before marriage. they're setting themselves up for a lot of retail therapy.

it *IS* different, period. it is a different level of commitment. obviously, many disagree...and so be it. whether you agree to it or not...it just IS, for MANY of us. and not i said 'different' not 'better'.......simply different.....

and no, i don't need retail therapy or ANY therapy actually. not that there's anything wrong with therapy...i did find it beneficial in the past. that said......

this thread is about people happy in their relationships/marriages...not about what makes a marriage *different*.....it simply IS what you want it to be, or not.


all i can say is it's one of those things you have to experience first-hand to truly *know*....and hey, it's a-ok if one doesn't want to either. i think having children is the same in that sense, and no...i don't want to *know* about that firsthand, i'll just believe that it IS different...:p


champ....well done.
and nice thread!



we shall toast you and your bride on your happy day....along with celebrating mr. dream's birthday.

GreenTeaDisease

markymark550 wrote:

We didn't live together before getting married, so that's been an adjustment. I have had to deal with her family more now than before. Used to be that if she went to her parents house, I might or might not go, but now I make the trip too unless something drastic comes up. Buying the house that we live in has been a huge difference than when we were single and dating. It's more of a change that you realize, but it's been a good change.

well, buying a house has nothing to do with getting married. the largest group of home buyers in the US in the past few years has been single women.

I get the living together thing if you haven't already been doing it. I was speaking more generally there. it's rare for people not to live together now! but the amount at which you see the other's family doesn't necessarily have to change.

markymark550

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well, buying a house has nothing to do with getting married. the largest group of home buyers in the US in the past few years has been single women.

I get the living together thing if you haven't already been doing it. I was speaking more generally there. it's rare for people not to live together now!

Yes, buying a house did have everything to do with getting married for me. If I was still single I would be living in an apartment and probably never have any notion of buying a house.

I know you were making a generalization, but more often than not your generalizations cause lots of arguments and I don't feel like doing that right now.

decides2dream

The Champ wrote:

Nice, congrats!! So I'm getting married next month and is it really true that I can never again have sex with anyone aside from my lovely wife? According to her, this is the case..:(

see:
http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=279408


possible?
i don't know.......



haha.


there are ALL kinds of different marriages out there. some may be able to do so, others not...others don't want to. it's all CHOICE. so, it does sound as if your bride has laid down the law, up to you to decide if it's terms you can abide.




(i think you better! she's well worth it!)