so, now how is it any different being married rather than just being "together"? You get to file taxes jointly?
We didn't live together before getting married, so that's been an adjustment. I have had to deal with her family more now than before. Used to be that if she went to her parents house, I might or might not go, but now I make the trip too unless something drastic comes up. Buying the house that we live in has been a huge difference than when we were single and dating. It's more of a change that you realize, but it's been a good change.
Quick to anger... not good for the long term relationship...
lol
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
I always have to laugh at people who think their whole lives are going to change when they get married after living with the same person for 5 years. it's not 1950, people have sex before marriage, live together before marriage, and move out of their parents' house before marriage. they're setting themselves up for a lot of retail therapy.
you shouldn't assume that was the case, because it wasn't for me....
I seriously feel like there is a joke I'm not getting...
For starters, there is a couple in the sentence you quoted alone ..
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
so, now how is it any different being married rather than just being "together"? You get to file taxes jointly?
I always have to laugh at people who think their whole lives are going to change when they get married after living with the same person for 5 years. it's not 1950, people have sex before marriage, live together before marriage, and move out of their parents' house before marriage. they're setting themselves up for a lot of retail therapy.
it *IS* different, period. it is a different level of commitment. obviously, many disagree...and so be it. whether you agree to it or not...it just IS, for MANY of us. and not i said 'different' not 'better'.......simply different.....
and no, i don't need retail therapy or ANY therapy actually. not that there's anything wrong with therapy...i did find it beneficial in the past. that said......
this thread is about people happy in their relationships/marriages...not about what makes a marriage *different*.....it simply IS what you want it to be, or not.
all i can say is it's one of those things you have to experience first-hand to truly *know*....and hey, it's a-ok if one doesn't want to either. i think having children is the same in that sense, and no...i don't want to *know* about that firsthand, i'll just believe that it IS different...:p
champ....well done.
and nice thread!
we shall toast you and your bride on your happy day....along with celebrating mr. dream's birthday.
We didn't live together before getting married, so that's been an adjustment. I have had to deal with her family more now than before. Used to be that if she went to her parents house, I might or might not go, but now I make the trip too unless something drastic comes up. Buying the house that we live in has been a huge difference than when we were single and dating. It's more of a change that you realize, but it's been a good change.
well, buying a house has nothing to do with getting married. the largest group of home buyers in the US in the past few years has been single women.
I get the living together thing if you haven't already been doing it. I was speaking more generally there. it's rare for people not to live together now! but the amount at which you see the other's family doesn't necessarily have to change.
well, buying a house has nothing to do with getting married. the largest group of home buyers in the US in the past few years has been single women.
I get the living together thing if you haven't already been doing it. I was speaking more generally there. it's rare for people not to live together now!
Yes, buying a house did have everything to do with getting married for me. If I was still single I would be living in an apartment and probably never have any notion of buying a house.
I know you were making a generalization, but more often than not your generalizations cause lots of arguments and I don't feel like doing that right now.
Nice, congrats!! So I'm getting married next month and is it really true that I can never again have sex with anyone aside from my lovely wife? According to her, this is the case..:(
there are ALL kinds of different marriages out there. some may be able to do so, others not...others don't want to. it's all CHOICE. so, it does sound as if your bride has laid down the law, up to you to decide if it's terms you can abide.
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
Yes, buying a house did have everything to do with getting married for me. If I was still single I would be living in an apartment and probably never have any notion of buying a house.
I know you were making a generalization, but more often than not your generalizations cause lots of arguments and I don't feel like doing that right now.
why would you rent if you were single but buy if you're married??? that makes 0 sense. if you like renting you rent, if you want to buy you buy (given finances, etc). that is like the most old fashioned single/married stereotype on earth. very sad.
there are ALL kinds of different marriages out there. some may be able to do so, others not...others don't want to. it's all CHOICE. so, it does sound as if your bride has laid down the law, up to you to decide if it's terms you can abide.
(i think you better! she's well worth it!)
I remember wisely staying away from that thread ..Interesting read though..
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
why would you rent if you were single but buy if you're married??? that makes 0 sense. if you like renting you rent, if you want to buy you buy (given finances, etc). that is like the most old fashioned single/married stereotype on earth. very sad.
space, prospect of kids, other reasons
and yes, I know you can get bigger size apartments if you get married or have kids, but when a mortgage payment is cheaper than rent for an apartment you buy the house
I don't give a rats ass if it's an old-fashioned stereotype, that's what it is for ME. That makes sense to ME so I couldn't care less what you think about it.
I'm in a happy relationship. We only moved in together about 3 weeks ago and its better than I ever could have imagined (especially during the li'l hick up a few months ago), and still a li'l scary. And he better have the dinner ready when I get home from work
and yes, I know you can get bigger size apartments if you get married or have kids, but when a mortgage payment is cheaper than rent for an apartment you buy the house.
um yeah, there are a lot of mortgage payments that are cheaper than rent...that's why you buy/rent along with other such constraints/preferences. it's still a completely separate issue from being married. if it were linked in the way you say it is, then every married couple would buy and every single person would rent, and all married people would live in houses and all single people would live in apartments. you chose to buy a house, which is perfectly fine, and you think it was because you got married, but really, your preferences and constraints just led to buying a house (because in our culture, people equate the idea marriage to the idea of being an adult, which is well, just sad)...
...as for you not caring about having irrational prejudices...well, you're lucky you found someone who will tolerate that.
and yes, I know you can get bigger size apartments if you get married or have kids, but when a mortgage payment is cheaper than rent for an apartment you buy the house
I don't give a rats ass if it's an old-fashioned stereotype, that's what it is for ME. That makes sense to ME so I couldn't care less what you think about it.
Greentea, seriously why do you always feel the need to pick a fight? Markymark along with everyone else couldn't care less about your so called expert advice/opinion..Perhaps you should focus on getting yourself better instead of shitting in everyone's cheerios..just a thought..
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
um yeah, there are a lot of mortgage payments that are cheaper than rent...that's why you buy/rent along with other such constraints/preferences. it's still a completely separate issue from being married. if it were linked in the way you say it is, then every married couple would buy and every single person would rent, and all married people would live in houses and all single people would live in apartments. you chose to buy a house, which is perfectly fine, and you think it was because you got married, but really, your preferences and constraints just led to buying a house...
...as for you not caring about having irrational prejudices...well, you're lucky you found someone who will tolerate that.
He thinks HE bought a house because it fits into HIS plans for what HE wants to do now that he's married. You're arguing about generalizations, but you're the only one making them.
ya know, i think most/a lot of the people on this board are pretty intelligent people, know how to make decisions for themselves, WHY they make such decisions for themselves...and happy or not....most choose and accept the consequences.
i personally think it is rather condescending to get *lectured* on how one can live their life, how they don't *need* to get married to do things, etc, etc. ya know what? WE KNOW! we really do! and then, we CHOOSE to live our lives AS WE SEE FIT!
champ, sorry from straying from topic.
back to happy and healthy relationships.......beautiful and wonderful....takes work and commitment.....but if you choose it, sooooo wel worth it if it's what you want.
and ain't that what life's about? choosing your own way and making your own life...and always striving for happiness.
um yeah, there are a lot of mortgage payments that are cheaper than rent...that's why you buy/rent along with other such constraints/preferences. it's still a completely separate issue from being married. if it were linked in the way you say it is, then every married couple would buy and every single person would rent, and all married people would live in houses and all single people would live in apartments. you chose to buy a house, which is perfectly fine, and you think it was because you got married, but really, your preferences and constraints just led to buying a house...
...as for you not caring about having irrational prejudices...well, you're lucky you found someone who will tolerate that.
And now a backhanded compliment directed toward Mark as well as his wife. Classy, once again..
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
um yeah, there are a lot of mortgage payments that are cheaper than rent...that's why you buy/rent along with other such constraints/preferences. it's still a completely separate issue from being married. if it were linked in the way you say it is, then every married couple would buy and every single person would rent, and all married people would live in houses and all single people would live in apartments. you chose to buy a house, which is perfectly fine, and you think it was because you got married, but really, your preferences and constraints just led to buying a house...
great way of not using the whole context of my previous post...the part you cut out was that it was that way for me
I made no generalization for any other married couple or single person. I was only stating the fact for my specific case. I know that you get off on making generalizations and arguing with others about the ones you don't agree with, but since I was stating the facts for only my situation so there's nothing for you to argue here.
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Not being able to recognize when you are angry... Strike 2
now there's another joke I'm not getting :(
lol
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
For starters, there is a couple in the sentence you quoted alone
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
it *IS* different, period. it is a different level of commitment. obviously, many disagree...and so be it. whether you agree to it or not...it just IS, for MANY of us. and not i said 'different' not 'better'.......simply different.....
and no, i don't need retail therapy or ANY therapy actually. not that there's anything wrong with therapy...i did find it beneficial in the past. that said......
this thread is about people happy in their relationships/marriages...not about what makes a marriage *different*.....it simply IS what you want it to be, or not.
all i can say is it's one of those things you have to experience first-hand to truly *know*....and hey, it's a-ok if one doesn't want to either. i think having children is the same in that sense, and no...i don't want to *know* about that firsthand, i'll just believe that it IS different...:p
champ....well done.
and nice thread!
we shall toast you and your bride on your happy day....along with celebrating mr. dream's birthday.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
well, buying a house has nothing to do with getting married. the largest group of home buyers in the US in the past few years has been single women.
I get the living together thing if you haven't already been doing it. I was speaking more generally there. it's rare for people not to live together now! but the amount at which you see the other's family doesn't necessarily have to change.
I know you were making a generalization, but more often than not your generalizations cause lots of arguments and I don't feel like doing that right now.
see:
http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=279408
possible?
i don't know.......
haha.
there are ALL kinds of different marriages out there.
(i think you better!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
have a nice day and enjoy the warm weather?
You're in a relationship?
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
why would you rent if you were single but buy if you're married??? that makes 0 sense. if you like renting you rent, if you want to buy you buy (given finances, etc). that is like the most old fashioned single/married stereotype on earth. very sad.
I remember wisely staying away from that thread
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
and yes, I know you can get bigger size apartments if you get married or have kids, but when a mortgage payment is cheaper than rent for an apartment you buy the house
I don't give a rats ass if it's an old-fashioned stereotype, that's what it is for ME. That makes sense to ME so I couldn't care less what you think about it.
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SMELL YER MA!
I am
um yeah, there are a lot of mortgage payments that are cheaper than rent...that's why you buy/rent along with other such constraints/preferences. it's still a completely separate issue from being married. if it were linked in the way you say it is, then every married couple would buy and every single person would rent, and all married people would live in houses and all single people would live in apartments. you chose to buy a house, which is perfectly fine, and you think it was because you got married, but really, your preferences and constraints just led to buying a house (because in our culture, people equate the idea marriage to the idea of being an adult, which is well, just sad)...
...as for you not caring about having irrational prejudices...well, you're lucky you found someone who will tolerate that.
Greentea, seriously why do you always feel the need to pick a fight? Markymark along with everyone else couldn't care less about your so called expert advice/opinion..Perhaps you should focus on getting yourself better instead of shitting in everyone's cheerios..just a thought..
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
He thinks HE bought a house because it fits into HIS plans for what HE wants to do now that he's married. You're arguing about generalizations, but you're the only one making them.
i personally think it is rather condescending to get *lectured* on how one can live their life, how they don't *need* to get married to do things, etc, etc. ya know what? WE KNOW! we really do! and then, we CHOOSE to live our lives AS WE SEE FIT!
champ, sorry from straying from topic.
back to happy and healthy relationships.......beautiful and wonderful....takes work and commitment.....but if you choose it, sooooo wel worth it if it's what you want.
and ain't that what life's about? choosing your own way and making your own life...and always striving for happiness.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
i TRULY mean this:
it makes me HAPPY to read this from you!
i remember all you went through, so i am GLAD to know you found your way and found happiness! kudos...and ALL the best to you and your future wife!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
And now a backhanded compliment directed toward Mark as well as his wife. Classy, once again..
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
We have been married for three years and been together for eleven since our Junior year of high school!!
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."
Typo Man: "Thanks kidz, but remembir, stay in skool!"
I made no generalization for any other married couple or single person. I was only stating the fact for my specific case. I know that you get off on making generalizations and arguing with others about the ones you don't agree with, but since I was stating the facts for only my situation so there's nothing for you to argue here.