Yeah, but my feelings for her are based on just knowing her for a few hours.. By now I'm sure she is not on the same page. I just thought it was odd the date went so well. If she was expecting more out of me on the first date, I sure wasn't expecting I was supposed to give it to her. I have my urges, but don't expect that out of somebody I barely know.
But like I said above, I'm done thinking about it.
Well if she was expecting more out of you than you were willing to give she may just not be the right person for you. It REALLY sucks when You feel something for someone and they're not on the same page. It's still early days with this girl - so no telling what will happen. A lot of times when you meet something you may not immediately be on the same page - but no saying it can't happen. Hope this works out for you - but if it doesn't, just keep looking. You'll find someone who's a good match
God, I hope not for your sake....but could it be possible that she was already dating another guy?
I will hold the candle until it burns up my arm. I'll keep taking punches until their will grows tired. I will stare the sun down until my eyes go blind. I won't change direction and I won't change my mind.
Yea they like that guy for fun but is that what they really want?
No, they want to be the one that turns the bad ass man whore into a sweet guy with a sensitive side........
Then when they're 40 something and realize that they wasted their time and should have picked up good guy that treated them right in the first place, its too late.
No, they want to be the one that turns the bad ass man whore into a sweet guy with a sensitive side........
Then when they're 40 something and realize that they wasted their time and should have picked up good guy that treated them right in the first place, its too late.
Or when they are 40 and their husband is using viagra, they may be googling the fun dude to see what ever happened to him........
just a thought..........
Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
The assessment doesn't hurt at all. Although she did seem really into me, but you may be right that she had second thoughts the next day and my best chance is laying low..
OK, call me the bad news girl, but I thought of another possibility. Maybe she knew she didn't want to see you again but just wanted to have a good date.
Once I was out with a friend and for some reason he was trying too hard to be funny. I decided to make the best of it and have a good time, so I practiced my charm skills by laughing anyway and trying to be a fun conversation partner. I was honestly making the best of it, not sitting there thinking "this guy sucks!". I don't think that's dishonest, BUT he probably thought that I thought he was really funny. In fact I thought he was way unfunny, but I didn't care because I was focused on enjoying his company.
Never mind, this doesn't apply to your situation, because she would not have invited you back and hung out all night if she were just charming you for the sake of it. Maybe she's just a total dork and couldn't handle sending lukewarm signals your way during the date, so she figured she would just diss you afterward, which is totally inconsiderate.
Maybe she's just lonely and wanted to have a fun time with someone, no matter who it was, which is somewhat inconsiderate since she didn't tell you what she was looking for.
But since you just met her, I say you drop her, now! Go back to match.com and find someone who's worth your time. But wait, she messaged you...what a weirdo. Or fickle, or picky, or just crazy. You should join the Pearl Jam dating service thread instead.
(1) If she's a professional shrink, she is familiar with learning theory and could totally be calculating her actions to get the response she wants from you. Run.
(2) Incidentally, the phrase "I have my urges" is a major turnoff, to me at least. Not in an advice column thread like this, but if you said that in a context where sex was a possibility, I would gag. Not expecting anything on the first date is a major turnon, as is a willingness to install new software.
OK, call me the bad news girl, but I thought of another possibility. Maybe she knew she didn't want to see you again but just wanted to have a good date.
Once I was out with a friend and for some reason he was trying too hard to be funny. I decided to make the best of it and have a good time, so I practiced my charm skills by laughing anyway and trying to be a fun conversation partner. I was honestly making the best of it, not sitting there thinking "this guy sucks!". I don't think that's dishonest, BUT he probably thought that I thought he was really funny. In fact I thought he was way unfunny, but I didn't care because I was focused on enjoying his company.
Never mind, this doesn't apply to your situation, because she would not have invited you back and hung out all night if she were just charming you for the sake of it. Maybe she's just a total dork and couldn't handle sending lukewarm signals your way during the date, so she figured she would just diss you afterward, which is totally inconsiderate.
Maybe she's just lonely and wanted to have a fun time with someone, no matter who it was, which is somewhat inconsiderate since she didn't tell you what she was looking for.
But since you just met her, I say you drop her, now! Go back to match.com and find someone who's worth your time. But wait, she messaged you...what a weirdo. Or fickle, or picky, or just crazy. You should join the Pearl Jam dating service thread instead.
(2) Incidentally, the phrase "I have my urges" is a major turnoff, to me at least. Not in an advice column thread like this, but if you said that in a context where sex was a possibility, I would gag. Not expecting anything on the first date is a major turnon, as is a willingness to install new software.
Melissa
I didn't expect anything on the first date, or second date, or even the third date.. By urges I was just saying, If she started to strip, I wouldn't stop her. :cool:
you should sign up on the site. Im quite the matchmaker, just ask redeyes!!!
about your situation......ive said it MANY times here. NEVER try to figure chicks out.
And.....the look of "passion" as you boys see it is ALOT of times just lustful makin out time. Nothing behind it just plain old lets have a good time and maybe someday i'll call you but ure not the ONLY one in my life.
~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!
"Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95
No, they want to be the one that turns the bad ass man whore into a sweet guy with a sensitive side........
Then when they're 40 something and realize that they wasted their time and should have picked up good guy that treated them right in the first place, its too late.
That's why it's best to be both types of guys in one package.
you should sign up on the site. Im quite the matchmaker, just ask redeyes!!!
about your situation......ive said it MANY times here. NEVER try to figure chicks out.
And.....the look of "passion" as you boys see it is ALOT of times just lustful makin out time. Nothing behind it just plain old lets have a good time and maybe someday i'll call you but ure not the ONLY one in my life.
Is there really a site.. and I'd be scared of the girl who wants to date me after reading my 15,000 posts..
http://www.pjsingles.ning.com
I need to hook you up with someone because.......you've been searching for quite a while.
That is AWESOME!.. I'm too tired to sift through it now (it's bedtime here).. but I'll definitely book mark it for tomorrow, and you must keep my identity a secret to whom ever you might match me with.. nobody likes to hear bitchen'. :cool:
That is AWESOME!.. I'm too tired to sift through it now (it's bedtime here).. but I'll definitely book mark it for tomorrow, and you must keep my identity a secret to whom ever you might match me with.. nobody likes to hear bitchen'. :cool:
No they dont BUT if thats part of you, dont hide it and be fake. THAT is NOT attractive!!!! Say what up to chicago please.......i MISS IT!!!
~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!
"Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95
That's why it's best to be both types of guys in one package.
See thats the problem. I think people will be more sucsessfull finding someone when they let go of their fanticy of a perfect man or woman. THEY DON'T EXSIST, no one is perfect. You just need to find someone that will make you happy.
Sorry to not comment on your problem dude. Its rather simple, stop talking to her. Don't waste your time with a person thats not willing to call you back. Move on to the next women.
I haven't read the whole thread, but my advice is this: Don't play any silly games. You're a grown man! Just be yourself. Whether this girl wants to be with you or not, no one wants to be with someone who is insincere.
Besides, you don't know what's going on with her or what she wants, so there's no sense in trying to figure it out. Maybe even she doesn't know what she wants. Maybe she hasn't checked her email and her phone is acting up, so she didn't get either of your messages. Maybe she's just really busy. Maybe she really doesn't want to see you again. But, then again, maybe she had a great time too and she does want to see you again. Maybe she's shy. Maybe she's embarassed by how "far" she went on your first date. Maybe she really is already dating someone else (or multiple people). If they aren't in a committed relationship (i.e. she wouldn't be cheating on him), is that a problem? Or do you expect her to drop everyone else for a guy she barely knows? If you do, be sincere about that too!
I'm just sayin', if you want to contact her, contact her. Maybe she'll respond or maybe she won't. Then, next time you feel like contacting her, contact her again. Once again, maybe she'll respond and maybe she won't. But at least you won't go through life missing out on things because of silly games.
maybe she just wanted to shag - and that was all she wanted -or just someone to talk to
but i'd air dry that shit if its tight - drop it like it's hot my man
As you live your life in sometimes quiet desperation, facing adversity and tragedy: if you have hope and love, that mixture helps you overcome that tragedy and go on with the rest of your life.”
--Jack Lengyel
but i'd air dry that shit if its tight - drop it like it's hot my man
i have no idea what that means.
anyhoo, in relation to this thread... i would have went down the 'gently pummel her' route... but i'm intrigued about this PJ singles website... any hot wenches from Scotland on it?
oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
Why would you ask a guy out for a first date to a movie and bar, invite him back to your place for pizza and another movie, initiate to make out with him, fall asleep with your head on his chest, give him another passionate kiss when he leaves at five in the morning with a passionate look in your eyes..
But not respond to his phone call or email barely two days later?
We both had a good time, she pretty much jumped all over me..
Women confuse me. I think I'm doomed to be single the rest of my life..
Maybe I'm a lousy kisser, or is there something else going on with this girl???
She might just be playing hard to get. You know, the ol' 3 day rule and shit like that. her friends probably gave her shit for letting you know she likes you on the first date.
or she just changed her mind. at least she didn't say "my boyfriend has a watch just like that."
Wait a couple days, and give her a call to see if she wants to go to dinner or get drinks.
No IM'ing or texting. That is the cowards way out. If you want to say something to someone, give them a call and tell them. I'm showing my age here I guess.....I came of age in a day with no texting or IM, and honestly still don't understand it all that much when you can just call your friend to visit.
Wait a couple days, and give her a call to see if she wants to go to dinner or get drinks.
No IM'ing or texting. That is the cowards way out. If you want to say something to someone, give them a call and tell them. I'm showing my age here I guess.....I came of age in a day with no texting or IM, and honestly still don't understand it all that much when you can just call your friend to visit.
wow... you're still bitter about the Korean War aint you old man!! In your day women also painted on their stockings using gravy.
I'm older than you btw.... btw is the internet abbreviation for by the way btw... soooo c u l8r.
oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
wow... you're still bitter about the Korean War aint you old man!! In your day women also painted on their stockings using gravy.
I'm older than you btw.... btw is the internet abbreviation for by the way btw... soooo c u l8r.
haha. I don't have a problem with IM or texting in some situations....but people should not use it to say something they are afraid to say to their face, as I know many people use it in this way.
Hell, a freind of mine got dumped by a gril through a text message. What a coward! She could not break up with him to his face, or even through a phone call!
haha. I don't have a problem with IM or texting in some situations....but people should not use it to say something they are afraid to say to their face, as I know many people use it in this way.
Hell, a freind of mine got dumped by a gril through a text message. What a coward! She could not break up with him to his face, or even through a phone call!
you're right... i remember how angry i got when Phil Collins dumped his wife via FAX!!!!
oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
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Well if she was expecting more out of you than you were willing to give she may just not be the right person for you. It REALLY sucks when You feel something for someone and they're not on the same page. It's still early days with this girl - so no telling what will happen. A lot of times when you meet something you may not immediately be on the same page - but no saying it can't happen. Hope this works out for you - but if it doesn't, just keep looking. You'll find someone who's a good match
try calling her in a day or so.
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
No, they want to be the one that turns the bad ass man whore into a sweet guy with a sensitive side........
Then when they're 40 something and realize that they wasted their time and should have picked up good guy that treated them right in the first place, its too late.
ive always HEARD shrinks are the most mentally messed up!
personally, i wouldnt contact her again.... ball is in her court. good luck with whatever you choose
Or when they are 40 and their husband is using viagra, they may be googling the fun dude to see what ever happened to him........
just a thought..........
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
OK, call me the bad news girl, but I thought of another possibility. Maybe she knew she didn't want to see you again but just wanted to have a good date.
Once I was out with a friend and for some reason he was trying too hard to be funny. I decided to make the best of it and have a good time, so I practiced my charm skills by laughing anyway and trying to be a fun conversation partner. I was honestly making the best of it, not sitting there thinking "this guy sucks!". I don't think that's dishonest, BUT he probably thought that I thought he was really funny. In fact I thought he was way unfunny, but I didn't care because I was focused on enjoying his company.
Never mind, this doesn't apply to your situation, because she would not have invited you back and hung out all night if she were just charming you for the sake of it. Maybe she's just a total dork and couldn't handle sending lukewarm signals your way during the date, so she figured she would just diss you afterward, which is totally inconsiderate.
Maybe she's just lonely and wanted to have a fun time with someone, no matter who it was, which is somewhat inconsiderate since she didn't tell you what she was looking for.
But since you just met her, I say you drop her, now! Go back to match.com and find someone who's worth your time. But wait, she messaged you...what a weirdo. Or fickle, or picky, or just crazy. You should join the Pearl Jam dating service thread instead.
Melissa
(2) Incidentally, the phrase "I have my urges" is a major turnoff, to me at least. Not in an advice column thread like this, but if you said that in a context where sex was a possibility, I would gag. Not expecting anything on the first date is a major turnon, as is a willingness to install new software.
Melissa
Anyone in Chicago???? *crickets* :cool:
about your situation......ive said it MANY times here. NEVER try to figure chicks out.
And.....the look of "passion" as you boys see it is ALOT of times just lustful makin out time. Nothing behind it just plain old lets have a good time and maybe someday i'll call you but ure not the ONLY one in my life.
Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!
"Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95
It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
That's why it's best to be both types of guys in one package.
I need to hook you up with someone because.......you've been searching for quite a while.
Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!
"Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95
It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!
"Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95
It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
See thats the problem. I think people will be more sucsessfull finding someone when they let go of their fanticy of a perfect man or woman. THEY DON'T EXSIST, no one is perfect. You just need to find someone that will make you happy.
Sorry to not comment on your problem dude. Its rather simple, stop talking to her. Don't waste your time with a person thats not willing to call you back. Move on to the next women.
Melissa
Besides, you don't know what's going on with her or what she wants, so there's no sense in trying to figure it out. Maybe even she doesn't know what she wants. Maybe she hasn't checked her email and her phone is acting up, so she didn't get either of your messages. Maybe she's just really busy. Maybe she really doesn't want to see you again. But, then again, maybe she had a great time too and she does want to see you again. Maybe she's shy. Maybe she's embarassed by how "far" she went on your first date. Maybe she really is already dating someone else (or multiple people). If they aren't in a committed relationship (i.e. she wouldn't be cheating on him), is that a problem? Or do you expect her to drop everyone else for a guy she barely knows? If you do, be sincere about that too!
I'm just sayin', if you want to contact her, contact her. Maybe she'll respond or maybe she won't. Then, next time you feel like contacting her, contact her again. Once again, maybe she'll respond and maybe she won't. But at least you won't go through life missing out on things because of silly games.
Regardless, GOOD LUCK! (And keep us posted!
but i'd air dry that shit if its tight - drop it like it's hot my man
--Jack Lengyel
i have no idea what that means.
anyhoo, in relation to this thread... i would have went down the 'gently pummel her' route... but i'm intrigued about this PJ singles website... any hot wenches from Scotland on it?
She might just be playing hard to get. You know, the ol' 3 day rule and shit like that. her friends probably gave her shit for letting you know she likes you on the first date.
or she just changed her mind. at least she didn't say "my boyfriend has a watch just like that."
i would move on and let her chase you
No IM'ing or texting. That is the cowards way out. If you want to say something to someone, give them a call and tell them. I'm showing my age here I guess.....I came of age in a day with no texting or IM, and honestly still don't understand it all that much when you can just call your friend to visit.
wow... you're still bitter about the Korean War aint you old man!! In your day women also painted on their stockings using gravy.
I'm older than you btw.... btw is the internet abbreviation for by the way btw... soooo c u l8r.
haha. I don't have a problem with IM or texting in some situations....but people should not use it to say something they are afraid to say to their face, as I know many people use it in this way.
Hell, a freind of mine got dumped by a gril through a text message. What a coward! She could not break up with him to his face, or even through a phone call!
you're right... i remember how angry i got when Phil Collins dumped his wife via FAX!!!!