Explain something to me, women..

comebackwoman

patrickredeyes wrote:

Oh thank you.

I'm so glad I picked Companion Animal Resource and Adoption Center or (CARAC) for short. For the Milwaukee Ed preparty.

That's awesome! Really great cause Good pick!

patrickredeyes

comebackgirl wrote:

No don't waste your time waiting around for her. Either be clear that you're interested (but not pushy)! or move on. You need hand!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-zqa44fpwa0

No time like the present.

Pauk

Wait a week til you phone her. Like other people have said, if you keep texting her and she doesn't respond you can never text her again or you'll come across as a stalker. Just sit back for a few days and then contact her. If she's interested waiting a few days isn't going to hurt, but if you keep trying you run the risk of annoying her.

purple_chick79

I wouldn't message her anymore. If she is interested in seeing you again, she will respond.

LikeAnOcean

purple_chick79 wrote:

I wouldn't message her anymore. If she is interested in seeing you again, she will respond.

It's just odd that she seemed so into me when we went out.. maybe she's dating multiple guys? Just trying a few people out before she makes a second date decision?

LikeAnOcean

Thanks for all the input gals.. Gonna move on, unless she responds. I need to get better at this shit. I think anxiety takes the best of me.

purple_chick79

LikeAnOcean wrote:

It's just odd that she seemed so into me when we went out.. maybe she's dating multiple guys? Just trying a few people out before she makes a second date decision?

I've met guys like that in the past....you think they are all into you, whether you put out or not and then BAM! Nothing, no phone call, nothing. I learned the hard way only to make 1 attempt at a phone call, if they don't call back, fuck em. There is no explanation for it, I've come to that conclusion. That happened, sort of, with my boyfriend now. When we first met, he would say everynight, "call me when you get outta work" (which is 11PM) so I would then he would totally blow me off. Sooooooo, I stopped calling and didn't see him for 3 weeks. One phone call, left a message and I left it at that for him to call me back. We have been together for 1.5 years now, but it wasn't easy in the beginning.

I'm sure the right one is out there for you, just keep your head up and the search going.

keeponrockin

I'm at the same stage... Met a girl at a party (I was drunk, she was not) so we made out, w/e... She asked for my number, and has been texting me all week, which is nice (even texting me at 2:30 am to say goodnight...) Problem is, I'm out of town all next week! Hopefully I'll see her when I get back, but damn, I have the worst timing for vacation (ok, I'm seeing Ed, it's not THAT horrible haha).

Basically, I hope I can get somethin goin.

And LAO, I'd wait a few days, like everyone's said, a few days can't kill her!

Abookamongstthemany

Just communicate your thoughts and feelings with her. All you can do is be upfront and honest...if she isn't on the same page as you, it's good to at least have it out in the open instead of the constant worrying and wondering.

YieldInHiding

LikeAnOcean wrote:

Why would you ask a guy out for a first date to a movie and bar, invite him back to your place for pizza and another movie, initiate to make out with him, fall asleep with your head on his chest, give him another passionate kiss when he leaves at five in the morning with a passionate look in your eyes..

But not respond to his phone call or email barely two days later?



We both had a good time, she pretty much jumped all over me..

Women confuse me. I think I'm doomed to be single the rest of my life..

Maybe I'm a lousy kisser, or is there something else going on with this girl???

She saw all of your White Sux shit dude.

Or yeah, you're a bad kisser.

Drowned Out

another chapter in that dating life book I mentioned last thread?

personally, if I was into her...I'd try her on IM...three strikes, right?
If she ignores you on IM too, you can be sure she's ignoring you, and your confusion is over....
Don't be pushy, but try to find out what she's thinking about it all...if she's playing games, you'll know...and if she is, you can decide if you want to play along, or get out.

How did you meet? Any chance she's deciding between you and someone else/others right now?

LikeAnOcean

Drowned Out wrote:

How did you meet? Any chance she's deciding between you and someone else/others right now?

match.com.. my account expired a while back, but she winked anyways. I re-signed up and sent a little message saying hi, and she instantly sent me her IM and wanted to chat. A day later she mentioned how she really wanted to see Batman and I mentioned it was awesome and was up for seeing it again. She said lets go tonight!.. so we did and the hot date ensued..

But anyways, I'm done thinking about it. Beer sounds better right now. Beer and some PJ for old times sake.

3inputchick

come sit here with me- I'll hang with you- she is a jerk!

melva02

Maybe she's just not that into you. It sounds so harsh, but some girls are really picky or just not sure what they want. Personally I have given up on trying to meet anyone for the time being, because it's been hard to find someone I really like...I'd rather wait until someone I really like finds me. I got the perfect pair of boots using this method, so I know it works.

When I'm interested in a guy, sometimes my feelings of turned on vs. turned off can vary a lot within a short time. If she liked you, but maybe had second thoughts the next day, she will probably be more likely to call you again later if you play it cool for now. It does seem a little disingenuous to make out and then not call back, but I would give her the benefit of the doubt and just assume she needs some space to decide how she wants to proceed.

If you push it now, she might move faster than she wants to, to avoid missing her chance with you. But believe me, you don't want to keep things going forever unless she really wants you too. I have realized months into a relationship that the dude was just not doing it for me, and it's much worse to figure it out then.

I hope my assessment doesn't hurt your feelings. The "he's just not that into you" possibility has helped me make sense of relationships before. You seem like a good guy from what I've read of this thread ;-) so remember that you deserve to be with someone who really wants you. As they say in Debbie country, expect the best, and hold out for it.

Melissa

Drowned Out

LikeAnOcean wrote:

match.com.. my account expired a while back, but she winked anyways. I re-signed up and sent a little message saying hi, and she instantly sent me her IM and wanted to chat. A day later she mentioned how she really wanted to see Batman and I mentioned it was awesome and was up for seeing it again. She said lets go tonight!.. so we did and the hot date ensued..

But anyways, I'm done thinking about it. Beer sounds better right now. Beer and some PJ for old times sake.

match? ya, she's dating multiple guys....good luck man, enjoy your beers

LikeAnOcean

Abookamongstthemany wrote:

Just communicate your thoughts and feelings with her. All you can do is be upfront and honest...if she isn't on the same page as you, it's good to at least have it out in the open instead of the constant worrying and wondering.

Yeah, but my feelings for her are based on just knowing her for a few hours.. By now I'm sure she is not on the same page. I just thought it was odd the date went so well. If she was expecting more out of me on the first date, I sure wasn't expecting I was supposed to give it to her. I have my urges, but don't expect that out of somebody I barely know.

But like I said above, I'm done thinking about it.

in_hiding79

comebackgirl wrote:

You didn't put out

hehehe

LikeAnOcean

melva02 wrote:

Maybe she's just not that into you. It sounds so harsh, but some girls are really picky or just not sure what they want. Personally I have given up on trying to meet anyone for the time being, because it's been hard to find someone I really like...I'd rather wait until someone I really like finds me. I got the perfect pair of boots using this method, so I know it works.

When I'm interested in a guy, sometimes my feelings of turned on vs. turned off can vary a lot within a short time. If she liked you, but maybe had second thoughts the next day, she will probably be more likely to call you again later if you play it cool for now. It does seem a little disingenuous to make out and then not call back, but I would give her the benefit of the doubt and just assume she needs some space to decide how she wants to proceed.

If you push it now, she might move faster than she wants to, to avoid missing her chance with you. But believe me, you don't want to keep things going forever unless she really wants you too. I have realized months into a relationship that the dude was just not doing it for me, and it's much worse to figure it out then.

I hope my assessment doesn't hurt your feelings. The "he's just not that into you" possibility has helped me make sense of relationships before. You seem like a good guy from what I've read of this thread ;-) so remember that you deserve to be with someone who really wants you. As they say in Debbie country, expect the best, and hold out for it.

Melissa

The assessment doesn't hurt at all. Although she did seem really into me, but you may be right that she had second thoughts the next day and my best chance is laying low..

But, yeah, I'm done thinking about it tonight........


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patrickredeyes

LikeAnOcean wrote:

The assessment doesn't hurt at all. Although she did seem really into me, although you may be right that she had second thoughts the next day and my best chance is laying low..

But, yeah, I'm done thinking about it tonight........


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Girls just love messing with us. lol

But it's true and I'm sure they will say the same about us.

duggro

LikeAnOcean wrote:

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