2nd date advice needed..

Heineken Helen

soulsinging wrote:

good, im NOT insane. imho, im not sure you made it clear you're leaving the third date decision up to her, and im not sure that's necessary. i say call her for date three. if she starts looking for excuses out, you've got your answer. i still think it's early enough that she might take your words as "im not that interested, so if you are, you can call me, but im not going to make the effort to set it up." it's putting the pressure onto her too, which is fair but may be uncomfortable for her.

i know gtd would disagree, but i think her views on sex and relationships are a bit outside the norm in america. she'd be better off in europe maybe.

:eek: I agree! I don't believe in following the 'rules' to relationships, if you wanna see this girl keep planning until either she makes those excuses that get you thinking or she stops answering your calls. There are often plenty of reasons people don't call when they should... sometimes it's a matter of not getting the nerve to do it. So fuck it, if you're actually IN a relationship with her then these things could be issues... but they don't need to be now.

Heineken Helen

LikeAnOcean wrote:

I'm just looking for her to call me for a change to see how I'm doing.

This doesn't sound very hopeful though in fairness .