2nd date advice needed..

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  • MattCameronKicksButt
    MattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    :)

    Hey, I mean this in the nicest possible way but if she comes back to your place after the date, please don't sneak into your bathroom with your laptop and ask us if you think she would prefer you to be on top or undernieth...

    :)
  • South of Seattle
    South of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    :)

    Hey, I mean this in the nicest possible way but if she comes back to your place after the date, please don't sneak into your bathroom with your laptop and ask us if you think she would prefer you to be on top or undernieth...

    :)

    :D
    NERDS!
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    I will make romance on her face if need be. :D
    I can't wait till 6 months from now when you're in a serious relationship with this girl, and she finds this thread haha.
  • inmyrvm
    inmyrvm Posts: 1,039
    definitely a couple drinks after dinner, then maybe a strip club to lighten the mood.
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  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    Saturnal wrote:
    I can't wait till 6 months from now when you're in a serious relationship with this girl, and she finds this thread haha.
    And there's a new thread asking for advice on how to get out of it.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Haha.. can't you tell I hate dating? lol. Relationships for me are usually people I've already known through school or work.. meeting complete strangers seems to be a task for me. :cool:

    that's the opposite for me, I've never been on a date with someone who wasn't a complete stranger.
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Rygar wrote:
    And there's a new thread asking for advice on how to get out of it.
    haha!
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    You should definately have something else lined up, even if it's just a walk after dinner or going for a drink somewhere else... you wanna spend as much time as possible with her to get chance to talk.
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    why do you have to have something "lined up"? wouldn't it be better to just wander out of the restaurant and see what happens?

    Also, if you're in chicago, why are you driving? leave the car at home, it will be easier not to have to worry about it.
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    why do you have to have something "lined up"? wouldn't it be better to just wander out of the restaurant and see what happens?

    Also, if you're in chicago, why are you driving? leave the car at home, it will be easier not to have to worry about it.
    I half agree with ya... but it's good to have one or two ideas for IF it goes well. Its nice to wander out of the restaurant and then he says 'I know this cosy little bar down the road' or the two of you accidentally wander to a beauty spot :)
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  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I half agree with ya... but it's good to have one or two ideas for IF it goes well. Its nice to wander out of the restaurant and then he says 'I know this cosy little bar down the road' or the two of you accidentally wander to a beauty spot :)

    Exactly! :D
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • InHiding19
    InHiding19 Posts: 2,385
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    blowoff dinner and take her straight to the bar....

    make her pound about 7-10 jaegerbombs......

    and then see what she is in the mood for.....hehehehehe

    This scenario actually worked out quite well for me recently and I wasn't even expecting it :o
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  • Motown322
    Motown322 Posts: 465
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I half agree with ya... but it's good to have one or two ideas for IF it goes well. Its nice to wander out of the restaurant and then he says 'I know this cosy little bar down the road' or the two of you accidentally wander to a beauty spot :)

    100% agree. You need to have some sort of plan. If you pull the old, "Well, what do you want to do now?" and "I don't care... doesn't matter to me. I'm fine with whatever" you might as well hang a lanyard off of your wang that says, "I don't ever want you near this thing".

    In a woman's mind, no game plan = not very interested in the date which = not interested in the girl.
  • DaytimeDilemma
    DaytimeDilemma Posts: 2,008
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    blowoff dinner and take her straight to the bar....

    make her pound about 7-10 jaegerbombs......

    and then see what she is in the mood for.....hehehehehe


    Second best post of the fucking year.



    I nearly died.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Motown322 wrote:
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    In a woman's mind, no game plan = not very interested in the date which = not interested in the girl.

    this has never crossed my woman's mind...
    I mean in ANY situation, date or no, one should have ideas for things to do in the area...doesn't matter what gender you are. so you have suggestions when you say "what do you want to do?" I'm actually pretty turned off by a guy who has a whole "date" all planned out.
  • DaytimeDilemma
    DaytimeDilemma Posts: 2,008
    Screw dinner and do something cool.


    Any cool bands playing?
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    DaytimeDilemma wrote:
    Screw dinner and do something cool.


    Any cool bands playing?

    you can't talk to someone you barely know over a band.

    and if your date doesn't like music you're screwed.
  • Motown322
    Motown322 Posts: 465
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I'm actually pretty turned off by a guy who has a whole "date" all planned out.

    You're turned off by a guy who would think enough of his time with you to go ahead and plan a 4-5 hour night out for the two of you, rather than treating it as a situation where he comes off like he spent more time picking out the socks that he's wearing? I think you're in a pretty small group, then.

    Playing it by ear is fine with an established BF/GF, but for a 2nd date I still say a guy should have his shit together enough to have a game plan.
  • DaytimeDilemma
    DaytimeDilemma Posts: 2,008
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    you can't talk to someone you barely know over a band.

    and if your date doesn't like music you're screwed.


    If the date doesn't like music...that SUX.


    And, IMO, there's no better date than pre-gaming for a concert...going to said concert...and then drinking more afterwards followed by some late night eats.


    Oh man.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Motown322 wrote:
    You're turned off by a guy who would think enough of his time with you to go ahead and plan a 4-5 hour night out for the two of you, rather than treating it as a situation where he comes off like he spent more time picking out the socks that he's wearing? I think you're in a pretty small group, then.

    Playing it by ear is fine with an established BF/GF, but for a 2nd date I still say a guy should have his shit together enough to have a game plan.

    um, yes. first of all, why should the *guy* get to plan the whole date? see that right there is annoying. if they plan it all out in advance then they DON'T care what YOU want to do. Plus it's just very old fashioned for the guy to be in charge of the date. I've had 4 hour dates, but not like that.

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