How to meet girls, non-internet..
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So I'm hanging out with some friends tonight (drinking) who seem to be amazed that I'm still single, "because of my looks and charm" (I'm flattered).. but got dissed because I resorted to online dating.. And their advise to me was walk around a college campus and "accidently" bump into girls..
Now ladies, is that the best bit of advice to give a few years gone by (I'm 29) post-college grad to meet ladies?..
If I shouldn't be meeting girls online, and I shouldn't be meeting girls at bars, then where the hell should I be meeting them at my tender, still young but almost old age???
I almost agree with them because he girls I've been meeting online have been single for a looong time, and not just because they wanted to be single..
P.S. I've been drinking..
Now ladies, is that the best bit of advice to give a few years gone by (I'm 29) post-college grad to meet ladies?..
If I shouldn't be meeting girls online, and I shouldn't be meeting girls at bars, then where the hell should I be meeting them at my tender, still young but almost old age???
I almost agree with them because he girls I've been meeting online have been single for a looong time, and not just because they wanted to be single..
P.S. I've been drinking..
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My best experience in the last year or so has been at a gym. Working out and getting the pheromones pumping out can't hurt.
Also mutual friends' parties. There is bound to be a receptive bird around at some point.
A Shins concert
Actually the key is talk to every girl that you see
1 out of 12 girls will probably give you a good response.
any advice for the ladies? i'm in the same boat. i keep looking for the love of my life in the produce aisle to no avail
dude looks like a lady?
I wave to all my Friends... Yeah!
You just proved my point right there, cute girls are all over Shins shows
If you're in the produce aisle you should stand near the Cucumbers instead of the Squash
shows are a great place to meet the ladies...at least you have an instant conversation starter! now for me to take my own advice...i'll test it out at the tapes 'n tapes show soon.
Except shows suck meeting ladies for this reason right here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUeHyaAMOxA
Basically, anywhere there's people the unexpected can happen
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Had I not found this love with you
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oh my God! A guy at work did and they've been married for a few years. She is a doctor too.
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whe I was was going through a divorce in 1984, I was criticized by friends for meeting guys at bars....I was even insulted by 2 guys I met at a bar.
8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
10/10 - Brad in B'more
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- the great Sir Leo Harrison
I think the guy at work found her online about 7 years ago.
there was a thread before about a dateless woman and a person suggested the park....take a dog to the park and you meet people that way. I always talk to people with dogs.
I used to meet people when I had part time jobs at night. I never dated them though.
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10/10 - Brad in B'more
As you get older, your friends tend to all get married and all of their friends get paired off as well. It gets harder to meet single people through your friends. It's not like college where you have a huge pool of possibilities. You start going to bars less often, you hang out with the same people all the time, and you just don't meet as many new people. Don't close off any avenues. Online works for some people, and some people get lucky through other methods like concerts or parties or bars. The stigma around online dating wore off around 2002, so tell your friends to go screw. Who are you in it for, them or yourself?
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if that doesnt work out try speedys idea. hey man, even John Marek could land a date 1 out of 12 times.
at the cafeteria
library
work (be careful)
grocery store
show
friends party
to name a few-- and I was pretty bad at it when I was dating.
Have your friends introduce you to someone that they really know. That way, you have the background & "is she crazy?" checks already done. They'll know if there's a good chance she's good for you, & vice versa.
Some girl at the club or online may be some high maintenance, crazy woman with 5 kids.
I think that you meet a special someone when you are least expecting it. I'd say, enjoy your life, 29 isn't old at all! I mean, I'm only 24, and I have a longggg way before I even think about settling down with someone. Just have fun with your friends, and take life as it is. Who knows, it might be that when you go to buy groceries next time, you might meet the love of your life.
I have practically no hope in man kind, but the illusion of love always gets me.
Best two days of my life: Oasis at MSG and Pearl Jam at the Gorge.
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
It's like that saying "Life is what happens when you're making other plans." Keep yourself busy, and you'll probably run into her, y'know?
kevinbeetle: "Yes. When her career washes up and her and Gavin move to Galveston, you will meet her at Hot Topic shopping for a Japanese cheerleader outfit.
Next!"
Do not try to go to Barnes and Noble and sit in the cafe with a book/mag/nothing but a coffee, and try to pick up girls that are studying/shopping/enjoying a quiet night! SO many guys do that, and its sooo funny. I saw like 20 guys get shot down over and over again. They were like the B&N serial daters.
Okay, now that I got that out, I do have some suggestions for you:
*Since you're in Chicago they are Chicago specific.
The weather is getting nice.. there are women ALL over the lake front path! Go jogging/biking/rollerblading... There are tons of places to stop and enjoy the lake. Women love a guy in shape who is active. I'd totally talk to a guy in that situation, if I was single.
Bars, are always an option. I think they are kinda loud to try to pick up someone, like you're always screaming when you talk..
Down in the parks downtown where they have outdoor concerts and stuff. Go with a few of your guy friends. Girls love a guy who has friends and is outgoing and popular. Plus it makes you less shy to have a backup.
Someone mentioned taking a dog for a walk. I'm pretty sure you don't have a dog, but a lot of parks are joined with dog parks, and if you don't have a dog, its easy to be walking by a dog park/the dog beach.. Dogs are such an easy ice breaker. Talk to a girl about her dog, she'll eat it up.
Meet a girl at a gym. There are tons of cute girls at the gym. Plus if you're into working out, and she's pounding out a work out, you know you have something in common.
Are you into the arts? There are classes at this place on Ravenswood Ave that are like 6-8 weeks, just once a week and its a thing you can learn and meet people. *I do have more info on this if you're interested, I just can't remember the name, if you are, let me know and I'll get you the info
STREET FESTIVALS.. the summer in Chicago is amazing. There are festivals every weekend in different places, big ones, little ones.. and they are full of girls.. I bet you, you can meet a bunch of women there.
So those are my suggestions. I think online dating is totally fine, unless you go overboard, like some people I know (my mom haha). But you know, people will always attach a stigma to it. But, I wouldn't go around the college campuses to try to meet girls. You don't want to accidently start picking up 18-19 year olds. I mean maybe you do, but I assume at 29, you're looking for a girl who is in her 20's.