So I'm hanging out with some friends tonight (drinking) who seem to be amazed that I'm still single, "because of my looks and charm" (I'm flattered).. but got dissed because I resorted to online dating.. And their advise to me was walk around a college campus and "accidently" bump into girls..
Now ladies, is that the best bit of advice to give a few years gone by (I'm 29) post-college grad to meet ladies?..
If I shouldn't be meeting girls online, and I shouldn't be meeting girls at bars, then where the hell should I be meeting them at my tender, still young but almost old age???
I almost agree with them because he girls I've been meeting online have been single for a looong time, and not just because they wanted to be single..
P.S. I've been drinking..
it's perfectly fine to meet people online. I did it for years. I was the same way as you- I found it impossible to meet eligible guys. I did all sorts of social activities and everything, but never came across any single guys in the 20s, let alone any that I was interested in. I do have to say though, right now I am not interested in dating at all, but if and when I change my mind on that, I don't think I'll be going back to online dating. I feel that when you do that, you start to date just for the sake of dating, not because you really like someone. If I start dating again, I would like to meet someone and get to know them and then suddenly realize we like each other. I don't know if that sort of thing happens anymore and to people our age (I'm 30) but still, it seems the most natural. I am 100% against forcing relationships. I believe it is better to be single than to wish you were. When you date online, someone asks you out and you're like "eh what the hell, might as well have a night out" even if the person doesn't seem great to you. I think I'm kinda over that now, but others like it. As for how to people outside of match.com, I have no idea. and given that I posted that same question on this and other message boards I can tell you this: neither does anyone else.
and this, one of my favorite seinfeld moments sums it up:
(George and Jerry both enter a bookstore)
GEORGE: I read somewhere that this Brentano's is the place to meet girls in New York.
JERRY: First it was the health club, then the supermarket, now the bookstore. They could put it anywhere they want, no one's meetin' anybody.
I've read several replies saying that the Gym is a place to pick up girls.
But I wouldn't know how to approach a girl at the gym without seeming creepy! Am I the only one that thinks this?
I don't think the gym is a good place at all. everyone is too focused on what they're doing, if you start talking to them you're just going to bug them. plus, everyone's wearing headphones!
I don't think the gym is a good place at all. everyone is too focused on what they're doing, if you start talking to them you're just going to bug them. plus, everyone's wearing headphones!
wearing headphones plus looking all red and sweaty. i, for one, am definitely not at my cutest when i'm at the gym.
wearing headphones plus looking all red and sweaty. i, for one, am definitely not at my cutest when i'm at the gym.
oh geez, me either. ALTHOUGH I did get asked out in the gym once. I was flabbergasted. I was wearing the LAST of my gym clothes- you know the ones that are ill fitting and look weird and come out the last day before the wash and as usual, covered in sweat like a jumped in a pool. This guy comes up to me says I "look like I have a lot of energy" and proceded to ask me out for that night...I said I had other plans. I really did, but I was glad for it because it was a wee bit tacky.
I find it hard to believe, that outside of romantic comedies, telling someone the book they're reading on the subway is a good one is going to lead to a relationship.
I find it hard to believe, that outside of romantic comedies, telling someone the book they're reading on the subway is a good one is going to lead to a relationship.
its hard to stop a girl in the street and ask for a date,, thats fantasy land
it just is
but in a social setting or at work , if u talk to them u will know if their is any connection after 5 minutes ,,take it from their
the old were all going out for drinks after work , why dont u come is a good one
*Since you're in Chicago they are Chicago specific.
The weather is getting nice.. there are women ALL over the lake front path! Go jogging/biking/rollerblading... There are tons of places to stop and enjoy the lake. Women love a guy in shape who is active. I'd totally talk to a guy in that situation, if I was single.
Wow, I barely remember making this thread last night thanks to alcohol, lol.. but yeah, funny thing about that is I have been jogging along the lake, and 20 minute jogs have turned into hour long jogs because of all the hotties to look at!.. but realistically, you can't just stop one and get a date. Not gonna happen.
I'm with the majority here; concerts truly are a great place to meet really cool people. It also makes it soooo much easier to start up conversation. Try going a little earlier and partying a little later then you normally would. After all, you wouldn't want a chick with bad taste in music, would you?
same boat, online is too expensive, and for me i wish the girls in bars were more like the girls in church and wish the girls in church were more like the girls in bars. where's my pam beasley?!?
i shoot for the friend of friends, but as you said, they start dropping like flies the older you get.
i'd say long cross-country flights because i've heard that it does happen but i don't have any firsthand experience.
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same boat, online is too expensive, and for me i wish the girls in bars were more like the girls in church and wish the girls in church were more like the girls in bars. where's my pam beasley?!?
i shoot for the friend of friends, but as you said, they start dropping like flies the older you get.
Fear not. Pretty soon they'll all be going through divorce and then they'll all be available again. I'm telling you, it's easier in your early 30's than when you were younger, if you take care of yourself physically & careerwise.
Ugh. I met my ex at a PJ show and that resulted in the worst year and a half of my life. Sure, that could have happened no matter where I met her, but the experience has me wary of doing that again.
I don't think there's anything wrong with the internet route. I've been doing that on and off for a while. Fact is, it's not as if your relationship would be online. You'll meet these women and have a regular relationship, just as if you'd have met them elsewhere.
As far as I'm concerned, anything that helps you meet more people can't possibly be a bad thing.
If I shouldn't be meeting girls online, and I shouldn't be meeting girls at bars, then where the hell should I be meeting them at my tender, still young but almost old age???
I almost agree with them because he girls I've been meeting online have been single for a looong time, and not just because they wanted to be single..
Theres nothing wrong with meeting someone online or at a bar. Its just like meeting people anywhere, there are plenty of quality people but you have to look for them and avoid the weirdos.
I will tell you how to meet girls. I was at a park in Burlington VT one summer, and this guy had a cute dog out on a leash. He was with a friend (guy). Girls kept stopping to see the dog. He told his friend 'see, a dog is a chick magnet', and it looked like he was right.
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Go do things you are interested in and then strike up conversations with people. For example....if you like the arts go to a museum and talk to people. You never know who or where you might make a connection.
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it's perfectly fine to meet people online. I did it for years. I was the same way as you- I found it impossible to meet eligible guys. I did all sorts of social activities and everything, but never came across any single guys in the 20s, let alone any that I was interested in. I do have to say though, right now I am not interested in dating at all, but if and when I change my mind on that, I don't think I'll be going back to online dating. I feel that when you do that, you start to date just for the sake of dating, not because you really like someone. If I start dating again, I would like to meet someone and get to know them and then suddenly realize we like each other. I don't know if that sort of thing happens anymore and to people our age (I'm 30) but still, it seems the most natural. I am 100% against forcing relationships. I believe it is better to be single than to wish you were. When you date online, someone asks you out and you're like "eh what the hell, might as well have a night out" even if the person doesn't seem great to you. I think I'm kinda over that now, but others like it. As for how to people outside of match.com, I have no idea. and given that I posted that same question on this and other message boards I can tell you this: neither does anyone else.
and this, one of my favorite seinfeld moments sums it up:
(George and Jerry both enter a bookstore)
GEORGE: I read somewhere that this Brentano's is the place to meet girls in New York.
JERRY: First it was the health club, then the supermarket, now the bookstore. They could put it anywhere they want, no one's meetin' anybody.
But I wouldn't know how to approach a girl at the gym without seeming creepy! Am I the only one that thinks this?
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I don't think the gym is a good place at all. everyone is too focused on what they're doing, if you start talking to them you're just going to bug them. plus, everyone's wearing headphones!
oh geez, me either. ALTHOUGH I did get asked out in the gym once. I was flabbergasted. I was wearing the LAST of my gym clothes- you know the ones that are ill fitting and look weird and come out the last day before the wash and as usual, covered in sweat like a jumped in a pool. This guy comes up to me says I "look like I have a lot of energy" and proceded to ask me out for that night...I said I had other plans. I really did, but I was glad for it because it was a wee bit tacky.
but how does that become a date?
I find it hard to believe, that outside of romantic comedies, telling someone the book they're reading on the subway is a good one is going to lead to a relationship.
its hard to stop a girl in the street and ask for a date,, thats fantasy land
it just is
but in a social setting or at work , if u talk to them u will know if their is any connection after 5 minutes ,,take it from their
the old were all going out for drinks after work , why dont u come is a good one
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Wow, I barely remember making this thread last night thanks to alcohol, lol.. but yeah, funny thing about that is I have been jogging along the lake, and 20 minute jogs have turned into hour long jogs because of all the hotties to look at!.. but realistically, you can't just stop one and get a date. Not gonna happen.
Go out with friends of the opposite sex. They'll think you're harmless and (in my experience) do their best to get your attention.
But taking advice from a single dude might not be the best way to go.
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i shoot for the friend of friends, but as you said, they start dropping like flies the older you get.
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Things happen in the game. Nothing you
can do. I don't go and say,
"I'm gonna beat this guy up."
Fear not. Pretty soon they'll all be going through divorce and then they'll all be available again. I'm telling you, it's easier in your early 30's than when you were younger, if you take care of yourself physically & careerwise.
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Ugh. I met my ex at a PJ show and that resulted in the worst year and a half of my life. Sure, that could have happened no matter where I met her, but the experience has me wary of doing that again.
I don't think there's anything wrong with the internet route. I've been doing that on and off for a while. Fact is, it's not as if your relationship would be online. You'll meet these women and have a regular relationship, just as if you'd have met them elsewhere.
As far as I'm concerned, anything that helps you meet more people can't possibly be a bad thing.
Theres nothing wrong with meeting someone online or at a bar. Its just like meeting people anywhere, there are plenty of quality people but you have to look for them and avoid the weirdos.
I just dig those rhythm and blues!
But she died. :(
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ABSOLUTELY does, international even better
but I still say got back to school
go to class, get some ass