How to meet girls, non-internet..

Flannel Shirt

you got sisters or friends with girlfriends/wives. sometimes they can hook you up?

if that doesnt work out try speedys idea. hey man, even John Marek could land a date 1 out of 12 times.

booomm11

gotta step up your game!! Can i suggest your local strip joint, i'm sure u can find a keeper in there.

butterfly1

After class
at the cafeteria
library
work (be careful)
grocery store
show
friends party

to name a few-- and I was pretty bad at it when I was dating.

fanch75

LikeAnOcean wrote:

So I'm hanging out with some friends tonight (drinking) who seem to be amazed that I'm still single, "because of my looks and charm" (I'm flattered).. but got dissed because I resorted to online dating.. And their advise to me was walk around a college campus and "accidently" bump into girls..

Now ladies, is that the best bit of advice to give a few years gone by (I'm 29) post-college grad to meet ladies?..

If I shouldn't be meeting girls online, and I shouldn't be meeting girls at bars, then where the hell should I be meeting them at my tender, still young but almost old age???

I almost agree with them because he girls I've been meeting online have been single for a looong time, and not just because they wanted to be single..

P.S. I've been drinking..

Have your friends introduce you to someone that they really know. That way, you have the background & "is she crazy?" checks already done. They'll know if there's a good chance she's good for you, & vice versa.

Some girl at the club or online may be some high maintenance, crazy woman with 5 kids.

PearlsGirl

LikeAnOcean wrote:

So I'm hanging out with some friends tonight (drinking) who seem to be amazed that I'm still single, "because of my looks and charm" (I'm flattered).. but got dissed because I resorted to online dating.. And their advise to me was walk around a college campus and "accidently" bump into girls..

Now ladies, is that the best bit of advice to give a few years gone by (I'm 29) post-college grad to meet ladies?..

If I shouldn't be meeting girls online, and I shouldn't be meeting girls at bars, then where the hell should I be meeting them at my tender, still young but almost old age???

I almost agree with them because he girls I've been meeting online have been single for a looong time, and not just because they wanted to be single..

P.S. I've been drinking..

I think that you meet a special someone when you are least expecting it. I'd say, enjoy your life, 29 isn't old at all! I mean, I'm only 24, and I have a longggg way before I even think about settling down with someone. Just have fun with your friends, and take life as it is. Who knows, it might be that when you go to buy groceries next time, you might meet the love of your life.

I have practically no hope in man kind, but the illusion of love always gets me.

Gremmie95

Finding a new girl is like finding a new job. It's always easier when you already have one!

Heineken Helen

acoustic guy wrote:

I have three friends who meet their wives through internet dating. Honestly it worked out great.

how many wives do they have?

drivingrl

Sign yourself up for a local kickball or softball team. Or get involved with your local political parties. Or volunteer.

It's like that saying "Life is what happens when you're making other plans." Keep yourself busy, and you'll probably run into her, y'know?

GraySaturday

So, I worked at Barnes and Noble in college, and FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, Men:

Do not try to go to Barnes and Noble and sit in the cafe with a book/mag/nothing but a coffee, and try to pick up girls that are studying/shopping/enjoying a quiet night! SO many guys do that, and its sooo funny. I saw like 20 guys get shot down over and over again. They were like the B&N serial daters.

Okay, now that I got that out, I do have some suggestions for you:

*Since you're in Chicago they are Chicago specific.

The weather is getting nice.. there are women ALL over the lake front path! Go jogging/biking/rollerblading... There are tons of places to stop and enjoy the lake. Women love a guy in shape who is active. I'd totally talk to a guy in that situation, if I was single.

Bars, are always an option. I think they are kinda loud to try to pick up someone, like you're always screaming when you talk..

Down in the parks downtown where they have outdoor concerts and stuff. Go with a few of your guy friends. Girls love a guy who has friends and is outgoing and popular. Plus it makes you less shy to have a backup.

Someone mentioned taking a dog for a walk. I'm pretty sure you don't have a dog, but a lot of parks are joined with dog parks, and if you don't have a dog, its easy to be walking by a dog park/the dog beach.. Dogs are such an easy ice breaker. Talk to a girl about her dog, she'll eat it up.

Meet a girl at a gym. There are tons of cute girls at the gym. Plus if you're into working out, and she's pounding out a work out, you know you have something in common.

Are you into the arts? There are classes at this place on Ravenswood Ave that are like 6-8 weeks, just once a week and its a thing you can learn and meet people. *I do have more info on this if you're interested, I just can't remember the name, if you are, let me know and I'll get you the info

STREET FESTIVALS.. the summer in Chicago is amazing. There are festivals every weekend in different places, big ones, little ones.. and they are full of girls.. I bet you, you can meet a bunch of women there.



So those are my suggestions. I think online dating is totally fine, unless you go overboard, like some people I know (my mom haha). But you know, people will always attach a stigma to it. But, I wouldn't go around the college campuses to try to meet girls. You don't want to accidently start picking up 18-19 year olds. I mean maybe you do, but I assume at 29, you're looking for a girl who is in her 20's.

fanch75

I know what LAO's main obstacle is going to be....

Get_Right

go back to school
never met more women than at school
take a class, get some ass

hahhahahahahaha cant believe I wrote that

OffHeGoes29

When you're bad ass like me, you have no problem meeting women.

GreenTeaDisease

LikeAnOcean wrote:

So I'm hanging out with some friends tonight (drinking) who seem to be amazed that I'm still single, "because of my looks and charm" (I'm flattered).. but got dissed because I resorted to online dating.. And their advise to me was walk around a college campus and "accidently" bump into girls..

Now ladies, is that the best bit of advice to give a few years gone by (I'm 29) post-college grad to meet ladies?..

If I shouldn't be meeting girls online, and I shouldn't be meeting girls at bars, then where the hell should I be meeting them at my tender, still young but almost old age???

I almost agree with them because he girls I've been meeting online have been single for a looong time, and not just because they wanted to be single..

P.S. I've been drinking..

it's perfectly fine to meet people online. I did it for years. I was the same way as you- I found it impossible to meet eligible guys. I did all sorts of social activities and everything, but never came across any single guys in the 20s, let alone any that I was interested in. I do have to say though, right now I am not interested in dating at all, but if and when I change my mind on that, I don't think I'll be going back to online dating. I feel that when you do that, you start to date just for the sake of dating, not because you really like someone. If I start dating again, I would like to meet someone and get to know them and then suddenly realize we like each other. I don't know if that sort of thing happens anymore and to people our age (I'm 30) but still, it seems the most natural. I am 100% against forcing relationships. I believe it is better to be single than to wish you were. When you date online, someone asks you out and you're like "eh what the hell, might as well have a night out" even if the person doesn't seem great to you. I think I'm kinda over that now, but others like it. As for how to people outside of match.com, I have no idea. and given that I posted that same question on this and other message boards I can tell you this: neither does anyone else.

and this, one of my favorite seinfeld moments sums it up:

(George and Jerry both enter a bookstore)

GEORGE: I read somewhere that this Brentano's is the place to meet girls in New York.

JERRY: First it was the health club, then the supermarket, now the bookstore. They could put it anywhere they want, no one's meetin' anybody.

Lesbelges

I've read several replies saying that the Gym is a place to pick up girls.

But I wouldn't know how to approach a girl at the gym without seeming creepy! Am I the only one that thinks this?

GreenTeaDisease

Lesbelges wrote:

I've read several replies saying that the Gym is a place to pick up girls.

But I wouldn't know how to approach a girl at the gym without seeming creepy! Am I the only one that thinks this?

I don't think the gym is a good place at all. everyone is too focused on what they're doing, if you start talking to them you're just going to bug them. plus, everyone's wearing headphones!

nfanel

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I don't think the gym is a good place at all. everyone is too focused on what they're doing, if you start talking to them you're just going to bug them. plus, everyone's wearing headphones!

wearing headphones plus looking all red and sweaty. i, for one, am definitely not at my cutest when i'm at the gym.

GreenTeaDisease

nfanel wrote:

wearing headphones plus looking all red and sweaty. i, for one, am definitely not at my cutest when i'm at the gym.

oh geez, me either. ALTHOUGH I did get asked out in the gym once. I was flabbergasted. I was wearing the LAST of my gym clothes- you know the ones that are ill fitting and look weird and come out the last day before the wash and as usual, covered in sweat like a jumped in a pool. This guy comes up to me says I "look like I have a lot of energy" and proceded to ask me out for that night...I said I had other plans. I really did, but I was glad for it because it was a wee bit tacky.

NY PJ1

just talk to them anywhere

GreenTeaDisease

NY PJ1 wrote:

just talk to them anywhere

but how does that become a date?

I find it hard to believe, that outside of romantic comedies, telling someone the book they're reading on the subway is a good one is going to lead to a relationship.

NY PJ1

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

but how does that become a date?

I find it hard to believe, that outside of romantic comedies, telling someone the book they're reading on the subway is a good one is going to lead to a relationship.

its hard to stop a girl in the street and ask for a date,, thats fantasy land
it just is


but in a social setting or at work , if u talk to them u will know if their is any connection after 5 minutes ,,take it from their

the old were all going out for drinks after work , why dont u come is a good one