She was sexually abused and I know she has a lot of issues with that. I should look at this website and see if i can find a crisis number. Yeah I really don't want to tell her family. It's hard for me to believe they don't know..
Thank you so much for the advice, you have been very helpful.
You are very welcome. I am honoured if anything I've said has been helpful.
At the CMHA where I work, we treat cutting as non-emergency, because it's not a suicidal behaviour. However, that changes if there is a bad wound or something health threatening. Medical help may be warranted. And counselling etc, always encouraged. In general, cutting is not suicidal behaviour.
There are a lot of fine lines that you will have to discern for yourself, so any supports you have is all the better! And if anything I say conflicts with your gut instinct, trust your gut and seek more guidance, through those crisis lines, etc! And you seem like a sensitive, caring person yourself, and she will appreciate that, even if she is unable to make the necessary changes yet. If you act from your heart in a well-intended way, and adapt when things aren't working, you'll do fine. Sometimes caring friends/family don't realize how much power they can have as even that one person who is there. And if it becomes overwhelming for you, make sure you keep your own boundaries healthy.
For my own initial healing, it was just one non-professional (my bumbling boyfriend) who supported me for years. It was magic, even though it took a long time to see the outcome. Know any positive support is effective, and trust your intuition!
I am grateful for the opportunity to share.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
You are very welcome. I am honoured if anything I've said has been helpful.
At the CMHA where I work, we treat cutting as non-emergency, because it's not a suicidal behaviour. However, that changes if there is a bad wound or something health threatening. Medical help may be warranted. And counselling etc, always encouraged. In general, cutting is not suicidal behaviour.
There are a lot of fine lines that you will have to discern for yourself, so any supports you have is all the better! And if anything I say conflicts with your gut instinct, trust your gut and seek more guidance, through those crisis lines, etc! And you seem like a sensitive, caring person yourself, and she will appreciate that, even if she is unable to make the necessary changes yet. If you act from your heart in a well-intended way, and adapt when things aren't working, you'll do fine. Sometimes caring friends/family don't realize how much power they can have as even that one person who is there. And if it becomes overwhelming for you, make sure you keep your own boundaries healthy.
For my own initial healing, it was just one non-professional (my bumbling boyfriend) who supported me for years. It was magic, even though it took a long time to see the outcome. Know any positive support is effective, and trust your intuition!
I am grateful for the opportunity to share.
ah...I don't think she is suicidal but there were times when she really hurt herself bad..but I know the intention isn't there but I guess she can go too far.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
yeah that's what i've heard too....makes me so sad to think that someone is so miserable, for lack of a better word, that they cut themselves to feel something....i hope you can get your friend help
For me, I had no idea the kinds of traumas I blocked inside. And I had no idea where I lacked healthy skills. All I knew was that I was in huge turmoil and had to cut in order to release that.
It's sad for others who understand and feel empathy from the outside. And yet, being in that situation, one is blocked from their own trauma, because they are not ready to deal with it. Therefore they are protected from the true pain. And in my case, and for others, by the time I began to develop healthier ways, and understanding, then the underlying pain started coming up in healthy ways, because I could cope with it. I was able to manage it, and feel, experience and soothe my own pain, finally. The brain doesn't let us deal with what we cannot. I have great reverence and respect for how it works.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
ah...I don't think she is suicidal but there were times when she really hurt herself bad..but I know the intention isn't there but I guess she can go too far.
Yeah, and that's the type of thing that you would be best served to check with whomever you can for advice on how to cope... All kinds of different agencies, etc, have different policies on what is best...
At the CMHA, I work in crisis intervention, so what we do in the moment of a crisis, is different than others may feel is best for long term. And with bad self-harm, we have a mobile crisis team that is trained to get people to go (and who go with) to the hospital for care of wounds at the least. The more facets/options you are familiar with and can choose from the better equipped you will be to make the best choices for your situation.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
I cut for seven years. First time I did it I was 11 and broke a plastic clothes hanger in two. Took a piece and started to carve. At that point, I didn't know why I did it. Just that I did it. I could sense something underneath the surface of my thoughts, but couldn't tell what it was. It was soon after that the memories of sexual abuse I had suffered returned to me after I had blacked them out. The sexual abuse wasn't the only reason I did it. My mother put me under a lot of stress with verbal abuse and always being on edge. I had a lot of emotional pain, and absolutely no way to deal with it at all. So, I decided to make the emotional pain physical, so I could see it and watch it, and know that one day it would heal. Not a very healthy or long lasting fix for my problem, but I wasn't looking at that at the time. It became an addiction for me, and just like an addiction, I had to do it more often and do a larger amount each time to get the same effect. Eventually my parents found out. The first thing they did was slap me across the face. After they got done doing that I went back into my room and cut myself up all over again. My current g/f got me to stop doing it by saying that when I did it to myself, I did it to her. I haven't done it in about two to three years but it's not over. You know how they say once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic? I apply that to self-mutilation also. Atleast for myself. I'd be lying if I said I didn't get urges to do it even today.
I've got scratches, all over my arms
One for each day, since I fell apart.
Yeah, and that's the type of thing that you would be best served to check with whomever you can for advice on how to cope... All kinds of different agencies, etc, have different policies on what is best...
At the CMHA, I work in crisis intervention, so what we do in the moment of a crisis, is different than others may feel is best for long term. And with bad self-harm, we have a mobile crisis team that is trained to get people to go (and who go with) to the hospital for care of wounds at the least. The more facets/options you are familiar with and can choose from the better equipped you will be to make the best choices for your situation.
Yeah Im going to do some more research. I think isolation is bad for her and she tends to do isolate herself. I'm going to try to keep her occupied..do fun stuff and such..I know it sounds stupid but I think it helps her.
Thank you again Angelica so much for your help.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
I cut for seven years. First time I did it I was 11 and broke a plastic clothes hanger in two. Took a piece and started to carve. At that point, I didn't know why I did it. Just that I did it. I could sense something underneath the surface of my thoughts, but couldn't tell what it was. It was soon after that the memories of sexual abuse I had suffered returned to me after I had blacked them out. The sexual abuse wasn't the only reason I did it. My mother put me under a lot of stress with verbal abuse and always being on edge. I had a lot of emotional pain, and absolutely no way to deal with it at all. So, I decided to make the emotional pain physical, so I could see it and watch it, and know that one day it would heal. Not a very healthy or long lasting fix for my problem, but I wasn't looking at that at the time. It became an addiction for me, and just like an addiction, I had to do it more often and do a larger amount each time to get the same effect. Eventually my parents found out. The first thing they did was slap me across the face. After they got done doing that I went back into my room and cut myself up all over again. My current g/f got me to stop doing it by saying that when I did it to myself, I did it to her. I haven't done it in about two to three years but it's not over. You know how they say once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic? I apply that to self-mutilation also. Atleast for myself. I'd be lying if I said I didn't get urges to do it even today.
I've got scratches, all over my arms
One for each day, since I fell apart.
That line gets me every fucking time.
Woooo. Very personal info. Takes balls to write that.
Keep focused
Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
I cut for seven years. First time I did it I was 11 and broke a plastic clothes hanger in two. Took a piece and started to carve. At that point, I didn't know why I did it. Just that I did it. I could sense something underneath the surface of my thoughts, but couldn't tell what it was. It was soon after that the memories of sexual abuse I had suffered returned to me after I had blacked them out. The sexual abuse wasn't the only reason I did it. My mother put me under a lot of stress with verbal abuse and always being on edge. I had a lot of emotional pain, and absolutely no way to deal with it at all. So, I decided to make the emotional pain physical, so I could see it and watch it, and know that one day it would heal. Not a very healthy or long lasting fix for my problem, but I wasn't looking at that at the time. It became an addiction for me, and just like an addiction, I had to do it more often and do a larger amount each time to get the same effect. Eventually my parents found out. The first thing they did was slap me across the face. After they got done doing that I went back into my room and cut myself up all over again. My current g/f got me to stop doing it by saying that when I did it to myself, I did it to her. I haven't done it in about two to three years but it's not over. You know how they say once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic? I apply that to self-mutilation also. Atleast for myself. I'd be lying if I said I didn't get urges to do it even today.
I've got scratches, all over my arms
One for each day, since I fell apart.
That line gets me every fucking time.
My daughter also has scars all over her arms. Her ex-boyfriend has cigarette burns along his.
I send my support to you, my friend. I remember us talking about this before. Peace.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
Yeah Im going to do some more research. I think isolation is bad for her and she tends to do isolate herself. I'm going to try to keep her occupied..do fun stuff and such..I know it sounds stupid but I think it helps her.
Thank you again Angelica so much for your help.
You are very welcome. ((((Hugs)))) to you!
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
I cut for seven years. First time I did it I was 11 and broke a plastic clothes hanger in two. Took a piece and started to carve. At that point, I didn't know why I did it. Just that I did it. I could sense something underneath the surface of my thoughts, but couldn't tell what it was. It was soon after that the memories of sexual abuse I had suffered returned to me after I had blacked them out. The sexual abuse wasn't the only reason I did it. My mother put me under a lot of stress with verbal abuse and always being on edge. I had a lot of emotional pain, and absolutely no way to deal with it at all. So, I decided to make the emotional pain physical, so I could see it and watch it, and know that one day it would heal. Not a very healthy or long lasting fix for my problem, but I wasn't looking at that at the time. It became an addiction for me, and just like an addiction, I had to do it more often and do a larger amount each time to get the same effect. Eventually my parents found out. The first thing they did was slap me across the face. After they got done doing that I went back into my room and cut myself up all over again. My current g/f got me to stop doing it by saying that when I did it to myself, I did it to her. I haven't done it in about two to three years but it's not over. You know how they say once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic? I apply that to self-mutilation also. Atleast for myself. I'd be lying if I said I didn't get urges to do it even today.
I've got scratches, all over my arms
One for each day, since I fell apart.
That line gets me every fucking time.
Thank you for sharing that...Im sorry that you have gone through that. I think my friend had gone a couple of years or so..and I was always hopeful. It's stupid but once when i was in her room i tried to look for knives, scissors or razors to throw them away...
So you gf just asking you to stop was enough? I tried to tell her and I think it works for a little while..but like you said I think the urges is always there. :(
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
self mutilation is something that teenagers have used for years as "cries for attention" I m not gonna judge (i personally have never been a self mutilator or known anyone who has really personally) but its just so dumb :(
So worthless.. achieves nothing but bad scars and negative attention. Such a shame.. I used to think it was just a 12-16 year old attention cry (those are very confusing years for a person so i could see why it might happen) but now i hear about people doing it up unto their 30s! i am sorry but if u are hurting yourself past the age of 16, you need to get over yourself.. everyone has problems.. the world would over run with the rivers of tears... Life sucks.. doesn't mean ure purty skin has to suffer for it..
Thank you for sharing that...Im sorry that you have gone through that. I think my friend had gone a couple of years or so..and I was always hopeful. It's stupid but once when i was in her room i tried to look for knives, scissors or razors to throw them away...
So you gf just asking you to stop was enough? I tried to tell her and I think it works for a little while..but like you said I think the urges is always there. :(
It was a mixture between asking me and me knowing that she wouldn't stick around if I kept doing it. I think I knew it was getting really bad also. I never cut deep, but I always cut a lot and would allow them to bleed as long as they wanted. It was exhausting at times. Exhausting because it took a lot out of me to hurt myself that much and then make sure they couldn't be seen by strategically placed clothing.
Just keep letting her know you care about her. Let her know you just aren't going through the motions so your conscience is clean. And you have to realize that if she does decide to let you know what's inside...it can be pretty dark and ugly. Don't tell her you'll listen then tell her you can't. (If she hasn't told you already. But the advice applies to anyone else who has the same problem)
self mutilation is something that teenagers have used for years as "cries for attention" I m not gonna judge (i personally have never been a self mutilator or known anyone who has really personally) but its just so dumb :(
So worthless.. achieves nothing but bad scars and negative attention. Such a shame.. I used to think it was just a 12-16 year old attention cry (those are very confusing years for a person so i could see why it might happen) but now i hear about people doing it up unto their 30s! i am sorry but if u are hurting yourself past the age of 16, you need to get over yourself.. everyone has problems.. the world would over run with the rivers of tears... Life sucks.. doesn't mean ure purty skin has to suffer for it..
You are doing exactly what you say you are not doing: judging. You judge without understanding.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
self mutilation is something that teenagers have used for years as "cries for attention" I m not gonna judge (i personally have never been a self mutilator or known anyone who has really personally) but its just so dumb :(
So worthless.. achieves nothing but bad scars and negative attention. Such a shame.. I used to think it was just a 12-16 year old attention cry (those are very confusing years for a person so i could see why it might happen) but now i hear about people doing it up unto their 30s! i am sorry but if u are hurting yourself past the age of 16, you need to get over yourself.. everyone has problems.. the world would over run with the rivers of tears... Life sucks.. doesn't mean ure purty skin has to suffer for it..
Yes everyone does have problems..but not everyone can deal with it in a healthy or what most people would say a normal way. I have compassion for people and I think it's more complex then her having to get over herself.
Im never judge my friend or put her down...she has been through some bad shit and it evidently has caused her to not be able to channel her pain and frustrations in a healthy way.
I just want to help her.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
You are doing exactly what you say you are not doing: judging. You judge without understanding.
My OPINION.. is that its worthless and silly, how the fuck is judging?
If u are cutting yourself im not gonna treat you any differently... but it doesnt mean that i can't think your being emo.. i wish i could say my heart aches for the people who are doing it but to be honest, it just doesnt. All u can do is hope that that person finds whatever it is they are looking for to make things "ok" within themselves
Trust me, ive seen the lifetime movies.. its sad.. i dont get why people do but that doesnt mean im being judgmental for a second... I just have no respect for it .. its a respect less kind of thing..
.. And you have to realize that if she does decide to let you know what's inside...it can be pretty dark and ugly. Don't tell her you'll listen then tell her you can't. (If she hasn't told you already. But the advice applies to anyone else who has the same problem)
This is so true. I was unable to express my actual underlying issues to people, because they were horrified and tried block me always...to shut me down. Even my psychiatrist...In Canada, given psychiatry is covered by universal health care, psychiatry is often the main form of treatment for mental health issues. and yet they don't want to hear the stories...they are instead interested in "symptoms" and handing out medications.
My healing began when my boyfriend listened to me, heard the dark, horrible ugliness, and cried with me, and told me it wasn't my fault, and I wasn't to blame.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
I know several friends that have or do do it... One's used therapy and it's helped, I don't know about the others.
Believe me, when I was growin up, I thought the worst thing you could turn out to be was normal, So I say freaks in the most complementary way. Here's a song by a fellow freak - E.V
My OPINION.. is that its worthless and silly, how the fuck is judging?
If u are cutting yourself im not gonna treat you any differently... but it doesnt mean that i can't think your being emo..
Trust me, ive seen the lifetime movies.. its sad.. i dont get why people do but that doesnt mean im being judgmental for a second... I just have no respect for it .. its a respect less kind of thing..
You're entitled to your opinion, just as I'm entitled to point out your contradictory words.
"The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth." ~ Niels Bohr
Yes everyone does have problems..but not everyone can deal with it in a healthy or what most people would say a normal way. I have compassion for people and I think it's more complex then her having to get over herself.
Im never judge my friend or put her down...she has been through some bad shit and it evidently has caused her to not be able to channel her pain and frustrations in a healthy way.
I just want to help her.
and thats very sweet of you! you should..
i had a friend who i had no idea was even depressed until i got a phone call that she committed suicide.. Keep helping your friend in anyway you can...
I just don't get it .. theres so much better things to come out of anger and hurt other than cuts ..
self mutilation is something that teenagers have used for years as "cries for attention" I m not gonna judge (i personally have never been a self mutilator or known anyone who has really personally) but its just so dumb :(
So worthless.. achieves nothing but bad scars and negative attention. Such a shame.. I used to think it was just a 12-16 year old attention cry (those are very confusing years for a person so i could see why it might happen) but now i hear about people doing it up unto their 30s! i am sorry but if u are hurting yourself past the age of 16, you need to get over yourself.. everyone has problems.. the world would over run with the rivers of tears... Life sucks.. doesn't mean ure purty skin has to suffer for it..
Cries for attention...I suppose some of us have done it for that reason. There are also those of us, like myself, who made sure that what we did wasn't seen and nobody knew what was going on. I don't expect you to understand why we do it, but it takes only a little understanding to know that self mutilation stems from emotional problems that a person simply cannot get over. Do you tell a rape victim to get over it? A person who was beaten as a child to get over it? Because sometimes this is what we deal with it. And this is how we deal with it. We know it's not healthy. We know it's not good for us. But you also have to realize that a lot of us don't give a fuck about ourselves.
My OPINION.. is that its worthless and silly, how the fuck is judging?
If u are cutting yourself im not gonna treat you any differently... but it doesnt mean that i can't think your being emo.. i wish i could say my heart aches for the people who are doing it but to be honest, it just doesnt. All u can do is hope that that person finds whatever it is they are looking for to make things "ok" within themselves
Trust me, ive seen the lifetime movies.. its sad.. i dont get why people do but that doesnt mean im being judgmental for a second... I just have no respect for it .. its a respect less kind of thing..
I respect your opinion..I agree it is worthless and senseless. But if you have a close friend doing it your not gonna be so flip about it..you are gonna care about helping them. Just like if someone I knew had a drug problem..yeah it's senseless but Im still going to care.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
You're entitled to your opinion, just as I'm entitled to point out your contradictory words.
How did i contradict myself?.. i said.. i dont judge that person who does it.. "oh that person cuts themselves, they are a fucking idiot" That would be judging a person. I just said i didnt have any respect for it.. if you are going to put me under a scope.. at least do it fairly please
i had a friend who i had no idea was even depressed until i got a phone call that she committed suicide.. Keep helping your friend in anyway you can...
I just don't get it .. theres so much better things to come out of anger and hurt other than cuts ..
eh..it's a hard thing to understand..Im trying to...She tries to cover the cuts but I saw the one on her wrist. As for the attention thing...most of the time they are covering up and stuff...I think she has been keeping it from her family that way.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
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well yeah I forgot to request that people not post rude comments...pfft..big mistake.
Im not trying to exploit my friend..Im just really concerned and everyone has been very helpful and encouraging..
Thank you.
I know. well I hope everything works out for whoever needs it to. but damn...just reading those words on the forum page is a bummer
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Well yeah it is a bummer..especially knowing someone close to you who is in trouble and you can't help them.
At the CMHA where I work, we treat cutting as non-emergency, because it's not a suicidal behaviour. However, that changes if there is a bad wound or something health threatening. Medical help may be warranted. And counselling etc, always encouraged. In general, cutting is not suicidal behaviour.
There are a lot of fine lines that you will have to discern for yourself, so any supports you have is all the better! And if anything I say conflicts with your gut instinct, trust your gut and seek more guidance, through those crisis lines, etc! And you seem like a sensitive, caring person yourself, and she will appreciate that, even if she is unable to make the necessary changes yet. If you act from your heart in a well-intended way, and adapt when things aren't working, you'll do fine. Sometimes caring friends/family don't realize how much power they can have as even that one person who is there. And if it becomes overwhelming for you, make sure you keep your own boundaries healthy.
For my own initial healing, it was just one non-professional (my bumbling boyfriend) who supported me for years. It was magic, even though it took a long time to see the outcome. Know any positive support is effective, and trust your intuition!
I am grateful for the opportunity to share.
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
Have you tried to help them?
Pearl Jam bootlegs:
http://wegotshit.blogspot.com
ah...I don't think she is suicidal but there were times when she really hurt herself bad..but I know the intention isn't there but I guess she can go too far.
It's sad for others who understand and feel empathy from the outside. And yet, being in that situation, one is blocked from their own trauma, because they are not ready to deal with it. Therefore they are protected from the true pain. And in my case, and for others, by the time I began to develop healthier ways, and understanding, then the underlying pain started coming up in healthy ways, because I could cope with it. I was able to manage it, and feel, experience and soothe my own pain, finally. The brain doesn't let us deal with what we cannot. I have great reverence and respect for how it works.
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
Im trying as best I can but it seems she has to decide for herself. I guess just being there for her is the best I can do right now. :(
At the CMHA, I work in crisis intervention, so what we do in the moment of a crisis, is different than others may feel is best for long term. And with bad self-harm, we have a mobile crisis team that is trained to get people to go (and who go with) to the hospital for care of wounds at the least. The more facets/options you are familiar with and can choose from the better equipped you will be to make the best choices for your situation.
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
I've got scratches, all over my arms
One for each day, since I fell apart.
That line gets me every fucking time.
Yeah Im going to do some more research. I think isolation is bad for her and she tends to do isolate herself. I'm going to try to keep her occupied..do fun stuff and such..I know it sounds stupid but I think it helps her.
Thank you again Angelica so much for your help.
Woooo. Very personal info. Takes balls to write that.
Keep focused
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
I send my support to you, my friend. I remember us talking about this before.
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
Thank you for sharing that...Im sorry that you have gone through that. I think my friend had gone a couple of years or so..and I was always hopeful. It's stupid but once when i was in her room i tried to look for knives, scissors or razors to throw them away...
So you gf just asking you to stop was enough? I tried to tell her and I think it works for a little while..but like you said I think the urges is always there. :(
So worthless.. achieves nothing but bad scars and negative attention. Such a shame.. I used to think it was just a 12-16 year old attention cry (those are very confusing years for a person so i could see why it might happen) but now i hear about people doing it up unto their 30s! i am sorry but if u are hurting yourself past the age of 16, you need to get over yourself.. everyone has problems.. the world would over run with the rivers of tears... Life sucks.. doesn't mean ure purty skin has to suffer for it..
It was a mixture between asking me and me knowing that she wouldn't stick around if I kept doing it. I think I knew it was getting really bad also. I never cut deep, but I always cut a lot and would allow them to bleed as long as they wanted. It was exhausting at times. Exhausting because it took a lot out of me to hurt myself that much and then make sure they couldn't be seen by strategically placed clothing.
Just keep letting her know you care about her. Let her know you just aren't going through the motions so your conscience is clean. And you have to realize that if she does decide to let you know what's inside...it can be pretty dark and ugly. Don't tell her you'll listen then tell her you can't. (If she hasn't told you already. But the advice applies to anyone else who has the same problem)
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
Yes everyone does have problems..but not everyone can deal with it in a healthy or what most people would say a normal way. I have compassion for people and I think it's more complex then her having to get over herself.
Im never judge my friend or put her down...she has been through some bad shit and it evidently has caused her to not be able to channel her pain and frustrations in a healthy way.
I just want to help her.
My OPINION.. is that its worthless and silly, how the fuck is judging?
If u are cutting yourself im not gonna treat you any differently... but it doesnt mean that i can't think your being emo.. i wish i could say my heart aches for the people who are doing it but to be honest, it just doesnt. All u can do is hope that that person finds whatever it is they are looking for to make things "ok" within themselves
Trust me, ive seen the lifetime movies.. its sad.. i dont get why people do but that doesnt mean im being judgmental for a second... I just have no respect for it .. its a respect less kind of thing..
My healing began when my boyfriend listened to me, heard the dark, horrible ugliness, and cried with me, and told me it wasn't my fault, and I wasn't to blame.
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
Yeah...I guess that's the risk I took when I posted this..Unfortunately, some people could be insensitive.
http://www.myspace.com/illuminatta
Rhinocerous Surprise '08!!!
and thats very sweet of you! you should..
i had a friend who i had no idea was even depressed until i got a phone call that she committed suicide.. Keep helping your friend in anyway you can...
I just don't get it .. theres so much better things to come out of anger and hurt other than cuts ..
Cries for attention...I suppose some of us have done it for that reason. There are also those of us, like myself, who made sure that what we did wasn't seen and nobody knew what was going on. I don't expect you to understand why we do it, but it takes only a little understanding to know that self mutilation stems from emotional problems that a person simply cannot get over. Do you tell a rape victim to get over it? A person who was beaten as a child to get over it? Because sometimes this is what we deal with it. And this is how we deal with it. We know it's not healthy. We know it's not good for us. But you also have to realize that a lot of us don't give a fuck about ourselves.
I respect your opinion..I agree it is worthless and senseless. But if you have a close friend doing it your not gonna be so flip about it..you are gonna care about helping them. Just like if someone I knew had a drug problem..yeah it's senseless but Im still going to care.
How did i contradict myself?.. i said.. i dont judge that person who does it.. "oh that person cuts themselves, they are a fucking idiot" That would be judging a person. I just said i didnt have any respect for it.. if you are going to put me under a scope.. at least do it fairly please
eh..it's a hard thing to understand..Im trying to...She tries to cover the cuts but I saw the one on her wrist. As for the attention thing...most of the time they are covering up and stuff...I think she has been keeping it from her family that way.