Self-Mutilation

libragirl

Does anyone know someone who does this or did it..Did they ever find a way to stop? Or do you or ever did it?

My friend is a cutter and Im worried about her.

Please do not post rude or insensitive remarks. Thank you.

Ledbetterman10

dude, no one wants to talk about self-mutilation.

The All Encompassing Trip forum is for: Sports, Movies, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

nope, don't see self-mutilation up there. I mean really...if you want to learn about a topic, then go and research it. some things are meant to be learned that way. If you want to know which show has the best Evenflow or what Nothing As It Seems is about, then this is the place to ask it. but jesus.......

EvilMerlin

libragirl wrote:

Does anyone know someone who does this or did it..Did they ever find a way to stop? Or do you or ever did it?

I have a buddy who did it, he said he got to a point where he kind of grew out of it. After therapy for his aggression and anger, it started to slow down, and I think he was beginning to process the pain he was causing himself.

Fifthelement

libragirl wrote:

Does anyone know someone who does this or did it..Did they ever find a way to stop? Or do you or ever did it?

My niece was cutting herself. I talked to her about it and then told her that I needed to tell her parents because she needed serious help. She was upset at first, but eventually went to counselling, and is dealing with her issues head-on now. I am happy to say that she has stopped cutting.

Rhinocerous Surprise

I know someone who did... I told them that, even though they thought they were just hurting themselves, every time they did it, it hurt the people they loved. There are so many better ways of dealing with stuff.

HushBull

Ledbetterman10 wrote:

dude, no one wants to talk about self-mutilation.

The All Encompassing Trip forum is for: Sports, Movies, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

nope, don't see self-mutilation up there. I mean really...if you want to learn about a topic, then go and research it. some things are meant to be learned that way. If you want to know which show has the best Evenflow or what Nothing As It Seems is about, then this is the place to ask it. but jesus.......

I would advise you just not clicky on the topic. I like AET because it is no holds barred.

brain of c

razorblade sherry.

i wonder if she made it through.

libragirl

EvilMerlin wrote:

I have a buddy who did it, he said he got to a point where he kind of grew out of it. After therapy for his aggression and anger, it started to slow down, and I think he was beginning to process the pain he was causing himself.

I have a friend and she was doing it since Highschool. I think she stopped for a while but now she is doing it again I think. I saw a cut on her wrist. She has scars and stuff..it's a shame she is an attractive girl. I was hoping she would start being able to deal with stuff in a healthier way. I just want to help her but don't know how.

Fifthelement

Ledbetterman10 wrote:

dude, no one wants to talk about self-mutilation.

The All Encompassing Trip forum is for: Sports, Movies, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

nope, don't see self-mutilation up there. I mean really...if you want to learn about a topic, then go and research it. some things are meant to be learned that way. If you want to know which show has the best Evenflow or what Nothing As It Seems is about, then this is the place to ask it. but jesus.......

I don't even know how to respond to this. If you can't contribute positively, than please don't contribute. Pass the thread by.

EvilMerlin

libragirl wrote:

I have a friend and she was doing it since Highschool. I think she stopped for a while but now she is doing it again I think. I saw a cut on her wrist. She has scars and stuff..it's a shame she is an attractive girl. I was hoping she would start being able to deal with stuff in a healthier way. I just want to help her but don't know how.

If it's a possibility and she'd be willing to go, I'd say counselling is the best way to go.

norm

libragirl wrote:

I have a friend and she was doing it since Highschool. I think she stopped for a while but now she is doing it again I think. I saw a cut on her wrist. She has scars and stuff..it's a shame she is an attractive girl. I was hoping she would start being able to deal with stuff in a healthier way. I just want to help her but don't know how.

sidenote....it's odd to read that and read your signature right after it

angelica

I spent a few years cutting...

I've had other cutters gravitate towards me through the years.

I work at the Canadian Mental Health Association, and deal with cutters somewhat often.

It's my understanding that the label "self-mutilation" has fallen out of favour, due to it being an emotionally alarmist type of term.

libragirl

Fifthelement wrote:

My niece was cutting herself. I talked to her about it and then told her that I needed to tell her parents because she needed serious help. She was upset at first, but eventually went to counselling, and is dealing with her issues head-on now. I am happy to say that she has stopped cutting.

Im not even sure if anyone around her knows it..I feel like saying something because Im scared she's going to go too far someday. But I don't want her to get mad at me. Maybe I can try to tell her to go to counseling..she seems like she really wants to stop.

EvilMerlin

Ledbetterman10 wrote:

dude, no one wants to talk about self-mutilation.

The All Encompassing Trip forum is for: Sports, Movies, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

nope, don't see self-mutilation up there. I mean really...if you want to learn about a topic, then go and research it. some things are meant to be learned that way. If you want to know which show has the best Evenflow or what Nothing As It Seems is about, then this is the place to ask it. but jesus.......

Dude, you just stated the rules...and then made an example that broke the rules. WTF?

Why would I ask about Even Flow or Nothing as it Seems here, when you stated the rules to me that this is for non-Pearl Jam topics.

Interesting...

I think this is the perfect place to ask about self-mutilation. As good as it gets on these boards.

Unless you thought this was the porch??

Well...I'm the third person to jump on you for this...sorry for beating a dead horse.

libragirl

angelica wrote:

I spent a few years cutting...

I've had other cutters gravitate towards me through the years.

I work at the Canadian Mental Health Association, and deal with cutters somewhat often.

It's my understanding that the label "self-mutilation" has fallen out of favour, due to it being an emotionally alarmist type of term.

Yeah..I don't know..I did see the term on a website that dealt with it. I am familiar with the word cutting...so what is the term that is used to describe it?

I understand why she does it but it still is baffling to me...I just want to help her.

EvilMerlin

cutback wrote:

sidenote....it's odd to read that and read your signature right after it

You're finding everything today!

libragirl

Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:

I know someone who did... I told them that, even though they thought they were just hurting themselves, every time they did it, it hurt the people they loved. There are so many better ways of dealing with stuff.

yeah..I think she gets upset because it upsets me and other people who knows she does it...and I can tell she's embarrassed about the scars. I even said if you stop doing it you won't have to worry about hiding scars and cuts, but she said at the time she's not thinking of that.

Fifthelement

libragirl wrote:

Im not even sure if anyone around her knows it..I feel like saying something because Im scared she's going to go too far someday. But I don't want her to get mad at me. Maybe I can try to tell her to go to counseling..she seems like she really wants to stop.

Be direct and ask her. Tell her you care and that she may find it helpful to get professional help.

libragirl

Ledbetterman10 wrote:

dude, no one wants to talk about self-mutilation.

The All Encompassing Trip forum is for: Sports, Movies, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

nope, don't see self-mutilation up there. I mean really...if you want to learn about a topic, then go and research it. some things are meant to be learned that way. If you want to know which show has the best Evenflow or what Nothing As It Seems is about, then this is the place to ask it. but jesus.......

Unbelievable....I really shouldn't even dignify this with a reply but here it is:

Im sorry if this is upsetting..Im concerned about my friend and a lot of people frequent this board. People with different life experiences and I was hoping to get some advice or feedback.

I am really offended by this post and really don't understand why you bothered to reply at all. You have the option to ignore a topic that doesn't interest you or is distasteful you know?

libragirl

cutback wrote:

sidenote....it's odd to read that and read your signature right after it

oh, well yeah I could understant that being odd.

angelica

libragirl wrote:

Im not even sure if anyone around her knows it..I feel like saying something because Im scared she's going to go too far someday. But I don't want her to get mad at me. Maybe I can try to tell her to go to counseling..she seems like she really wants to stop.

Any support you can offer her is great. And finding ways to connect her with supports, too, such as encouraging counselling. At the least, maybe posting the numbers for local Crisis/Distress lines on her fridge, etc.

Often cutters are maladaptively dealing with their pain, and the cutting is a compulsion, and is serving a purpose for the person when they don't have more productive coping skills.

Some of the cutters I've known, including myself, were sexually assaulted. Due to there being all kinds of possible related control issues, like sexual assault, imo, it's important to offer supports without getting into power struggles with the person. And if you intend to tell family/friends about it, there are risks that this person will no longer trust you, that only you can assess yourself, how you want/need to proceed. Also, if you have a local Distress or Crisis line, they often get third party callers, who are looking for support/help/advice for their loved ones...your call would be greatly welcomed on her behalf! If you don't have a local # many have toll free #s.

Best wishes with this!