I never felt strongly either way about abortion..

Pearl Jam and toast
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Until now.
Seventeen years old and my ex girlfriend (whom I broke up with a couple weeks ago) says she thinks she's pregnant. She's on the patch, which means something fucked up big time if it's true. Her mother is the kind of person who would kill the daughter if she found out (and I mean that literally), plus she's a rampid alcoholic which just doesn't help this at all.
My ex has a heart condition which her doctors said prevents her from giving birth because she physically could not handle it (she will die), but her mother still says she cannot have an abortion.
In North Carolina parental consent is required for an abortion unless a judge allows a bypass. If this turns out to be a pregnancy and for some ungodly reason a judge doesn't allow an abortion without parental consent both of our lives are ruined and there will be a newborn baby entering a family that cannot possibly support it or take care of it.
You tell me what "morality" is.
Seventeen years old and my ex girlfriend (whom I broke up with a couple weeks ago) says she thinks she's pregnant. She's on the patch, which means something fucked up big time if it's true. Her mother is the kind of person who would kill the daughter if she found out (and I mean that literally), plus she's a rampid alcoholic which just doesn't help this at all.
My ex has a heart condition which her doctors said prevents her from giving birth because she physically could not handle it (she will die), but her mother still says she cannot have an abortion.
In North Carolina parental consent is required for an abortion unless a judge allows a bypass. If this turns out to be a pregnancy and for some ungodly reason a judge doesn't allow an abortion without parental consent both of our lives are ruined and there will be a newborn baby entering a family that cannot possibly support it or take care of it.
You tell me what "morality" is.
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Pearl Jam and toast wrote:Until now.
Seventeen years old and my ex girlfriend (whom I broke up with a couple weeks ago) says she thinks she's pregnant. She's on the patch, which means something fucked up big time if it's true. Her mother is the kind of person who would kill the daughter if she found out (and I mean that literally), plus she's a rampid alcoholic which just doesn't help this at all.
My ex has a heart condition which her doctors said prevents her from giving birth because she physically could not handle it (she will die), but her mother still says she cannot have an abortion.
In North Carolina parental consent is required for an abortion unless a judge allows a bypass. If this turns out to be a pregnancy and for some ungodly reason a judge doesn't allow an abortion without parental consent both of our lives are ruined and there will be a newborn baby entering a family that cannot possibly support it or take care of it.
You tell me what "morality" is.
if a doctor truly says that a pregnancy would potentially be fatal for the mother, she will have it approved.0 -
soulsinging wrote:if a doctor truly says that a pregnancy would potentially be fatal for the mother, she will have it approved.
I'm worried sick... I actually smoked Marlboros tonight to ease the stress (which is like playing russian roulette with cigarettes to me). :(
Does anybody have any information on how long a judicial bypass would take, if the parents have to be notified to obtain one, and how we could go about obtaining it? I've been searching my ass off and haven't found much.Come on pilgrim you know he loves you..
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heart condition but on the very high hormone patch?Pearl Jam and toast wrote:Until now.
Seventeen years old and my ex girlfriend (whom I broke up with a couple weeks ago) says she thinks she's pregnant. She's on the patch, which means something fucked up big time if it's true. Her mother is the kind of person who would kill the daughter if she found out (and I mean that literally), plus she's a rampid alcoholic which just doesn't help this at all.
My ex has a heart condition which her doctors said prevents her from giving birth because she physically could not handle it (she will die), but her mother still says she cannot have an abortion.
In North Carolina parental consent is required for an abortion unless a judge allows a bypass. If this turns out to be a pregnancy and for some ungodly reason a judge doesn't allow an abortion without parental consent both of our lives are ruined and there will be a newborn baby entering a family that cannot possibly support it or take care of it.
You tell me what "morality" is.http://s278.photobucket.com/albums/kk103/Moonturltemoon/PJ MSG 6-24-08/
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Wow. I'm moderately pro-life, but it's always difficult when you know (well, kind of) someone in the position. In this case I do believe that an abortion should be performed if you choose to, because of the case of threatening the mother's life. Best of luck to you and your ex, whatever happens.
But there's a good chance she isn't pregnant. Things like this turn out to be a fluke all the time. Prepare for the worst, and hope for the best.It's a town full of losers and I'm pulling out of here to win0 -
I don't even know what to say with this. God, good luck man. You've got my best wishes.0
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Sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your ex. It is a sad situation for everyone involved."I'll use the magic word - let's just shut the fuck up, please." EV, 04/13/080
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LeilaMoonTurtle wrote:heart condition but on the very high hormone patch?
She's also got some very odd menstral disorder which is why her mother put her on the patch.. to lower the frequency of her periods I believe.Come on pilgrim you know he loves you..
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I hate to be the asshole who asks this question, but do you believe her? There's always the chance she is just busting this out now to try and reel you back in since you broke up with her a couple weeks ago.0
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DOSW wrote:Wow. I'm moderately pro-life, but it's always difficult when you know (well, kind of) someone in the position. In this case I do believe that an abortion should be performed if you choose to, because of the case of threatening the mother's life. Best of luck to you and your ex, whatever happens.
But there's a good chance she isn't pregnant. Things like this turn out to be a fluke all the time. Prepare for the worst, and hope for the best.Come on pilgrim you know he loves you..
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Will1659 wrote:I hate to be the asshole who asks this question, but do you believe her? There's always the chance she is just busting this out now to try and reel you back in since you broke up with her a couple weeks ago.Come on pilgrim you know he loves you..
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Pearl Jam and toast wrote:That's what I'm hoping. Luckily I have a job and can afford the price.
I'm worried sick... I actually smoked Marlboros tonight to ease the stress (which is like playing russian roulette with cigarettes to me). :(
Does anybody have any information on how long a judicial bypass would take, if the parents have to be notified to obtain one, and how we could go about obtaining it? I've been searching my ass off and haven't found much.
where dyou live? id say check the county courthouse. you could probably go in there and ask for a hearing with the magistrate. your gf is going to have to go with you im sure. and you might want to speak with the doctor first. do it asap. get him to write a letter testifying to this and notarizing it, cos you're going to need that. i dont think the judge/magistrate will notify the parents. that's kinda the point of the whole process.
however, you say she thinks. has she taken a pregnancy test? start there. funky things can happen with women's systems and you want to be sure. but tell her to make that doctor's (gynecologist) appt asap.
most importantly, does she want an abortion?0 -
Pearl Jam and toast wrote:Thank you, that's what I'm trying to do. I've asked her to keep taking tests. She says she's had morning sickness, weird cravings, etc.
you've asked, but has she taken one?0 -
soulsinging wrote:where dyou live? id say check the county courthouse. you could probably go in there and ask for a hearing with the magistrate. your gf is going to have to go with you im sure. and you might want to speak with the doctor first. do it asap. get him to write a letter testifying to this and notarizing it, cos you're going to need that. i dont think the judge/magistrate will notify the parents. that's kinda the point of the whole process.
however, you say she thinks. has she taken a pregnancy test? start there. funky things can happen with women's systems and you want to be sure. but tell her to make that doctor's (gynecologist) appt asap.
most importantly, does she want an abortion?
She's taken 3 or 4 tests, all positive, but I'm still hoping for a fluke. She wants the abortion as well.Come on pilgrim you know he loves you..
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Does she have a father in the house? She would only need one parent to consent, so maybe that's an option? Also, you might not need to take this to a judge. In NC the attending physician can waive that if there is a health emergency that complicates a pregnancy and would necessitate an immediate procedure. Ask a clinic about that. Sadly all your surrounding states require consent or notification in the case of Georgia. You can also check to see if NC clinics have payment support.
I hope this works out for everyone. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.if you wanna be a friend of mine
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i once had an ex-girlfriend who claimed to be pregnant. luckily, she wasn't and either she was full of shit or .01% happened to her. anyhow, me and my roommate were joking about it (to ease the worry) and i decided to name it sleater mckinney. my name is stephen mckinney and sleater kinney,... well, anyhow, it was funny then.
good luck to you bro. im sorry it ended up this way, but make the best of it,...you're a real hooker. im gonna slap you in public.
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Pearl Jam and toast wrote:I live in North Carolina.
She's taken 3 or 4 tests, all positive, but I'm still hoping for a fluke. She wants the abortion as well.
have you seen these tests?0 -
VictoryGin wrote:Does she have a father in the house? She would only need one parent to consent, so maybe that's an option? Also, you might not need to take this to a judge. In NC the attending physician can waive that if there is a health emergency that complicates a pregnancy and would necessitate an immediate procedure. Ask a clinic about that. Sadly all your surrounding states require consent or notification in the case of Georgia. You can also check to see if NC clinics have payment support.
I hope this works out for everyone. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
I'll check about the physician thing, I read that somewhere today.Come on pilgrim you know he loves you..
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soulsinging wrote:have you seen these tests?Come on pilgrim you know he loves you..
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"Make our day"0 -
Pearl Jam and toast wrote:No, and I'm still holding on to that chance that she's the most malevolent person in the world, but I'd like to prepare for it if it's real.
id go over there and have her take one in front of you.0 -
Pearl Jam and toast wrote:Father was a heroin addict who died 6 or 7 years back so I don't think that's much help.
I'll check about the physician thing, I read that somewhere today.
Ask the clinic about it--it seems the law means the physician there, not her own physician. That would be a faster way to do this, and if she's already taken multiple tests then it seems she might want to get on this. My guess is that there aren't many providers in your state--the pp in chapel hill is provides both medical and surgical options though. You'll want an appointment before it gets too far. In states with few providers, it can be difficult to get an appt. And she could always change her mind there if she wants.if you wanna be a friend of mine
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