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Tom Husman 1969-2020

SeaSea EarthPosts: 2,328
edited August 11 in The Porch

Celebrating Our Dear Friend And Beloved Crew Member

News August 7 2020

Pearl Jam crew members past and present remember their dear friend Tom Husman...

 

What can I say about my friend Tom Husman... 

I really am at a loss for words that he isn’t with us anymore. He really was one of a kind, he was always happy, he was always up for a laugh, he always wanted to put a smile on the face of everyone he held close. The world has lost one of the best. I’ll forever raise a vodka soda in your memory. RIP brother. 

-Paul 


 

To an incredible friend, stand-up human being, and pure shining light in this crazy world...

You lived your life with fierce loyalty​ and​ infectious joy​.​ 

You battled ​your illness with an inspiring positive attitude and a continued sense of classic Husmania humor.

I can’t begin to fathom a tour without your kind heart​, your unforgettable and infectious laugh​, and our treasured camaraderie​. 

​Cheers to you, ​my ​friend. I will always hold you close to my heart.

I love you, Tom Husman.​ ❤️

- ​(Evil) ​Sarah


Rest In Peace, Tom Husman. 

I’ll never forget the nights that we were waiting on the tour bus for you to get off of work. 

I would be sitting there and the first thing you would say when you got on was, “Hey Sam, love you man.” That meant so much coming from you. Love you too, bro. 

Tom will be greatly missed. He was one of the good ones that always seem to go first. I consider him a touring legend - loved by all who came across him. It is a great honor to have spent some time and toured all over the world with this man. 

- Sam


A Song For Tom Husman by Mat Burden


 

I first met Tom in 2007 on my first 311 tour. He was handling merch for the opener, Matisyahu. He was another Ohio merch guy. We hit it off instantly and became fast friends. I had Tom fill in for me on a 311 tour in 2014 when I was working for someone else. There’s no one I trusted more to fill in for me. We fortunately got to work together again for Pearl Jam in 2014 & 2016. In hindsight, it was a true gift. Merch guys all know each other, but rarely get to work on the same tours together. We are usually solo acts. The bigger tours are an exception. There’s no one I’d rather bounce ideas off or talk shop with. I’ll miss our day off hangs, truck inventories, merch pulls for the next show during the current show, random Toledo Mud Hens games, and too many other numerous things to list. You were a gentleman, a pro in the truest sense and a great friend. Rest In Peace. You will be missed. ❤️ - Mike


I will miss you, Tom Husman. To think the first time I saw you I thought you might be a scary human being! You were one of the kindest, funniest, and most caring people I ever met. I'll miss your laugh, your smile, your kindness. I'm glad you're no longer suffering, but selfishly knowing the battle you waged, I want to see you in the front lounge for coffee or a bloody mary on a long Sunday drive. You were always game for a good conversation and put people at ease and created laughter.  Go Tigers and Red Wings! Maybe someday our teams will be good again. You will be missed in so many ways.  #FUCKCANCER

- Sunil 


As so many have said before me, Tom Husman was one of the warmest, friendliest souls one could have the honor of touring with. Even in his stressful role, as the last guy working at the end of the night (or into the wee hours of the morning in the case of PJ Stadium shows), he was always gracious & kind with a smile on his face and that twinkle in his eye.  It was an absolute pleasure to work with Tom, and a highlight to run into him out in the touring world. It hurts my heart to think of PJ shows without him there. My deepest condolences are with his family, he will be so greatly missed! ️❤️ - Molly


The thing I’ll remember and miss most about working with Tom — the smile he would give me when I’d ask for an item after he just came from the truck, even though the truck was a mile away and uphill both ways. I’ll miss you Tom. I hope I’m half as well thought of as you are. 

- Mark 


Summer 2013 was my first job with Pearl Jam. After arriving at Ontario airport (warm up show before Wrigley) and collecting my bag I looked for any tell tale signs of roadies. I scanned the exit area for anyone that resembled crew and then I saw Tom. He looked quite badass with those deep eyes, biker beard and shaved head so I hung back but followed him as I reckoned he’d know where the runner van was. Once I’d confirmed that I was indeed getting into the correct vehicle for PJ touring crew I introduced myself to Tom and was met with a very kind smile and a "welcome aboard". I felt instantly at home. Thank you Tom for your company, very dry sense of humour, quick wit, generosity and for introducing me in 2018 to a low calorie vodka and soda beverage which has an interesting name. 

Top hat old boy and hope to see you in another dimension. 

Your friend, Blue 


Tom was such an amazing and happy person! He was my debating partner on tour, always arguing the other side with me mainly to get me wound up. Which he always did. I will miss touring with him and being able to reach out to him anytime I needed him.  Love You Tom!

- Karrie Keyes


The world lost a good one. Tom Husman was one of the kindest, funniest, helpful, good-natured human beings I have ever met.

It was such a pleasure getting to tour with him over the past 10 years. 

One of my favorite memories of Tom was when I first joined the Pearl Jam camp, there was already another Sara(h) on the crew. So in order to distinguish the two of us, he dubbed Sarah #1 “Evil Sarah” and myself “More Evil Sara,” which we all got a laugh out of. He continued to address us by these monikers ever since then, which I always looked forward to hearing him call me whenever we would first see each other at a venue or on a day off. It’s so unimaginable to think that I won’t ever get to see him again or hear him call me “More Evil Sara” one more time. Our PJ road family just won’t be the same without him.

The last time we were in touch was back in January when Tom reached out to me because he had heard there was a shooting in downtown Seattle (where I live) and he wanted to make sure that I was OK. That’s Tom for you. Always thinking of others, even when he had so much going on in his own life to be concerned about.

We love you, Tom, and you will be so dearly missed! You fought the good fight. Thank you for showing us all how to live a life of grace, humor, determination and respect.

❤️️  "More Evil Sara"


I am lucky to have traveled the world with Tom as my fellow busmate for the past decade. We spent countless hours laughing and storytelling as the most beautiful landscapes passed in the foreground outside the bus windows. Full of whit, humor and pure fun, he had the kind of personality every tour bus needs to pass the time over thousands and thousands of miles. We shared a common love of documentary films. After a great doc “I have to tell Tom about this one” automatically pops in my head, and it always will. Like all good doc’s Tom’s life was a story full of beauty, adventure, pure joy and deep tragedy, and like any great piece of art, those shared moments have been etched in my memory.  Thank you for sharing your life with the Pearl Jam Family, Tom.  We are so lucky to have known you.

- Karen


Tom, you had such a Zen-like calming effect on me I was never able to properly convey to you in words. No matter how messed up any situation was for you during any particular day, you were always able to spin some positivity into it. You were such a good, positive life force and I will deeply miss sharing long bus rides across Europe with you. 

Rest In Peace, my friend. 

Love, Nelly


It’s still not a reality I care to accept that our Big Whitey is gone. His namesake “Big Whitey” not because of his physical appearance but the ridiculously huge white watches he wore for years. Always excited to show me any new white watch when we started a leg of tour, it became a thing… I always wondered if he kept buying them because he had a nickname to uphold!  So many missed opportunities to show up on tour with one to rival his just for the comedic moment.  

We shared countless laughs and good times. So many late nights on buses seeing European sunrises playing just one more song in our late night iPod battles. Big Whitey always one-upping us with his tunes as he sat like a Cheshire cat in the corner grinning with anticipation of the next tune he knew he’d get us all dancing to.  

Always positive, always sly, always funny, always calm, always upbeat, and unimaginably brave. I raise a spritz to you Big Whitey, my friend forever and always.  - Kille


I was lucky enough to do a couple of tours with Tom, in 2013 we were out together on Pearl Jam's Lightning Bolt tour. Having myself toured for 14 yrs now, most of them blend together. But I do recall that Tom and I laughed a hell of a lot on that run. Even when we were crying about or cursing our frequently broken merch tent. Tom was always one of the nicest, funniest and most easy-going people to be around. I was glad to call him a friend and always looked forward to checking in with him. Tom will be greatly missed. Rest easy my friend. 

- Angel 


LEGACY

Tom Husman was a friend, mentor, and inspiration to me and countless others who were lucky enough to have worked with him. From the moment we met in the summer of 2001, his brilliance was immediately evident to me. It was in that moment that I unofficially enrolled in the Tom Husman school of merchandising. Whether it was assisting him on a Pixies show, touring with him on the Warped Tour or assisting him on a Pearl Jam show, his wise words always provided guidance. I will not divulge any of his insight here, but there is one phrase of his that I literally think about before every show. Years later, when we were working the “Home X Away Shows'', it meant the world to me when he embraced something I had said. When Tom replied, “Oooh, that’s good. I’m going to use that,” it filled me with pride because I knew that he would. When our scheduled shows for 2020 were postponed, my first thought was, “Great”. Great because maybe that would give Tom enough time to recover and we could tour together once more. Sadly, that won’t ever happen again. But of course, that’s not the whole truth. Tom’s words of wisdom will continue to direct me. The joy and kindness he brought to his work will continue to motivate me. His confidence in me will continue to be a source of encouragement. In the world of concert merchandising, Tom Husman is a legend and true legends never die.

 - William Wilkie

August 4th, 2020


A tour - especially in Europe, especially when it’s your first one - can be very intimidating. But not when you end up on the misfit bus of “we don’t belong anywhere else” kids of which Tom Husman was one. Tom made me feel so at home and that no question was dumb (yes you can put that on the bus stock request, yes I will always be the last one on the bus so don’t worry about getting closed up for the night or being left behind, yes you better get on that bus ASAP when it gets here to claim your bunk!). And every day dealings were always so easy with his laid back, feathers never ruffled demeanor. Heaven got one hell of a guy in the good place. You fought a hell of a fight, and now they’ve got the best merch guy around in their ranks. Rest easy my sweet friend.

❤️Betsy











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  • cp3iversoncp3iverson Posts: 6,993
    RIP 
  • mcgruff10mcgruff10 New JerseyPosts: 23,867
    RIP
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me......
  • elwayvedderelwayvedder South JerseyPosts: 8,481
    Thank you for sharing and posting this @Sea as it means a lot.
    Here's what I posted on social media and other threads. Let our memories of Tom be blessings to us all:

    Here's what i tried to share with his friends and family on social media:

    Most of you who are friends, co-workers and family of Tom's don't know me but I need to share something with you and get it off my chest of a day where Tom displayed how kind and big hearted he was to total strangers so please forgive me as I need to express this in my gratitude towards Tom.
    I'm your typical Pearl Jam fan who always tried to leave Tom alone so he could do his job and work etc. I realize how he must get bombarded on game day from fans hovering around the merch booths all day etc.
    One special day in Philadelphia was a day Tom changed someone's life forever and for the better.
    Again, forgive me as I'm not as close to Tom as many of you are but I need you all to know what amazing thing Tom did out of the kindness of his heart.
    Besides being a PJ fan, I also run a non-profit that sends morale boosting care packages to our US Service Members deployed to the war zones in the Middle East. We had a Pearl Jam fan (edit: and forum member here on this page) on our list who was in Afghanistan and while there suffered emotional and mental trauma with being deployed and events happening around him in Afghanistan. While this US Service Member was there and receiving our care packages, he used the music of Pearl Jam to help him cope with what he was dealing with and while deployed he flew 2 US Flags over the base; one in my name/honor for sending him care packages and one in the honor and name of PJ's lead singer as the music and lyrics saved this young man's life.
    This young man wrote out a letter to Pearl Jam's Ed Vedder and the band and mailed the US Flag and letter to the band in Seattle only for him to return from deployment to find it returned and sitting on his doorstep marked as "undeliverable". He was devastated.
    Fast forward to 2 concerts in Philly years later and I was taking this US Hero with me to the first of two nights as my treat. He brought the flag and letter with him and we spent the day before the concert trying to find out how get it to the band. He needed the band to know the impact they had on his life. How their art, music and lyrics kept him sane in Afghanistan and kept him going. Kept him ALIVE.
    We were unsuccessful that day and before he left to drive home after the concert, he handed me the flag and private letter and asked me to try for him again the next day as I was returning for the 2nd Philly show.
    That's where Tom comes in. I spent part of the early afternoon walking around the venue not knowing what to do with this burden that would be an honor to do but at the same time, I was simply there to enjoy a concert. I was terribly nervous about the weight of the flag as it seemed to get heavier and heavier as we got closer to show time.
    Tom was working hard restocking a merch booth. I asked him to give me 30 seconds and I showed him the US Flag. I showed him the personal hand written letter. He said "it's for a US Veteran?". I said "Yes sir". He said "I will take care of it. Stay here".
    I won't go into the rest of the details but after that it was taken care of. That night during the show, Ed Vedder publicly called out our US Service Member and thanked the US Service Member for the gift. For the flag. For the hand written letter and letting him know how their art saved his life.
    Thanks to Tom, our US Service Member forever can go to sleep at night knowing his US Flag flown over the base in Afghanistan absolutely made it to it's intended new owner. It flew from Afghanistan to Seattle back to Virginia and then finally made it's way to Philly and took years to land in the hands of it's intended owner and thanks to Tom, it did.
    Tom was working and had a job to do but yet he displayed a HUGE heart and demonstrated an act of kindness that we can all learn from and that is you can always do something kind for someone else, no matter how busy you are.
    For this and more, I will forever be grateful to Tom and may his memory be a blessing to us all.
    Thanks for letting me share this with you all.
    Be safe
  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam NINUNINOPROPosts: 137,251
    what a great person...
    thank you for all you  did for the fans..
    R.I.P.
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  • LoujoeLoujoe Posts: 1,777
    Always great to see you at shows doing your thing, being a part of the merch frenzy we all created. Calm, cool and friendly.
    Take care everyone. 

    Rest in Peace

  • jjflashjjflash Posts: 4,206
    RIP, Tom and sincere condolences to the many friends and family who mourn his loss. Sounds like the world lost a uniquely special human being.
  • F Me In The BrainF Me In The Brain this knows everybody from other commetsPosts: 20,928
    So sorry for everyone who is feeling the pain of this loss. 
    The love he receives is the love that is saved
  • JT167846JT167846 Posts: 392
    Sorry for your loss team.
    Stars are suns to other people.

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  • lexicondevillexicondevil Bay AreaPosts: 1,114
    These are beautiful tributes. Tom must have been a really special person. It makes me think about what I would want people to say about me when I leave this Earth. Striving to be like Tom sounds like a good way to start.
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  • deadendpdeadendp Northeast OhioPosts: 10,080
    Thank you to all for sharing.  Seems like he was a great guy and left behind some very large shoes to fill.  

    My heart is sad for all of you missing Tom tonight.  :frowning:
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  • THEBIBLEISTENTHEBIBLEISTEN Posts: 1,166
    RIP
  • 23scidoo23scidoo Thessaloniki,GreecePosts: 14,072
    RIP
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  • ConorKavanaghConorKavanagh The CottagePosts: 924
    RIP. I didn't hear of Tom, like most people here, until his illness was posted about. The tributes that I have read are truly moving. A special person.
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  • danlee1095danlee1095 Posts: 431
    Thanks to the PJ crew for sharing their personal stories and dedications to a person that clearly made a profound impact on the lives of so many - just another reminder of what makes this band and its community so special.  My deepest condolences go out to his family and friends and I hope Tom is resting easy now, with a gigantic vodka soda, keeping time on an even bigger white watch!
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  • demetriosdemetrios canadaPosts: 63,240
    RIP Tom :( 
  • lastexitlondonlastexitlondon Posts: 6,356
    Always kind to us as fans. And had time to chat to us. Kind  soul that obviously  touched many  hearts. Sleep easy tom.
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  • JedJed New York CityPosts: 1,006
    I met Tom on the merch line in Seattle and he was so nice and kind. Like someone said above, I was a bit intimidated by his appearance, but instantly found him to be just amazing to talk to. I am so glad our paths crossed even just for those brief moments.

    The tributes above are so beautiful and we NEVER get to hear from the crew. This is so meaningful I cannot thank the mods enough for sharing this!
  • karl_chihirokarl_chihiro Posts: 371
    RIP
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  • deadendpdeadendp Northeast OhioPosts: 10,080
    Jed said:
    I met Tom on the merch line in Seattle and he was so nice and kind. Like someone said above, I was a bit intimidated by his appearance, but instantly found him to be just amazing to talk to. I am so glad our paths crossed even just for those brief moments.

    The tributes above are so beautiful and we NEVER get to hear from the crew. This is so meaningful I cannot thank the mods enough for sharing this!
    +1
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  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam NINUNINOPROPosts: 137,251
    deadendp said:
    Jed said:
    I met Tom on the merch line in Seattle and he was so nice and kind. Like someone said above, I was a bit intimidated by his appearance, but instantly found him to be just amazing to talk to. I am so glad our paths crossed even just for those brief moments.

    The tributes above are so beautiful and we NEVER get to hear from the crew. This is so meaningful I cannot thank the mods enough for sharing this!
    +1

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  • HughFreakingDillonHughFreakingDillon I'm from Winnipeg, you idiot! (Chris Jericho)Posts: 23,047
    sounds like an amazing guy. 
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  • amethgr8amethgr8 Posts: 720
    My deepest sympathy to all who knew and loved Tom.  I am wearing my white watch today in his honor.
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  • lolobugglolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNSPosts: 7,971
    I had the pleasure to meet Tom and speak to him numerous times at PJ shows. I remember hanging with him at Wrigley 2016 and talking about how crazy the merch lines were. I will never forget him teasing me about the poor job I was doing rolling my poster at TOTD in Philly. He gave me some professional tips. RIP, Tom. Going to miss seeing him at shows.

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  • deadendpdeadendp Northeast OhioPosts: 10,080
    lolobugg said:
    I had the pleasure to meet Tom and speak to him numerous times at PJ shows. I remember hanging with him at Wrigley 2016 and talking about how crazy the merch lines were. I will never forget him teasing me about the poor job I was doing rolling my poster at TOTD in Philly. He gave me some professional tips. RIP, Tom. Going to miss seeing him at shows.
    I had to roll your posters for you at Wrigley!  :smiley:  

    The merch line was crazy.  No lie there.  
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  • hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of foreverPosts: 22,126
    These are beautiful tributes. Tom must have been a really special person. It makes me think about what I would want people to say about me when I leave this Earth. Striving to be like Tom sounds like a good way to start.
    Yes to all of this.
  • PureandEasyPureandEasy Posts: 5,512
    Thank you for sharing and posting this @Sea as it means a lot.
    Here's what I posted on social media and other threads. Let our memories of Tom be blessings to us all:

    Here's what i tried to share with his friends and family on social media:

    Most of you who are friends, co-workers and family of Tom's don't know me but I need to share something with you and get it off my chest of a day where Tom displayed how kind and big hearted he was to total strangers so please forgive me as I need to express this in my gratitude towards Tom.
    I'm your typical Pearl Jam fan who always tried to leave Tom alone so he could do his job and work etc. I realize how he must get bombarded on game day from fans hovering around the merch booths all day etc.
    One special day in Philadelphia was a day Tom changed someone's life forever and for the better.
    Again, forgive me as I'm not as close to Tom as many of you are but I need you all to know what amazing thing Tom did out of the kindness of his heart.
    Besides being a PJ fan, I also run a non-profit that sends morale boosting care packages to our US Service Members deployed to the war zones in the Middle East. We had a Pearl Jam fan (edit: and forum member here on this page) on our list who was in Afghanistan and while there suffered emotional and mental trauma with being deployed and events happening around him in Afghanistan. While this US Service Member was there and receiving our care packages, he used the music of Pearl Jam to help him cope with what he was dealing with and while deployed he flew 2 US Flags over the base; one in my name/honor for sending him care packages and one in the honor and name of PJ's lead singer as the music and lyrics saved this young man's life.
    This young man wrote out a letter to Pearl Jam's Ed Vedder and the band and mailed the US Flag and letter to the band in Seattle only for him to return from deployment to find it returned and sitting on his doorstep marked as "undeliverable". He was devastated.
    Fast forward to 2 concerts in Philly years later and I was taking this US Hero with me to the first of two nights as my treat. He brought the flag and letter with him and we spent the day before the concert trying to find out how get it to the band. He needed the band to know the impact they had on his life. How their art, music and lyrics kept him sane in Afghanistan and kept him going. Kept him ALIVE.
    We were unsuccessful that day and before he left to drive home after the concert, he handed me the flag and private letter and asked me to try for him again the next day as I was returning for the 2nd Philly show.
    That's where Tom comes in. I spent part of the early afternoon walking around the venue not knowing what to do with this burden that would be an honor to do but at the same time, I was simply there to enjoy a concert. I was terribly nervous about the weight of the flag as it seemed to get heavier and heavier as we got closer to show time.
    Tom was working hard restocking a merch booth. I asked him to give me 30 seconds and I showed him the US Flag. I showed him the personal hand written letter. He said "it's for a US Veteran?". I said "Yes sir". He said "I will take care of it. Stay here".
    I won't go into the rest of the details but after that it was taken care of. That night during the show, Ed Vedder publicly called out our US Service Member and thanked the US Service Member for the gift. For the flag. For the hand written letter and letting him know how their art saved his life.
    Thanks to Tom, our US Service Member forever can go to sleep at night knowing his US Flag flown over the base in Afghanistan absolutely made it to it's intended new owner. It flew from Afghanistan to Seattle back to Virginia and then finally made it's way to Philly and took years to land in the hands of it's intended owner and thanks to Tom, it did.
    Tom was working and had a job to do but yet he displayed a HUGE heart and demonstrated an act of kindness that we can all learn from and that is you can always do something kind for someone else, no matter how busy you are.
    For this and more, I will forever be grateful to Tom and may his memory be a blessing to us all.
    Thanks for letting me share this with you all.
    Be safe
    That brought tears to my eyes for numerous reasons.  I know you and what you do to help others on a daily basis is beyond admirable.  Going the extra mile for this US Vet and getting assistance from Tom to fulfill that wish is heartwarming.  That Tom went the extra mile too is a testament to his kindness and good heart.  May he rest in peace.  My thoughts to his family and loved ones.  
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  • on2legson2legs The Jersey ShorePosts: 10,185
    It’s clear that Tom positively impacted so many people through the years... RIP. 
    1996: Randall's Island 2  1998: East Rutherford | MSG 1 & 2  2000: Cincinnati | Columbus | Jones Beach 1, 2, & 3 | Boston 1 | Camden 1 & 2
    2003: Philadelphia | Uniondale | MSG 1 & 2 | Holmdel  2005: Atlantic City 1  2006: Camden 1 | East Rutherford 1 & 2
    2008: Camden 1 & 2 | MSG 1 & 2 | Newark (EV)  2009: Philadelphia 1, 2 & 4  2010: Newark | MSG 1 & 2  2011: Toronto 1
    2013: Wrigley Field | Brooklyn 2 | Philadelphia 1 & 2 | Baltimore  2015: Central Park 
    2016: Philadelphia 1 & 2 | MSG 1 & 2 | Fenway Park 2 | MSG (TOTD)  2017: Brooklyn (RnR HOF)
    2020: MSG | Asbury Park  2021: MSG | Asbury Park

  • ryansakoryansako Posts: 13

    Husman,

    It’s been nearly two weeks since we last spoke and not a day has gone by without me thinking about you. Our friendship over the past 25+yrs. is one that will never be forgotten. You truly were a brother to me. The ‘giggles’ we had to the tears we shed…I only wish it could have lasted longer. I just have to keep reminding myself that you’re in a better place now and no longer suffering. 

    I never got a chance to tell you this, but one of best times I had hanging out was when the two of us drove down to TN together so you could start the next chapter of your life. That’s right Husman, 8hrs. in a car with you, listening to Yacht Rock and eating beef Meximelts…what else could have been better than that?! However, it was the conversations we had along the way that I’ll always remember. All the shows we’ve been too, countless Mud Hens games, our close group of friends, everything we were going to do in TN, etc. You were excited!

    Reflecting back on this made me realize over these past 2yrs. you never complained about your situation…not once. You always had a curveball in your back pocket and the conversation quickly turned into a laughing matter. I’ve never met a stronger person than you Tom. 

    I know you’re out there watching over me pal. Probably “god damning” me  too for being in a funk. I just want to say thank you Husman. Thank you for being an awesome friend over the years. Thank you for always having my back. Thank you for the memories that will never be forgotten. 


    Love you bruh,

    Sakman


  • deadendpdeadendp Northeast OhioPosts: 10,080
    ryansako said:

    Husman,

    It’s been nearly two weeks since we last spoke and not a day has gone by without me thinking about you. Our friendship over the past 25+yrs. is one that will never be forgotten. You truly were a brother to me. The ‘giggles’ we had to the tears we shed…I only wish it could have lasted longer. I just have to keep reminding myself that you’re in a better place now and no longer suffering. 

    I never got a chance to tell you this, but one of best times I had hanging out was when the two of us drove down to TN together so you could start the next chapter of your life. That’s right Husman, 8hrs. in a car with you, listening to Yacht Rock and eating beef Meximelts…what else could have been better than that?! However, it was the conversations we had along the way that I’ll always remember. All the shows we’ve been too, countless Mud Hens games, our close group of friends, everything we were going to do in TN, etc. You were excited!

    Reflecting back on this made me realize over these past 2yrs. you never complained about your situation…not once. You always had a curveball in your back pocket and the conversation quickly turned into a laughing matter. I’ve never met a stronger person than you Tom. 

    I know you’re out there watching over me pal. Probably “god damning” me  too for being in a funk. I just want to say thank you Husman. Thank you for being an awesome friend over the years. Thank you for always having my back. Thank you for the memories that will never be forgotten. 

    Love you bruh,

    Sakman

    Ryan, I'm so very sorry. 
    2014: Cincinnati
    2016: Lexington and Wrigley 1
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