Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

Spiritual_Chaos

mcgruff10 said:

Annafalk said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

Allie if I told my wife I am going out for a drink or watch a movie with another woman I would probably be calling a divorce lawyer the next day lol. I am friendly with lots of woman at work but I d never meet up with them anywhere alone. That is a recipe for disaster!!

People have friends of another gender...

You never had female buddies in like college or whatever?

Is it another US-Sweden cultural difference? ... hehe

I understand mcgruff10, what he says makes sense to me. If I would go to the movies with one male friend it would be kind of strange towards your partner. It's different if it would be a group of people though.

Agreed, hanging out in a group is very acceptable.  One on one,  yeah no way.

So, you have no female friends? Just "female friends acceptable if other people are present"? 

I have a bunch of female friends, and former classmates I meet up with for a beer or go to IKEA etc. And have had when in relationship also.

But that can differ ofc. But in my circle we had one of those jealous types that didn't want her boyfriend to hang around girls etc and we all found that woman loco.

But with @Annafalk saying its like that for her, I guess it's not that common over here in Sweden. But that has never been an issue in the circles I've been in.

EDIT: I saw your response Mcgruff after I posted this.  

But yeah, you look at is as "another woman", I look at is as "a friend". I would not go to the cinema with "another women", i would go with "my friend", whether it is Erica or Eric. 

But whatever. This doesn't help me asking her out in any way. Haha.

Spiritual_Chaos

And anyways -- I have not seen ANOES with her -- but we once talked about seeing it together because she had not seen it and it is a MASTERPIECE. And at that time she had a boyfriend, which I'm also friends with. And it would have been no big deal. But we were all classmates and knew eachother, I guess it could have been different if I was some unknown casanova who her boyfriend did not know at all. 

mcgruff10

Yes

Spiritual_Chaos said:

mcgruff10 said:

Annafalk said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

Allie if I told my wife I am going out for a drink or watch a movie with another woman I would probably be calling a divorce lawyer the next day lol. I am friendly with lots of woman at work but I d never meet up with them anywhere alone. That is a recipe for disaster!!

People have friends of another gender...

You never had female buddies in like college or whatever?

Is it another US-Sweden cultural difference? ... hehe

I understand mcgruff10, what he says makes sense to me. If I would go to the movies with one male friend it would be kind of strange towards your partner. It's different if it would be a group of people though.

Agreed, hanging out in a group is very acceptable.  One on one,  yeah no way.

So, you have no female friends? Just "female friends acceptable if other people are present"? 

I have a bunch of female friends, and former classmates I meet up with for a beer or go to IKEA etc. And have had when in relationship also.

But that can differ ofc. But in my circle we had one of those jealous types that didn't want her boyfriend to hang around girls etc and we all found that woman loco.

But with @Annafalk saying its like that for her, I guess it's not that common over here in Sweden. But that has never been an issue in the circles I've been in.

EDIT: I saw your response Mcgruff after I posted this.  

But yeah, you look at is as "another woman", I look at is as "a friend". I would not go to the cinema with "another women", i would go with "my friend", whether it is Erica or Eric. 

But whatever. This doesn't help me asking her out in any way. Haha.

Fly me to Sweden. I will help you. 

mace1229

Yes

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

OffSheGoes35

No

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

Did you pay for everything at the movie?

mace1229

Yes

OffSheGoes35 said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

Did you pay for everything at the movie?

Nope, just for my ticket. And I put the arm rest down between us before we even sat.

Hobbes

You get any popcorn?

HesCalledDyer

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

mcgruff10

Yes

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

and now she is Mrs. Dyer?

mace1229

Yes

mcgruff10 said:

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

and now she is Mrs. Dyer?

He doesn't know this, but that's how she signs all her legal documents. 

Spiritual_Chaos

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

I had a girl once ask me (we had seen each other for a while, but a bit on/off) "Are we together now?" and my first reaction was to laugh. It just happend. I didn't think it was even in her head to be girlfriend/boyfriend with me.

We stopped seeing eachother after the laugh.

HesCalledDyer

mcgruff10 said:

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

and now she is Mrs. Dyer?

I gave up on a Mrs. Dyer years ago.

Spiritual_Chaos

HesCalledDyer said:

mcgruff10 said:

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

and now she is Mrs. Dyer?

I gave up on a Mrs. Dyer years ago.

You wanna be Mrs Spiritual_Chaos?

HesCalledDyer

Spiritual_Chaos said:

HesCalledDyer said:

mcgruff10 said:

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

and now she is Mrs. Dyer?

I gave up on a Mrs. Dyer years ago.

You wanna be Mrs Spiritual_Chaos?

Keep working on Agnes...

HesCalledDyer

mace1229 said:

mcgruff10 said:

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

and now she is Mrs. Dyer?

He doesn't know this, but that's how she signs all her legal documents. 

I think she is married now. I know she has a kid.

PJ_Soul

Yes

HesCalledDyer said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

I had a girl, after one date, say "Goodnight, I love you" when I dropped her off.  The only thing I could think to say was "No."

Well there's no accounting for psychos, lol.

PJ_Soul

Yes

mcgruff10 said:

Annafalk said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

Allie if I told my wife I am going out for a drink or watch a movie with another woman I would probably be calling a divorce lawyer the next day lol. I am friendly with lots of woman at work but I d never meet up with them anywhere alone. That is a recipe for disaster!!

People have friends of another gender...

You never had female buddies in like college or whatever?

Is it another US-Sweden cultural difference? ... hehe

I understand mcgruff10, what he says makes sense to me. If I would go to the movies with one male friend it would be kind of strange towards your partner. It's different if it would be a group of people though.

Agreed, hanging out in a group is very acceptable.  One on one,  yeah no way.

Hell, me and my best friend, a man, go camping together for full weekends alone, and neither of our partners have ever minded, because they knew us and understood our friendship. We also went into the back country on a canoe trip for a week shortly before his wedding (I was his best woman in the ceremony!). His wife doesn't care because me and my best friend hooking up would be about equivalent to us fucking our sibling. :sick: Seriously, not every man and women who respect and like each other want to fuck each other. True friendship between men and women is indeed possible. However, I do agree it's not really the norm, just because too many people have a problem separating the opposite sex from the idea of actual sex. I just make sure my good male friends with whom I want to remain friends aren't those types of people, and I'm not either obviously.

OffSheGoes35

No

mace1229 said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

mace1229 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

PJ_Soul said:

mcgruff10 said:

Spiritual_Chaos said:

PJ_Soul said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

The only thing more romantic than creating a poll in a girl's honor is the "why not, she's cute and fun" sentiment...like you're hitting on someone in an orphanage. 

Good point.

Sounds like you've known her for years S_C, and you've only gotten to the "cute and fun, why not?" stage... maybe she's not for you after all...

Maybe not. But she was open to watching A Nightmare on Elm Street. And at 34 and miserable -- THATS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!

And yeah, I studied with her for two years. And after that we've kept in touch. She even tried to get me a job at her agency. So she's cool. 

Wait, the two of you watched a movie alone? That s a date in my experience. 

I go and see movies with guys all the time, and they're not dates. I just had a man over to my place on Friday night and we watched a movie there. He's a friend. Men and women can do stuff platonically. It's only a date if both parties know it's a date, lol.

Hmmmm interesting. I would assume that would be a date. So spiritual, you watched a movie with this woman, why is it so hard to ask her out?  You need me to fly to Sweden to teach you how to talk to women?

Dates are romantic affairs. If there isn't any romance, it's just two friends hanging out. Don't you have any female friends?

If he's solidly in the friend-zone as far as she is concerned, asking her out could end the friendship. I think that's probably where the concern is....

I went to a movie with a friend in college. The next day she was telling everyone I was her boyfriend.
I avoided her the rest of the semester.
I probably should have handled that differently. 

Did you pay for everything at the movie?

Nope, just for my ticket. And I put the arm rest down between us before we even sat.

Wow. Guess you should've wrapped yourself up like a mummy in yellow Caution tape. 

F Me In The Brain

No

Hobbes said:

You get any popcorn?

darwinstheory

Yes

Did you ask yet?