PJ show w/an infant - for those that have brought one, and for those who sat near someone who did

2-feign-reluctance

mcgruff10 said:

carmanw1975 said:

I have to say I'm a little disturbed and disappointed by some of the comments on this thread.  The is the PJ "community" forum where people should feel safe to ask questions without being attacked.  I have always thought PJ fans to be a bit better educated, more respectful, and more of a family.  Regardless of whether it is right or wrong to bring a toddler or infant to a PJ concert, constructive criticism or opinions can be shared without being assholes or disrespectful...

I agree but when someone starts a thread like this IMO they have their mind made up on what they want to do and are looking for validation to support their decision in order to make it right in their own mind. 

First time parent reaching out to talk? Ask questions? Hear from other parents who have been there (original request by the OP)? Tell me none of you have ever done the same when your first born arrived. 

deadendp

vedpunk said:

Sorry but anyone who has brought their 18 month to a rock concert should probably keep that to themselves or face child protective services.  Just using basic logic and reasoning here.

Really? Dude is taking care of his kid. Wants a memory. He's not having baby kid crowd surf or crawling on the ground in the pit. This is not abusive, it's just not what you would do. Not CPS worthy just because you don't agree. 

mcgruff10

2-feign-reluctance said:

mcgruff10 said:

carmanw1975 said:

I have to say I'm a little disturbed and disappointed by some of the comments on this thread.  The is the PJ "community" forum where people should feel safe to ask questions without being attacked.  I have always thought PJ fans to be a bit better educated, more respectful, and more of a family.  Regardless of whether it is right or wrong to bring a toddler or infant to a PJ concert, constructive criticism or opinions can be shared without being assholes or disrespectful...

I agree but when someone starts a thread like this IMO they have their mind made up on what they want to do and are looking for validation to support their decision in order to make it right in their own mind. 

First time parent reaching out to talk? Ask questions? Hear from other parents who have been there (original request by the OP)? Tell me none of you have ever done the same when your first born arrived. 

I wouldn’t reach out to a Pearl Jam message board for parenting advice. 

mwplum

That's not true, if you read my posts I was trying to decide if it was reasonable. I see parents all the time brining their infants to sports games and in my mind there is not much difference between a PJ show and a football game. I've been a Seahawks season ticket holder for many years and frankly I've seen worse behaviour from adults at NFL games than I have at PJ concerts. While there were some people who posted with positive experiences, it was overwhelmingly negative. As a result, it has made me decide that either we will have to: 1) bring my mother-in-law to watch him at the hotel while we're at the show; 2) pony up for a private box; or 3) not go. 

PJNB

mwplum said:

That's not true, if you read my posts I was trying to decide if it was reasonable. I see parents all the time brining their infants to sports games and in my mind there is not much difference between a PJ show and a football game. I've been a Seahawks season ticket holder for many years and frankly I've seen worse behaviour from adults at NFL games than I have at PJ concerts. While there were some people who posted with positive experiences, it was overwhelmingly negative. As a result, it has made me decide that either we will have to: 1) bring my mother-in-law to watch him at the hotel while we're at the show; 2) pony up for a private box; or 3) not go. 

Mother in law is the way to go! We did that in 2016 and are doing it again this year for Boston. We pay for all her food, entry fees to where we are going, accommodations of course and any other expenses that there might be.  

vedpunk

When did a PJ band forum turn into a good resource for parenting advice?  This thread would make much more sense if the OP was asking about maybe a 6 year old, not a baby.  

mwplum

vedpunk said:

When did a PJ band forum turn into a good resource for parenting advice?  This thread would make much more sense if the OP was asking about maybe a 6 year old, not a baby.  

This isn't about parenting advice. Firstly a 6 year old would be way harder to manage than a 1 year old. A one year old would be happy being in a baby backpack, would not be affected by swearing or other things a kid might see at a show. A one year old would not be yelling, running around, or bothering others like the 6 year old. The one year old would in all likelihood would be sleeping.

To recap the thread:
1. OP lost his father in June of 2016, was devastated, maybe subconsciously was trying to kill himself with booze;
2. OP went to Fenway two months later, the band dedicated a song to his father, a song that bridged their generations of music and brought them together. It was a song the band hadn't played live in 14 years. It was a really amazing moment for OP and helped him turn his life around;
3. OP finds out soon after Fenway that he's having a baby with the love of his life, had been together for 20 years without having a child;
4. OP quits drinking, turns life around, walks away from good job just so that he can be there for the birth of his son and support wife, spends every moment together with his son during his first four months of his life, goes back to work, but still spends all time not at work with his wife and son;
5. Fenway 2018 is announced; OP wants to share the memory of that incredible moment in 2016 with his son;
6. OP starts exploratory thread 8 months in advance to see if others have had good/bad experiences with an infant at a show;
7. OP gets attacked by many just for the idea of wanting to share said moment with his son;
8. Through thread, OP finds practical ways to share moment with his son.

Thread is over, everyone goes home, quits the negative attacks.

mcgruff10

I would definitely disagree that a six year old is harder to manage than a one year old. That s just silly. 

mookieblalock

I know someone who runs a baby sitting service in Boston. 

vedpunk

I also lost a father early and it doesn’t mean I don’t value your experience with the band and the dedication to your father because that is awesome.  But the answer is still don’t bring a baby to a rock concert.  Period.  I can’t believe I have to type that.

mwplum

14 month old and I get it, thanks