Creepy/Weird guy at the gym

Thoughts_Arrive

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

markymark550

Can you find a new gym?

Thoughts_Arrive

markymark550 said:

Can you find a new gym?

They are much more expensive for a year membership. I wanted to go to one closer to home but it is double the price.
Can't afford it right now.

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

It doesn't sound like you're afraid of hurting his feelings though. You seem more worried for yourself, in that you fear he might react violently towards you

elvistheking44

Thoughts_Arrive said:

markymark550 said:

Can you find a new gym?

They are much more expensive for a year membership. I wanted to go to one closer to home but it is double the price.
Can't afford it right now.

If you're really worried this guy is gonna go off and stab you or punch you it's time to move on. It seems however that you somehow enjoy the drama that is following you around. It's really that simple if you're serious. Move on, quit the gym, regardless if you're paid in full or not.

Thoughts_Arrive

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

It doesn't sound like you're afraid of hurting his feelings though. You seem more worried for yourself, in that you fear he might react violently towards you

Also, because I drive and park at the gym the thoughts cross my mind, what if he damages my car whilst I am inside? What if he follows me home?

F Me In The Brain

You ask for advice and comments but every time anyone offers any you are right there with an answer, every time it is decidedly negative.
"He is violent"
"People are crazy where I live"
"I'm not a physical person"
"I'm worried about this or that"
"I wasn't stalking her"
"She talks to me but thinks I am creepy"

I understand that you do not like the negative comments but you are inviting when you crap on every single piece of advice or counsel you are given. I am glad to hear you are not thinking about suicide despite your words. Life is worth living.
You seem to have thread after thread that points to you being in the same state of being. Please do not take it the wrong way when people tire of giving the same advice.
Stand up for yourself.
Stay at home.
Wear ear buds.
Don't stalk her.
Try just taking care of yourself.
Don't worry about everyone else.
You have a number of issues it seems -- and I wish you the best in dealing with them -- but your postings over time on the 10C boards paint the same picture. Don't be made with people who are frustrated with the same requests for guidance and the same disregard for help that is offered.
Good luck to you.
My personal advice would be to just worry about yourself.
Everyone isn't out to get you.
Just because you live in a place with violent acts being perpetrated doesn't mean that every look you get is a violent act waiting to happen. (A big percentage of us live near/in cities where there are lots of violent acts.)

How about this? Take all of the love and kind thoughts that people share here and stay inside and revel in the fact that somewhere, people are connecting with you and trying to help you.

markymark550

Thoughts_Arrive said:

markymark550 said:

Can you find a new gym?

They are much more expensive for a year membership. I wanted to go to one closer to home but it is double the price.
Can't afford it right now.

It seems you're just going for the cardio equipment anyways, so pay whatever fee it is to break the contract. Buy a bike and run/cycle outside.

F Me In The Brain

The new avatar is a nice touch.

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

It doesn't sound like you're afraid of hurting his feelings though. You seem more worried for yourself, in that you fear he might react violently towards you

Also, because I drive and park at the gym the thoughts cross my mind, what if he damages my car whilst I am inside? What if he follows me home?

I just don't understand why on earth you think this is likely to happen? Have you been attacked in the past or something? I'm trying to understand where this (to me, irrational) fear is coming from

Thoughts_Arrive

F Me In The Brain said:

You ask for advice and comments but every time anyone offers any you are right there with an answer, every time it is decidedly negative.
"He is violent"
"People are crazy where I live"
"I'm not a physical person"
"I'm worried about this or that"
"I wasn't stalking her"
"She talks to me but thinks I am creepy"

I understand that you do not like the negative comments but you are inviting when you crap on every single piece of advice or counsel you are given. I am glad to hear you are not thinking about suicide despite your words. Life is worth living.
You seem to have thread after thread that points to you being in the same state of being. Please do not take it the wrong way when people tire of giving the same advice.
Stand up for yourself.
Stay at home.
Wear ear buds.
Don't stalk her.
Try just taking care of yourself.
Don't worry about everyone else.
You have a number of issues it seems -- and I wish you the best in dealing with them -- but your postings over time on the 10C boards paint the same picture. Don't be made with people who are frustrated with the same requests for guidance and the same disregard for help that is offered.
Good luck to you.
My personal advice would be to just worry about yourself.
Everyone isn't out to get you.
Just because you live in a place with violent acts being perpetrated doesn't mean that every look you get is a violent act waiting to happen. (A big percentage of us live near/in cities where there are lots of violent acts.)

How about this? Take all of the love and kind thoughts that people share here and stay inside and revel in the fact that somewhere, people are connecting with you and trying to help you.

I never stalked any girl wtf.
She and I are friends, she overreacted and took me the wrong way.
She's the one that always contacts me first anyways.

jnimhaoileoin

F Me In The Brain said:

You ask for advice and comments but every time anyone offers any you are right there with an answer, every time it is decidedly negative.
"He is violent"
"People are crazy where I live"
"I'm not a physical person"
"I'm worried about this or that"
"I wasn't stalking her"
"She talks to me but thinks I am creepy"

I understand that you do not like the negative comments but you are inviting when you crap on every single piece of advice or counsel you are given. I am glad to hear you are not thinking about suicide despite your words. Life is worth living.
You seem to have thread after thread that points to you being in the same state of being. Please do not take it the wrong way when people tire of giving the same advice.
Stand up for yourself.
Stay at home.
Wear ear buds.
Don't stalk her.
Try just taking care of yourself.
Don't worry about everyone else.
You have a number of issues it seems -- and I wish you the best in dealing with them -- but your postings over time on the 10C boards paint the same picture. Don't be made with people who are frustrated with the same requests for guidance and the same disregard for help that is offered.
Good luck to you.
My personal advice would be to just worry about yourself.
Everyone isn't out to get you.
Just because you live in a place with violent acts being perpetrated doesn't mean that every look you get is a violent act waiting to happen. (A big percentage of us live near/in cities where there are lots of violent acts.)

How about this? Take all of the love and kind thoughts that people share here and stay inside and revel in the fact that somewhere, people are connecting with you and trying to help you.

These are sensible words and suggestions

Thoughts_Arrive

markymark550 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

markymark550 said:

Can you find a new gym?

They are much more expensive for a year membership. I wanted to go to one closer to home but it is double the price.
Can't afford it right now.

It seems you're just going for the cardio equipment anyways, so pay whatever fee it is to break the contract. Buy a bike and run/cycle outside.

I would if I could. I mentioned this earlier in another post in this thread. There are no safe bike tracks where I live and I have bad knees which is not good for road running. I would if I could to save money.

Thoughts_Arrive

F Me In The Brain said:

The new avatar is a nice touch.

Whispering hands thinks of me that way.

Thoughts_Arrive

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

It doesn't sound like you're afraid of hurting his feelings though. You seem more worried for yourself, in that you fear he might react violently towards you

Also, because I drive and park at the gym the thoughts cross my mind, what if he damages my car whilst I am inside? What if he follows me home?

I just don't understand why on earth you think this is likely to happen? Have you been attacked in the past or something? I'm trying to understand where this (to me, irrational) fear is coming from

Yes, by a meth affected passenger on the train, by drunk teens on a tram, and by two drunk guys on a tram on a separate occasion.
Melbourne is a violent city nowadays.
People who are violent schizophrenics are not kept in involuntary care to keep the community safe.
Judge let repeat violent offenders out on bail.

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

It doesn't sound like you're afraid of hurting his feelings though. You seem more worried for yourself, in that you fear he might react violently towards you

Also, because I drive and park at the gym the thoughts cross my mind, what if he damages my car whilst I am inside? What if he follows me home?

I just don't understand why on earth you think this is likely to happen? Have you been attacked in the past or something? I'm trying to understand where this (to me, irrational) fear is coming from

Yes, by a meth affected passenger on the train, by drunk teens on a tram, and by two drunk guys on a tram on a separate occasion.
Melbourne is a violent city nowadays.
People who are violent schizophrenics are not kept in involuntary care to keep the community safe.
Judge let repeat violent offenders out on bail.

Well then I think the suggestion to look into learning some self-defence is a good one, perhaps it would help you feel more secure

Thoughts_Arrive

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

It doesn't sound like you're afraid of hurting his feelings though. You seem more worried for yourself, in that you fear he might react violently towards you

Also, because I drive and park at the gym the thoughts cross my mind, what if he damages my car whilst I am inside? What if he follows me home?

I just don't understand why on earth you think this is likely to happen? Have you been attacked in the past or something? I'm trying to understand where this (to me, irrational) fear is coming from

Yes, by a meth affected passenger on the train, by drunk teens on a tram, and by two drunk guys on a tram on a separate occasion.
Melbourne is a violent city nowadays.
People who are violent schizophrenics are not kept in involuntary care to keep the community safe.
Judge let repeat violent offenders out on bail.

Well then I think the suggestion to look into learning some self-defence is a good one, perhaps it would help you feel more secure

Yeah I want to learn boxing. When I start earning money from employment it is my priority.
But I have weak wrists, not sure they could take constant pounding.

F Me In The Brain

Thoughts_Arrive said:

F Me In The Brain said:

You ask for advice and comments but every time anyone offers any you are right there with an answer, every time it is decidedly negative.
"He is violent"
"People are crazy where I live"
"I'm not a physical person"
"I'm worried about this or that"
"I wasn't stalking her"
"She talks to me but thinks I am creepy"

I understand that you do not like the negative comments but you are inviting when you crap on every single piece of advice or counsel you are given. I am glad to hear you are not thinking about suicide despite your words. Life is worth living.
You seem to have thread after thread that points to you being in the same state of being. Please do not take it the wrong way when people tire of giving the same advice.
Stand up for yourself.
Stay at home.
Wear ear buds.
Don't stalk her.
Try just taking care of yourself.
Don't worry about everyone else.
You have a number of issues it seems -- and I wish you the best in dealing with them -- but your postings over time on the 10C boards paint the same picture. Don't be made with people who are frustrated with the same requests for guidance and the same disregard for help that is offered.
Good luck to you.
My personal advice would be to just worry about yourself.
Everyone isn't out to get you.
Just because you live in a place with violent acts being perpetrated doesn't mean that every look you get is a violent act waiting to happen. (A big percentage of us live near/in cities where there are lots of violent acts.)

How about this? Take all of the love and kind thoughts that people share here and stay inside and revel in the fact that somewhere, people are connecting with you and trying to help you.

I never stalked any girl wtf.
She and I are friends, she overreacted and took me the wrong way.
She's the one that always contacts me first anyways.

Just another example of your threads, man, we try to help....but....

F Me In The Brain

Thoughts_Arrive said:

F Me In The Brain said:

The new avatar is a nice touch.

Whispering hands thinks of me that way.

Another example of what I am saying. WH is a beautiful person. I see she came on strong to you based on her own life experiences and I can totally understand if you don't like her any longer because of what she shared. I know that you don't know me from anyone else but I would go into a trench with her any day of the week. I love her, she is a real person. She let you have it, both barrels, but I promise you she would be the first person to be there with open arms for a big old hug if you decided that you were going to be open to what your friends in the 10C shared.
But the avatar change fits.

rgambs

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

It's about upsetting people in general, I am too nice.
I want to go gym now but he was there this time last week. I feel anxiety everytime I arrive at the gym because I expect him to be there, sick of it.

It doesn't sound like you're afraid of hurting his feelings though. You seem more worried for yourself, in that you fear he might react violently towards you

Also, because I drive and park at the gym the thoughts cross my mind, what if he damages my car whilst I am inside? What if he follows me home?

I just don't understand why on earth you think this is likely to happen? Have you been attacked in the past or something? I'm trying to understand where this (to me, irrational) fear is coming from

Yes, by a meth affected passenger on the train, by drunk teens on a tram, and by two drunk guys on a tram on a separate occasion.
Melbourne is a violent city nowadays.
People who are violent schizophrenics are not kept in involuntary care to keep the community safe.
Judge let repeat violent offenders out on bail.

Well then I think the suggestion to look into learning some self-defence is a good one, perhaps it would help you feel more secure

Yeah I want to learn boxing. When I start earning money from employment it is my priority.
But I have weak wrists, not sure they could take constant pounding.

Boxing is a waste of time, no matter how much you improve you can still get knocked out with 1 punch, jiu-jitsu is a much better self-defence system. Learn to avoid punches, take a person down, and choke them out or break their limbs, if necessary. Size doesn't matter, strength isn't important, it's all about technique and knowledge. Perfect for someone like you, and the confidence boost it will give you seems like it would go a long way towards improving your happiness.

Also, if you are so concerned about violence where you live, you should wear a big ass Bowie knife on your belt as a deterrent. You could even blunt the tip and the blade if you were worried about someone taking it and stabbing you. My buddy has a grill spatula that looks just like a mini-machete in it's sheath! He doesn't wear it for deterrence because he will whoop some ass at will, but you could.


Also, if you fly me to Australia I will whoop the guys ass when you aren't there and tell him to find another gym unless he wants more ass-whoopings.