Sad....

drinkbigredinstead

Mamasan23 wrote:

Talk to your wife, tell her how you're feeling. A marriage is work - I'm sure you know it's not easy but you have to work together to keep the spark in it.

In 10 years, if you work it out, you'll be singing this song:

http://youtu.be/CrtbGR6RPrU

Very true...

that song was one that had me misty eyed during Alpine

dcfaithful

Sorry to hear this. :(

For the record though, I've been getting ripped off too. Cleaning the bathroom is one of my jobs around the house and I am certain that the number of bathroom cleanings compared to the number of BJ's does NOT match up. :evil:

chadwick

i will say this...

cooking dinner is a two party undertaking. someone cuts up the veggies while someone does something else.
someone sets the table, someone does this, someone does that. then eat together and clean up together.

but, chady, i can't cook...boohoo
shut your face and cut up the fucking onions and potatoes...easy shit :evil:

comebackgirl

MedozK wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

Wait a minute...ive been getting ripped off for years...is this in a marriage rule book or something? :shock:

Yep. The full entry states "BJs will be given on birthdays, anniversaries, valentine's day and after a good & thorough bathroom cleaning"

justam

acoustic guy wrote:

photogirlliz wrote:

Have you said these things to her?

No. not directly yet....to tuff.

You should talk to her about how you feel. It sounds like she's doing less in the relationship than you are.

photogirlliz

comebackgirl wrote:

MedozK wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

Wait a minute...ive been getting ripped off for years...is this in a marriage rule book or something? :shock:

Yep. The full entry states "BJs will be given on birthdays, anniversaries, valentine's day and after a good & thorough bathroom cleaning"

I'm pretty sure that's what's in my rule book as well. There just happen to be more dates entered in mine...the writing looks a bit suspicious

Leezestarr313

chadwick wrote:

i will say this...

cooking dinner is a two party undertaking. someone cuts up the veggies while someone does something else.
someone sets the table, someone does this, someone does that. then eat together and clean up together

...easy shit

:thumbup:

And yep - communication is the key! Tell her what is on your mind! Good luck to you both!

chadwick

and all this bj talk has me thinking i am one lucky son of a bitch i guess. normally i fight women off of my thingamajig. again, normally they need to give me this type of treatment. i do not understand women who do not desire to perform oral. if my bathroom is filthy it is oral time. if i haven't done my dishes in 13 weeks it is oral time. i can't lose. if i have not folded laundry in weeks and have dirty and clean clothes piles, oral.

the ladies i know need to have this and they are correct in knowing their bodys' needs. they know what they need so they go after it. it is all very basic, very easy stuff to understand.

happy valentines day, everyone. cheers.

F Me In The Brain

chadwick wrote:

and all this bj talk has me thinking i am one lucky son of a bitch i guess. normally i fight women off of my thingamajig. again, normally they need to give me this type of treatment. i do not understand women who do not desire to perform oral. if my bathroom is filthy it is oral time. if i haven't done my dishes in 13 weeks it is oral time. i can't lose. if i have not folded laundry in weeks and have dirty and clean clothes piles, oral.

the ladies i know need to have this and they are correct in knowing their bodys' needs. they know what they need so they go after it. it is all very basic, very easy stuff to understand.

happy valentines day, everyone. cheers.

All awesome stuff. And most of that goes out the window once you are married for a year.

blackredyellow

drinkbigredinstead wrote:

MedozK wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

Wait a minute...ive been getting ripped off for years...is this in a marriage rule book or something? :shock:

Why yes it is

I must have an older edition of said rule book. I think I'll quit cleaning the bathroom now...

JOEJOEJOE

comebackgirl wrote:

MedozK wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

Wait a minute...ive been getting ripped off for years...is this in a marriage rule book or something? :shock:

Yep. The full entry states "BJs will be given on birthdays, anniversaries, valentine's day and after a good & thorough bathroom cleaning"

At my firm, we used to order lunch from a place called BJs. The jokes wrote themselves!

ZiggyStar

chadwick wrote:

and all this bj talk has me thinking i am one lucky son of a bitch i guess. normally i fight women off of my thingamajig. again, normally they need to give me this type of treatment. i do not understand women who do not desire to perform oral. if my bathroom is filthy it is oral time. if i haven't done my dishes in 13 weeks it is oral time. i can't lose. if i have not folded laundry in weeks and have dirty and clean clothes piles, oral.

the ladies i know need to have this and they are correct in knowing their bodys' needs. they know what they need so they go after it. it is all very basic, very easy stuff to understand.

happy valentines day, everyone. cheers.

Because some chicks just don't like sex. Plain and simple. Poor bitches.

RKCNDY

ZiggyStar wrote:

chadwick wrote:

and all this bj talk has me thinking i am one lucky son of a bitch i guess. normally i fight women off of my thingamajig. again, normally they need to give me this type of treatment. i do not understand women who do not desire to perform oral. if my bathroom is filthy it is oral time. if i haven't done my dishes in 13 weeks it is oral time. i can't lose. if i have not folded laundry in weeks and have dirty and clean clothes piles, oral.

the ladies i know need to have this and they are correct in knowing their bodys' needs. they know what they need so they go after it. it is all very basic, very easy stuff to understand.

happy valentines day, everyone. cheers.

Because some chicks just don't like sex. Plain and simple. Poor bitches.

maybe the guys are being selfish...hence the women not liking it...poor girl.

ZiggyStar

RKCNDY wrote:

maybe the guys are being selfish...hence the women not liking it...poor girl.

Yeah maybe....but I know of a lot of chicks in their 30s who just DO NOT want it or like it....could easily have it once a month or less....Fuck that. I mean, these chicks don't even masturbate ffs. Poor bitches.

ZiggyStar

acoustic guy wrote:

Been married for almost ten years and have created two beautiful children. I have always been the one to shower my wife with gifts in creative way, cook many meals etc..
She has never ever been the type to do that for me and i never used to care. Until now...

Now I am at the point to where I am not in love anymore. I love her dearly but I dont care to do the romantic things anymore. I dont feel the passion. I dont feel the connection.
Sad....
I read how people evolve for better or worse every 7-10 years. I have changed for the better in 10 years. I am way way way better person now then before, yet she has not. Not with interests, hobbies, needs, desires nothing. I am different now and its a scary thing.

Oh...Happy Valentines day everyone :roll:

How are you going to sort this shit out if you don't talk to her about it? Maybe she doesn't like this new person you have become....same way as this new person doesn't like the same person she still is? But how would you know what she feels if you don't ask her? Maybe you can both change a little in the same direction so you can connect again?

I've been with my bf for 13.5 years....and we had a really shit 18 months or so back a few years ago....bitching, moaning, not happy, he wasn't working, I was working too much, we were both drinking WAY too much....life was miserable for that period....we just didn't connect and were on different pages. But that's normal. Do you really think every year is going to be roses and chocolates? Fuck no. But when you come out the other side of the shit stages, you learn from them and appreciate the good stages. I'm sure we'll have more shit years as the decades go on....it's to be expected.

I don't know where society got this picture of every single year of say a 50 year relationship being perfect where both parties are 100% connected and happy....because it's not....and you have to figure out how you can make it work....by both parties making changes....and if you can't make it work, I guess you both have to move on. But you've got to give it a go....and refusing to talk to her about it is just prolonging and drawing out this shit period.

Man up....for your kids' sake.

chadwick

ZiggyStar wrote:

chadwick wrote:

and all this bj talk has me thinking i am one lucky son of a bitch i guess. normally i fight women off of my thingamajig. again, normally they need to give me this type of treatment. i do not understand women who do not desire to perform oral. if my bathroom is filthy it is oral time. if i haven't done my dishes in 13 weeks it is oral time. i can't lose. if i have not folded laundry in weeks and have dirty and clean clothes piles, oral.

the ladies i know need to have this and they are correct in knowing their bodys' needs. they know what they need so they go after it. it is all very basic, very easy stuff to understand.

happy valentines day, everyone. cheers.

Because some chicks just don't like sex. Plain and simple. Poor bitches.

ziggystar...genius

ZiggyStar

Also, once you connect again, you'll get pleasure in doing those little 'romantic' things that you no longer give a shit about doing at the moment. I used to do heaps of fun stuff for my bf like secretly buy him vintage Star Wars figures on ebay, find him old 80s Dune movie posters that he had when he was a kid etc. But I didn't care about doing those little nice things for him during those crappy 18 months. But now that's all changed and I do all those little things again that show him that I love him because I get pleasure from knowing something I did made him happy or feel good.

I think what you're going through is completely normal....you just need to figure out how you get over this hump. For us, we both went on separate holidays....had to find ourselves again after 10+ years of being "us"....and it worked....with a fair bit of work from "both of us" though once the holidays were over.

Jeanwah

Lack of communication is the number one reason for relationships falling apart. You must talk to her acoustic guy!

acoustic guy

Actually I really have tried to explain the issues we are having. I have no problems talking about my feelings. I am badass when I need to be as a man. I am secure with my manhood lol.
She takes it as an insult instead of reflecting on what my issues are with her. We fight and I bring up all the things I do the most partners don't and how I want more affection. Not even talking about sex. Just affection. I know this sounds weird coming from a guy but for some reason its all coming out today haha. Her family are not the type to show much affection, and i was always okay with that but as time goes on it changes. Not trying to be a creep but I can it from a few girls right this second if I so desired. But I am trying to be a better person then that.....its wearing thin though.
She is very insecure with her body and after ten years STILL covers up while changing. Any women here understand that? I tell her daily how beautiful she is but its her own inner problem. She is very jealous also because I have many girl "friends". Just friends.
Life is weird i guess. You never know where or what type of situation you will end up in as an adult.
I even asked her to go to a marriage counselor, I ended up going once alone.
Another big problem is I had many girlfriends before marriage. Long term for a few. HER LONGEST RELATIONSHIP BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED WAS SIX MONTHS!!! And she was raised very spoiled. Always had everyone do things for her. So now she expects it from me. That makes her expect what I do, rather then appreciate it. That fuels my anger. As time goes by it wears on you....

acoustic guy

ZiggyStar wrote:

RKCNDY wrote:

maybe the guys are being selfish...hence the women not liking it...poor girl.

Yeah maybe....but I know of a lot of chicks in their 30s who just DO NOT want it or like it....could easily have it once a month or less....Fuck that. I mean, these chicks don't even masturbate ffs. Poor bitches.

Right now we are at once every almost two months. I workout everyday, so for me that is fucking torture.
I mean I love internet porn but come on! If I was single I would be dating three girls right now!