Sad....

acoustic guy

Been married for almost ten years and have created two beautiful children. I have always been the one to shower my wife with gifts in creative way, cook many meals etc..
She has never ever been the type to do that for me and i never used to care. Until now...

Now I am at the point to where I am not in love anymore. I love her dearly but I dont care to do the romantic things anymore. I dont feel the passion. I dont feel the connection.
Sad....
I read how people evolve for better or worse every 7-10 years. I have changed for the better in 10 years. I am way way way better person now then before, yet she has not. Not with interests, hobbies, needs, desires nothing. I am different now and its a scary thing.

Oh...Happy Valentines day everyone :roll:

titchinello

my only response is, do you really need 1 day to show your love, what about the other 364 days of the year.
don't they count

acoustic guy

titchinello wrote:

my only response is, do you really need 1 day to show your love, what about the other 364 days of the year.
don't they count

Not many husbands do like I...
I cook 5 days a week and am very involved with the hosehold chores. Its a team effort in my opinion.

titchinello

acoustic guy wrote:

titchinello wrote:

my only response is, do you really need 1 day to show your love, what about the other 364 days of the year.
don't they count

Not many husbands do like I...
I cook 5 days a week and am very involved with the hosehold chores. Its a team effort in my opinion.

same here, I work nightshift, come home sleep, get up, make suppers, I do my fair share of the dishes and laundry etc, I don't believe in the woman does all the work crap, infact i probably do most of it, while my wife sits at home, and to be honest I don't mind at all.

photogirlliz

acoustic guy wrote:

Been married for almost ten years and have created two beautiful children. I have always been the one to shower my wife with gifts in creative way, cook many meals etc..
She has never ever been the type to do that for me and i never used to care. Until now...

Now I am at the point to where I am not in love anymore. I love her dearly but I dont care to do the romantic things anymore. I dont feel the passion. I dont feel the connection.
Sad....
I read how people evolve for better or worse every 7-10 years. I have changed for the better in 10 years. I am way way way better person now then before, yet she has not. Not with interests, hobbies, needs, desires nothing. I am different now and its a scary thing.

Oh...Happy Valentines day everyone :roll:

Have you said these things to her?

acoustic guy

photogirlliz wrote:

acoustic guy wrote:

Been married for almost ten years and have created two beautiful children. I have always been the one to shower my wife with gifts in creative way, cook many meals etc..
She has never ever been the type to do that for me and i never used to care. Until now...

Now I am at the point to where I am not in love anymore. I love her dearly but I dont care to do the romantic things anymore. I dont feel the passion. I dont feel the connection.
Sad....
I read how people evolve for better or worse every 7-10 years. I have changed for the better in 10 years. I am way way way better person now then before, yet she has not. Not with interests, hobbies, needs, desires nothing. I am different now and its a scary thing.

Oh...Happy Valentines day everyone :roll:

Have you said these things to her?

No. not directly yet....to tuff.

81

acoustic guy wrote:

titchinello wrote:

my only response is, do you really need 1 day to show your love, what about the other 364 days of the year.
don't they count

Not many husbands do like I...
I cook 5 days a week and am very involved with the hosehold chores. Its a team effort in my opinion.

see...that's your problem...you aren't being manly enough...

let the woman take care of the cooking/dishes/cleaning/laundry....and focus your efforts on the beer drinking/sports watching/car fixing/lawn mowing chores.

RKCNDY

81 wrote:

acoustic guy wrote:

titchinello wrote:

my only response is, do you really need 1 day to show your love, what about the other 364 days of the year.
don't they count

Not many husbands do like I...
I cook 5 days a week and am very involved with the hosehold chores. Its a team effort in my opinion.

see...that's your problem...you aren't being manly enough...

let the woman take care of the cooking/dishes/cleaning/laundry....and focus your efforts on the beer drinking/sports watching/car fixing/lawn mowing chores.

there is nothing hotter than a man doing housework...
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/09/ ... 3246.shtml

Cheeks

How did you used to connect with your wife?
Are you wanting to reconnect? The tone of your post gave the impression that perhaps you are thinking of moving on from your marriage? Please correct me if I'm making assumptions.

pandora

acoustic guy wrote:

Been married for almost ten years and have created two beautiful children. I have always been the one to shower my wife with gifts in creative way, cook many meals etc..
She has never ever been the type to do that for me and i never used to care. Until now...

Now I am at the point to where I am not in love anymore. I love her dearly but I dont care to do the romantic things anymore. I dont feel the passion. I dont feel the connection.
Sad....
I read how people evolve for better or worse every 7-10 years. I have changed for the better in 10 years. I am way way way better person now then before, yet she has not. Not with interests, hobbies, needs, desires nothing. I am different now and its a scary thing.

Oh...Happy Valentines day everyone :roll:

ah yes ... ebb and flow of love ... let it push you pull you

in the meantime ... passion is easily rekindled

yes, we all change... your partner also
I think if you look close you may see how and for the better.
It sounds like you are disillusioned with love,
maybe not with only her, maybe with life.

You give and don't feel like you are satisfied... this where disillusionment comes from.

Take some time to identify what you want then let your spouse know.
She may surprise you with a list of her own!

Good luck... don't give up on love it will be back around again
Happy Valentines Day!

photogirlliz

It may be tough, but it's honest. In fact, she may not realize you're feeling the way you are and that she hasn't been providing things she needs to for you if you haven't talked about it openly and honestly. She may put in more effort just knowing. People get comfortable and often start ignoring things they shouldn't...and a lot of the time they don't really realize that their lack of effort is having a negative impact--especially if it's not being communicated. Talk to her...it may make a world of difference to your relationship. If not, at least you can know you did what you could and that you were honest about how you felt.

comebackgirl

RKCNDY wrote:

there is nothing hotter than a man doing housework...
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/09/ ... 3246.shtml

So true, RKCNDY. Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

AG - you have to tell her. I think a lot of couples tend to disconnect after years of being together, especially after having kids. She can't read your mind. If you don't tell her you feel this way, she can't do anything about it. As far as she knows, you love cooking. Give it a chance to see if things can improve.

drinkbigredinstead

acoustic guy wrote:

Been married for almost ten years and have created two beautiful children. I have always been the one to shower my wife with gifts in creative way, cook many meals etc..
She has never ever been the type to do that for me and i never used to care. Until now...

Now I am at the point to where I am not in love anymore. I love her dearly but I dont care to do the romantic things anymore. I dont feel the passion. I dont feel the connection.
Sad....
I read how people evolve for better or worse every 7-10 years. I have changed for the better in 10 years. I am way way way better person now then before, yet she has not. Not with interests, hobbies, needs, desires nothing. I am different now and its a scary thing.

Oh...Happy Valentines day everyone :roll:

:(

Marriage is a wild ride...hold on to each other tight and don't let go. If you do let go, make sure you both know why. Tell her just what you typed....she needs to know. I would want to know.

Nami

[quote=" Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time. "

U see. now that is damn funny, I think the rest of the people around me heard me laugh.

If all women were like you

OP, Hang in there everyone goes through rough patches in a marriage, only later on it life will you look back on this time and say to yourself, Damn, I'm glad I hung in there.

F Me In The Brain

comebackgirl wrote:

RKCNDY wrote:

there is nothing hotter than a man doing housework...
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/09/ ... 3246.shtml

So true, RKCNDY. Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

AG - you have to tell her. I think a lot of couples tend to disconnect after years of being together, especially after having kids. She can't read your mind. If you don't tell her you feel this way, she can't do anything about it. As far as she knows, you love cooking. Give it a chance to see if things can improve.

Holy shit, if I didn't think I was already getting one tonight I would get home, kiss her hello & go and clean the bathroom! (Maybe I will do that tomorrow and test your theory.)

OP, I feel for you but I dont know if I would let the cat all of the way out of the cage. For all you know she has felt the same way as you for a long time. If you both love each other I believe you can work through things to find what is best for you both and your family. Good luck.

iluvcats

maybe somebody is going through the change of life. men have hormonal changes like women do.
I wish the best for your family

MedozK

comebackgirl wrote:

Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

Wait a minute...ive been getting ripped off for years...is this in a marriage rule book or something? :shock:

drinkbigredinstead

MedozK wrote:

comebackgirl wrote:

Want a BJ? Clean the bathroom Works every time.

Wait a minute...ive been getting ripped off for years...is this in a marriage rule book or something? :shock:

Why yes it is

josevolution

If you truly feel this way it's best that she knows ...

Mamasan23

Talk to your wife, tell her how you're feeling. A marriage is work - I'm sure you know it's not easy but you have to work together to keep the spark in it.

In 10 years, if you work it out, you'll be singing this song:

http://youtu.be/CrtbGR6RPrU

eb239643

professional bathroom cleaner for hire!!