Well, just had another scan....day 15 this time instead of day 12 since my cycles are about 35-37 days long instead of 28....my egg follicles are still too small and my uterine lining too thin....but I've still been ovulating in previous months where they have been the ideal size....but still....it ultimately means that once again, the drugs at the maximum dosage allowable haven't worked as well as they're supposed to.
My ob/gyn told me today that I only have August (and maybe September) left on these ovulation tablets then she basically can't do anything else for me and I have no choice but to see the ivf specialist....who I've already booked an appt with on 7 September. Time is running out....and I can't even afford to have ivf yet anyway. Makes me so fucking angry.
And I'm so fucking sick of people's comments. These are some of the comments I got just last week:
* "Oh my friend tried for THREE YEARS to have kids and eventually fell pregnant." How the fuck does saying this make me feel any better? I've been trying for ages already and I'm sick of it....I don't want to even think about it going on for another couple of years.
* "You're too thin....put on some weight and it will work." So you're a fucking doctor now? You don't think my ob/gyn wouldn't have discussed that with me if she thought I was too thin? What medical fact are you basing this on? None....you're just making up shit. And btw, you're fucking fat so go on a diet.
* "My friend did ivf for FIVE YEARS and now has two." Well good for her. Now piss off and keep your bad stories to yourself.
* "You need to stop stressing and relax." Grrrr....I'm not stressed....but this comment in particular is starting to make me lose my cool.
* "You can always adopt." No I fucking can't. I can't even go on the adoption list while I'm undergoing any form of fertility treatment....and it can take up to TEN YEARS in Australia to adopt and costs a shitload of money....probably $50,000 plus....and there are age restrictions for most countries we can adopt from so by the time we make it up the list, we'll probably be too old. The "you can always adopt" line is particularly annoying --- when you're undergoing fertility treatment, you don't even want to think about adoption....because it just means that you DEFINITELY can't have kids and EVERYTHING else you've tried for years and years has failed.
Some people really need to think before they start commenting and giving advice.
Just don't listen Zig, EVERYONE's body is different when it comes to this shit. I had to hear all these comments too when I miscarried, just try to remember that they mean no harm, they are just trying to make you feel better. Unfortunately some folk have kids and become 'experts' if you know what I mean.
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Just don't listen Zig, EVERYONE's body is different when it comes to this shit. I had to hear all these comments too when I miscarried, just try to remember that they mean no harm, they are just trying to make you feel better. Unfortunately some folk have kids and become 'experts' if you know what I mean.
I'll try to remember that they mean no harm when I HEADBUTT them! :x
Aww, Zig, sorry your feeling so out of sorts. I'm sure the comments that you are hearing have been given in the context of trying to give you hope, not to judge you. Not that it helps, but people just want to give you hope.
So, with that in mind, relax, gain some weight, and get yourselves on a list of some sort. Remember, you really need to stop stressing and just relax. Things will all work out
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I wish you and Mr Zig the best of luck
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Just don't listen Zig, EVERYONE's body is different when it comes to this shit. I had to hear all these comments too when I miscarried, just try to remember that they mean no harm, they are just trying to make you feel better. Unfortunately some folk have kids and become 'experts' if you know what I mean.
I'll try to remember that they mean no harm when I HEADBUTT them! :x
Thanks Loulou.
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Aww, Zig, sorry your feeling so out of sorts. I'm sure the comments that you are hearing have been given in the context of trying to give you hope, not to judge you. Not that it helps, but people just want to give you hope.
So, with that in mind, relax, gain some weight, and get yourselves on a list of some sort. Remember, you really need to stop stressing and just relax. Things will all work out
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I wish you and Mr Zig the best of luck
I was reading that thinking "wtf? gain weight? Not another expert!!!!" haha Thanks....that made me laugh.
I know they mean well....but what's wrong with just saying "oh that's a shame....well good luck". Some people really need to learn to say less.
Looks like it's back to constant sex for yet another month....sigh....it's a hard life.
I think people are inclined to try and "fix" things, if you know what I mean. So to them, unsolicited advice is their method. I pity you all the sex. Did I mention that my hubby is gone for six-plus months :(
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I think people are inclined to try and "fix" things, if you know what I mean. So to them, unsolicited advice is their method. I pity you all the sex. Did I mention that my hubby is gone for six-plus months :(
SIX MONTHS?!!? :shock: You poor poor thing. I'd die. The longest I've ever been since I was 19 years old was 5 weeks back in early 2010....it was hell....NEVER AGAIN!
Well, just had another scan....day 15 this time instead of day 12 since my cycles are about 35-37 days long instead of 28....my egg follicles are still too small and my uterine lining too thin....but I've still been ovulating in previous months where they have been the ideal size....but still....it ultimately means that once again, the drugs at the maximum dosage allowable haven't worked as well as they're supposed to.
My ob/gyn told me today that I only have August (and maybe September) left on these ovulation tablets then she basically can't do anything else for me and I have no choice but to see the ivf specialist....who I've already booked an appt with on 7 September. Time is running out....and I can't even afford to have ivf yet anyway. Makes me so fucking angry.
And I'm so fucking sick of people's comments. These are some of the comments I got just last week:
* "Oh my friend tried for THREE YEARS to have kids and eventually fell pregnant." How the fuck does saying this make me feel any better? I've been trying for ages already and I'm sick of it....I don't want to even think about it going on for another couple of years.
* "You're too thin....put on some weight and it will work." So you're a fucking doctor now? You don't think my ob/gyn wouldn't have discussed that with me if she thought I was too thin? What medical fact are you basing this on? None....you're just making up shit. And btw, you're fucking fat so go on a diet.
* "My friend did ivf for FIVE YEARS and now has two." Well good for her. Now piss off and keep your bad stories to yourself.
* "You need to stop stressing and relax." Grrrr....I'm not stressed....but this comment in particular is starting to make me lose my cool.
* "You can always adopt." No I fucking can't. I can't even go on the adoption list while I'm undergoing any form of fertility treatment....and it can take up to TEN YEARS in Australia to adopt and costs a shitload of money....probably $50,000 plus....and there are age restrictions for most countries we can adopt from so by the time we make it up the list, we'll probably be too old. The "you can always adopt" line is particularly annoying --- when you're undergoing fertility treatment, you don't even want to think about adoption....because it just means that you DEFINITELY can't have kids and EVERYTHING else you've tried for years and years has failed.
Some people really need to think before they start commenting and giving advice.
:x :x :x
(end of rant)
I feel you...My wife and I have been trying for about 3 years now. Started with the AI and tried everything from fertility treatments to acupuncture. Then we took a break from it all after deciding it's probably not healthy to get depressed on a monthly basis. Now we are thinking about trying AI a couple more times before diving into IVF. Anyways, we were doing fine with the stresses of all that, but almost got to the point that we didn't even want to hang around with some friends or family.
You probably know as well as I that when you have been trying unsuccessfully for a while, it's nice to have a conversation with people that involves something other than "baby talk"... Yet everyone still feels like they have to put their expert 2 cents in, saying "oh, don't worry, it'll happen and you guys will make great parents"...or stories about "I know a family that tried doing this and became pregnant" or the best ever "yeah, we found out that your sister has had two abortions and is pregnant again"... I know most of these people are people that care about you and are just trying to think of things to make you happy, but sometimes it feels like that you lose any role other than "the couple that haven't been able to get pregnant". We are still fun people that like sports, running, music, traveling, movies, riding bikes, good food, fishing, skiing, etc...plenty OTHER roles and topics of conversation!
Anyways, I lost track of the point I was trying to make and just started ranting myself, but for what it's worth...You're not alone
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My ob/gyn told me today that I only have August (and maybe September) left on these ovulation tablets then she basically can't do anything else for me and I have no choice but to see the ivf specialist....who I've already booked an appt with on 7 September. Time is running out....and I can't even afford to have ivf yet anyway. Makes me so fucking angry.
And I'm so fucking sick of people's comments. These are some of the comments I got just last week:
* "Oh my friend tried for THREE YEARS to have kids and eventually fell pregnant." How the fuck does saying this make me feel any better? I've been trying for ages already and I'm sick of it....I don't want to even think about it going on for another couple of years.
* "You're too thin....put on some weight and it will work." So you're a fucking doctor now? You don't think my ob/gyn wouldn't have discussed that with me if she thought I was too thin? What medical fact are you basing this on? None....you're just making up shit. And btw, you're fucking fat so go on a diet.
* "My friend did ivf for FIVE YEARS and now has two." Well good for her. Now piss off and keep your bad stories to yourself.
* "You need to stop stressing and relax." Grrrr....I'm not stressed....but this comment in particular is starting to make me lose my cool.
* "You can always adopt." No I fucking can't. I can't even go on the adoption list while I'm undergoing any form of fertility treatment....and it can take up to TEN YEARS in Australia to adopt and costs a shitload of money....probably $50,000 plus....and there are age restrictions for most countries we can adopt from so by the time we make it up the list, we'll probably be too old. The "you can always adopt" line is particularly annoying --- when you're undergoing fertility treatment, you don't even want to think about adoption....because it just means that you DEFINITELY can't have kids and EVERYTHING else you've tried for years and years has failed.
Some people really need to think before they start commenting and giving advice.
:x :x :x
(end of rant)
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I'll try to remember that they mean no harm when I HEADBUTT them! :x
Thanks Loulou.
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So, with that in mind, relax, gain some weight, and get yourselves on a list of some sort. Remember, you really need to stop stressing and just relax. Things will all work out
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I wish you and Mr Zig the best of luck
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I know they mean well....but what's wrong with just saying "oh that's a shame....well good luck". Some people really need to learn to say less.
Looks like it's back to constant sex for yet another month....sigh....it's a hard life.
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SIX MONTHS?!!?
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don't tell people :P
now stop your bitching (i hear being in a bad mood doesn't help) ,get back in the sack and get busy. :shock:
I feel you...My wife and I have been trying for about 3 years now. Started with the AI and tried everything from fertility treatments to acupuncture. Then we took a break from it all after deciding it's probably not healthy to get depressed on a monthly basis. Now we are thinking about trying AI a couple more times before diving into IVF. Anyways, we were doing fine with the stresses of all that, but almost got to the point that we didn't even want to hang around with some friends or family.
You probably know as well as I that when you have been trying unsuccessfully for a while, it's nice to have a conversation with people that involves something other than "baby talk"... Yet everyone still feels like they have to put their expert 2 cents in, saying "oh, don't worry, it'll happen and you guys will make great parents"...or stories about "I know a family that tried doing this and became pregnant" or the best ever "yeah, we found out that your sister has had two abortions and is pregnant again"... I know most of these people are people that care about you and are just trying to think of things to make you happy, but sometimes it feels like that you lose any role other than "the couple that haven't been able to get pregnant". We are still fun people that like sports, running, music, traveling, movies, riding bikes, good food, fishing, skiing, etc...plenty OTHER roles and topics of conversation!
Anyways, I lost track of the point I was trying to make and just started ranting myself, but for what it's worth...You're not alone