Glorifying your life on Facebook...

Evil Merlin Part Deux
Evil Merlin Part Deux Posts: 234
edited May 2013 in All Encompassing Trip
What's up with that? Or even lying about it...why do people do it? It's probably one of the reason's I'm not on Facebook anymore. I even have family members who put up these facades of how great things are and I just kind of roll my eyes at it. I guess it's one thing to be proud, but at some point it seems to hit a shallow, dishonest area which leaves a bad taste of where your character stands.

I've never really thought about this much, cause I tend to just let it roll off my back, out of sight, out of mind. I'm not on there, so I don't care what people put up anymore. If that's what makes them happy, fine with me. However, the other night, a close friend who I don't see as often as I'd like anymore as he's been caught up with his house, and life, and he just doesn't go out much anymore, called to go get beers.

Anyway, he's always been technically challenged, but his girlfriend of 7 years got him on Facebook finally, and he was checking out his girlfriends page. He just saw things that seem to have him either worrired, or they actually hurt his feelings on the inside and he's kind of dwelling on it. One instance was she was talking to some guy back and forth where they seemed to be arguing, and he said he was sucked in for a second time and it's gotta be all or nothing for him to be with her, and he wanted to fly down to see her, and she told him that she loved him and misses him and thinks about him all the time. My buddy asked her about it, and she said oh, it was just some guy she went on 1 date with 12 years ago that she had a crush on, but then realized she didn't like him...The back and forth on facebook just didn't seem to add up to her reasoning.

He said there were a few other things too...like when they were out one night somebody in a car flipped them off because she accidently honked her horn, and that was it. Yet she wrote a story about how she went off on the girl in the other car about how ugly she was, and said she was alone with her dog, not that she was with him...all of which was untrue. And then some other thing about how she was talking to her old 'F' buddy from college and said she saw his band's name on a show list while her and her friend were partying it up and drinking at another show and said she put, "You know how we do." Except she apparently never went to the show, and it was supposed to be him and her, not her and a friend, and that she quit drinking a few years ago. After he talked to her about it, her page was private for a few days and then she added him on as a friend and he said things were deleted all of a sudden.

I didn't really know what to tell him. I wasn't going to tell him to leave a relationship of 7 years because of this, or to really drill her on this...it's not really my responsibility to intervene like that, but shit, seems like there's definitely something going on in her head that he never knew about. He said there were more instances of things like that. But it seems like it's bothering him on the inside.

So yeah, I don't really know how to respond...She could be just an attention whore...or it could be something worse, but I can't really make any assumptions. Holy hell, another reason I'm not on Facebook. It turns a strong 7 year relationship into a high school drama-fest. :lol:
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  • Evil Merlin Part Deux
    Evil Merlin Part Deux Posts: 234
    Holy shit I'm really procrastinating at work! I didn't realize how long that was...and now I'm replying to my own post. :lol:
  • Go Beavers
    Go Beavers Posts: 9,619
    Facebook facilitates drama for people who like drama, and if there wasn't facebook, they find it somewhere else. For everone else it's for laughs, occasional political rants, and pics of the kids.
  • Evil Merlin Part Deux
    Evil Merlin Part Deux Posts: 234
    Go Beavers wrote:
    Facebook facilitates drama for people who like drama, and if there wasn't facebook, they find it somewhere else. For everone else it's for laughs, occasional political rants, and pics of the kids.

    Yeah, I remember those fun days in my late teens and early twenties on MySpace and Friendster and all the drama that went on there. Shit, it really was for laughs for me...I got tired of it though after a while, started ranting, then quit. :mrgreen:
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    Everything you post/write on the internet is cashed and stored....it can be dug up by anybody, if you know where to look.

    People need to remember this....what's that FaceBook parody site? You can type in ANY word, and it will pull any pic from FB that has been tagged with that word...

    Also remember, any photos that you post to Twitter or FB no longer belong to you...the rights belong to Twitter/FB, and any company can take that pic, sell it, and keep the royalties.
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

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  • Evil Merlin Part Deux
    Evil Merlin Part Deux Posts: 234
    edited June 2011
    RKCNDY wrote:
    Everything you post/write on the internet is cashed and stored....it can be dug up by anybody, if you know where to look.

    People need to remember this....what's that FaceBook parody site? You can type in ANY word, and it will pull any pic from FB that has been tagged with that word...

    Also remember, any photos that you post to Twitter or FB no longer belong to you...the rights belong to Twitter/FB, and any company can take that pic, sell it, and keep the royalties.

    I know Facebook had issues with Lamebook since they were posting crap that people posted on Facebook. I dunno how that lawsuit turned out though...if it ever got to courts.

    Failblog started a facebook one too I believe some time ago.

    Edit: Failbook!
    Post edited by Evil Merlin Part Deux on
  • xavier mcdaniel
    xavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,448
    The only thing on facebook I lie about is my phone number. I wouldn't put my real number on the internet, so I just put 867-5309
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  • Lizard
    Lizard So Cal Posts: 12,091
    RKCNDY wrote:
    Also remember, any photos that you post to Twitter or FB no longer belong to you...the rights belong to Twitter/FB, and any company can take that pic, sell it, and keep the royalties.

    I think Mr. Weiner learned that lesson!!! :?
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    The only thing on facebook I lie about is my phone number. I wouldn't put my real number on the internet, so I just put 867-5309

    I currently live on: 123 Sesame Street
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  • unlost dogs
    unlost dogs Greater Boston Posts: 12,553
    Lizard wrote:
    RKCNDY wrote:
    Also remember, any photos that you post to Twitter or FB no longer belong to you...the rights belong to Twitter/FB, and any company can take that pic, sell it, and keep the royalties.

    I think Mr. Weiner learned that lesson!!! :?

    "Mr. Weiner."

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  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    Go Beavers wrote:
    Facebook facilitates drama for people who like drama, and if there wasn't facebook, they find it somewhere else. For everone else it's for laughs, occasional political rants, and pics of the kids.

    this


    facebook, twitter etc aren't the problem...people are
  • Evil Merlin Part Deux
    Evil Merlin Part Deux Posts: 234
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    The only thing on facebook I lie about is my phone number. I wouldn't put my real number on the internet, so I just put 867-5309

    :lol: I just put all 5's, and some of my old online accounts I lived on 1234 Fake Street.
  • JTH
    JTH Chicago Posts: 3,238
    Evil Merlin Part Deux wrote:
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    The only thing on facebook I lie about is my phone number. I wouldn't put my real number on the internet, so I just put 867-5309

    :lol: I just put all 5's, and some of my old online accounts I lived on 1234 Fake Street.
    Hi, neighbor. I'm at 123 Fake Street.
  • Who Princess
    Who Princess out here in the fields Posts: 7,305
    Not on Facebook yet but promised some friends I'd go ahead and do it. Man, this thread is very educational! :wtf: :shifty:
    "The stars are all connected to the brain."
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    whoprincess wrote:
    Not on Facebook yet but promised some friends I'd go ahead and do it. Man, this thread is very educational! :wtf: :shifty:


    if you have ever email a link about something to a bunch of friends or spent anytime on a message board ;) then you've used facebook...that's all it really is...the drama doesn't come from facebook but from the people that are already dramatic ;):D
  • 81
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    norm wrote:
    whoprincess wrote:
    Not on Facebook yet but promised some friends I'd go ahead and do it. Man, this thread is very educational! :wtf: :shifty:


    if you have ever email a link about something to a bunch of friends or spent anytime on a message board ;) then you've used facebook...that's all it really is...the drama doesn't come from facebook but from the people that are already dramatic ;):D


    they just don't have kat and sea to come clean up the mess people leave behind
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    The 81 wrote:
    norm wrote:
    whoprincess wrote:
    Not on Facebook yet but promised some friends I'd go ahead and do it. Man, this thread is very educational! :wtf: :shifty:


    if you have ever email a link about something to a bunch of friends or spent anytime on a message board ;) then you've used facebook...that's all it really is...the drama doesn't come from facebook but from the people that are already dramatic ;):D


    they just don't have kat and sea to come clean up the mess people leave behind

    we've continued locked threads over there....
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  • BinauralJam
    BinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    Well i dont man to brag, but i Do have one hell of a Fantasy Kingdom coming together.
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    edited June 2011
    evil, your post was a little long :) can't re-read it, but did you say that the g/f's FB became temporarily private and that her b/f (your friend) could not see it? I hate to be judgmental but she sounds like a liar :(
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  • Who Princess
    Who Princess out here in the fields Posts: 7,305
    norm wrote:
    whoprincess wrote:
    Not on Facebook yet but promised some friends I'd go ahead and do it. Man, this thread is very educational! :wtf: :shifty:


    if you have ever email a link about something to a bunch of friends or spent anytime on a message board ;) then you've used facebook...that's all it really is...the drama doesn't come from facebook but from the people that are already dramatic ;):D
    Oh I get all that. I've seen my fair share of drama on various message boards. I've been very skeptical of FB but so many people I know use it and I want to be in touch with them easily. I also need to use for my job, believe it or not.

    But I'm enjoying what I'm reading in this thread and picking up a few tips. 8-)
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  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    I don't get why people have to lie period...
    they think they are foolin someone when they really aren't :?

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