Glorifying your life on Facebook...
Evil Merlin Part Deux
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What's up with that? Or even lying about it...why do people do it? It's probably one of the reason's I'm not on Facebook anymore. I even have family members who put up these facades of how great things are and I just kind of roll my eyes at it. I guess it's one thing to be proud, but at some point it seems to hit a shallow, dishonest area which leaves a bad taste of where your character stands.
I've never really thought about this much, cause I tend to just let it roll off my back, out of sight, out of mind. I'm not on there, so I don't care what people put up anymore. If that's what makes them happy, fine with me. However, the other night, a close friend who I don't see as often as I'd like anymore as he's been caught up with his house, and life, and he just doesn't go out much anymore, called to go get beers.
Anyway, he's always been technically challenged, but his girlfriend of 7 years got him on Facebook finally, and he was checking out his girlfriends page. He just saw things that seem to have him either worrired, or they actually hurt his feelings on the inside and he's kind of dwelling on it. One instance was she was talking to some guy back and forth where they seemed to be arguing, and he said he was sucked in for a second time and it's gotta be all or nothing for him to be with her, and he wanted to fly down to see her, and she told him that she loved him and misses him and thinks about him all the time. My buddy asked her about it, and she said oh, it was just some guy she went on 1 date with 12 years ago that she had a crush on, but then realized she didn't like him...The back and forth on facebook just didn't seem to add up to her reasoning.
He said there were a few other things too...like when they were out one night somebody in a car flipped them off because she accidently honked her horn, and that was it. Yet she wrote a story about how she went off on the girl in the other car about how ugly she was, and said she was alone with her dog, not that she was with him...all of which was untrue. And then some other thing about how she was talking to her old 'F' buddy from college and said she saw his band's name on a show list while her and her friend were partying it up and drinking at another show and said she put, "You know how we do." Except she apparently never went to the show, and it was supposed to be him and her, not her and a friend, and that she quit drinking a few years ago. After he talked to her about it, her page was private for a few days and then she added him on as a friend and he said things were deleted all of a sudden.
I didn't really know what to tell him. I wasn't going to tell him to leave a relationship of 7 years because of this, or to really drill her on this...it's not really my responsibility to intervene like that, but shit, seems like there's definitely something going on in her head that he never knew about. He said there were more instances of things like that. But it seems like it's bothering him on the inside.
So yeah, I don't really know how to respond...She could be just an attention whore...or it could be something worse, but I can't really make any assumptions. Holy hell, another reason I'm not on Facebook. It turns a strong 7 year relationship into a high school drama-fest.
I've never really thought about this much, cause I tend to just let it roll off my back, out of sight, out of mind. I'm not on there, so I don't care what people put up anymore. If that's what makes them happy, fine with me. However, the other night, a close friend who I don't see as often as I'd like anymore as he's been caught up with his house, and life, and he just doesn't go out much anymore, called to go get beers.
Anyway, he's always been technically challenged, but his girlfriend of 7 years got him on Facebook finally, and he was checking out his girlfriends page. He just saw things that seem to have him either worrired, or they actually hurt his feelings on the inside and he's kind of dwelling on it. One instance was she was talking to some guy back and forth where they seemed to be arguing, and he said he was sucked in for a second time and it's gotta be all or nothing for him to be with her, and he wanted to fly down to see her, and she told him that she loved him and misses him and thinks about him all the time. My buddy asked her about it, and she said oh, it was just some guy she went on 1 date with 12 years ago that she had a crush on, but then realized she didn't like him...The back and forth on facebook just didn't seem to add up to her reasoning.
He said there were a few other things too...like when they were out one night somebody in a car flipped them off because she accidently honked her horn, and that was it. Yet she wrote a story about how she went off on the girl in the other car about how ugly she was, and said she was alone with her dog, not that she was with him...all of which was untrue. And then some other thing about how she was talking to her old 'F' buddy from college and said she saw his band's name on a show list while her and her friend were partying it up and drinking at another show and said she put, "You know how we do." Except she apparently never went to the show, and it was supposed to be him and her, not her and a friend, and that she quit drinking a few years ago. After he talked to her about it, her page was private for a few days and then she added him on as a friend and he said things were deleted all of a sudden.
I didn't really know what to tell him. I wasn't going to tell him to leave a relationship of 7 years because of this, or to really drill her on this...it's not really my responsibility to intervene like that, but shit, seems like there's definitely something going on in her head that he never knew about. He said there were more instances of things like that. But it seems like it's bothering him on the inside.
So yeah, I don't really know how to respond...She could be just an attention whore...or it could be something worse, but I can't really make any assumptions. Holy hell, another reason I'm not on Facebook. It turns a strong 7 year relationship into a high school drama-fest.
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Yeah, I remember those fun days in my late teens and early twenties on MySpace and Friendster and all the drama that went on there. Shit, it really was for laughs for me...I got tired of it though after a while, started ranting, then quit.
People need to remember this....what's that FaceBook parody site? You can type in ANY word, and it will pull any pic from FB that has been tagged with that word...
Also remember, any photos that you post to Twitter or FB no longer belong to you...the rights belong to Twitter/FB, and any company can take that pic, sell it, and keep the royalties.
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I know Facebook had issues with Lamebook since they were posting crap that people posted on Facebook. I dunno how that lawsuit turned out though...if it ever got to courts.
Failblog started a facebook one too I believe some time ago.
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this
facebook, twitter etc aren't the problem...people are
if you have ever email a link about something to a bunch of friends or spent anytime on a message board
they just don't have kat and sea to come clean up the mess people leave behind
we've continued locked threads over there....
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Yeah, it seemed sketchy to me too. I was trying not to be judgemental for his sake as well, just hoping it wouldn't blow up into something big. I'm proud of him though...he's the vocal jealous type, and can be hard to deal with sometimes by acting irrationally. Except this time he's just a bit more focussed on why she'd act this way, and is just kind of quiet and hurt about it. He's being a bit more rational. But I dunno, from some of the crap he told me, there were hints of a wandering mind...if she hasn't cheated already, if I were to assume. I mean, come on, who's talking to a person they went on one date with more than ten years ago, and bringing up love, and constant thoughts, and being pulled back into your life for a second time, and it needs to be all or nothing? I didn't tell him to believe her or not believe her one way or the other...just seemed he wanted to talk to someone. Seemed like he had decent reason to worry also.
Oh no, I'm getting sucked into the drama!
And yes, she made her page private, so he couldn't see her wall for a couple of days, then he was added as her friend, and some of the stuff he saw before she added him, and before it was private was gone all of a sudden. Pretty, pretty shady.
Perhaps someone can enlighten me as why you would want to make your life more public.
(runs to check and see if claireack's dirty laundry is airing out)
Well tonight I had a 1 hour 'chat' with my hubby who is currently in Tenerife. My sister lives the other end of the country. My brother lives in Germany. It's a good way to keep in touch.
Also it's handy to put your holiday snaps or whatever on, then people you know can see them without any hassle.
I think if you treat it lightly and use it for fun it's not a problem.
Edit; I do think it's wrong to lie though. No point in that.
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Without a public profile. I mean if you are looking to reconnect with past friends or are big into networking for business I get it-its just another tool, but I dont get the social aspect. Most, not all, of the people that contact me through FB are people I seek to avoid in the first place.
I agree with you there, but again, that's up to the people.
I suppose the reason I don't use it, is because the people I need to keep in touch with, I can on my phone still. Plus I got frustrated with how it's made people around me socially lazy. For example, my sister, wants me to get back on Facebook...we've seen each other maybe twice in the last three months...She lives about 20 minutes away from me.
Sadly, that's how she'd prefer to chat now. So if I don't make an effort to go over there, I don't see her. It's not just her, that's how quite a few people I know are. Before she got on Facebook? If it went a week without sitting down and chatting or doing something...the phone would begin to ring. Now I'm lucky if she'll even answer my call...she'll respond to a text though.
Especially with a lot of the people here on this board, who use facebook.....
They seem to use it as a world of make-believe...If that makes sense??
Everything is great...
Everything is peachy
Everything is going to be alright.....
And everyone strokes each other back and forth.....
Ya know what I mean???
Its just fucking weird...
But to each their own.....
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