Are kids so terrible?

pandora

Lauri wrote:

I don't think you need to be a bad or neglectful person to be someone who shouldn't have kids either. I don't think I should have kids, and I'm responsible, trustworthy, caring, smart, etc. But that doesn't make me parent-material. In fact, I'm not really sure who IS parent material. Unfortunately it seems like in many cases, unless they ARE horrible people, there's no way of knowing until they are parents and then it's too late!

I see you are coming from the point of view we all are flawed, true, but flawed doesn't mean we shouldn't reproduce.
Parenting is a learning, growing process. Overtime the self centered become selfless. Of course not all parents will, but flawed people do. Everyone is imperfect and makes mistakes, all people, all parents.
I think you miss the love factor involved. A lifetime of love. That is what a good parent gives and in giving we receive ten fold. My kids now in their 20's are very happy I chose to be a Mom. That my husband chose to be a Dad. Not only for the life we were blessed to give them but for the love we share. It is a blessing to be given a child. It is a blessing to have a Mom and Dad.
And it is a blessing to be able to forgive imperfections and disappointments of others and give of yourself.

mikalina

I have no idea what to say on here. I have read quite a bit and there seems to be negative feelings toward children. Positive as well. I have (2) children - 12 and 8 yrs old. They both are the best kids and I feel I'm a great parent.

Yes, there are days - I'm tired and have no energy. There is also quite a bit, I have given up - but I guess its been my choice. Maybe thats the difference.

Raising kids, is one of the toughest jobs out there, but rewarding for me.

I wish everyone the very best. Take care