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    inmytree wrote:
    he can still be a racist and do all the things you mention...the man did not want to be part of "mixing races"...what part of that is not racist....?

    I can easily throw that same point back to many of you........"what part of that IS racist?". Asking a question is not an argument.

    The man simply, to my knowledge, has no prejudice against any race. He just doesn't think they should mix.

    that is, in itself, racist. it's the same argument used by the nazis against the jews and the KKK to uphold Jim Crow and separate but equal. the only reason to feel that way is becos you feel one will pollute the purity of the other.

    yes, many racists hold that standard, but not all those that hold that standard are racists. Whether you want to believe that or not is up to the individual (obviously).
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    inmytree wrote:
    Would he have been okay with a Swede marrying an Italian? English/Greek? Chinese/Korean?

    (of course)

    Now, would he have been okay with any of those ethnicities marrying a black person?

    and how do you know that? that was one of my main points a few pages ago. many ethnicities have an issue with their offspring marrying outside of their own heritage. is that considered racist? no one answered that question.

    I'll answer....

    yes...

    then I guess you consider a good portion of baby boomers and and the majority of those older, racist then? that's a pretty bold statement.
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    the only reason to feel that way is becos you feel one will pollute the purity of the other.

    by that reasoning he's also racist towards his own race, which makes no sense.
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    soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    Would he have been okay with a Swede marrying an Italian? English/Greek? Chinese/Korean?

    (of course)

    Now, would he have been okay with any of those ethnicities marrying a black person?

    and how do you know that? that was one of my main points a few pages ago. many ethnicities have an issue with their offspring marrying outside of their own heritage. is that considered racist? no one answered that question.

    there's a big difference between one person saying 'i want to be with someone that shares my heritage' and someone saying 'i don't want your kind to mix with my kind.'
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    inmytreeinmytree Posts: 4,741

    then I guess you consider a good portion of baby boomers and and the majority of those older, racist then? that's a pretty bold statement.

    yup...

    I guess you think 1964 was centuries ago...
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    keeponrockinkeeponrockin Posts: 7,446

    then I guess you consider a good portion of baby boomers and and the majority of those older, racist then? that's a pretty bold statement.

    Yes I would certainly argue that.
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    Would he have been okay with a Swede marrying an Italian? English/Greek? Chinese/Korean?

    (of course)

    Now, would he have been okay with any of those ethnicities marrying a black person?

    and how do you know that? that was one of my main points a few pages ago. many ethnicities have an issue with their offspring marrying outside of their own heritage. is that considered racist? no one answered that question.

    there's a big difference between one person saying 'i want to be with someone that shares my heritage' and someone saying 'i don't want your kind to mix with my kind.'

    And this is one area where there is a grey area... of course some people my parents' age would have the first reaction that they don't want their kid marrying someone from a different race... but that initial, racist reaction usually softens when they get to know the person and see that their kid is happy, etc... etc...

    That is much different than the racist assholes who disown kids for marrying a different race, or like this jackass, someone who uses their elected position to decide what couples can and can't marry because of their races.
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    inmytree wrote:

    then I guess you consider a good portion of baby boomers and and the majority of those older, racist then? that's a pretty bold statement.

    yup...

    I guess you think 1964 was centuries ago...

    No offense, but I would consider that an ignorant statement.
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    there's a big difference between one person saying 'i want to be with someone that shares my heritage' and someone saying 'i don't want your kind to mix with my kind.'

    really???? so where do you tell people they can draw that racist/non-racist line?

    and both of those statements were not what I nor he said. My example was not of someone saying "I want to be with someone who shares my heritage", I said a parent forbidding a child to marry someone outside their heritage. There's a difference there.
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    I gotta get off this topic. I'm going to get fired. :lol:
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    inmytreeinmytree Posts: 4,741
    inmytree wrote:

    then I guess you consider a good portion of baby boomers and and the majority of those older, racist then? that's a pretty bold statement.

    yup...

    I guess you think 1964 was centuries ago...

    No offense, but I would consider that an ignorant statement.


    No offense taken...

    you originally said it was a bold statement, and now it's an ignorant statement...

    make up you mind, please...

    honestly, if you think the prevention of "mixing races" is not racist, I really can't find the words to continue this discussion...
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    pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    I didn't read all this but fundamentally there are those who just don't want the white race to be extinct in
    the not so distant future. I think thats where it comes from which is not really racist because they don't dislike other races or feel that they are less. Being a natural green eyed blonde from viking country descent I know my gene pool wouldn't stand a chance against some of the other races . With that being said though if my kids feel in love with someone of another race I would not care as long as the person of their affection makes them very happy and meets their needs.
    But I think thats where this justice of the peace was coming from but
    he's in the wrong line of work I dare say.
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    soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    the only reason to feel that way is becos you feel one will pollute the purity of the other.

    by that reasoning he's also racist towards his own race, which makes no sense.

    how do you figure that? saying "i dont like that darkie blood polluting our pure white heritage" pretty clearly singles out one particular race.
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    soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202

    then I guess you consider a good portion of baby boomers and and the majority of those older, racist then? that's a pretty bold statement.

    Yes I would certainly argue that.

    as would i.
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    soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    there's a big difference between one person saying 'i want to be with someone that shares my heritage' and someone saying 'i don't want your kind to mix with my kind.'

    really???? so where do you tell people they can draw that racist/non-racist line?

    and both of those statements were not what I nor he said. My example was not of someone saying "I want to be with someone who shares my heritage", I said a parent forbidding a child to marry someone outside their heritage. There's a difference there.

    sure there's a difference, but not a remarkable one. you're talking about a parent with a vested interest in their own child and their own heritage. it's still a shit thing to do, but it's driven by positive values, not negative ones... meaning, ithe stance is adopted FOR something: preserving a culture held dear by those involved, NOT excluding one particular race becos you think they are inferior.

    and i do see a difference between wanting to preserve one's heritage and wanting to exclude one race. this judge singled out black people. it's not like he's refusing to marry any interracial couples, only black-white couples. becos he doesn't want black people mixing with white. not only that, but he has no "heritage" he's trying to preserve. it's not his family, he has no stake in this. that's very different from someone saying they want to marry someone that comes from a common background. this is basic SAT-style logic you're not getting. "if a, then b" does not dictate that "if b, then a" is the case. saying "marry within our family traditions" is not the same thing as saying "though i have no stake in this, i forbid you from marrying people of x race becos i think it's wrong."
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    And this is one area where there is a grey area... of course some people my parents' age would have the first reaction that they don't want their kid marrying someone from a different race... but that initial, racist reaction usually softens when they get to know the person and see that their kid is happy, etc... etc...

    That is much different than the racist assholes who disown kids for marrying a different race, or like this jackass, someone who uses their elected position to decide what couples can and can't marry because of their races.

    Not sure I get your point because as you say they are exactly the same initial racist reaction.

    It is only when you stop seeing someone as a color/race and look at them as just a person that you stop being racist.

    So, if this guy meets with them and decides, "Hey, I was wrong to judge them like this"...then he would no longer be racist and hopefully had learned something along the way.
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    inmytree wrote:

    then I guess you consider a good portion of baby boomers and and the majority of those older, racist then? that's a pretty bold statement.

    yup...

    I guess you think 1964 was centuries ago...

    No offense, but I would consider that an ignorant statement.
    Explain how you DON'T think the attitudes were racist?
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    Explain how you DON'T think the attitudes were racist?

    read the rest of my posts. I explain it several times.
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    sure there's a difference, but not a remarkable one. you're talking about a parent with a vested interest in their own child and their own heritage. it's still a shit thing to do, but it's driven by positive values, not negative ones... meaning, ithe stance is adopted FOR something: preserving a culture held dear by those involved, NOT excluding one particular race becos you think they are inferior.

    and i do see a difference between wanting to preserve one's heritage and wanting to exclude one race. this judge singled out black people. it's not like he's refusing to marry any interracial couples, only black-white couples. becos he doesn't want black people mixing with white. not only that, but he has no "heritage" he's trying to preserve. it's not his family, he has no stake in this. that's very different from someone saying they want to marry someone that comes from a common background. this is basic SAT-style logic you're not getting. "if a, then b" does not dictate that "if b, then a" is the case. saying "marry within our family traditions" is not the same thing as saying "though i have no stake in this, i forbid you from marrying people of x race becos i think it's wrong."

    Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean I "don't get" something "basic". Thanks, though.

    And there is one HUGE assumption you are making that you are basing your argument on! You say he is only excluding one race. How do you know that? I saw nowhere in that article where he says he marries other interracial couples. Show me where he says that, and I may have to rethink my points of disussion.
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    soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    sure there's a difference, but not a remarkable one. you're talking about a parent with a vested interest in their own child and their own heritage. it's still a shit thing to do, but it's driven by positive values, not negative ones... meaning, ithe stance is adopted FOR something: preserving a culture held dear by those involved, NOT excluding one particular race becos you think they are inferior.

    and i do see a difference between wanting to preserve one's heritage and wanting to exclude one race. this judge singled out black people. it's not like he's refusing to marry any interracial couples, only black-white couples. becos he doesn't want black people mixing with white. not only that, but he has no "heritage" he's trying to preserve. it's not his family, he has no stake in this. that's very different from someone saying they want to marry someone that comes from a common background. this is basic SAT-style logic you're not getting. "if a, then b" does not dictate that "if b, then a" is the case. saying "marry within our family traditions" is not the same thing as saying "though i have no stake in this, i forbid you from marrying people of x race becos i think it's wrong."

    Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean I "don't get" something "basic". Thanks, though.

    And there is one HUGE assumption you are making that you are basing your argument on! You say he is only excluding one race. How do you know that? I saw nowhere in that article where he says he marries other interracial couples. Show me where he says that, and I may have to rethink my points of disussion.

    it has nothing to do with whether you agree or disagree. it's basic linear thinking. your scenario is not at all the same as what happened here. your scenario is about the involved parties self-selecting mates. here, it's about one external party excluding a particular race. you deciding you want a pepsi is not the same as me telling you you can't have snapple.

    the article said he has only ever refused to marry people 4 times, all of them black-white couples. he then goes on to discuss how he's cool with black folks, he just doesn't think they should marry white. if he's generally opposed to all interracial marriages, why single out black people to talk about? seems like guilt-driven defensiveness to me. i don't know how you can not see that this is driven by latent prejudice against blacks.

    it doesnt say anything about other couples. but what it does say is that he returned repeatedly to the issue of race. he claims it's about the children, but never considers any of the 100 other things that could lead to lack of acceptance of a kid, such as religion. clearly, he's concerned only about race. and between his talk of purity, the kind of rhetoric that has ONLY ever been used by racist groups, and his classic "it's cool, i have black friends" defense, the evidence is pretty firmly on the side of him just having a problem with a black man topping a white woman. the oldest racist fear in the book.
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    sure there's a difference, but not a remarkable one. you're talking about a parent with a vested interest in their own child and their own heritage. it's still a shit thing to do, but it's driven by positive values, not negative ones... meaning, ithe stance is adopted FOR something: preserving a culture held dear by those involved, NOT excluding one particular race becos you think they are inferior.

    and i do see a difference between wanting to preserve one's heritage and wanting to exclude one race. this judge singled out black people. it's not like he's refusing to marry any interracial couples, only black-white couples. becos he doesn't want black people mixing with white. not only that, but he has no "heritage" he's trying to preserve. it's not his family, he has no stake in this. that's very different from someone saying they want to marry someone that comes from a common background. this is basic SAT-style logic you're not getting. "if a, then b" does not dictate that "if b, then a" is the case. saying "marry within our family traditions" is not the same thing as saying "though i have no stake in this, i forbid you from marrying people of x race becos i think it's wrong."

    Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean I "don't get" something "basic". Thanks, though.

    And there is one HUGE assumption you are making that you are basing your argument on! You say he is only excluding one race. How do you know that? I saw nowhere in that article where he says he marries other interracial couples. Show me where he says that, and I may have to rethink my points of disussion.

    it has nothing to do with whether you agree or disagree. it's basic linear thinking. your scenario is not at all the same as what happened here. your scenario is about the involved parties self-selecting mates. here, it's about one external party excluding a particular race. you deciding you want a pepsi is not the same as me telling you you can't have snapple.

    the article said he has only ever refused to marry people 4 times, all of them black-white couples. he then goes on to discuss how he's cool with black folks, he just doesn't think they should marry white. if he's generally opposed to all interracial marriages, why single out black people to talk about? seems like guilt-driven defensiveness to me. i don't know how you can not see that this is driven by latent prejudice against blacks.

    it doesnt say anything about other couples. but what it does say is that he returned repeatedly to the issue of race. he claims it's about the children, but never considers any of the 100 other things that could lead to lack of acceptance of a kid, such as religion. clearly, he's concerned only about race. and between his talk of purity, the kind of rhetoric that has ONLY ever been used by racist groups, and his classic "it's cool, i have black friends" defense, the evidence is pretty firmly on the side of him just having a problem with a black man topping a white woman. the oldest racist fear in the book.

    no, actually, if you read my scenario properly it is NOT about people self-selecting race. It's about someone else imposing that selection on someone else. Same thing this guy is doing.

    Yes, that article only mentions things he said about blacks and whites. So you are making an assumption based on the information that was provided to you.

    Kinda like what he's doing.
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    inmytreeinmytree Posts: 4,741

    no, actually, if you read my scenario properly it is NOT about people self-selecting race. It's about someone else imposing that selection on someone else. Same thing this guy is doing.

    Yes, that article only mentions things he said about blacks and whites. So you are making an assumption based on the information that was provided to you.

    Kinda like what he's doing.

    the man admitted in an interview that he only refuses to marry drunks and black/white couples...

    and he only added the drunk thing to save face...

    and this scenario you speak of, are you referring to the dog one...?
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    inmytree wrote:
    yup...

    I guess you think 1964 was centuries ago...

    No offense, but I would consider that an ignorant statement.[/quote]


    No offense taken...

    you originally said it was a bold statement, and now it's an ignorant statement...

    make up you mind, please...

    honestly, if you think the prevention of "mixing races" is not racist, I really can't find the words to continue this discussion...[/quote]

    Yes, it was bold before the confirmation by you that it was ignorant.

    honestly, not everything in this world that deals with races (positively or negatively) is considered racist. People need to get that out of their heads.

    You're not looking at the meat and potatoes of this discussion. You are seeing "this white man doesn't want a black man marrying a white woman". It's a lot more complex than that.

    And don't forget that very good point someone said a couple pages ago, that in essence, the media can portray this dolt anyway they want to. If they want him to look like a racist (which to most, he will, given the oversensitivity of today's populace-"did you say the work black? YOU ARE WHITE! RACIST!"), then he will look racist.
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    inmytree wrote:

    the man admitted in an interview that he only refuses to marry drunks and black/white couples...

    IF that is true, then yes, the man is a racist.
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    soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    no, actually, if you read my scenario properly it is NOT about people self-selecting race. It's about someone else imposing that selection on someone else. Same thing this guy is doing.

    Yes, that article only mentions things he said about blacks and whites. So you are making an assumption based on the information that was provided to you.

    Kinda like what he's doing.

    i did read your scenario properly. it changes nothing. a father can say "i forbid" but nobody has to listen. and he has a personal stake in the matter as a family member. the judge does not, and he is a state official paid to provide this service. he does not get to strip these people of their rights becos of his irrational and outdated prejudices.

    i am making an inference based on clearly racist statements and actions. he is throwing out random, unfounded bullshit to try to prop up his racism.
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    inmytreeinmytree Posts: 4,741
    Yes, it was bold before the confirmation by you that it was ignorant.

    honestly, not everything in this world that deals with races (positively or negatively) is considered racist. People need to get that out of their heads.

    You're not looking at the meat and potatoes of this discussion. You are seeing "this white man doesn't want a black man marrying a white woman". It's a lot more complex than that.

    And don't forget that very good point someone said a couple pages ago, that in essence, the media can portray this dolt anyway they want to. If they want him to look like a racist (which to most, he will, given the oversensitivity of today's populace-"did you say the work black? YOU ARE WHITE! RACIST!"), then he will look racist.

    dude, the only one showing their ignorance here is you...

    and fuck complex...this is simple...it's you that wants to make it "complex" to justify your support of this racist...
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    soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    honestly, not everything in this world that deals with races (positively or negatively) is considered racist. People need to get that out of their heads.

    You're not looking at the meat and potatoes of this discussion. You are seeing "this white man doesn't want a black man marrying a white woman". It's a lot more complex than that.

    how is it more complex than that?
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    inmytreeinmytree Posts: 4,741
    inmytree wrote:

    the man admitted in an interview that he only refuses to marry drunks and black/white couples...

    IF that is true, then yes, the man is a racist.


    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/10/1 ... 25758.html
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    inmytree wrote:
    Yes, it was bold before the confirmation by you that it was ignorant.

    honestly, not everything in this world that deals with races (positively or negatively) is considered racist. People need to get that out of their heads.

    You're not looking at the meat and potatoes of this discussion. You are seeing "this white man doesn't want a black man marrying a white woman". It's a lot more complex than that.

    And don't forget that very good point someone said a couple pages ago, that in essence, the media can portray this dolt anyway they want to. If they want him to look like a racist (which to most, he will, given the oversensitivity of today's populace-"did you say the work black? YOU ARE WHITE! RACIST!"), then he will look racist.

    dude, the only one showing their ignorance here is you...

    and fuck complex...this is simple...it's you that wants to make it "complex" to justify your support of this racist...

    first, I never said YOU were ignorant. I said your statement was. big difference. can the insults.

    second, yeah, I forgot, race relations is a breeze. :roll:
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    inmytree wrote:
    inmytree wrote:

    the man admitted in an interview that he only refuses to marry drunks and black/white couples...

    IF that is true, then yes, the man is a racist.


    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/10/1 ... 25758.html

    I checked the article, and this is all I saw:

    "Bardwell explained that he had seen "countless" interracial couples where the children were rejected by family members". Nowhere in the article does he single out black interracial marriages. I can't view the video at work, so unless it's in there, than I still don't see anywhere to substantiate the claim that he is only biased against black/white couples.
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