Tomorrow I make the biggest decision of my life
musicismylife78
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Tomorrows DDay so to speak. Its the last day to put in my two weeks if I want to go to the Seattle shows. There is no way I am gonna get the time off if I ask. So theirs that option, out in two weeks tomorrow. Then I would obviously be without a job when i came back from the show, and I admit, its an insane thing to do. No, the show isnt necessarily the reason i would quit, but it does add more urgency to my feelings of being stalled, feeling like I need to move on, etc...
Or I could stay at my job, not put in my two weeks tomorrow, and continue looking for jobs, while I have this job. That said, to do this, to not put in my two weeks tomorrow, would mean I would miss the Seattle shows. I think I would be pretty depressed
Is it crazy to consider quitting without another job waiting for me, especially in the worst economy since the Great Depression? Hell yeah! But I also feel like, and wonder, what would Ed say? Chris Mccandless? Sean Penn? Zach Braff? When I would tell them about feeling trapped, and how everyday is the same, and how I am not happy, I wonder what they would say? Would they say, hold off and continue your job, or would they say, just go for it?
Needless to say I dont think I will get much sleep tonight, and even when I make my decision tomorrow I doubt I will be saying "thats a load off my shoulder!". Knowing me, I bet I will second guess my decision, no matter what it is!
Adult life is so much fun!!!
Or I could stay at my job, not put in my two weeks tomorrow, and continue looking for jobs, while I have this job. That said, to do this, to not put in my two weeks tomorrow, would mean I would miss the Seattle shows. I think I would be pretty depressed
Is it crazy to consider quitting without another job waiting for me, especially in the worst economy since the Great Depression? Hell yeah! But I also feel like, and wonder, what would Ed say? Chris Mccandless? Sean Penn? Zach Braff? When I would tell them about feeling trapped, and how everyday is the same, and how I am not happy, I wonder what they would say? Would they say, hold off and continue your job, or would they say, just go for it?
Needless to say I dont think I will get much sleep tonight, and even when I make my decision tomorrow I doubt I will be saying "thats a load off my shoulder!". Knowing me, I bet I will second guess my decision, no matter what it is!
Adult life is so much fun!!!
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if you go through with leaving your job...i'd just make sure that you'd be okay settling for any job you can find until you find something that you'd really want to do...or that there are people that could help you out.
i know that you're trying to do something that you are really passionate about...but sometimes you have to suck it up and work as a host(ess) at a sports bar for awhile
good luck with whatever you decide!
right now colleges are beginning their autumn quarter/semester so what I would do is go to a bunch of places that are high school towns because they probably have a bunch of high school seniors who are leaving for college which means there should be plenty of 8-10 dollar an hour openings in that area.
See if you can find something there, then quit your other job.
WARNING: I don't do interviews so i dont know what goes on in a reference check, but if i found out that a potential employee flaked out on his job in order to go to a rock concert, that would raise a huge red flag that this person is a flake.
Good luck man!
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In my original post I listed several reasons for wanting to quit. And in my "life stalled" thread as well. If you cant physically read those, I really dont want to debate with you.
Its like people on this board are illiterate. I posted this thread to get thoughts on my upcoming decision.
But its impossible to sort of weigh everyones thoughts, when those thoughts are discussing things I have NEVER said or done. I have NEVER said I was gonna quit this job ONLY BECAUSE of the show. yes its a factor, but Iam not 2 years old. I can understand when I need a future job, I dont want to mention the concert.
But I can obviously mention the stuff I listed in my original thread and all my other threads.
Ultimately, I am not happy. I dont know about you, but when I feel like that, what makes the LEAST amount of sense is to continue doing the same exact thing, over and over. its the definition of insane. To continue doing an action that has proven to provide one thing, and you continue doing it, hoping and thinking the results will be different the next day.
Your right, but as I said, I am unhappy. When you are unhappy, desperate measures sound appealing and make sense. I feel stuck and trapped at my job. I feel like I am wasting my life. I feel like if I dont get a move on quick, I will NEVER LEAVE. I feel like I let myself down.
So yes, the concert is a factor and WILL be a factor in the decision, but obviously, its not the only thing weighing in my mind.
The idea of a new slate, starting fresh, sounds so appealing to me right now. I feel like I wasted 25 years of my life. What i feel like doing is just quitting and saying, "I messed up 25 years of my life, I dont want to waste another second".
I also think the romantic notion of either after these shows, just getting on the greyhound and packing up and moving to a random place is exacting a pull on me as well. To just pack up and say "hey I need to move to a new place" and just move to a new city.
This was never just about the concert. Is the concert important? Hell yes. But is it the ONLY factor rolling around in my head? No!
What is your job title????
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
Good luck!
And I don't know what kind of job/career you are in, how much money you have saved up, etc.
All of those things are important to know when making a big decision like this.
If you are working check out at a super market, and it's a part time, type job, then that would be an easier decision than if you have a career going on.
Also how much responsibility do you have? Kids? Tons of debt?
Rock stars do it all the time.
I dont know about you, but those are strong feelings. At least for me, those are feelings that roar. They yell. I cant turn them off. Or actually I guess I have for 1 and a half years of this job, but they are now sort of screaming. They are banging my head with drum sticks. They drown out the sound of the outside world.
Ultimately, I am 25 years old. I never took that backpacking trip that all males my age seem to take. I feel scared. And as I said, there are no surprises in my life anymore.
I take this decision very seriously. obviously, or I would have made a decision already.
Reguardless of if I choose to stay with the job or leave, I dont think I will have a good feeling in my stomach tomorrow at all. Either decision has major consequences.
Ed, Sean Penn, Chris and Zach Braff all seem to identify with the idea that alot of us feel trapped, tied in, smothered and unable to move. Zach braff's entire career has been about tv shows, and movies that capture the feeling of being lost and helpless in your twenties. And Ed and Sean, captured those feelings of Chris, that match the description I just gave.
Sometimes you have to tread water to learn how to swim
The core of mans' spirit comes from new experiences.
That precipice and edge and cliff is just around the corner
If you arent feeling your life you must do everything you possible can to start finding yourself
It should not be denied that being footloose has always exhilarated us. It is associated in our minds with escape from history and oppression and law and irksome obligations. Absolute freedom. And the road has always led west.
The more I think you should quit your job, go to the shows, and move to seattle.....
GO FOR IT!!!!
I like that idea you have.....
Just pack up your shit....
Hop on a Greyhound bus.....
And just move to a new city........
You only live once....I say give your 2 weeks notice and dont look back!!!!!!
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
work at supermarket. No kids. No debt. No wife. Have an apartment that I pay rent on, but thats about it.
My job is extremely busy, every single month except for august. My boss specifically allows vacation time only during august, as its the only time, mainly that grocery stores arent busy. From September on, every single day, is getting a little more, and little more, ramped up and geared up for the insane buisness that we see during November and December. I took my weeks vacation in late august, I had a family wedding to go to. I needed to take that time off. So I have no vacation time left, until next year. My work also has strict attendance policies. 3 or more strikes is bad. I think I have three at this point. So calling in sick for 4 days is out of the question. I will be burning up catch getting to and staying in Seattle as well. I need to go up, that day I assume, Monday, the stay monday and tuesday and come home wednesday. So thats missing 3 days of work. Its not gonna fly. I cant call in sick 3 days. I think 6 absensces or strikes they fire or suspend you.
I was going with my cousin for the seattle shows. He bailed, I dont drive, so I was counting on him to take me up. I will most likely take the greyhound, which is some dough. And then two nights at a hotel is some dough as well.
Is it insane I am entertaining of quitting my job is this new great depression. I already said yes, it is. But it also, to a desperate person in desperate times, a 25 year old person, it actually looks interesting.
Somehow I dont think you really believe this, but realistically could it be done? I mean, the quitting of the job is one thing, but the idea of just moving to a city, via greyhound, can it be done? I mean, say I went to seattle shows. Stayed 2 nights at the hotel, and then what? This is getting into hypotheticals here, but, realitically, what would happen?
But I wasn't happy. so I quit, and moved to Korea to teach English as a second language.
When I moved back, life picked up just as I'd left it. Then it went on fast forward. Got married, now have two beautiful kids, and I got all that wanderlust out of my system and hit the reset button.
Life goes on. Take the plunge and quit. Who knows where that path will lead, but if you are able to exist on peoples couches, don't have too many things tying you down, then now is the time to jump into the unknown.
It will never get any easier to make a crazy decision.
You will run out of money in a month.....
You wont find another job.....
You will either live in a cardboard box......or have mom and dad wire you some money, so you can move back in with them....
But like i said...you only live once.....
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
If you quit your job....
Pack your crap....
Jump on a bus....
Move to seattle.....
Blow what little money you have saved on Pearl Jam shows.......
Do me a favor.....
Send me your address and Ill send you $20 worth of ramen Noodles.......Because you are going to get real hungry , real quick.....
And since you wont have a job, or an apartment(therefore no stove) Ill also send you a couple of bic lighters, so you casn warm up the ramen noodles.....
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
he will also need a spoon.....
but wait....
Where the fuck is he going to get the water to cook the ramen noodles????
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
But....They may be busy WORKING and making millions of fucking dollars......
So that might not be a good idea to contact them.
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
Look, if you live with your folks, quit. But if you are paying rent and bills and stuff, then you better have a job lined up before quitting. Being unhappy is no reason to just quit a job with no immediate alternative plan.
You may go from a nice job, and a nice apartment.
To living in a cardboard box, eating ramen noodles, and panhandling!!!!!
All for a couple of Pearl Jam shows in Seattle.......
And you can deny that these Pearl Jam shows, are not the main reason for you to quit your job and move....
And you can call us all illiterate.....
And you can say we are not actually reading your posts.....
But the FACT is.....You are going to quit your job so you can go to a couple of Pearl Jam shows.....
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
Do you not have welfare checks in the U.S? If he can't find a job straight away then he can simply claim welfare to see him through until he does.
And he works in a supermarket right now. How many other retail jobs are there available? Must be hundreds. Getting a job in retail isn't difficult, even in during this current period.
I walked out on a job before just so I could go to the pub and celebrate a friends birthday. It was a great move. I had a great night out and didn't regret it one bit the next day. Walking out on jobs that suck feels great. It feels liberating. If you walk out of one crappy job there's always another crappy job just around the corner. A couple of Pearl Jam shows are something he'll never forget. Crappy jobs are there for a reason - so that you can walk out of them to do more important things if and when they arise, and not have to give a shit about the consequences.
If the supermarket you're at now hired you a few months ago, then the supermarket around the corner will hire you next month for the exact same reasons.
Someday soon in your life you will realize that it doesn't matter at all what other people would think or say... Besides a spouse or immediate family, no one else's opinion should matter besides your own, especially some random celebrity who has more money than any of us ever will or some kid who got himself killed because he he was too careless or thought he was too smart to do basic research before traveling.
If you think that quitting your job is the right thing to do, then go for it... Just be prepared to come back to no job, and probably being unable to pay rent soon. But honestly, I saw that you worked in a grocery store... if you are not expecting to find another job making much money, then it shouldn't be too hard... now that kids are going back to college/school, a lot of hourly retail/food industry jobs are hiring to make up for the lost workforce.
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I live in the same area as the OP and believe me fast food jobs are even hard to come by. I manage a fast food place and in the last year I've hired 2 people out of 100s of applicants.
Seems to me the OP really made his decision when he pre-ordered the tix. He must have known then that he would be unable to get the time off.
Good luck to the OP. I have been homeless before and believe me it's no treat.