What does this band mean to your significant other?
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As a companion thread to the one about what does it mean to you, for those of you who are not lonely pathetic losers and were able, at least up to this point, to convince another human being to share life with you, what is your SO's take on Pearl Jam?
My wife, who I've been with for 15 years, is amazing in most every way, is a great mom to my kids, yada yada yada. One glaring flaw is that she isn't really a fan of PJ. Yes, she likes Elderly Woman and Betterman and the like, but she told me on a recent roadtrip that PJ's hard rockin' songs just give her a headache. Of course, I pulled the car over and made her walk home. (kidding)
This causes me stress b/c I think she's a smart woman, but I might have to leave her if she doesn't learn to appreciate the band more. (kidding again)
Let's hear from others - again, not you lonely loser types - do you have a relationship full of mutual PJ love, or is your situation like mine?
My wife, who I've been with for 15 years, is amazing in most every way, is a great mom to my kids, yada yada yada. One glaring flaw is that she isn't really a fan of PJ. Yes, she likes Elderly Woman and Betterman and the like, but she told me on a recent roadtrip that PJ's hard rockin' songs just give her a headache. Of course, I pulled the car over and made her walk home. (kidding)
This causes me stress b/c I think she's a smart woman, but I might have to leave her if she doesn't learn to appreciate the band more. (kidding again)
Let's hear from others - again, not you lonely loser types - do you have a relationship full of mutual PJ love, or is your situation like mine?
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I really hope you're not serious about the "lonely pathetic loser" thing.
Never had a boyfriend who liked Pearl Jam, given the odds, probably don't really plan to in the future, but no big deal at all- that's what my friends and my brother are for...oh but wait, I'm a lonely pathetic loser, I forgot.
It gets me out of town, and he goes and does what he wants. It works.
I have seriously considered leaving him just for the fact that he does not get it, but I married him before I saw the band. He likes guns too...I seriously have no idea how we cohabitate.
She doesn't digest each song as I do and search for meaning but she does enjoy the shows.
I have been to over 12 shows and she has been to at least 5. She really enjoys the live shows.
So I am a lucky man in this respect.
I made a recent post about Ben Harper opening and made a statement that I think Ben has a better voice than Eddie. I asked for her thoughts, she paused and said, "Eddie is Eddie and that voice does something special".
After hearing the Backspace clips on Amazon UK, I must agree with her and not my first post.
A year later they toured supporting "Pearl Jam" and I got tickets to the Albany show for us. She had never seen them before. That was a killer show and we had a great time. Around the same time they announced the gigs opening for Petty, one of which was taking place on my birthday in Milwaukee. I called her to see if she wanted to go away for my birthday and she was into it. Didn't hurt that we both love Petty too (he was actually our first show together in the summer of 05). This actually started a little tradition between us where we take little weekend trips to places we have never been before, which is nice too.
Last year when Ed toured solo I bought tickets to one of the NYC shows and took her and she really dug that too, despite not really being familiar with too many of the tunes. She is pretty much in love with Eddie, which actually helps as she gets excited for the shows too. I've been informed that if the opportunity ever presents itself she will leave me for him. I understand this.
This year I got tickets to the Toronto show and told her that I planned a trip to Toronto for a weekend in August. She immediately asked me if Pearl Jam was playing. She wasn't feeling great the night of the show and she wasn't really into being around 20,000 lunatics, but she toughed it out, including a walk half way back to our hotel and a cramped ride on the trolley. Although we both did mention how we are getting a little too old for the huge concerts (to which I quickly added that PJ was the only band I was willing to put up with all the shit that goes along with huge public gatherings for these days). She said that she'll still go to shows with me, but that it's not her favorite thing to do anymore.
So yeah, she likes the band and she humors my weird habit, but she isn't a fanatic by any means.
We're saving for a wedding and a house...I haven't mentioned the Halloween show yet...wish me luck...
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But I've found it important to learn,
No way means No way..
So why be satisfied?
plus...at the moment she really is expecting an engagement ring... so right now she sees pearl jam as an obstacle...
...she's already threatened me...if i cheat on her she is destroying my entire...huge...rare...uber expensively priceless pj collection... i guess its lucky for me that i usually buy...burn...pilfer doubles or triples of everything they have ever put out...all in retirement in safe, secure location away from her.....
I turned on the car the other day after she had been the last one to drive it and the CD that was playing was the bootleg of the show we went to together in 2003.
We've been to 5-10 concerts a year together for the past 25+ years ... but never Pearl Jam or Eddie.
But hey! I was first row for the Psychadelic Furs New Years Eve show in the late 80s in Berkeley!
"Oh honey, look, you're getting a lot of eye contact from the band."
"No, that'd be you they're eyeing...."
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Great story!
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Uh...hopefully all three of these paragraphs are jokes.
Well, Ed and Johnny Ramone were very close friends, and Johnny was a notorious right-leaning Republican. Opposite attract, I suppose!
...of course, they weren't dating, though.
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We have made it through 21 years. He is a pick up driving republican from Texas and I am a west coast tree huggin' hippie liberal. Go figure. I have TOTALLY swayed him in the political arena, though. I give thanks every day that my son turned out to be a free spirit and free thinker like me.
It is kinda amazing that it has worked.
He is a sweetheart and totally indulges me with this Pearl Jam thing. He knows that I would leave him in a heartbeat for Ed. He is ok with that...he just wants a house out of the deal.
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hmmmmm.... or not cheat.
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