What does this band mean to your significant other?

DH62179

What does this band mean to my significant other?...that she will most likely be ignored for several days following 9/20. My wife didn't even know who PJ was in '98 when we started dating if you can believe that, we went to a show in '98 together but after that she showed no interest in their albums so I started taking my brother. :P She hates The Fixer, mainly because I quote it in my own way around the house, like, 'Hey Hon, you need to put a bit of stylin' on your hair' or 'You need to put a bit of practice on your cooking.'

No_ones_rival

She does like them, but is weirded out by my obsession. It means a ton more money & time spent on this band than any other "entertainment" we have!!! She hates how I want to start planning vacations around PJ tours. I think it's reasonable if they go back to announcing tours in a "normal" fashion. Pick a destination, vacation & top it off with a show!!!

Lizard

My husband loves them as much a me but does not get on the board or buy stuff---he relies on me!!

katellis

I_Am_Mike wrote:

when driving, she mostly listens to npr

heeey your wife is like me!!

Hbudjr

My wife of 14 years hates Pearl jam and she blame it on me...lol She does like black and thats about it. She says she can't stand to hear Eddies voice anymore again she blames me for listening to them to much but I am cool with that gives me something to get her out of my hair for a bit when I spin a boot

PJammer4life

My wife understands my passion for the band and enjoys the shows. She also is cool with the posters framed on the wall. Our first show together was Santa Barbara in 2003. My friend had a pair in the first row, and I had a pair in the 3rd row. I chose to use the ticket in the 3rd row to be with my wife, and my friend gave the first row ticket to another fan.

Our next shows were in Vancouver 2005 and the Gorge 2005..we drove from LA and had fun on the road trip together. She mentioned she loved the Vancouver show cause we had 6th row and she could see great cause we got aisle seats(thanks TC).

We saw 4 shows together in 2006(San Diego, LA1, LA2, Santa Barbara) and 3 of the Eddie West Coast solo shows(Santa Barbara, LA1, San Diego1). Just got back from Outside Lands and held the floor together there as well.

I asked her if she wanted to go all the LA shows this tour and she said yes..and San Diego cause we loved it there in 2006.

We see all kinds of bands together(U2, RHCP, Green Day, Audioslave/Chris Cornell solo, Foo Fighters, Weezer, Oasis..etc) but the Pearl Jam experience is the best and we always have good fan club seats which helps.

I guess I am lucky to have someone to go with shows with who I love and loves music..but is not quite as obsessive as I am..but digs the music none the less and can sing along with me...:-)

shejammzt

He's tolerant of ALL of the money I spend on PJ.......I just wish he wouldn't eject the CD's playing in my car in favor of the radio (only when I'm not in it)...He lets me drag him to a show or two per tour, but rarely will travel with me ( He's going to San Diego this time).....I really think he's fascinated that we can be so rabid about this whole experience...Luckily, I work with people who are as obsessed as I am, so we make our co-workers listen to 8 hours of PJ from our IPODS on Sunday.......The trade off is country, but 8 solid hours of PJ ..at work.......Yeah!!!!!

hollyster70

I recently ended my 10 yr relationship so he's no longer significant. However, when he was, he hated my love for Pearl Jam. I don't think that he hated their music just the fact that I would drive 8 hrs to a show without thinking twice. He could never wrap his mind around the fact that I love their music not the pretty faces. Insecurity is bitch.

My current significant other could care less...but she's smarter than her predecessor which is suprising since I always heard Boxers are a rather stupid breed.

Bulldog88

My husband likes Pearl jam *almost* as much as I do - he would be considered a pretty big fan though- I asked him to go to Hawaii about a week before a show and he gladly made it happen (we live in Philly so it was a HUGE trip) My hubby also became so inspired from Eddie's solo tour (2008) he ended up picking up a guitar, and later a Uke...he's pretty good too
For us it's like - "What Pearl Jam adventure are we going on next??" I'm so glad I don't have to explain my PJ spending habits to my significant other - and that he's always thrilled to go to shows. Most of the time we have our best friend along with us - He is a HUGE fan and really enhances my concert experience - it's always the three of us - I lucked out

cfbd68

My wife could not care less :? although she was willing to travel from NY to Chicago. Getting away from the house & kids for a few days was a good enough reason to allow me to go . Lucky enough to be in the 6th row center 1st night., his wife was going to the 2nd show. My friends I worked with in the fire dept. in NYC each had a pair for both shows. The 2nd night I went with the other friend, he took his wife the first night. So my wife had company each night & I got enjoy both shows! Thanks Brothers

cincybearcat

My wife of 10 years loves Pearl Jam, but doesn't want to hit more than 1-2 shows a year and doesn't want to travel for them very far.

She's way more into the rockin' songs in concert, which seems strange to me based on what else she listens to.

All in all, she likes Pearl Jam, wants to see them live once per year, and tolerates my obsession fairly well.

krobbinz

My wife is not a fan because I think its because I'm a fan!

She knows when theyre in the area I'm going and shes cool with that!

einatshaul

It means I DON'T HAVE ONE

cdp1223

My husband and I have basically switched places in regards to PJ.

He was HUGELY into them when we first met and I wasn't. I was a fan insomuch as they were a part of my teenage years, but I hadn't listened to anything since Yield, probably. (This was 2004) I taunted him mercilessly for being a fan...but he convinced me to go to a show with a friend for free. That was Camden I, 2006.

Cut to three years later and I have developed into the PJ lunatic and I think he is now actually tired of the band a bit. I think the level of our fandoms are directly proportionate or something. The more my love for them increases, the less interested he becomes. It's weird. But he is still into attending shows that are "reasonable"...meaning within a 5-7 hour drive. And when he is at shows, he definitely gets that look in his eye again so I know he still loves them. That is pretty much all I can ask for!

Bathgate66

i think my sig other tolerates PJ for my sake .
Sure, she likes her 4 or 5 mainstream pearl jam " hits " ,..
but she wont be traveling a few hundred miles to see the boys
( like i might do in an instant )
i'll be lucky if she attends even a hometown show or two,
but when she does attend she always enjoys the shows , setlists , and
even some of the merchandise. ( posters )

decides2dream

cincybearcat wrote:

My wife of 10 years loves Pearl Jam, but doesn't want to hit more than 1-2 shows a year and doesn't want to travel for them very far.

She's way more into the rockin' songs in concert, which seems strange to me based on what else she listens to.

All in all, she likes Pearl Jam, wants to see them live once per year, and tolerates my obsession fairly well.

your wife sounds very much like my husband of 17 years.
actually, my husband is the one to turn me onto pearl jam. i helped him 'rediscover' them, b/c pretty much after vitalogy he lost interest. he's traveled a bit with me for pj, but thus far no more than a 4 hours drive. tho if the hawaii show works with our vacation, we may well travel quite a bit. 3 shows defintely seems his limit....and nowadays, i think local shows only, or somewhere cool we've never been. he is extremely tolerant of my passions tho...i have traveled to western canada, europe 2x, all solo, to travel with friends and see pj....is a-ok with all the posters, etc. then again, i am tolerant/supportive of his passions as well, and music in general is a shared love and him being a musician himself makes it all the more fun. he's definitely a keeper .

LineOneMightyFine

My wife likes PJ to a certain extent. She likes their slower songs and some of their hits - Wishlist may be her all time favorite song of hers from any band. But, anything where Ed is yelling/screaming she can't stand. She has learned to appreciate more of their music b/c of me. If anything, I've definitely opened her ears to more than what she'd hear from them on the radio. She'll go to a local show from time to time. She absolutely loved Ed's solo album and loved his show in Newark.

She does think I spend way too much time obsessing with PJ though. She jokes with me all the time about it - and can always tell when I'm on one of the message boards. I don't buy posters, t-shirts, or other memorobilia, so she can't complain too much about it...

BinFrog

My wife's first 2 shows were MSG 1 and 2 last year....and I proposed to her the day of show #2. We'll be attending our first shows as a married couple when we hit up the Fri/Sat Spectrum shows.

She likes a bunch of their songs, and has become a decent fan. She'll never be a rabid fan, partially because she does doesn't hold music up to the same standards that I do. Still, she digs them and had a really good time at the shows last year.

cincybearcat

decides2dream wrote:

cincybearcat wrote:

My wife of 10 years loves Pearl Jam, but doesn't want to hit more than 1-2 shows a year and doesn't want to travel for them very far.

She's way more into the rockin' songs in concert, which seems strange to me based on what else she listens to.

All in all, she likes Pearl Jam, wants to see them live once per year, and tolerates my obsession fairly well.

your wife sounds very much like my husband of 17 years.
actually, my husband is the one to turn me onto pearl jam. i helped him 'rediscover' them, b/c pretty much after vitalogy he lost interest. he's traveled a bit with me for pj, but thus far no more than a 4 hours drive. tho if the hawaii show works with our vacation, we may well travel quite a bit. 3 shows defintely seems his limit....and nowadays, i think local shows only, or somewhere cool we've never been. he is extremely tolerant of my passions tho...i have traveled to western canada, europe 2x, all solo, to travel with friends and see pj....is a-ok with all the posters, etc. then again, i am tolerant/supportive of his passions as well, and music in general is a shared love and him being a musician himself makes it all the more fun. he's definitely a keeper .

I gotta give my wife credit though, she traveled to Kitchener, Canada with me as well as to Mexico City. Although, she was working in Mexico at the time and really just wanted me to visit the country. But I think that travel thing is over for her.

She never seems that much into the merch...until we arrive at the show and she always buys something.

Funny thing, when we first started dating, I bought her a tape of TEN. If she didn't like it, who knows where we'd both be today!

cellophane_star

My bf and I met because of our mutual love for Pearl Jam. We went out a few times but what really sealed the deal for me was when he burned me a copy of the 06 Gorge show for me, complete with colour-printed cover art and cds that looked like records! I knew he was a keeper after that.