Should I ask her out?

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  • STAYSEA
    STAYSEA Posts: 3,814
    The Juggler wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    She invited me to the movie night before our date.
    I already know these people going to the movie night and I don't have anything in common with them. Add to that I don't particularly like some of these people they are immature tools. Not keen on going.

    She is nice and talkative but I wasn't 100% sold on her because:
    * admitted to me during the date she never cooks and cannot cook, I need someone I can settle down with and I won't have to do all the cooking.
    * Not to sound mean but she isn't as articulate as me and I don't feel she is on the same level intellectually, not saying she is stupid but I just felt more mature during conversation.
    * I don't like her friends and her uncle and cousins (we had a fall out over some lies they spread about me and my family)
    * I am friends with her brother but we haven't seen each other in a long time.

    Don't know what to do, feel like keeping it as friends only even though she is attractive and probably likes me.

    Regarding the above post I made. Am I being too picky?
    I think I need a smart PJ girl from here lol

    yup.

    and you're successfully talking yourself out of even a chance of having a good time with this chick.

    29 is not old.


    this thread is now making me angry. :x :lol:

    Thank you Juggler. I lose brain cells reading this. Obviously OP, You don't dig her. Plenty of fish in other ponds
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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
    But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
    Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
    person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
    High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
    meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
    History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
    forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
    May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
    lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
    and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
    have either negative or positive effects on one another.
    But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
    Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
    Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
    that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
    hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
    I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !
  • STAYSEA
    STAYSEA Posts: 3,814
    whispering hands wrote:
    Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
    But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
    Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
    person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
    High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
    meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
    History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
    forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
    May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
    lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
    and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
    have either negative or positive effects on one another.
    But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
    Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
    Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
    that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
    hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
    I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !

    Wait it was a girl.. now it's this one guy that is satisfactory ?

    "I'm sick to death of hearing things,
    from uptight, short sighted, narrow minded hypocrites,
    all I want is the truth,
    just gimme some truth."
    :roll:
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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    STAYSEA wrote:
    whispering hands wrote:
    Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
    But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
    Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
    person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
    High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
    meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
    History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
    forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
    May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
    lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
    and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
    have either negative or positive effects on one another.
    But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
    Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
    Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
    that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
    hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
    I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !

    Wait it was a girl.. now it's this one guy that is satisfactory ?

    "I'm sick to death of hearing things,
    from uptight, short sighted, narrow minded hypocrites,
    all I want is the truth,
    just gimme some truth."
    :roll:
    Huh?
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    I think you got a little confused somewhere
    STAYSEA.., I was relating my own angle as a female, relative
    to his qualms.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,760
    edited January 2013
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

    Turning 29 this year. Not exactly young and I have grey hairs. Tick tock time is running out for me.
    No it's not - not even close. Many men aren't getting married until their mid to late 30s these days, if that. Don't worry about it. Plus, time is running out for what exactly?? It's not like you have to worry about not being able to get pregnant if you wait too long.

    When I am all grey hairs and wrinkly noone will want me.
    I am under pressure from family to get married, it is a cultural thing as well.
    Ah, well, that kind of pressure must be tough... but surely your family wouldn't want you to marry someone you don't love, so you're gonna have to do your best and wait until the right thing comes along just like everyone else. It could take years and years... in fact, you'd be lucky to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with (only half make it, and probably only half of them are actually happy). So you might want to just take a deep breath and change your focus from finding someone to finding someone you love.
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    What PJ_Soul said!!
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    whispering hands wrote:
    Hey my friend, I as well have the picky type problem...
    But what has been brought up here has a lot of merit. You
    Can have standards and still have fun.., I am very shy in
    person, yet very open and talkative on here. I have very
    High standard and rules to my life, but if the opportunity to
    meet people ( or see those I know already, but have bad
    History with) I usually make myself go., if for nothing else, then
    forcing myself to remain open minded. Sounds like you just
    May have to for-go the expectations and see what actually
    lies ahead here. As for the family part, you are all adults,
    and therefor have a choice in whether you allow the other to
    have either negative or positive effects on one another.
    But I know how you feel man ! I turn 40 this year and have
    Spent most of my life alone waiting for that one guy that
    Satisfies all my requirements! I am terribly old fashioned like
    that, and will most likely due alone, cause I won't budge.., but
    hey, if that happens, I still feel like I was true to myself and what
    I want out of life. Still wishing you luck !

    Thank you, good luck to you too.
    I stay true to myself even if it means lonely weekends.
    I have often been asked to come along to nightclubs (where I could have met someone) but refused being this punk rock guy, not my scene. Clubbing types are so stupid here.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    A lot of girls in the places I've been to are loud, stupid, superficial, and wasted.
    I don't like my chances.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • shetellsherself
    shetellsherself New Jersey Posts: 8,835
    Please don't buy the myth that there is only one perfect mate for you out there! Definitely not true! Yes it's necessary to have a physical spark, mutual respect, like interests and similar goals. I also think similar religious/philosophical beliefs are necessary for long term satisfaction with your relationship. However, love can grow from all of that and from unexpected places. I believe that love often comes later and if you are waiting for the perfect ONE you are likely to be disappointed. This is why I don't let my kids read fairy tale princess and Prince Charming stories. Just sets (especially girls) up for disappointment when their lives don't match the tale. TAKE A CHANCE, find out what is really important and what you can't compromise but BE FLEXIBLE because the love you need could be right in front of you. You don't want to miss it.

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  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    A lot of girls in the places I've been to are loud, stupid, superficial, and wasted.
    I don't like my chances.
    Change the places you go.
    Maybe I missed it in an earlier post, but what are you looking for?
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  • smithnic
    smithnic Posts: 1,565
    81 wrote:
    am i the only one here that wants to shag this girl already?

    we need pic :lol:


    Someone better because the thread's originator doesn't seem to want to.
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  • rollings
    rollings unknown Posts: 7,127
    Even flow, thoughts arrive like butterflies
    Oh, he don't know, so he chases them away
    Someday yet, he'll begin his life again
    Oh, whispering hands, gently lead him away
  • pjfan31
    pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    I thought of these words of wisdom...

    When I was looking for a girl, I was always looking for someone perfect... It meant I was quick to find their faults. Turns out, it was me who had the fault...

    Open yourself up mate.... Allow yourself to like someone. Think of her positive traits...
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  • xavier mcdaniel
    xavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,448
    So did the second date happen?
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    So did the second date happen?

    No.
    Movie night tonight, don't know if I want to go.
    Coming down with a cold also :(
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    SD48277 wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    A lot of girls in the places I've been to are loud, stupid, superficial, and wasted.
    I don't like my chances.
    Change the places you go.
    Maybe I missed it in an earlier post, but what are you looking for?

    Noone wants to relax, everyone wants to get wasted with idiot crowds.
    I am looking for a normal down to earth mature smart girl.
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/2 ... oo-picky/#
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  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    Did you go to movie night?
    ELITIST FUK
  • The Juggler
    The Juggler Posts: 49,598
    RKCNDY wrote:
    http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/2038-12-signs-you-re-probably-being-too-picky/#

    that's too perfect.

    op should focus more on the online sites if it doesn't work out with this chick. at least that one date he went on with her last week went better than expected. that should give him a little bit of confidence.
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