why does religion compel females to apologize?

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Va, USA Posts: 4,509
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I'm chatting with a friend about it. it's very hard to her to explain.
what is your opinion?
I feel sad and angry when i hear a woman say "I'm sorry" over and over. I've noticed it's my lady friends that go to church that say "I'm sorry" the most.
I'm sad my friend does not see it as belittling herself.
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  • Posts: 24,524
    I’ve never complained (or apologized for) my religious or spiritual beliefs.

    Is that what you mean, or just apologizing in general?

    Either way, I haven’t noticed it at all. 
  • Pacific Northwest Posts: 6,438
    Mea culpa?
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    hedonist said:
    I’ve never complained (or apologized for) my religious or spiritual beliefs.

    Is that what you mean, or just apologizing in general?

    Either way, I haven’t noticed it at all. 

    my guess is more of the people pleasing variety. like apologizing for things that arent theirs to own?
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  • Posts: 41,331
    This made me think of the show Dead to Me.
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  • Posts: 6,155
    edited July 2021
    Being Canadian compels everyone to apologize. It’s gender neutral 🇨🇦😁
  • Posts: 5,320
    I go to church, but I have never noticed it. However getting my wife to apologize about anything is darn near impossible. 
  • this knows everybody from other commets Posts: 31,797
    JeBurkhardt said:
    I go to church, but I have never noticed it. However getting my wife to apologize about anything is darn near impossible. 

    :rofl:  
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  • Posts: 31,442
    Maybe because, her god woke up on the wrong side of the bed? And it just don't matter now. Because little by little. We hgave you verything you dreamed of. Little by little. The wheels of your life has slowly fallen off. Little by little. You have to give it all in all your life. And all the time I just ask myself why, are you really here?
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    JeBurkhardt said:
    I go to church, but I have never noticed it. However getting my wife to apologize about anything is darn near impossible. 
    Whole lotta truth here!
  • Posts: 24,524
    JeBurkhardt said:
    I go to church, but I have never noticed it. However getting my wife to apologize about anything is darn near impossible. 
    Ha! I will say I have no problem apologizing to my husband if I’m in the wrong.  But for the hell of it? Never! Not with others either…that silly taking oneself down in order to “keep the peace”. Buncha tripe. 

    I do feel bad for anyone, man or woman, to have been taught or lived through certain experiences to feel that way. 
  • Pacific Northwest Posts: 6,438
    hedonist said:
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    Ha! I will say I have no problem apologizing to my husband if I’m in the wrong.  But for the hell of it? Never! Not with others either…that silly taking oneself down in order to “keep the peace”. Buncha tripe. 

    I do feel bad for anyone, man or woman, to have been taught or lived through certain experiences to feel that way. 
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    Hobbes said:
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    If loving you is wrong, I don't want to be right.
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  • Va, USA Posts: 4,509
    Hey!

    Thanks for your responses.

    I'll go off the people pleasing comment.
    I think that's part of it.
    Maybe saying SORRY for nothing did wrong is her way of showing men she's subservient. Any thoughts on that?

    ...And some cultures / religion teach that to young girls.

    I asked her to watch this video. She said she disagreed with many of the statements on the video due her faith in Jesus.
    Video: https://youtu.be/G8sYv_6uyss
    What does Jesus say about apologizing for nothing did wrong?

    Do you think she's getting something out saying SORRY? It deflects attention to her, because some people will detour from the conversation to console her?

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  • Posts: 4,954
    edited July 2021
    I'd hate to see a stand taken on ever apologizing. It's something a certain politician refuses to do and others are following that lead. I feel that not apologizing helps to create a more toxis environment. I think apologies have power. Apologizing for every little thing isn't what I mean but a sincere apology for something of importance goes a long way.
    I'm sorry if I didn't explain that very well. :)

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  • Va, USA Posts: 4,509
    "Apologizing for every little thing"

    This is what I'm referring to. constantly saying, "I'm sorry".

    "I'm sorry if I didn't explain that very well." Kat, that's exactly it. If we don't understand you, it's up to us to ask you more questions. No need for you to be SORRY.



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  • Va, USA Posts: 4,509
    Kat said:
    I'd hate to see a stand taken on ever apologizing. It's something a certain politician refuses to do and others are following that lead. I feel that not apologizing helps to create a more toxis environment. I think apologies have power. Apologizing for every little thing isn't what I mean but a sincere apology for something of importance goes a long way.
    I'm sorry if I didn't explain that very well. :)


    if in fact this was a joke it hit the nail on the head. the joke explained perfectly what i'm trying to understand.
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  • Posts: 24,524
    Kat said:
    I'd hate to see a stand taken on ever apologizing. It's something a certain politician refuses to do and others are following that lead. I feel that not apologizing helps to create a more toxis environment. I think apologies have power. Apologizing for every little thing isn't what I mean but a sincere apology for something of importance goes a long way.
    I'm sorry if I didn't explain that very well. :)

    Also, apologize out of a legit sense of having committed some kind of wrong. DON’T do it if “that’s the thing” or it’s demanded.

    Believe it or not, I’m not talking about Trump ;)

    Not all apologies are necessary. 
  • Va, USA Posts: 4,509
    edited July 2021
    hedonist said:

    Also, apologize out of a legit sense of having committed some kind of wrong. DON’T do it if “that’s the thing” or it’s demanded.

    Not all apologies are necessary. 

    If nothing was done wrong....
    Does anybody know(or take a guess) why a person repeatedly apologizes and connects that behavior to Jesus?

    Does my friend's Jesus demand her apologize nearly every time we interact?

    I think I'll ask her that, because I want to understand.

    Religion is so weird to me. It does strange things to people's minds. Or maybe the person was weird to begin with and religion magnifies it?
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  • Posts: 1,855
    Sometimes apologizing profusely can be a part of how they were raised.  I tend to over apologize when I’m in someone’s way or if I feel like I’m bothering someone but I’ve figured out that it was because we (me and siblings) were getting in the way when dad was home.  Not really, as I’ve learned as an adult but he was just a d*** like that.  There may be more to it then the religious background, but maybe not. 

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