Is it still acceptable in this day and age to ask a WOMAN in public out for a coffee/drink/lunch?

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  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    edited December 2018
    Yes
    Curious if any of the boys in here have been asked out randomly and what the situation was. 
    This happened to me for the first time as an adult last week!  A lady was eyeballin' me and I thought it was because I was busted glancing at her friend's yoga pants but apparently she was glancing me.  She said, "this might sound crazy, but are you single?" 
    I couldn't believe it.  I felt great.  
    She was very average, not particularly attractive, but not at all ugly either.  Definitely would have taken her on a date if I was single, I don't have any trouble finding something attractive in the vast majority of women.
    I told my wife that if somewhat below average women are looking hard enough to say something, then maybe above average women are checking me out a little.
    Her reply:
    "No, it just means she thinks you are at her level." :lol:

    My buddy laughed his ass off at that.
    Post edited by rgambs on
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  • lolobugg
    lolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNS Posts: 8,195
    lolobugg said:
    Curious if any of the boys in here have been asked out randomly and what the situation was. 

    it happened at my work a few times....... of course I worked at a record store so that made me automatically COOL.
    You are already cool, Logan ;) 


    Edit: though I have to add, you said it “happened” but you didn’t say it happened to you :lol: 


    What up, Often!!!

    it happened to me and a co-worker... but we also both played in bands..... I guess they were groupies. :lol:

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    2003- Raleigh, NC: Charlotte, NC: Atlanta, GA

    2004- Asheville, NC (hometown show)

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    2009- Chicago, IL x 2 / Ed Vedder- Atlanta, GA x 2

    2010- Bristow, VA

    2011- Alpine Valley, WI (PJ20) x 2 / Ed Vedder- Chicago, IL

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    2013- Charlotte, NC

    2014- Cincinnati, OH

    2015- New York, NY

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    2018- Chicago, IL x2, Boston, MA x2

    2020- Nashville, TN 

    2022- Smashville 

    2023- Austin, TX x2

    2024- Baltimore

  • OnWis97
    OnWis97 St. Paul, MN Posts: 5,637
    Yes
    Curious if any of the boys in here have been asked out randomly and what the situation was. 
    Not me.  I'd probably be more likely to be preemptively turned down out of the blue.
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  • tbergs
    tbergs Posts: 10,458
    OnWis97 said:
    Curious if any of the boys in here have been asked out randomly and what the situation was. 
    Not me.  I'd probably be more likely to be preemptively turned down out of the blue.
    Haha! Or you could get the Dumb & Dumber 1 in a billion response.
    It's a hopeless situation...
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    Yes
    OnWis97 said:
    Curious if any of the boys in here have been asked out randomly and what the situation was. 
    Not me.  I'd probably be more likely to be preemptively turned down out of the blue.
    So you'd just be standing there minding your own business, and a woman approaches you and declares, "You know, I wouldn't have coffee with you if you asked!"  :lol::lol:



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  • Meltdown99
    Meltdown99 None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    edited December 2018
    Yes
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • lolobugg
    lolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNS Posts: 8,195
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.

    WTF is Toastmasters?

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    1996- Charleston, SC

    1998- Atlanta, GA: Birmingham, AL: Greenville, SC: Knoxville, TN

    2000- Atlanta, GA: New Orleans, LA: Memphis, TN: Nashville, TN

    2003- Raleigh, NC: Charlotte, NC: Atlanta, GA

    2004- Asheville, NC (hometown show)

    2006- Cincinnati, OH

    2008- Columbia, SC

    2009- Chicago, IL x 2 / Ed Vedder- Atlanta, GA x 2

    2010- Bristow, VA

    2011- Alpine Valley, WI (PJ20) x 2 / Ed Vedder- Chicago, IL

    2012- Atlanta, GA

    2013- Charlotte, NC

    2014- Cincinnati, OH

    2015- New York, NY

    2016- Greenville, SC: Hampton, VA:: Columbia, SC: Raleigh, NC : Lexington, KY: Philly, PA 2: (Wrigley) Chicago, IL x 2 (holy shit): Temple of the Dog- Philly, PA

    2017- ED VED- Louisville, KY

    2018- Chicago, IL x2, Boston, MA x2

    2020- Nashville, TN 

    2022- Smashville 

    2023- Austin, TX x2

    2024- Baltimore

  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    edited December 2018
    Yes
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.

    WTF is Toastmasters?
    It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • lolobugg
    lolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNS Posts: 8,195
    PJ_Soul said:
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.

    WTF is Toastmasters?
    It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.

    Scientology?

    livefootsteps.org/user/?usr=446

    1995- New Orleans, LA  : New Orleans, LA

    1996- Charleston, SC

    1998- Atlanta, GA: Birmingham, AL: Greenville, SC: Knoxville, TN

    2000- Atlanta, GA: New Orleans, LA: Memphis, TN: Nashville, TN

    2003- Raleigh, NC: Charlotte, NC: Atlanta, GA

    2004- Asheville, NC (hometown show)

    2006- Cincinnati, OH

    2008- Columbia, SC

    2009- Chicago, IL x 2 / Ed Vedder- Atlanta, GA x 2

    2010- Bristow, VA

    2011- Alpine Valley, WI (PJ20) x 2 / Ed Vedder- Chicago, IL

    2012- Atlanta, GA

    2013- Charlotte, NC

    2014- Cincinnati, OH

    2015- New York, NY

    2016- Greenville, SC: Hampton, VA:: Columbia, SC: Raleigh, NC : Lexington, KY: Philly, PA 2: (Wrigley) Chicago, IL x 2 (holy shit): Temple of the Dog- Philly, PA

    2017- ED VED- Louisville, KY

    2018- Chicago, IL x2, Boston, MA x2

    2020- Nashville, TN 

    2022- Smashville 

    2023- Austin, TX x2

    2024- Baltimore

  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    edited December 2018
    Yes
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.

    WTF is Toastmasters?
    It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.

    Scientology?
    Lol!! No, no! Nothing like that! It's a very normal program for normal people, haha, nothing cult-like about it. I'm sensitive to that kind of vibe too, and would never recommend anything that comes close. It's rated very highly as a self-improvement and professional kind of program, and not brainwashy or anything at all. I remember my high school always recommended it to everyone because it helps prepare younger people for communicating in a professional and confident manner in "the real world", for when they started looking for jobs and careers (but it is totally for all-ages). And it's still going 25 years later, so it obviously has something to offer. In fact, my sister took it. I don't think she needed a lot of help communicating with other people, but it actually looks really good on any resume and she figured it would help her find a job. It probably did help.
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.

    WTF is Toastmasters?
    It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.

    Scientology?
    :lol:  

    We can all do with some improvement of our thetans, right? 
     
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  • Meltdown99
    Meltdown99 None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
    I put sarcasm in there because I mentioned Tony Robbins, and do not know if he really is as good as he claims or just a fraud.  I will admit, I have never heard a bad thing about him.  And I in no way saying these seminars do not help.  We all need help at some time.
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    edited December 2018
    Yes
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
    I put sarcasm in there because I mentioned Tony Robbins, and do not know if he really is as good as he claims or just a fraud.  I will admit, I have never heard a bad thing about him.  And I in no way saying these seminars do not help.  We all need help at some time.
    Fair enough. With Tony Robbins, my vote is for total scumbag fraud, lol. And he's creepy AF too.
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • lolobugg
    lolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNS Posts: 8,195
    PJ_Soul said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
    I put sarcasm in there because I mentioned Tony Robbins, and do not know if he really is as good as he claims or just a fraud.  I will admit, I have never heard a bad thing about him.  And I in no way saying these seminars do not help.  We all need help at some time.
    Fair enough. With Tony Robins, my vote is for total scumbag fraud, lol. And he's creepy AF too.

    look what he did to Jack Black!!!

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    1996- Charleston, SC

    1998- Atlanta, GA: Birmingham, AL: Greenville, SC: Knoxville, TN

    2000- Atlanta, GA: New Orleans, LA: Memphis, TN: Nashville, TN

    2003- Raleigh, NC: Charlotte, NC: Atlanta, GA

    2004- Asheville, NC (hometown show)

    2006- Cincinnati, OH

    2008- Columbia, SC

    2009- Chicago, IL x 2 / Ed Vedder- Atlanta, GA x 2

    2010- Bristow, VA

    2011- Alpine Valley, WI (PJ20) x 2 / Ed Vedder- Chicago, IL

    2012- Atlanta, GA

    2013- Charlotte, NC

    2014- Cincinnati, OH

    2015- New York, NY

    2016- Greenville, SC: Hampton, VA:: Columbia, SC: Raleigh, NC : Lexington, KY: Philly, PA 2: (Wrigley) Chicago, IL x 2 (holy shit): Temple of the Dog- Philly, PA

    2017- ED VED- Louisville, KY

    2018- Chicago, IL x2, Boston, MA x2

    2020- Nashville, TN 

    2022- Smashville 

    2023- Austin, TX x2

    2024- Baltimore

  • F Me In The Brain
    F Me In The Brain this knows everybody from other commets Posts: 31,874
    Yes
    Damn, Logan, dropping truth!
    The love he receives is the love that is saved
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    Yes
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
    I put sarcasm in there because I mentioned Tony Robbins, and do not know if he really is as good as he claims or just a fraud.  I will admit, I have never heard a bad thing about him.  And I in no way saying these seminars do not help.  We all need help at some time.
    Fair enough. With Tony Robins, my vote is for total scumbag fraud, lol. And he's creepy AF too.

    look what he did to Jack Black!!!
    :rofl:
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Meltdown99
    Meltdown99 None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    PJ_Soul said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
    I put sarcasm in there because I mentioned Tony Robbins, and do not know if he really is as good as he claims or just a fraud.  I will admit, I have never heard a bad thing about him.  And I in no way saying these seminars do not help.  We all need help at some time.
    Fair enough. With Tony Robbins, my vote is for total scumbag fraud, lol. And he's creepy AF too.
    Duly noted.  I think there are legit self-help seminars.
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • lolobugg
    lolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNS Posts: 8,195
    Damn, Logan, dropping truth!

    Word up, Brett!!!!

    livefootsteps.org/user/?usr=446

    1995- New Orleans, LA  : New Orleans, LA

    1996- Charleston, SC

    1998- Atlanta, GA: Birmingham, AL: Greenville, SC: Knoxville, TN

    2000- Atlanta, GA: New Orleans, LA: Memphis, TN: Nashville, TN

    2003- Raleigh, NC: Charlotte, NC: Atlanta, GA

    2004- Asheville, NC (hometown show)

    2006- Cincinnati, OH

    2008- Columbia, SC

    2009- Chicago, IL x 2 / Ed Vedder- Atlanta, GA x 2

    2010- Bristow, VA

    2011- Alpine Valley, WI (PJ20) x 2 / Ed Vedder- Chicago, IL

    2012- Atlanta, GA

    2013- Charlotte, NC

    2014- Cincinnati, OH

    2015- New York, NY

    2016- Greenville, SC: Hampton, VA:: Columbia, SC: Raleigh, NC : Lexington, KY: Philly, PA 2: (Wrigley) Chicago, IL x 2 (holy shit): Temple of the Dog- Philly, PA

    2017- ED VED- Louisville, KY

    2018- Chicago, IL x2, Boston, MA x2

    2020- Nashville, TN 

    2022- Smashville 

    2023- Austin, TX x2

    2024- Baltimore

  • Go Beavers
    Go Beavers Posts: 9,618
    PJ_Soul said:
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    lolobugg said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
    Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.

    WTF is Toastmasters?
    It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.

    Scientology?
    Lol!! No, no! Nothing like that! It's a very normal program for normal people, haha, nothing cult-like about it. I'm sensitive to that kind of vibe too, and would never recommend anything that comes close. It's rated very highly as a self-improvement and professional kind of program, and not brainwashy or anything at all. I remember my high school always recommended it to everyone because it helps prepare younger people for communicating in a professional and confident manner in "the real world", for when they started looking for jobs and careers (but it is totally for all-ages). And it's still going 25 years later, so it obviously has something to offer. In fact, my sister took it. I don't think she needed a lot of help communicating with other people, but it actually looks really good on any resume and she figured it would help her find a job. It probably did help.
    And you become Master of your Toast