TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
WTF is Toastmasters?
It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
Scientology?
Lol!! No, no! Nothing like that! It's a very normal program for normal people, haha, nothing cult-like about it. I'm sensitive to that kind of vibe too, and would never recommend anything that comes close. It's rated very highly as a self-improvement and professional kind of program, and not brainwashy or anything at all. I remember my high school always recommended it to everyone because it helps prepare younger people for communicating in a professional and confident manner in "the real world", for when they started looking for jobs and careers (but it is totally for all-ages). And it's still going 25 years later, so it obviously has something to offer. In fact, my sister took it. I don't think she needed a lot of help communicating with other people, but it actually looks really good on any resume and she figured it would help her find a job. It probably did help.
And you become Master of your Toast
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Curious if any of the boys in here have been asked out randomly and what the situation was.
This happened to me for the first time as an adult last week! A lady was eyeballin' me and I thought it was because I was busted glancing at her friend's yoga pants but apparently she was glancing me. She said, "this might sound crazy, but are you single?" I couldn't believe it. I felt great. She was very average, not particularly attractive, but not at all ugly either. Definitely would have taken her on a date if I was single, I don't have any trouble finding something attractive in the vast majority of women. I told my wife that if somewhat below average women are looking hard enough to say something, then maybe above average women are checking me out a little. Her reply: "No, it just means she thinks you are at her level."
TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
WTF is Toastmasters?
It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
Scientology?
Lol!! No, no! Nothing like that! It's a very normal program for normal people, haha, nothing cult-like about it. I'm sensitive to that kind of vibe too, and would never recommend anything that comes close. It's rated very highly as a self-improvement and professional kind of program, and not brainwashy or anything at all. I remember my high school always recommended it to everyone because it helps prepare younger people for communicating in a professional and confident manner in "the real world", for when they started looking for jobs and careers (but it is totally for all-ages). And it's still going 25 years later, so it obviously has something to offer. In fact, my sister took it. I don't think she needed a lot of help communicating with other people, but it actually looks really good on any resume and she figured it would help her find a job. It probably did help.
And you become Master of your Toast
That is the grossest thing I've ever seen you post, PJ_S.
Okay, so I answered no. However, the question that was typed in the first message was worded differently to the question on the poll. Basically I think it is okay to ask someone out, once you're completely transparent and respectful. I'm not sure if what I just typed makes sense.
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Okay, so I answered no. However, the question that was typed in the first message was worded differently to the question on the poll. Basically I think it is okay to ask someone out, once you're completely transparent and respectful. I'm not sure if what I just typed makes sense.
Everything you post makes perfect sense, because you have a badass avatar.
Okay, so I answered no. However, the question that was typed in the first message was worded differently to the question on the poll. Basically I think it is okay to ask someone out, once you're completely transparent and respectful. I'm not sure if what I just typed makes sense.
Everything you post makes perfect sense, because you have a badass avatar.
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TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
WTF is Toastmasters?
It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
It’s absolutely fantastic. I took a management position in a Toastmasters club for six months (until I moved to a new company), and felt I made gains in all the areas you mentioned. Can’t recommend it enough to anyone interested in enhancing their verbal communication skills!
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TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
WTF is Toastmasters?
It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
WTF is Toastmasters?
It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
Scientology?
Lol!! No, no! Nothing like that! It's a very normal program for normal people, haha, nothing cult-like about it. I'm sensitive to that kind of vibe too, and would never recommend anything that comes close. It's rated very highly as a self-improvement and professional kind of program, and not brainwashy or anything at all. I remember my high school always recommended it to everyone because it helps prepare younger people for communicating in a professional and confident manner in "the real world", for when they started looking for jobs and careers (but it is totally for all-ages). And it's still going 25 years later, so it obviously has something to offer. In fact, my sister took it. I don't think she needed a lot of help communicating with other people, but it actually looks really good on any resume and she figured it would help her find a job. It probably did help.
And you become Master of your Toast
That is the grossest thing I've ever seen you post, PJ_S.
What does one type to find something as creepy as that? (I can't stop seeing the face on the damn butter pat).
Btw, this poll was in response to me seeing a lot of anti-men comments on social media. There are extreme feminists blaming ALL men for the wrong doings of some. All men are bad, all men need to change etc. I feel like we are damned if we even compliment a woman on her looks in a polite way.
As a first-rate horndog and someone who takes aesthetics seriously in both carnal and philosophical manners, I fully understand the impulse to tell beautiful women that they have brightened my day with their beauty. I also understand there is no reason that they would care to hear that from me, or any other stranger. No reason at all, it isn't the pick me up that us shlubs think it is, and it can be downright insulting. Do you think a woman who is smart and strong and determined, funny and sensitive and tough as nails wants to hear that some dude thinks they have a hot ass or a pretty face? Why? Why would they want to hear that? A man's impulse to say so is natural, but it's only indulged because men have made it their prerogative to do as they please for...well, forever.
Not saying there isn't a time and place, there is, and a right way to go about it too...but mostly it's just a selfish impulse because it gives us men a rise.
I wouldn't just start of buy complimenting a woman's body or face, I wouldn't do that to a stranger at all, even after having had a chat. I'd break the ice (e.g., how about this weather?) and then just engage in small talk.
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Instead of asking her out without any pretext, maybe try to start a conversation with her first and see if there is a common interest to get to know one another. I doubt any woman would accept a date from a random person they have never talked to, and if they did, well, you might be in for some crazy times.
That's not what I meant. Of course I meant what you suggested. I wouldn't just ask a woman on a date without having had a chat beforehand. That's just creepy.
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I responded "yes," based on the title and I was kinda envisioning someone you at least kinda knew. Seemed like a no-brainer.
But now that I read it more as approaching someone out of the blue in public...well...my answer is still yes. But I don't think you're likely to come off well. Again, it's OK, as long as you are prepared to take rejection like a champ...smile and move on. Thoughts_Arrive said:
I don't about a 'yes'. With this me too movement and radical feminism I feel like it is frowned upon nowadays.
Me too movement and radical feminism? Speaking as a friend who doesn't think you are a bad guy, you need to check those spiteful feelings at the door before they grow out of control into full on Incel territory. I know you say you respect women, but there are signs that you don't, or soon won't. You talk of women as though they are some inscrutable species from Venus that can't be understood or reasoned with. They don't run from you in horror, they aren't out looking to drag poor lonely guys through the mud. Women are people. They are just people like you, and they don't owe you anything more than you owe them. Like I said, I don't think you are a bad guy, but your eagerness to cast yourself as a victim is casting the women of your life as villains.
I don't understand why you asked the poll in the first place, is hitting on a stranger on the train something you would really do? You refuse every other avenue, and that's the one you would consider? It will come off a little creepy because you are only basing your assessment of the person's worth on their looks in that scenario, but there's a respectful way to do it. Like I said, only a true stud is ever going to pull that off. A stranger with a shared interest, like at a book club, class, gym, work, etc gives a much better opportunity because it's plausible that you want to get to know the person based off their interests and not just their body.
Not spiteful feelings, feelings of fear at being labelled as someone who does not respect women or as a pervert. Like if I started talking to a girl on the train making small talk and asking where she's off to or whatever comes to mind and then asking her for her number. If I did that would I get beat down by people for 'harassment'? I know one woman who thinks that when guys ask her out it's for sex only. Like seriously, how about they want to meet someone special to share their life with. That's what I am getting at. I would never get into incel territory, I don't even remotely harbour or have never even harboured thoughts of hatred towards females. Those thoughts have not once popped into my head. What signs are there that I don't respect women and soon won't? Sorry I'm taken aback and slightly offended at that.
One thing I've learned over the years is that it's really, really hard for me to relate to what it's like to be a female. I had a class review to go to one evening (i.e., after dark) in college. A woman I knew in a different dorm was in my class. After the review session, she proceeded to tell me that she called my dorm room (1993...no cell phones) so I could stop and get her on the way but I'd already left. But since I was gone, two of her friends walked her there and walked back home together so no woman was ever out alone on campus. That I should have offered to walk her never occurred to me. Because I hadn't lived in that reality.
Now you read a lot about male Uber drivers asking female riders whether they're going home...to a boyfriend's?...etc. My guess is that the vast majority of the drivers have no intent of committing a felony, but again, women live with discomfort (and some legitimate danger) that is really hard for men to relate to. I've read that many won't go to a gym because of the pick-ups and/or ogling. They live in a different world than men do and I think the world would be a better place if we were more able to consider how we're coming across in our interactions.
I have a co-worker who has told me she gets sexually harassed on the train nearly every time she rides it. I was floored when she told me this. I ride the same train and have never noticed this kind of thing...but then again, I'm listening to music and either reading or looking at my phone. Part of why I don't realize that this stuff is fairly common is because I have the luxury of not realizing it.
Approaching someone you've never met and asking them out is kind of a gray area, but I don't think it's the best approach. You only know what she looks like. She's not the love of your life. It's better to get to know someone first. There's a good chance you're not the first person to approach her out of the blue this week and she's probably getting burned out from the "positive reinforcement." But whatever you do, take no for an answer with no protest.
Of course. I'd never protest a rejection.
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There are probably better ways than just trying to pick up random strangers...Throw a party and encourage your friends to bring friends (hopefully a single one), do you enjoy doing anything outdoors or book clubs or etc? There are a lot of hobbyist groups out there that have local meetups, maybe even a political rallying group. Volunteer at local outreach organizations to build relationships with others and to display the best of yourself. If there is someone on the train that you regularly run into and talk to, then yes, ask them out for coffee, but just going up asking people out that you have never engaged with otherwise is probably not the best course of action in my opinion.
Yeah I know there's all those avenues of meeting except for the party. I don't know many people, only have a few friends. I've never had a big party. I have only celebrated my birthday 3 times in my life. There's noone I regularly see on the train that interests me but I always come across beauties.
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I don't about a 'yes'. With this me too movement and radical feminism I feel like it is frowned upon nowadays.
Me too movement and radical feminism? Speaking as a friend who doesn't think you are a bad guy, you need to check those spiteful feelings at the door before they grow out of control into full on Incel territory. I know you say you respect women, but there are signs that you don't, or soon won't. You talk of women as though they are some inscrutable species from Venus that can't be understood or reasoned with. They don't run from you in horror, they aren't out looking to drag poor lonely guys through the mud. Women are people. They are just people like you, and they don't owe you anything more than you owe them. Like I said, I don't think you are a bad guy, but your eagerness to cast yourself as a victim is casting the women of your life as villains.
I don't understand why you asked the poll in the first place, is hitting on a stranger on the train something you would really do? You refuse every other avenue, and that's the one you would consider? It will come off a little creepy because you are only basing your assessment of the person's worth on their looks in that scenario, but there's a respectful way to do it. Like I said, only a true stud is ever going to pull that off. A stranger with a shared interest, like at a book club, class, gym, work, etc gives a much better opportunity because it's plausible that you want to get to know the person based off their interests and not just their body.
(T_A, I frankly have doubts that you quite understand what creepy and not creepy behaviour really is)
Why do you say that?
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I don't about a 'yes'. With this me too movement and radical feminism I feel like it is frowned upon nowadays.
By using the term radical feminism, maybe you’re misinterpreting what’s going on. Radical feminism isn’t the right term for greater gender equality (although maybe equality is radical). You’re seing women feel less pressure to placate men in social situations. In this example, the pressure in the was more on women to not reject and upset the guy and just agree to the date. Now if they aren’t interested, they have a greater opportunity to say no thanks.
I've always believed men and women should be treated equally, paid equally, that women should not be assualted, raped etc. To me that is what feminism is. What I am seeing on social media is extreme. I recently had an argument with a girl from university (who is a radical feminist) on Facebook because she put up a post saying all men should have a curfew from 9pm onwards. And I am sick of feminists saying ALL men need to change. To me it's blaming an entire gender for the wrong actions of some. Another girl I know posted art she did with a caption "all men are snakes" plus she thinks anyone who asks her out is only after sex.
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TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
I've often thought of seeing a dating coach. I've watched some guy on YouTube who a friend told me to watch. I didn't like him, he came across as a big player.
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TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
WTF is Toastmasters?
It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
Scientology?
Lol!! No, no! Nothing like that! It's a very normal program for normal people, haha, nothing cult-like about it. I'm sensitive to that kind of vibe too, and would never recommend anything that comes close. It's rated very highly as a self-improvement and professional kind of program, and not brainwashy or anything at all. I remember my high school always recommended it to everyone because it helps prepare younger people for communicating in a professional and confident manner in "the real world", for when they started looking for jobs and careers (but it is totally for all-ages). And it's still going 25 years later, so it obviously has something to offer. In fact, my sister took it. I don't think she needed a lot of help communicating with other people, but it actually looks really good on any resume and she figured it would help her find a job. It probably did help.
And you become Master of your Toast
Now that's funny lol
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TA have you thought about getting an life coach, attending a Tony Robbins seminar or similar...s/
Or even Toastmasters. I think others have suggested that before... and not sarcastically.
WTF is Toastmasters?
It's this kind of program or whatever you call it that is offered all over the world, and it helps people come out of their shells, improve at public speaking and stuff like that. It supposedly REALLY helps people who are self-conscious, shy, have trouble speaking with groups or with strangers, boost self-confidence, and it also helps people improve with job interviews. I've only heard good things about it.
It’s absolutely fantastic. I took a management position in a Toastmasters club for six months (until I moved to a new company), and felt I made gains in all the areas you mentioned. Can’t recommend it enough to anyone interested in enhancing their verbal communication skills!
The thing is I feel my verbal communication skills are adequate. I've been in the workforce, had to do presentations to management, speak to clients, work in university group assignments etc. Not sure what I could benefit. I'm not shy or not confident in a professional work sense. I am shy when it comes to the opposite sex and dating.
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Thought this story from last night might fit in this thread.
My wife is in Manhattan for work.
Her boss is with her. Her boss was a model in her 20s, she is in her 50s now and still looks great.
They go for sushi last night at Hatsuhana - those who are in NYC or have eaten sushi there over the years will know this place, for sure. Not for 'sushi roll' eaters -- this is a real deal sushi restaurant. (I am a certified Sushi snob) Top notch stuff and the bill for dining there matches that reality.
Why share this in this thread? Here is why:
They are waiting for a table and 2 guys in their 50s chat them up. Bigly. One man is recruiting them to all get a table together. The women have a chat but decline the invitation, flattering as it is. Apparently the one man is somewhat infatuated with my wife's boss.
They end up having tables next to one another and he continues his full court press -- he wants them to go for drinks after dinner. They share some information about themselves and enjoy a great dinner.
When the time for the check comes the server tells my wife's boss that 'The Gentleman at the table next to them insisted on covering their meal.'
My wife told me they ordered Ken (our favorite Sake, generally around $100+ a small-ish bottle when ordered out) and a big spread of sushi. Gotta figure the bill was $200-$300, easily.
Were the women offended?
Hell no.
Did the guy get to have drinks with them after?
Nope.
My wife is a pretty lady but says she has never seen such a push to gain her favor. Buying drinks is one thing but a nice dinner is another. Her boss said she had experienced situations like that before, but not in years.
They both had a laugh, and I guess the 2 dudes have enough coin to toss it around and see what attention it might get them.
TA, I am sure you will have your take on this and why this doesn't provide an easy 'Yes' to your poll question, but in my mind it shows how efforts can still be made without causing offense -- even when they are a crazy/bold effort such as this one.
There are probably better ways than just trying to pick up random strangers...Throw a party and encourage your friends to bring friends (hopefully a single one), do you enjoy doing anything outdoors or book clubs or etc? There are a lot of hobbyist groups out there that have local meetups, maybe even a political rallying group. Volunteer at local outreach organizations to build relationships with others and to display the best of yourself. If there is someone on the train that you regularly run into and talk to, then yes, ask them out for coffee, but just going up asking people out that you have never engaged with otherwise is probably not the best course of action in my opinion.
Yeah I know there's all those avenues of meeting except for the party. I don't know many people, only have a few friends. I've never had a big party. I have only celebrated my birthday 3 times in my life. There's noone I regularly see on the train that interests me but I always come across beauties.
I’ve been out of the dating scene for a long time now, but occasionally women will strike up a conversation out of nowhere for random reasons: I was reading a book at the local Barnes and Noble a while back and a women came up and started a convo about the book. Was playing music in my office the other day and a female coworker overheard it and came in and said “I love that song”, which lead to “Oh, you like Pearl Jam, I’m a huge fan” and further music convo... Met the woman I’ve been married to for 15 years at the mailboxes in college (our mailboxes were right next to each other and we would always run across each other and joke saying things like “you again??”).
Anyways, I’m not saying this to toot my own horn, but to give examples of opportunities to start conversations that I have experienced that could have led to asking someone out for coffee or whatever. Put the best of yourself on display and recognize people around you and “seize the moment” when possible (cliche I know, lol).
Curious if any of the boys in here have been asked out randomly and what the situation was.
This happened to me for the first time as an adult last week! A lady was eyeballin' me and I thought it was because I was busted glancing at her friend's yoga pants but apparently she was glancing me. She said, "this might sound crazy, but are you single?" I couldn't believe it. I felt great. She was very average, not particularly attractive, but not at all ugly either. Definitely would have taken her on a date if I was single, I don't have any trouble finding something attractive in the vast majority of women. I told my wife that if somewhat below average women are looking hard enough to say something, then maybe above average women are checking me out a little. Her reply: "No, it just means she thinks you are at her level."
My buddy laughed his ass off at that.
your wife is awesome
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I don't about a 'yes'. With this me too movement and radical feminism I feel like it is frowned upon nowadays.
By using the term radical feminism, maybe you’re misinterpreting what’s going on. Radical feminism isn’t the right term for greater gender equality (although maybe equality is radical). You’re seing women feel less pressure to placate men in social situations. In this example, the pressure in the was more on women to not reject and upset the guy and just agree to the date. Now if they aren’t interested, they have a greater opportunity to say no thanks.
I've always believed men and women should be treated equally, paid equally, that women should not be assualted, raped etc. To me that is what feminism is. What I am seeing on social media is extreme. I recently had an argument with a girl from university (who is a radical feminist) on Facebook because she put up a post saying all men should have a curfew from 9pm onwards. And I am sick of feminists saying ALL men need to change. To me it's blaming an entire gender for the wrong actions of some. Another girl I know posted art she did with a caption "all men are snakes" plus she thinks anyone who asks her out is only after sex.
don't even bother engaging with people like that. they carry so much baggage that you won't change any minds by arguing. you'll just further embolden them in their cause, and they'll probably now assume you are one of the dirtbags they are after. just don't comment and move on.
what you see on social media is often a radical form of the real world as it is. everyone thinks their opinion matters and deserves to be heard. it is a place for the ignored to feel as if they have a voice. people say shit there they wouldn't dare say to a human in front of them.
not many feminists, true feminists, say all men need to change. they are hoping all men HELP with the change, as in changing our overall culture.
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I'd break the ice (e.g., how about this weather?) and then just engage in small talk.
I've never had a big party. I have only celebrated my birthday 3 times in my life.
There's noone I regularly see on the train that interests me but I always come across beauties.
To me that is what feminism is.
What I am seeing on social media is extreme.
I recently had an argument with a girl from university (who is a radical feminist) on Facebook because she put up a post saying all men should have a curfew from 9pm onwards. And I am sick of feminists saying ALL men need to change. To me it's blaming an entire gender for the wrong actions of some. Another girl I know posted art she did with a caption "all men are snakes" plus she thinks anyone who asks her out is only after sex.
Is chivalry dead ?
I was reading a book at the local Barnes and Noble a while back and a women came up and started a convo about the book.
Was playing music in my office the other day and a female coworker overheard it and came in and said “I love that song”, which lead to “Oh, you like Pearl Jam, I’m a huge fan” and further music convo...
Met the woman I’ve been married to for 15 years at the mailboxes in college (our mailboxes were right next to each other and we would always run across each other and joke saying things like “you again??”).
Anyways, I’m not saying this to toot my own horn, but to give examples of opportunities to start conversations that I have experienced that could have led to asking someone out for coffee or whatever. Put the best of yourself on display and recognize people around you and “seize the moment” when possible (cliche I know, lol).
-EV 8/14/93
what you see on social media is often a radical form of the real world as it is. everyone thinks their opinion matters and deserves to be heard. it is a place for the ignored to feel as if they have a voice. people say shit there they wouldn't dare say to a human in front of them.
not many feminists, true feminists, say all men need to change. they are hoping all men HELP with the change, as in changing our overall culture.
-EV 8/14/93
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