Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

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  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,501
    dankind said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    dankind said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    I respectfully request that my name be withdrawn from this matchmaker pool.

    Fine.  Then I'll nominate you as tribute. :joker:
    You and @PJ_Soul are the OGs; you can't withdraw. 

    And I'm a happily married man, but I'm flattered, buddy.
    I was not aware of this but if that's the case, we should give eeeeeeeverybody else a chance before it comes back to my name again!
    Star Lake 00 / Pittsburgh 03 / State College 03 / Bristow 03 / Cleveland 06 / Camden II 06 / DC 08 / Pittsburgh 13 / Baltimore 13 / Charlottesville 13 / Cincinnati 14 / St. Paul 14 / Hampton 16 / Wrigley I 16 / Wrigley II 16 / Baltimore 20 / Camden 22 / Baltimore 24 / Raleigh I 25 / Raleigh II 25 / Pittsburgh I 25
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    Okay people, if you're married you better speak now or forever hold your peace!
  • bootlegger10
    bootlegger10 Posts: 16,299
    Yes
    Married to my work.
  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,501
    Married to my single freedom.
    Star Lake 00 / Pittsburgh 03 / State College 03 / Bristow 03 / Cleveland 06 / Camden II 06 / DC 08 / Pittsburgh 13 / Baltimore 13 / Charlottesville 13 / Cincinnati 14 / St. Paul 14 / Hampton 16 / Wrigley I 16 / Wrigley II 16 / Baltimore 20 / Camden 22 / Baltimore 24 / Raleigh I 25 / Raleigh II 25 / Pittsburgh I 25
  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    Yes
    HesCalledDyer said:
    dankind said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    dankind said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    I respectfully request that my name be withdrawn from this matchmaker pool.

    Fine.  Then I'll nominate you as tribute. :joker:
    You and @PJ_Soul are the OGs; you can't withdraw. 

    And I'm a happily married man, but I'm flattered, buddy.
    I was not aware of this but if that's the case, we should give eeeeeeeverybody else a chance before it comes back to my name again!
    :heartbreak:
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    Who do you nominate for Dyer, dankind? Do we need to give you time to design a wheel of fortune?
  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    Yes
    I've been teasing Dyer and PJ_Soul 4 eva! But apparently, he never noticed! :angry:
     
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    Let's see if he notices now...ahem...           PJ_Soul  &   HesCalledDyer     You are officially nominated, congratulations. 

  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    For the lovebirds...
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3gEkwhdXUE
  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    edited December 2018
    Yes
    https://youtu.be/0trh9Y598fM
    Post edited by dankind on
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    edited December 2018
    Yes

    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    For the single people...Do any of you plan on staying single by choice?  My Dad had 2 cousins who choose to be single.  One did eventually marry, in his 70's, he died about 2 years later...  
    I crave love. But then I feel like I don't want a relationship. I'd like companionship but not the arguments, having to fit in with her family and social group who I may not like etc.
    Have you tried sped dating?  Many places arrange speed dating for free, check out the community news.  No idea how you avoid conflict/argument, it's part of life ... it's more important how you handle conflict, unfortunately, most people have never been taught good conflict resolution skills.  Your last sentence is normal fears.  Just be yourself.  You do not want someone who can not except you, as you.  
    I've considered it as I refuse to try online dating. Not just the acceptance of me as me but the having to put up with people I don't like.
    Plus seeing how my two sisters' marriages have turned to shit has left me feeling less than optimistic about marriages.
    As well as what I learned at university, passion fades over time, we habituate to our partner and that is why people break up or cheat.

    That why I suggested speed dating.  Do like playing cards/board games ... some community centres host things like this.    Have you tried meetup.com?  Sadly, lots and lots of marriage's turn to shit these days.  And lots and lots of marriages are going to turn to shit.  It is true, with some the passion fades.  Some it's a mid-life crisis that ends the marriage, affairs, spouse wants a different life...whatever it is.  My Mom who was married to my Dad for over 50 years until she passed, always said people need to learn forgiveness to have successful marriages.
    I thought about speed dating and it's probably the only way I'll try to find love.
    Haven't tried meetup.com, a psychologist I used to see kept suggesting it to me as a way to make friends. I didn't know meetup.com is for dating? I don't know how to play card games lol, never been into them. Board games I never play.

    Meetup.com is probably your best option specifically because it's not actually for dating, per se. But lots of people use it just to get out there and do stuff with other people, hoping that maybe they'll more naturally form a connection with people they end up meeting. It's apparently very effective, and FAR less pressure that actual dating apps and whatnot. And if you don't meet someone to date, you still go out and enjoy other people's company, maybe make some new friends. Win-win. I've suggested you try this at least a couple times before. You came up with lame reasons why you didn't want to try, as usual.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,501
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Let's see if he notices now...ahem...           PJ_Soul  &   HesCalledDyer     You are officially nominated, congratulations. 

    YOU ARE!

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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    Yes
    oftenreading said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Forgot to add,
    When my mum mentions my future children I tell her that it won't happen and she gets all sad and scared. 

    Having children just because your mother wants grandchildren is one of the worst reasons to have children. They aren't accessories. 
    Words of wisdom.
    Never let bullshit societal norms or the desires of others force you into something you don't truly want for yourself.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    edited December 2018
    Yes
    HesCalledDyer said:
    oftenreading said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Forgot to add,
    When my mum mentions my future children I tell her that it won't happen and she gets all sad and scared. 

    Having children just because your mother wants grandchildren is one of the worst reasons to have children. They aren't accessories. 
    Yep, my folks learned to stop bringing it up years ago. I got hounded all thru my 20s about “When are we getting grandkids?” It took a few hundred times of answering “From me, never.” before they finally got the picture.
    I'm lucky. My parents don't give a shit about this at all. My dad actually thinks not having kids was the best decision I ever made. :lol: I think if he could do it all over, he'd make the same decision (kind of an insult to me and my sister, but whatever, hahaha). My mom doesn't mind either, although maybe she would if my sister didn't have two kids. But even if she hadn't, there is no way my mother would ever think to bug me about doing something I don't want to do just because she would like grandchildren. My mom's good that way! She has always said that all she wants for me is to be happy and content with whatever I choose to do with my life, and she's always afforded me the freedom to do what I want, even when I was a kid. She never tried to force me to do shit I wasn't into or try to steer me in a direction I didn't really want to go. Parental pressures were simply not something I ever experienced.
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    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    Yes
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    Let's see if he notices now...ahem...           PJ_Soul  &   HesCalledDyer     You are officially nominated, congratulations. 


    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,501
    PJ_Soul said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    oftenreading said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Forgot to add,
    When my mum mentions my future children I tell her that it won't happen and she gets all sad and scared. 

    Having children just because your mother wants grandchildren is one of the worst reasons to have children. They aren't accessories. 
    Yep, my folks learned to stop bringing it up years ago. I got hounded all thru my 20s about “When are we getting grandkids?” It took a few hundred times of answering “From me, never.” before they finally got the picture.
    I'm lucky. My parents don't give a shit about this at all. My dad actually thinks not having kids was the best decision I ever made. :lol: I think if he could do it all over, he'd make the same decision (kind of an insult to me and my sister, but whatever, hahaha). My mom doesn't mind either, although maybe she would if my sister didn't have two kids. But even if she hadn't, there is no way my mother would ever think to bug me about doing something I don't want to do just because she would like grandchildren. My mom's good that way! She has always said that all she wants for me is to be happy and content with whatever I choose to do with my life, and she's always afforded me the freedom to do what I want, even when I was a kid. She never tried to force me to do shit I wasn't into or try to steer me in a direction I didn't really want to go. Parental pressures were simply not something I ever experienced.
    My flack came mostly from my dad & stepmom.  My mom has only ever made a comment or two, never really bugged me about it and hasn't said anything since at least my late 20s. She's the same way, just wants me to be happy with whatever I want.  My dad on the other hand has always seemed to want me to be a spitting image of him.  And while we are alike in many idiosyncratic ways, what we want out of life couldn't be more opposite.
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  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    Yes

    I know about pain and suffering and being cold.
    But I just wanna fuck!

    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    No
    dankind said:

    I know about pain and suffering and being cold.
    But I just wanna fuck!

    You were born to be a matchmaker.  B)
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    What in tarnation is happening here?!
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    Yes
    Dankind's matchmaking attempts did not escape my notice, even if they escaped Dyers, lol. It is really hard to come up with replies to them!! :lol:
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata

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