Over used phrases

brianlux said:

njnancy said:

I'm gonna google it - if it's over used it should be easy to find.

You feel me. 

No, no, I don't feel you. I have no desire to feel you.

Even worse to me is I feel your pain.  I understand that this is meant to express sympathy or maybe even empathy, but it is a false and impossible sentiment.  You do not feel my pain.  You might have similar experiences that are painful but that only means you feel your pain, not mine.  This is a phrase that should never be expressed by anyone in counseling another person.

I agree completely. The two phrases are used in completely different ways. You feel me? is a substitute for Do you understand? but is often said  repeatedly. For no apparent reason.

If you have never been through the same loss or tragedy, you can only sympathize. If you have been through the same you can empathize but you can never feel someone else's pain. No one can feel my pain; although they can feel FOR me. Having been through a lot of tragedy and loss, I usually tell a suffering person that I know there is nothing I can do to make it better but I am so sorry and I am always available to listen. The only positive that comes with a life of tragedy is the ability to understand people a bit better and know to not over step in times of sorrow. And when you and a person have both been through, say abuse, there is an unspoken understanding; as with, say, the loss of a sibling. Words are not needed, they've joined the club and it's understood. And it's different for everyone. 

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WhatYouTaughtMe said:

"It could be worse"

Well yeah, but it could be fucking better too!

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